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10 Pieces of advice to every woman.

1. When respect is no longer there, find your way out. Although it is hard to start over, do not wait until you lose yourself in the process.

2. Do not chase love. Chase your dreams instead.

3. No one has the right to make you feel worthless. You are more than enough.

4. If someone really loves you, he will pursue you and will make real efforts.

5. Please know that you are beautiful together with your scars and imperfections.

6. You do not need to compare yourself to anyone. You have a different journey to take.

7. Your only competition is yourself. Hone your skills and be a better version of you. 8. If it fails, it is not love in the first place. True love bends but it never breaks.

9. Working hard is good but you have to prioritize your health. Find time to be with your family. They are the ones who will be there for you in your darkest days.

10. Prioritize yourself. Love yourself. It has long been overdue.

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Forget about your feelings. True love is a deliberate choice

by Genefe Navilon We all get caught up in our ideas of love. Between the rush of meeting someone new and the excitement of what’s to come – we end up distracted from what love really means. In reality, most of what we know about love is wrong. We believe that love is something that happens to us, that it is a state of being. We think it’s a feeling that has to be there constantly, and when the feeling is gone, so is love. But here’s the truth – that’s bullshi*t. Forget about your feelings. True love is a deliberate choice. At the end of the day, it’s not about the romantic way you meet someone. It’s not even remotely about your compatibility, grand gestures, or professions of adoration. In the end, only one thing can sustain love. It’s choice. You choose to love someone, no matter what. It’s a decision you make. Every second, you must give an internal effort to nurture love. And this is the one thing that gets us in trouble. We have to get rid of the notion that love is something that happens to us. It’s something we make happen. It’s doing. Love is a commitment, an action, a choice. When things get rough, you choose to stay. When the other person is unlovable, you choose to love them anyway. You might think, “well that’s unromantic.” But you’re wrong. The most beautiful thing about love is knowing you are chosen by the person you chose. Real love – mature, healthy, and enduring love is something you can have if you choose it. The truth is – love can be painful. It requires sacrifice. And it won’t always be easy. But it is the most beautiful thing you can have when it’s reciprocated. And the happiest and most successful couples, the ones who have been together for a long time, all have one thing in common. They have the unconditional commitment to continue choosing and loving someone even if they’re imperfect. Because when the honeymoon stage is over, you’ll see this person for who they truly are – the good, the bad, the ugly. You will see flaws. Their demons will become your own. Their burden will be shared with you. And the butterflies? They’ll disappear. But what you’ll end up having is something so profound. You’ll have a home in this person, a place you can be yourself in, somewhere you can rest without being judged, a place where you are welcome. What you will have is someone who truly sees you. And the best part? You’ll have the joy and security of having someone who plans to keep loving you. In relationships, there is nothing more meaningful than being a team, working towards something, and having each other’s back every step of the way. You don’t choose who you are attracted to, but you can choose who you stay in love with. Of course, this much is still true. You don’t choose who you are attracted to. You can’t fake attraction. And before you can love someone, you first need to feel attracted to them. Our culture puts a heavy emphasis on feelings. And that doesn’t only include love. We are told to do whatever makes us happy and to follow our feelings. But here’s the thing – feelings are a fickle thing. It’s fleeting. How you feel today may not be the same way you feel tomorrow. But real love, it’s constant. It’s something so real you can almost feel it in your fingers. It’s that tangible. And when life proves too much or too unbearable, it’s love that gives us the strength to continue. Not feelings. When life throws us spontaneity or surprises, it’s in love that we find much-needed stability. Life is crazy and surprising. We face rejection, disappointment, heartbreak, and fall backs on a daily basis. To be honest, if there’s one thing constant in life, it’s our hardships. So you can’t just abandon something when it gets hard. Especially love. Just because things get tough, doesn’t mean what you have is already worthless. If this person makes you happy and makes your life more meaningful, then you can wither any storm that life throws at you. Real love is about staying together and facing every challenge with the support of one another. It’s one of the key signs of emotional stability. Love isn’t a feeling. It’s not a state of euphoria. It’s hard work. But it is rewarding. Love will ask so much from you. Real love will ask you to sometimes go against what you believe in. It will ask you to try to understand, even when you don’t want to. You will have to do things that can be hard or confusing. It requires constant compromise. Love will require you to work your hardest. It’s not easy. But it is the most rewarding thing to have to work on. So if you love someone, remember this. Feelings can come and go. But real love? It stays.

