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Almost every problem in your life is, either directly or indirectly, caused by global inequity.

Billionaires are ruining your present and your future, while telling you to be mad about who's wearing a skirt or which side of an imaginary line someone was born on.

Things that will literally never affect your material existence in any significant way.

Unlike how a handful of tyrants keeping a stranglehold over global resources affects everything you do, every single day of your life.

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I wish they could invent a medical device that temporarily transfers your symptoms and pain to the doctor treating you and it worked like a shock collar. “I think light exercise would-.” and then bam they’re rolling around the floor clutching their stomach in agony and dry heaving.

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“You think every citizen should have access to free and accessible healthcare?”

Wrong!!!

I think that Asylum seekers and Migrant workers and The Undocumented and Everyone Else should get free healthcare too

I love immigration

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also friendly reminder that cis people dont “pass” & gender rules are made up. love yourself enough to make up your own without worrying why other people have theirs. to pass on the wisdom of a reddit comment from a deleted account that found me when I was struggling with identity vs expression vs perceptions, “You can do whatever you want forever. I’m not giving you permission, you already have it. Sometimes we all just need a reminder.”

i saw a post recently telling people they shouldnt lie to their trans friends about whether they 'pass' because it could endanger them, and while i get the concept i think the problem is that passing is... so highly subjective? different people are gonna intepret your gender presentation differently.

like i've personally had strangers adjust their gendered language with me mid conversation and had no clue what changed their mind. i had a lunch break where one coworker had clearly assumed i was a man while the other had clearly assumed i was a woman and both kept side eyeing eachother in confusion. which is fine by me, that's the kind of reaction i've intentionally cultivated, but it does suck if you're aiming for a stealth lifestyle because there really isnt a line where you wake up one day 100% passing.

maybe just... try not to resent people if they say you pass when it turns out others may not agree with them. there's a good chance they weren't intentionally trying to give you false hope, it's just that gender is in the eye of the beholder, and if you're mid transition different people are gonna behold you differently.

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"wait, but what do I say to describe people who cannot get pregnant?" a guide.

Men cannot get pregnant: INCORRECT. Transgender men are men and many are capable of getting pregnant. Also, excludes the plenty of people who are not men who cannot get pregnant.

Cis men cannot get pregnant: INCORRECT. Intersex men who are technically cis, but have uteruses and ovaries, may be capable of pregnancy, even if it's unlikely. Also, excludes the plenty of people who are not men who cannot get pregnant.

Cis perisex men cannot get pregnant: Correct, but excludes the plenty of people who are not men who cannot get pregnant.

People without uteruses cannot get pregnant: Correct, but excludes infertile and menopausal people with uteruses who also cannot get pregnant.

People who cannot get pregnant: CORRECT. Excludes no one.

To use inclusionary language, you don't need to rip through the reeds in search of wider terminology when you could quite literally say things exactly as they are. Inclusive language isn't "overcomplicated" at all. It's straightforward.

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i think we should extend a little more grace to people who were indoctrinated who have realized their way of thinking is wrong/harmful/problematic and are now doing the work to unlearn large portions of their belief system

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Let’s all light a candle and pour one out for all the trans men who never got to figure out they’re men because they were raised to believe they couldn’t ever be anything other than a wife and a mother and if they ever left the church that all their friends and family go to then they’ll burn in hell for all of eternity. May the names engraved on their tombstones fade to nothing and the dresses they were buried in disintegrate.