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*September 1st on Tumblr*

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Anarcha Westcott was a young Black girl enslaved in Alabama. After a traumatic childbirth, she developed vaginal and rectal fistulas, a condition that left her in constant pain and shame.

Instead of receiving care, she was experimented on over 30 times by Dr. J. Marion Sims, who operated on her without anesthesia. He used her body to develop a surgery that would later be used to treat white women, with pain relief, dignity, and consent.

Anarcha didn’t agree to any of it. She wasn’t a patient. She was a victim of medical violence.

Today, she is finally being remembered, not as a statistic, but as one of the true Mothers of Modern Gynecology, alongside Lucy and Betsey.

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I am so sick and tired of seeing the trans women around me being slowly hot coaled into the closet and into essentially being forced back into "Men who would really love being women but Can't because they Aren't". It is so painful stop fucking doing this to our trans women. Stop forcing them to be "Fine" with being called dude bro man he and biologically male stop it stop it stop it you are killing her. You are killing her.

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I don’t think you’re ready to have an adult conversation about politics until you’re able to admit that there are things you love and enjoy that would not and should not exist in a just world. $8 billion dollar budget movies every other month don’t exist in a just world. New 900 GB AAA video games every year don’t exist in a just world. Next day delivery doesn’t exist in a just world. 80 different soda brands don’t exist in a just world. 

All of those things come from exploitation on some level, and if you wouldn’t trade those for a world where everyone can eat and have a home no matter who they are or what they do, I don’t know what to tell you. 

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Been realizing lately that the way online communities use "purity culture" exclusively to mean "people hating sex and kink" has led to these communities forgetting that in real life, Christian purity culture enforces sexual purity — especially for women — for the purpose of eventually fulfilling an inevitable, morally obligated sexual quota. A crucial component of Christian purity culture is sex that you have to have. Sex that makes you a Good Person. Obviously, this is specifically a cishetero-normative, marital sexual quota — and one that we call an example of compulsory sexuality.

You can see these beliefs, regarding compulsory sex, in conservative Christian politicians' obsessions with "increasing the birth rate," with blaming young people for not marrying or having enough babies, et cetera — so they attack any lifestyle that they see as antithetical to the "duty" of reproduction. Those disparaged lifestyles range from sex with contraception, to a lack of sex altogether.

But, noticeably — this isn't something anyone talks about when the word "purity culture" gets used on the internet! Yes, religious purity culture is objectively sex-negative — but as long as it's the right kind of sex, actual religious purity culture also upholds sex as virtuous and necessary! Sex, as a means of reproducing and propagating the faith, as a way of propagating the correct beliefs about sex, is said to be virtuous and necessary! Submitting to your cishet husband's desire is virtuous and necessary! Saying no isn't an option! This is compulsory sexuality! This is where compulsory sexuality largely comes from, in society — it comes from religious purity culture; it's inseparable from religious purity culture! It's an anti-consent culture, and it's antithetical to sexual liberation!

So, all that established... isn't it a little bit jarring, going into spaces on Tumblr that supposedly support sexual liberation, and oppose purity culture... only to see Tumblr users declare that sex is a moral virtue, and that sex is a moral necessity, all because specifically, having sex is what makes you a more progressive, pro-queer, anti-purity culture person?

Isn't it jarring to see Tumblr users declare that "sexless" people are always the culprits for perpetuating purity culture — and declare that "sexless" people perpetuate purity culture because they are sexless? Isn't it jarring when Tumblr users declare that "sexlessness," or "sexless lesbians," or just plain old "asexuals" are ruining the queer community?

Equating sexlessness with purity culture — because you don't understand religious purity culture, or recognize that it obligates sex — is assigning a negative moral value to sexlessness. And assigning a negative moral value to sexlessness is anti-consent. It is compulsory sexuality. It is saying, explicitly or implicitly: "You have to have sex to be a good person. You have to have sex to prove you have the correct beliefs about sex — because everyone who doesn't have sex has the wrong beliefs about sex. If you're saying no to sex — just to personally participating in sex, and deciding to personally be sexless — then you must be sex-negative. You can't be a good person."

Think about how that affects people's ability to say no to sex. If having sex makes you pro-liberation, and not having sex makes you anti-liberation — if liking sex is positioned as the good political stance, and disliking sex is positioned as the incorrect one — then how can you ever say no? How can you say no without feeling like it reveals something terrible about your moral character, or internalized beliefs? And in particular, how can you ever claim the right to say no to sex indefinitely?