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Have you fallen in love with someone you met only for few minutes and never met that person again?

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You're allowed to be happy. You're allowed to be who you are, who you want to be and who you can be. You're allowed to have the life that you've always wanted. You're allowed to be at the places that make you content. And you're allowed to put yourself first, never forget that, my friend. words: @thefarahayaad ❤ 📸 @iamcherrrr #words #thoughts #life #you #self https://www.instagram.com/p/BvsbcgKBCtk/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1ox3lxixmuqfe

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ASK ME OUT, BUT..

Ask me out for a coffee but don't take me to a famous coffee shop. Instead, let's climb mountains and sip a cheap native coffee that's worth more than your favorite morning drink.

Ask me out for a dinner but don't take me to an expensive restaurant with a long list of food I am not familiar with. Instead, let's set up a tent beside the beach and prepare our own dinner under the million stars.

Ask me out for a roadtrip but dont take me to some concrete road with nothing but buildings. Instead, let's ride a bike or take a hike on any road less travelled.

Ask me out for a swim but don't take me to an olympic sized pool with nothing but chlorinated water. Instead, let's explore the wild and search for waterfalls that we could call our own.

Ask me out for a drink but don't take me to a bar with expensive drinks and loud music that we can no longer hear each other. Instead, bring me a cheap bottle of my favorite rhum and take me on top of the mountains where no one could hear us.

Ask me out, but not just out but OUTSIDE our comfort zones. 💕

✍🏻 Queenie Bebe

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Why I Chose To Take Care Of Myself Before Anyone Else

by ANA C. PASCUAL

The holiday season means family reunions and barkada outings are happening left and right. No matter what the occasion is, there's always one question that pops up every time: "Why are you still single?"

Every year, my relatives and friends always ask me the same thing and most of the time, I answer them either with a blank stare or a faint smile. But now, I think I may have a proper response—that I'm still trying to improve myself as a person before I decide to share my life with someone else.

Being in a relationship requires work, understanding, and maturity. I want to be stable financially, emotionally, and psychologically before I even enter one so that I don't bicker over nonsense issues all the time with whoever I'm going to end up with.

There are a lot of things I still want to accomplish in life and knowing myself, it would be difficult for me to handle a relationship while I try to reach for my dreams. There are other women who do a really good job balancing those two but not me—so to save anyone from heartache, I'll focus on what and who I have right now and actively seek a partner a few years from now. Remember, there's nothing wrong with being single!

Yes, spending the rest of your life with that special someone is nice, but there are some people who choose to wait patiently rather than hurrying love—and I'm one of them. Like they say, you can't give what you don't have; love and take care of yourself, and when that overflows, let that reach those surrounding you and be open to others.

It doesn't matter if I get teased for being single for so long now, what's important is that I'm fully ready when the right guy comes along; this also goes for everyone who is single and unattached right now—don't get into a relationship if you're not yet ready. It's better to wait for Mr. Right rather than settling for Mr. Right Now.

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Look in the mirror. Beauty is You. 

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BE YOU, WOMAN!

"SAN MO NAKUKUHA CONFIDENCE MO?" "HUY, GRABE UNG PICTURE MO NA NAKA-2PC KA. LAKAS!" "PAANO MO NAKAKAKAYANAN MAG-2PC, GURL."

HERE'S MY ANSWER FOR YOU TO HAVE A BEACH-READY BODY THIS SUMMER!

A lot of people have been questioning me where do I get my confidence when it comes to showing my curves, my skin, my body, my stretch marks - my imperfections. There are numerous people who have been sending me encouraging messages saying "Girl, we're not that really close but can I just say I love your confidence", "Slay, girl. You're beautiful inside and out". Some seem to ask me in an insulting way, whether in person or through comments, but I never mind anyway.

