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mikeyla-lee · 5 years ago

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INDEPENDENT TOGETHER, YOU AND I

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mikeyla-lee · 5 years ago

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““…But..she didn’t mean to!!!” “But you were still hurt! Badly hurt.”

I feel like this also applies to Steven’s situation so well. But starting off, I’ll explain the situation with Greg’s parents:

Lots of people are saying that their actions shouldn’t be justified nor should they be given the benefit of the doubt because they never reciprocated Greg’s countless attempts to reach out to them.

And they’re right.

But it still seems as if they were only trying to do their best to look out for Greg despite the harm that it caused in the long run and made Greg’s own parenting flawed as a result. You know what this reminds me of?:

“I’m supposed to be better! I’m supposed to make everything better!”

This applies to real life more than often and I am so glad Rebecca is addressing this and actually giving us the said abusers point of view.

More often than not abusers justify their actions and truly aren’t aware of what they’re doing to their victims. They might know deep down but they’ve deluded themselves so much to the extent where it’s almost impossible for them to reach an epiphany of any sort:

“How many times did you lock her in here?? How many times did you make her cry?!”

“I didn’t, I… And I’m doing it again…Aren’t I? And this is why you left… isn’t it?”

The diamonds are a rare (but very possible) occurrence where the abuser realizes what they’ve done. But a person doesn’t need to necessarily be abusive to impact trauma on someone:

“I just happened to be standing a little to close to her that time,”

“Did something happen?” “…Pink wanted a colony, more than anything.”

“Your mom created us, too, and got us all bubbled, just for being Rose Quartzes.”

“But, you know, it’s cool. It’s whatever.”

“It’s not whatever. I don’t expect you to understand. I swore I wouldn’t talk about this.”

“Let’s never speak of this again.”

All of these characters, was Pink necessarily abusive to them? No.

Did she hurt them and leave them all with some form of lasting trauma or something they had to suffer due to her actions? Yes.

But guess what? Steven also endured trauma because of other characters:

(Mind you, I think this is only a fourth of everything that was imaginably traumatizing if not a little more or less.)

We still love these characters right? You still like Bismuth, Amethyst, Pearl, Jasper and many others even though they gave Steven these memories and this trauma he’s forced to live with don’t you?

And if you do, that’s okay.

So many of us indirectly hurt others without realizing it until it’s too late. Trauma doesn’t need to come from someone who doesn’t care about/hates you. SO many, too many times, does it come from those we love and trust and those who love and trust us.

Returning back to the Greg subject, this especially goes for parents. They try so hard to make us perfect because if you couldn’t make the perfect being, why wouldn’t you? They fail so often to realize that no one can be perfect, that you can’t push your children to such an extent and they get so caught up with wanting their children to be better to have everything better than they did that they push their children to extremes that even they wouldn’t be able to attain nor maintain if in the same position.

That said, it doesn’t change the fact that they restricted him of so much freedom and so many experiences. That’ll never be okay.

The diamonds just wanted Pink to run a great and functional gempire. They wanted for her to be the best she could be. It still doesn’t make the fact that she was abused okay.

Connie’s parents almost fell into a similar trap, if it weren’t for Connie meeting Steven there’s the chance she would have turned out similar to Greg or Pink and would have had the same flawed parenting of giving her own child too much freedom, or just as worse take on her parents’ way of parenting and giving her child too little.

There is no one right nor wrong in this situation, not the crystal gems, not Greg, not Steven.

This is the reality of trauma. The cruelest one perhaps is that so many times is it done by accident. It’s easier to accept when someone has purposefully or knowingly done it. But devastating to know that someone who cares so much is the very one who inflicted it. The hard truth is that even if you didn’t mean to, you still hurt them and that pain will always be with that person.

There really are no sides to this. None of the characters were completely right or wrong.

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mikeyla-lee · 5 years ago

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heyyy so uh. fragments, huh?

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mikeyla-lee · 5 years ago

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“What if you deserve to be happy and this is a thing that will make you happy? And maybe don’t worry about whether you’ll be happy later and just focus on how you’re happy right now?”

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mikeyla-lee · 6 years ago

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