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By the way, you can improve your executive function. You can literally build it like a muscle.

Yes, even if you're neurodivergent. I don't have ADHD, but it is allegedly a thing with ADHD as well. And I am autistic, and after a bunch of nerve damage (severe enough that I was basically housebound for 6 months), I had to completely rebuild my ability to get my brain to Do Things from what felt like nearly scratch.

This is specifically from ADDitude magazine, so written specifically for ADHD (and while focused in large part on kids, also definitely includes adults and adult activities):

Here's a link on this for autism (though as an editor wow did that title need an editor lol):

Resources on this aren't great because they're mainly aimed at neurotypical therapists or parents of neurdivergent children. There's worksheets you can do that help a lot too or thought work you can do to sort of build the neuro-infrastructure for tasks.

But a lot of the stuff is just like. fun. Pulling from both the first article and my own experience:

Play games or video games where you have to make a lot of decisions. Literally go make a ton of picrews or do online dress-up dolls if you like. It helped me.

Art, especially forms of art that require patience, planning ahead, or in contrast improvisation

Listening to longform storytelling without visuals, e.g. just listening regularly to audiobooks or narrative podcasts, etc.

Meditation

Martial arts

Sports in general

Board games like chess or Catan (I actually found a big list of what board games are good for building what executive functioning skills here)

Woodworking

Cooking

If you're bad at time management play games or video games with a bunch of timers

Things can be easier. You might always have a disability around this (I certainly always will), but it can be easier. You do not have to be this stuck forever.

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Askja Víti, Iceland by Jan Drahokoupil

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Matthias Heiderich

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Jane Atche

JOB

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Armando Lenza, photographer

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below is my Transgender Hair Thoughts rambling that i really REALLY didn't expect to get so long (haha!)⬇️⬇️⬇️

genuinely aside from my face i think finally growing out my hair has been definitely my favorite part of transition. okay well after my cute clothes and everyone ive met and fallen in love with....there are a lot of things i like abt it okay...!! but like its so so amazing bc like in high school i would sometimes go a little longer in between haircuts just by happenstance and i always enjoyed when it would get a little longer but then i wouldnt really have the heart to put up any resistance against finally getting a haircut, partly due to not really feeling like i wanted it enough/avoiding my feelings and partly because i was so so scared of breaking my self perceived role as a Short Hair Boy. i knew boys could have long hair but i didnt think i could be like them. i didnt think i was born into that life, where youre so much more confident that thats what you want. and i also didnt want to stick out as a Trans- something which i specifically can sense was a thought in my subconscious at the time, even if back then i had never realized. it was so bad that when i was about 16 and i finally did address my desire for longer hair, when i let my mom know i didnt want it cut for a while longer, i specifically made up a lie that i was doing it so i could donate it to locks of love, a charity my sister had donated to in the past. i was so scared of being perceived as something unfavorable that i had to give a specific and nondeviant reason for wanting to grow it out. so idk yeah!! hair is definitely the most concrete example of something i had been massively repressing my whole life and its so exciting so finally have the opportunity to go for it AND im so happy that ive passed the point of Being Happy with its length. it was so miserable up until like just the past few months actually. but lately ive just been so excited because its finally at boob length and i feel like im finally Playing the Game, like its finally complete. im so pretty. i love a whole lot of whats happened since october 2021. its so good to be transgender. there will always be people who understand that

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rb to tell prev they're being so brave right now and pat their head a little please

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they're making secular nuns who do all that shit for atheist reasons

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(through gritted teeth) sometimes what's good for your mental health isn't another do nothing day or a little treat sometimes what's good for you is putting in some of the work. Not all of it at once but sometimes you have to finish that essay or at least take the next step or you have to clean your room or at least dust the shelves or you gotta do the laundry or at least put it all in the hamper and it's not fun and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks but you have to because i read a post on the internet that told me that's what being nice to yourself is sometimes

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the person i immediately at the start of the semester recognized as a boymoder in my media project group came to class today in girl clothes i have never felt more vindicated in my whole life. very cute girl clothes too it was crazy. huge leap from baggy jeans and hoodie to short shorts w stockings and hair tied up with a ribbon. so extremely moe + cultural victory we cant stop winning folks

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The Valley of the Ghosts (Kutkhiny Baty) on Kunashir Island, Russia. The soft volcanic ash has been sculpted over centuries by wind and rain

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rb to tell prev they're being so brave right now and pat their head a little please

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twitter liked this one

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modern au laios