So, to those who always think twice because they always try to put into consideration what other people would say, let me share with you my secret:

1. Be confident with your own skin, shape and size!

Pero paano? Start to recognize your flaws and imperfection then embrace it. Always remember that every person has imperfections. It's just a matter of recognizing and embracing your own, most especially when you know that the "cure" for it seem to be beyond possibilities.

In my case, I have PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) which makes me have imbalanced hormones that causes me to abnormally gain weight, have pimple outbreaks, etc. And no matter how I try to loosen weight, it's really a ball and chain, according to my OB. So, I started embodying it in a way that I may not be as skinny as how I wanted myself to be, yakapin ko na lang sarili. Yakap! Self love. Ganon.

Go wear whatever you feel comfortable wearing (may it be clothes or make-up 👄💄👙). As long as you know that it's your way of expression and that you are still embedded with your values as a person, push lang ng push!

2. Be empowered by surrounding yourself with people who vouch for you! Sino sila? Ito:

A. Family

I love how my family, most especially my mom, supports me in all of my decisions even in the simplest of the clothes I wear. They even help me choose the swimsuit that fits me well! They are the ones who start liking my posts, saying good comments about it. To be honest, they are my first audience. They always tell me "go, push lang!" I love how family becomes the main source of my confidence. Cause to be honest, when your family starts to believe and have confidence in you, that would mean a huge difference! In fact, kahit nga sila lang sapat na e!

B. Friends! Being in an all-girl school that empowers women (go, katipunera!!), I have really learned how to see the difference in every woman and accept the divergence. I have been taught how to embrace diversity as well - our difference when it comes to shapes, sizes, skin color, etc. In fact, it's my friends who always encourage me to be confident of my own body. Sa totoo lang, ung mundo lang naman nagdidikta kung sino ang sexy o hindi (e.g. nung Renaissance, chubby ang sexy). Eh kung sexy tingin mo sa sarili mo, everyone should still respect you for that!

C. Boyfriend/Girlfriend

Pero wala ako non e. Sorry, can't share anything about this. Let's move on. 😂😂😂

To be empowered, you really have to surround yourself with people who are open minded and liberated, in a sense that they let you decide on your own cause they trust you and that they know you can make wise decision for yourself kahit mapa self-expression pa yan! At the same time, this practice makes you grow more as a person lalo na sa simplest of decision making!

3. As much as you accept yourself, take people's constructive criticisms/judgments about you!

You cannot please everyone with your confidence nor control the way they view your perceptions. Yet, make an effort to listen to them. But, at the end of the day, always value what you believe in.

Personally, I wanna stop people from body-shaming cause I, myself, is a victim. I mean, you know when it's an insult and a constructive criticism. Some people just mean to destroy the esteem you have in you. Which is why, I want to encourage every woman out there to be confident of their own shape, and that's where I keep myself anchored in. No matter how bad I feel about a negative statement left of me, I always try to divert my attention to the root of why I do what I do and just listen and recognize what they have uttered!

In this changing world, we become more diverse in terms of preferences, opinions and views. The only key to a harmonious community is learning how to accept each other's differences and preferences cause that is innate in all of us. We have to be open to it, learn how to recognize them and weigh your take at the end of the day. We must learn to "agree to disagree". We must learn how to "agree" cause "we learn" from each other! We communicate to listen and not to respond; I think that's beautiful. We must accept diversity amidst adversity which I know is the only way to encourage everyone to be who we want to be!

Be you, woman!

Happy Women's Month, mga Kababaihan!

Pa-yakap ako sayo! 💃👄

Photo taken by my #1.1.1.1.1 supporter: Vanessa 💪

HER NAME --->  Nikaela Cortez

I REALLY LOVE THIS WOMAN. SHE’S AN INSPIRATION <3 

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Year 2018

Happy New Year 😊 #Day1

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They were all around me when the sun was shining. When it got dark I saw who really was with me. I laugh with many, but I don’t trust any. I am heartless because I cared too much. It’s true that time heals all wounds, but we have to forgive and forget first. I’m brave because I apologize first, strong because I forgive first and happy because I forget first. I learned that I never healed by wounding others. I mean it’s better to know nothing than to half-know many things. I am a believer, so when God said “love your enemy” I obeyed and loved myself. I am a human that have sinned and I am a sinner. I believe that my worst sin is that I destroyed and betrayed myself for nothing. We all live three lives that are public, private and secret. I believe that everybody has a chapter they don’t read out loud. It is love that makes you rich. The poor man who have love is richer than the wealthiest without love. Life always demanded skills I didn’t have. I thought I wasn’t good at anything until I learned that survival is a talent. My plan is to work while they sleep, learn while they party, save while they spend and then live like they dream.

