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The Emerging Lesbian: Female Same-Sex Desire in Modern China, Tze-Lan D. Sang, 2003

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the reason men want women to look so unnatural and bizzare, the reason they want them in layers and layers of makeup, insane amounts of surgery, completely covered and faceless and quiet, is that the less human you can make her, the more you can remove her from her natural state, the less guilt you feel for being a monster. If she is not human, what humanity do you need to treat her with?

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Stormé DeLarverie by Diane Arbus in 1961

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I reeeeally don't want to focus on her but....

‘I've no regrets welcoming my twins through surrogacy’ - Chimamanda Adichie

During one of the sessions, Ms Adichie broke barriers by discussing surrogacy, a topic often kept behind closed doors.

... where? when? Celebrities and other public people have been letting the public know about their baby purchases for decades.

The 47-year-old maintained that she chose to speak openly about her surrogacy journey to help more women feel less stigmatised about becoming mothers through non-traditional means. Speaking at the event about the challenges of balancing motherhood and career, Ms Adichie said: “I want more women to feel less ashamed of talking about reaching motherhood through non-traditional means. What I said about having my twins through surrogacy is true because there are some things you simply can’t hide. You can’t hide the existence of two perfect human beings. People got carried away with the idea that I’m 47 and have babies. But I don’t lie about things that could have consequences for others. “I felt many women might be pressured and told, ‘Look, she’s 47 and has twins—what about you? Generally, there’s so much shame around fertility issues, and I think it’s too much of a burden for women. Women feel ashamed when they have fibroids or struggle to get pregnant. I don’t believe in that kind of shame. Some viewers even said I looked fantastic after just having a baby, and I couldn’t say thank you—because it wasn’t true. I said they were born via surrogacy. I heard there was a bit of noise about that.”

I love how she completely ignores feminist critique of surrogacy. I just know that has been most of (if not all) controversy. She got famous for speech on feminism ffs.

Oh, wait...

The author of ‘Purple Hibiscus’ further noted that her announcement sparked controversy because many believe ‘it’s wrong to rent a woman’s body.’ “They argued that it’s dehumanising, I think it can be, but I think it matters how it’s done, and I think it can be done ethically and also the same people we say women can do whatever they want with their body, and there’s a contradiction there. I think that’s what the noise is all about, and my boys are so precious to me. And I hated that anything about them would become politicised, so on the one hand, I wish I hadn’t talked about it, but on the other hand, there is no way I am going to lie about them that I have babies I didn’t birth myself. I think it’s wrong.

Yup a woman can do anything (ANYTHING) with her body. Goo-goo-gaga type of analysis. Are they "the same people"? Are you sure?

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so lforlove.in is an indian website that’s trying to normalise lesbian relationships and

oh my god

it’s so sassy and so cute and just

<333

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one thing i dont think we talk enough about is how pretty much every sex ed resource for lesbian teens tells them they should be open to sex with male partners

i remember being 14/15 and googling how lesbian sex worked and just being confronted with site after site telling me that lesbian sex sometimes includes a penis and it was uninclusive and closed minded to think otherwise :)))

i guarantee you no girl or woman searching for lesbian sex ed resources is looking for advice on how to blow a guy or have piv intercourse, theyre looking for advice about sexual relationships between biologically female partners

i think people underestimate how ashamed and broken it made me and other lesbians feel to read that over and over. after reading those resources i felt so hopeless that i tried to force myself to be asexual because it was the only socially acceptable way to rule out having a male partner

constantly adding these ~helpful reminders~ is like telling lesbians that they just haven't met the right guy yet, and there is no context in which they should forget it

some of these were government affiliated websites insisting that exclusive homosexuality didnt exist, or at the very least that it was unthinkable and unpeakable

its a very impactful and insidious form of homophobia

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Rebloggable again ❤️

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I’ve always suspected that part of the reason why men don’t mind having kids with any woman they’re with even if they don’t plan to stay for long, is having children guarantees that the woman will always perform domestic labor. Even if she is exhausted and can’t stand his lazy ass, she can’t punish him by not cooking or cleaning until he does it, because she has to do it for her kids who don’t deserve to be collateral damage. As long as there are kids, the house is clean and there’s food. This also explains the great shift that happens with men once their gf/wife has kids. Men who used to do certain chores around the house will stop doing anything completely once their children are born cause now he knows, she has to do it anyway. He can be a useless piece of shit and ignore her pleads for help and call it nagging and laugh about it with his friends for this exact reason.