Moreover, think about how this affects people who receive the answer "no" to sex. If having sex makes you pro-liberation, what does that give people the opportunity to say about those who refuse to have sex with them? What can they, and will they, say to the person who rejects them? How can a coercive person undermine any "no" that they receive? How will they twist, appropriate, and weaponize the superficial aesthetics of sexual liberation?

Simply put, when "sexlessness" is equated with internalized sex negativity, or with anti-sexual liberation politics, saying "no" to sex is not allowed to exist. Saying "no" means you're being a prude, and that's bad. You need to get over your prudishness — for your own good. And, of course, being a prude is the same as saying no to sex. So you need to stop saying no to sex. You need to have sex. It's the only way to not be a prude. It's the only way to be a good person. It's the only way to have the right beliefs. It's the only way to become liberated.

...What were we supposed to be liberating ourselves from, again? Oh, you know, just that culture of sexual purity that requires a morally obligated amount of sex to be a good person.

I could go on, but just, like... get that compulsory sexuality out of sex positivity. Please. It's not supposed to be there. It's really undermining the whole "consent is good" thing, and alienating people who would otherwise support sex positivity. If you mean sex negative, say "sex negative," instead of "sexless" or "puriteen." Those two words are going up on the high shelf, until people understand that "sexless" does not mean "sex negative," and "purity culture," as the term originates from religious environments, does not mean "we think all sex is bad and you should never have it." Or, in other words:

Sex positivity, especially on Tumblr, is like a beloved dog that you want to see grow up big and strong, but it's always mischievously getting compulsory sexuality in its mouth, posing a danger to itself and others. I see what you have. Drop it. Spit it out. Spit it out right now. You know you're not supposed to have that. Drop the compulsory sexuality. You should know better.

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ill get you someday and you gonna feel it

the world seems so bleak when you dont have a hyperfixation.

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My friend blocked me because I wouldn’t stop sending him this picture

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would you like one of my i nterests?

the world seems so bleak when you dont have a hyperfixation.

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HOW TO GET YOUR ACCOUNT BACK FROM RANDOM NIGHTMARE SURPRISE TERMINATION!!!!!!!!!!!

I woke up on sunday morning to find that my whole account had been terminated out of the blue. VERY DISTRESSING!!! if this has just happened to you, YOU CAN GET YOUR ACCOUNT RESTORED. the best part is, everything remains intact! your messages, asks, followers, posts, etc. don't fret!! they restored my account only a day after it had been terminated. usually, it takes one to two weeks for a response. HERE'S WHAT I DID!!!

it's important that you send a SUPPORT TICKET. don't randomly email them!!! go to https://www.tumblr.com/support and choose "terminated account" as your reason.

include the email of the account that got terminated. this makes it easier for them to recover it! if you can't send it from that email, just include it in the message.

include the following: to the best of your knowledge, you have re-read the site rules and you haven't broken any site guidelines. state how important your account is to you, and stress how thankful you are for their help in recovering it. BE POLITE. EVEN IF YOU'RE UPSET OR PISSED OFF!!!! it significantly ups your chances of being listened to. I included the phrase "I'm sure you understand the importance of this" which is corporatespeak for "FIX THIS OR SO HELP ME GOD" and that seemed to get their attention.

you can also @ support on tumblr with the issue, and @ them on another site (e.g. twitter). there's a chance they'll see and respond quicker! cover all your options. the reddit for tumblr account termination is no longer active so don't bother with that.

if they don't respond within a few days, reply to the confirmation email they sent after you sent in your request. follow up! ask for updates! reiterate the urgency of the situation! make sure you're not responding to an address with "noreply" in it!

REALLY HOPE THIS HELPS!!!! all is not lost you just gotta be STERN AND POLITE. it's terrifying to have your entire account vanish overnight but there is always hope okay. love you good luck

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He's so highkey fun to draw

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oh neat

If one more person tries to tell me that Necromancy isn't political I'm smiting this entire planet.

Necromancy was born out of the Warlock movement, which was created to spite Clerics, Paladins, and other "Holier Than Thou" classes.

Necromancy isn't about the aesthetics; it's about the conjurations and ESPECIALLY about politics.

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Older Black gay men in long term relationships are rarely covered or seen by main stream media.

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Dear friends of Tumblr,

Today at my school we had an assembly about internet predators and when I had said that most of my true friends are over the internet and they gave me a lecture about how “I don’t know who I’m talking to” blah blah. So please, if you aren’t a predator in any way, please reblog so i can prove a point.

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what are we even saying anymore

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i want one so damn bad tho