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Stop thinking that being imperfect makes you lesser than or unworthy. Being imperfect makes you real.

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God’s Path May Not Be Easy, But Choose To Follow Him Anyways

Faith is trusting what you cannot see, cannot feel, cannot touch with your two hands, and yet, still know in the depths of your heart is real. Faith is understanding that there is a greater purpose, a life beyond this one, and opening your palms to the sky in surrender, knowing that wherever you go and whatever you do is only leading you closer to where you’re meant to be.

Faith is closing your eyes and having confidence that no matter what happens in this life, you are cared for and protected by a loving, powerful Father. Faith is saying, ‘I do not have the answers, but I stepping forward anyways because I long to be closer to you.’

To be a person of faith is difficult. The world will often look at you with disdain, saying you’re putting all of your hope in something that doesn’t exist, or that you’re believing in something merely to feel better about yourself, to feel less pressured and stressed by the world.

To be a person of faith is hard. You’re continually given situations that are challenging, pain that you cannot explain, moments of doubt where you wonder whether you’re holding onto something that’s as thin as thread, unraveling in your fingertips.

To be a person of faith is complicated. You must fight battles that you feel too weak to win, or stand when it feels like you’re standing completely alone. You often feel isolated and afraid, lonely or purposeless as you try to navigate what God wants for you, sometimes when you don’t have clear direction.

But to be a person of faith is to know that regardless of the frustration, the fear, the mind-numbing pain, the hopelessness, the doubt, you have a Father who will never leave you. And a path to follow that will lead you to a beautiful life, one beyond all you’ve ever imagined.

Trusting God doesn’t mean stumbling into a perfect existence. It doesn’t mean a pain-free path, or an easy road. It doesn’t mean you won’t get hurt, won’t lose people you love, won’t fall down or hit rock bottom. But it does mean that whatever this sinful life brings, you have a Savior walking with you. It does mean in every downfall there is hope.

Trusting God won’t be butterflies and rainbows. There will be clouds and storms. There will be days where you don’t know the answers or what He wants from you. There will be moments where you find yourself drifting from people and things you care about, and you’ll fight against this, trying to convince yourself that earthly pleasures and temporary people are more satisfying than eternal life with a loving Father.

You will cling to what you know, simply because standing in faith is scary. Because you tell yourself you are capable on your own, even though you know, at the end of the day, you so desperately crave your Father’s embrace.

You will claw and push and stand stubbornly, but what you will only realize in time is that God has plans for you. He loves you and only wants the best for you. And the pain that you encounter is not of Him, for He longs to bring you away from the earthly brokenness and into His forever-shining light.

Trusting God means acknowledging that you won’t always know the answers, won’t always be happy, won’t always be walking this spotless, sunshine-filled road, but choosing to follow Him anyways.

Simply because He is God. Simply because He loves you. Simply because He gave His son for you, and has devoted all that He is into you, His creation.

So know that the road you walk will be bumpy. Know that the life you lead will not be blameless, but will leave you bruised and broken at times. Know that choosing to follow Him does not mean that everything will be peachy-keen for the remainder of your days, but that it will be filled with goodness and hope, even in times of trouble.

Know that no matter what happens next, you have a God who loves you. And there is nothing to fear.

Trust the path, trust the road, trust His plan. Acknowledge that your steps won’t always be paved out for you, and that sometimes you won’t know where to go. But remember that there is no place you can wander where He can’t reach you, and nothing you can do to push Him away. Take comfort in the fact that following Him will lead you to light, to hope, to a forever future in His arms.

And no matter the obstacle, hold on and believe.

By Marisa Donnelly

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