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The actual percentage of homosexuals is so small that it makes living in this world feel isolating so few understand you nothing is made for you and if it is other groups take it and destroy it

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"it''ll be a statue of a woman, like a beautiful statue of a woman, and it'll be like...she helped lead the way for so many refugees or she was a nurse or she was this and she was that. She was just this pillar of society in her time. She was such an influential and powerful woman.

And they'll zoom in on her face, and they'll zoom in on the plaque, and they'll zoom out and show a full body...and it’ll show that one of her breasts has been basically rubbed off and it’s so shiny because all the tourists and, you know, whoever, has touched her breast and that's her legacy now.

[…] and you walk up to it and it’s just… through all that, through all the effort, through all the care and all the legacy she left behind, the only thing that she is now seen for is her breasts. That's gonna make me actually sick."

-brittany broski via the broski report

juliet, dalida, idk, molly malone

some people are just fucking rotten on the inside.

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wild how like PCOS, endometriosis, vaginismus & hell, even frequent yeast infections are “mysterious” with no well known cause and little to no decent treatment, but we have tons of supposedly well researched body fat removal methods, about 20 different kinds of breast implants, laser hair removal, and 100 different dermatologist recommended anti aging creams. we sure had the money and brainpower to cure those “diseases”

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actually he was wrong for thinking that

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I was watching a youtube video of a trial in the US: a young man who killed his father because he'd been raping him ever since he was 6. He got sentenced to life in prison because either the jury didn't believe him or they didn't believe he'd acted in self defence, whatever. I watched him cry as he was being questioned by the lawyers about what he'd endured and I genuinely felt bad for him. I believed him and was moved by his pain. I checked the comments and everybody was being supportive and saying he should be freed, but there were also dozens of comments with thousands of upvotes saying: "if he'd been a girl he would be free right now", "people never believe men", "this is why men don't come forward" and "if he was a girl it would be a whole different story." Men and women, repeating the same thing over and over again, like some rehearsed performance: women are believed more than men and they get a free pass for murder. Basically, that the justice system favours women and hastily punishes those accused of rape. Which is a blatant lie. So why do people believe it? Why do they feel the need to say it every time a man is abused? My empathy for the guy slowly vanished as I remembered that a man would never feel the same way about a woman and that men literally use other men's pain to oppress women further. There's an underlying message with it too: that men rape women so frequently that everyone believes it, which is a privilege. Female privilege. Women and girls are privileged for being assaulted so frequently that it can't be denied. And yet it is.

I looked at the corner of my youtube screen and saw the next recommended video: "Camille Vasquez's Cross of Amber Heard." In the video, Amber Heard cries much like the man I was watching just before, about being raped. The top comments all call her a liar, an evil psychopath, a bad actress and a woman who tried to ruin a man's life with false rape accusations. They're all laughing at her. You really can't make this shit up.

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Sall Grover said something like: "Transwomen aren't in a fight for rights, they have a list of demands and part of their demand is that no woman is allowed to say "no" to a man with a gender identity. Women are the ones fighting for their rights, the right to say "no" to a man"

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UK Supreme Court: women are female humans

TIMs:

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The bill in the uk which defines a women had hundreds of comments from men who believed "we should ban the whole lgbt", just btw. Most of the people who support that bill are just as homophobic as they are transphobic. It isnt a movement to protect women, it is the start of a landslide infringement on lgbt rights in the uk. When they start banning lesbianism, then u will realise what side you are on lmao.

How is the fact that women are pressured by both misogynistic conservatives and misogynistic liberals somehow our fault? I don't GIVE A FUCK if the only men who don't support the erasure of sex are conservative. Just like I don't GIVE A FUCK if the only men who support abortion rights are liberlas who support women getting fired for calling their rapist a man. You're not going to manipulate me to align with one or another. FUCK BOTH OF THEM. I HATE BOTH OF THEM. WOMEN WILL FIGHT THEM BOTH. AS WE ALWAYS HAVE. Women right's doesn't mean "whatever rights men will support". It means women's rights. Women empowered themselves and got rights and protections starting with fighting a conservative base already. We'll just do it the fuck again. "Oh they'll ban lesbianism." It's currently illegal for lesbian groups and spaces to exist without trans dicks in many places. The liberals have already effectively soft-banned lesbians. It's easier to fight people who acknowledge you exist than people who will put you in jail for speaking words they don't like. We know because we did it already. We don't need the support of hostile anti feminist liberals who will give us rights as long as we agree that we don't actually exist or need unique rights. GO THE FUCK TO HELL.