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I loved someone once who was disabled. I didn’t care that they were disabled. I didn’t care that if we lived together I’d probably be supporting them for the rest of their life. I didn’t care about the hospital visits. I didn’t care about their limitations. Because it was them. Because if it’s them then all that work isn’t work at all.

One of the things that ended up driving us apart in the end though is that they didn’t believe me when I told them this. They didn’t believe that I didn’t care about their disabilities. They didn’t believe that I was prepared to support them because my love turned all of that work into nothing.

As we drifted apart I learned something about myself. I can only fight to try to make someone believe that I care about them for so long. The hospital visits, the care tasks, the financial stuff, the limitations, I don’t care about. I could do that forever without a second thought. Fighting to be believed though? To have my love for someone questioned by them at every turn? I can’t do that.

It’s been a while since I drifted apart from this person I thought I’d be spending the rest of my life with so I feel like I can talk about it now and I guess I wanna suggest that maybe you should believe people sometimes when they say that they love you because your insistence that they don’t could be the thing that makes you drift apart.

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SF Bookstore The Booksmith Commits to Stop Stocking JK Rowling's Books

trans book lovers + accomplices! go support The Booksmith, an indie bookstore in san francisco, that recently decided to stop stocking jk rowling's books in solidarity with trans people. their statement (beneath which, at the link, is a list of alternative wizard books) is as follows:

In May of 2025, author JK Rowling publicly committed to using her private wealth from the Harry Potter series to develop the "JK Rowling Women's Fund," an organization dedicated to removing transgender rights "in the workplace, in public life, and in protected female spaces." With this announcement, we've decided to stop carrying her books. We don't know exactly what her her "women's fund" will entail, but we know that we aren't going to be a part of it. As a group of queer booksellers, we also had our adolescence shaped by wizards and elves. Look at us, it's obvious. If you or someone you love wants to dive into the world of Harry Potter, we suggest doing so by buying used copies of these books. Or, even better, please find below a list of bookseller-curated suggestions for books we genuinely love that also might fit the HP brief for you and yours. Many are series; some are standalone. Books for the younger folks are listed first, switching to teen/YA about halfway through (the book Wise Child is the first in the YA section). Questions? Concerns? orders at booksmith dot com. Happy reading, solidarity forever.

visit + order from them if you can, share either way!

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Autumn 2024 Tastiest Soup Bracket FINAL

Chicken and dumplings recipe

Link about varieties of phở

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I don't think the emu "war" is funny btw

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Instigation at its finest.

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Made a little something on slur reclamation.

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every time I see some bigshot scientist revealed as a fraud my knee-jerk reaction is "hell yeah elisabeth bik got 'em good" AND IM RIGHT

SHE NEVER QUITS!!!!

ICONIC!!!!

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A lot of people don't know this because Bavarian is often called a German dialect so people have this idea of it being a variant of Standard High German, but they're actually different subbranches of the same branch, even though collectively, all West Germanic varieties that are not Low German or Dutch are grouped together as High German:

Standard High German is located in High German > Upper German > Middle-Modern High German > Modern High German > Upper Franconian;

Bavarian varieties are located in High German > Upper German > Middle-Modern High German > Modern High German:

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(Bairisch = Bavarian, and Hannover German is considered the 'purest' form of spoken High German, so you can see that they're not mother and daughter but more like siblings.)

Bonus 1:

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Relatedly, peole often think of the trichotomy being German Standard High German, Austrian German, and Swiss German, whereas from a linguistic pov it's actually Alemannic, Bavarian, and Upper Franconian* (the latter is not to be conflated with the subgroup of the Franconian dialects spoken in Bavaria that is colloquially called Oberfränkisch/Upper Franconian, which is part of the Greater East Franconian subgroup. which also contains Western Yiddish. confused yet?)

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This map can be found here as an interactive map where you can zoom in for better legibility. Essentially, in the terms I used above:

yellow-green-teal: Upper Franconian varieties

red-orange-pink: Alemannic varieties

turquoise-blue-purple: Bavarian varieties

So you can see that they dont separate neatly at country borders, but, as is often the case, have large transition areas.

This is a historic map so it includes the historical varieties of Silesian (not to be confused with the West Slavic language of the same name) and High Prussian.

*Bonus 2:

As shown above, there's also low german of course, but that is in a completely different branch called North Sea Germanic which is a direct subbranch of West Germanic:

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The new Dongfang Qingcang mural in Leshan, Sichuan, China is so cool. This is Wang Hedi’s hometown by the way, and the artist said he’s been wanting to do a piece of him for a while but was looking for the perfect place. Yes it is 3D, and yes you can pose standing in DFQC’s hand!

You can see the artist’s xiaohongshu account here.

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Justin Tolkiberry went from being the token gay guy to being the token cis guy.

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i think one of the best parts about being a teenager in the early to mid 2010s was that cigarettes were definitely not cool anymore and vapes hadn’t popularized yet so my lungs made it out of my peak impressionable years relatively unscathed

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happy make a terrible comic day!!! i haven't stopped thinking about this post since i saw it. in 2018 a common merganser was spotted with 76 (SEVENTY SIX!!!) chicks!! that's SOOOO many baby. so much success.

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Frog Paints a Water Lily Pond 🪷🎨🐸

𝑓ₒᵣ ⲕᵢ𝑛𝑔 ₐ𝑛𝑑 𝑐ₒ𝑡𝑡ₐ𝑔ₑ

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Poking through my mom’s scrapbook: “That looks like me. It’s wearing a sarong and it’s barefoot, gotta be me.”