lustforlife1997

[lustforlife1997]

“If it is an excuse for mistreating you, it’s a distortion. A man who was genuinely mistreated in a relationship with a woman would not be using that experience to get away with hurting someone else.”

— Why Does He Do That?, Lundy Bancroft

[lustforlife1997]

“If you are so in touch with your feelings from your abusive childhood, then you should know what abuse feels like. You should be able to remember how miserable it was to be cut down to nothing, to be put in fear, to be told that the abuse is your own fault. You should be less likely to abuse a woman, not more so, from having been through it. Once I make this point, he generally stops mentioning his terrible childhood; he only wants to draw attention to it if it’s an excuse to stay the same, not if it’s a reason to change.”

— Why Does He Do That?, Lundy Bancroft

[lustforlife1997]

“But the woman also sees that her partner is a human being who can be caring and affectionate at times, and she loves him. She wants to figure out why he gets so upset, so that she can help him break his pattern of ups and downs. She gets drawn into the complexities of his inner world, trying to uncover clues, moving pieces around in an attempt to solve an elaborate puzzle.”

— Why Does He Do That?, Lundy Bancroft

[lustforlife1997]

“The symptoms of abuse are there, and the woman usually sees them: the escalating frequency of put-downs. Early generosity turning more and more to selfishness. Verbal explosions when he is irritated or when he doesn’t get his way. Her grievances constantly turned around on her, so that everything is her own fault. His growing attitude that he knows what is good for her better than she does. And, in many relationships, a mounting sense of fear or intimidation.”

— Why Does He Do That?, by Lundy Bancroft

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Kate Moss // Elle France November 1992

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Claudia Schiffer for Chanel by Karl Lagerfeld, 1995

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Yves Saint Laurent - Spring 1990 RTW

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Karl Lagerfeld - Spring 1992 RTW

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Vogue UK April 2007 - Kate Moss by Nick Knight