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Are you familiar with the “Let Them” theory?

I’ll tell you the more I grow the more I am okay with accepting the “Let Them” in my own life and relationships. Even family can mistreat and disrespect you.

This is something that took me a very long time to learn. I used to tolerate a lot because I didn't want to lose people. I learned the hard way if they were really my people they would never treat me like that. Don't make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you're being repeatedly disrespected.

Let them be upset.

Let them judge you.

Let them misunderstand you.

Let them gossip about you,

Let them ignore you.

Let them be "right."

Let them doubt you.

Let them not like you.

Let them not speak to you.

Let them run your name in the ground.

Let them make you out to be the villain.

Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them!

Kindly step aside and LET THEM.

The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you. They just simply don't care. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you. They did it anyway. People that love you care about how they make you feel.

The end.

Let them go.

There will be people that would rather lose you than be honest about what they've done to you. Let them go.

The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of acountability was the closure. The lack of honestly was the closure. Let them go.

Make the decision to no longer sit at tables where you might be the topic when you get up. Let them go.

You can still be kind. You can even still love them deeply. But do it from the distance they created in their words and actions. Access to you is a privilege they have proven they can’t be trusted with. Let them go.

You don’t need to tell your side of the story. God already knows. Let God fight the battle for you. Let them go.

It’s taken me a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion and deep hurt. Lots of self reflection, self preservation, deep prayer and seeking wisdom from those much wiser than me.

If you are struggling with this please know you are not alone. We will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves. Because healed people do in fact heal people.

Don’t you dare let them steal your joy.

Don’t you dare let them steal your light.

Don’t you dare let them steal your peace.

You are in control of that.

Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control.

Let them go.

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If youre over the age of 20 and lost all your teen years to mental illness and never got to be normal, or have healthy relationships, went down the wrong path or diddnt have the right nurturing support from BOTH your parents and now you have to sort of catch up on your life whether thats getting your license, getting your GED, starting college, fixing your mental health, or starting things you told yourself to start or try again and again no matter what it is, and trying to fight to live and accomplish shit you FEEL you should have accomplished as a teenager but diddnt have the capacity or insight to care about due to mental illness.

I am so incredibly sorry, and im thankful youre here and alive and trying!!! also;

You are N O T a failure you took your time because you couldnt put more on yourself than you could bear to carry and that is a mark of self care so dont ever feel bad about it

I am so fucking proud of you, youre trying your hardest to get to the top even though it may be harder now, you could have given up but you havent and for that you are victorious and i am in awe of you.

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A bee-keeper of Valeni village transports his bees in his bee wagon. Romania.

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If ur looking for a reason to keep LIVING-

do it for the days you will dance around your room by yourself listening to your favourite songs.

do it because having a cigarette in the middle of the night at the park with your friends makes you feel like you’re in a movie scene

do it for all the strangers you are yet to smile at and admire

do it because one day, a friend you haven’t even met yet, might need you.

do it for the rainy days

and because you havent gotten to wear your favourite dress enough.

do it because you are yet to try the best nachos you’ve ever tasted

or because your all time favourite movie might not even exist yet

do it because the best day of your life might be around the corner

because your favourite band might announce a concert in your city in 2 weeks from now

do it to watch your best friend fall in love with somebody who treats them right

or to see your sister graduate

fuck, i can’t stress this enough but please,

please keep choosing life.

because your heart might hurt now,

waking up might feel dreadful

and you might just be over it all

but choose life not only for others,

choose life for yourself

to watch yourself recover

to feel proud that you havent cried in weeks

to recognise the change in your behaviours

to watch yourself slip out of your bad habits

to love the sound of the birds chirping again

to touch grass with your bare feet and remember that life is beautiful.

choose life because life chose you.

life always chooses you.

please, just stay here with me. 🌸🦋🧚🏻🌞🌲🍄🌏✨🌧

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If ur looking for a reason to keep LIVING-

do it for the days you will dance around your room by yourself listening to your favourite songs.

do it because having a cigarette in the middle of the night at the park with your friends makes you feel like you’re in a movie scene

do it for all the strangers you are yet to smile at and admire

do it because one day, a friend you haven’t even met yet, might need you.

do it for the rainy days

and because you havent gotten to wear your favourite dress enough.

do it because you are yet to try the best nachos you’ve ever tasted

or because your all time favourite movie might not even exist yet

do it because the best day of your life might be around the corner

because your favourite band might announce a concert in your city in 2 weeks from now

do it to watch your best friend fall in love with somebody who treats them right

or to see your sister graduate

fuck, i can’t stress this enough but please,

please keep choosing life.

because your heart might hurt now,

waking up might feel dreadful

and you might just be over it all

but choose life not only for others,

choose life for yourself

to watch yourself recover

to feel proud that you havent cried in weeks

to recognise the change in your behaviours

to watch yourself slip out of your bad habits

to love the sound of the birds chirping again

to touch grass with your bare feet and remember that life is beautiful.

choose life because life chose you.

life always chooses you.

please, just stay here with me. 🌸🦋🧚🏻🌞🌲🍄🌏✨🌧

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