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Do I have too many books? No. It is my shelving methods that are inadequate

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In light of some of the many things happening across the world this year, I thought this Pride Month needed a special illustration.

Happy Pride Month, may we all stay safe, look after each other, and keep painting our rainbows, no matter what. 🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

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Idk man I just think one of the most crucial things to develop to heal are self-respect and self compassion. But heavy on the self respect. If u don’t respect yourself you’re gonna suck at putting up boundaries. If u lack self respect you’re gonna fail to be disciplined and then ur not gonna achieve ur goals.

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You're not healing too slow. You're healing in a nervous system that's been through hell. Give it time.

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If you were exposed to prolonged abuse in childhood, you most likely got so used to feeling unsafe you dont even pick up on it yourself anymore. Theres a constant stressor looming over you, that youre not even conciously aware of anymore. It drags you down, it makes you chronically tired, it makes every day situations harder to manage.

The issue with the sort of unsafe childhood abuse survivors experience is also that its a complex type of unsafe, its not like the imminent threat you can identify and quickly run into safety from. Childhood abuse is complex and layered, its a slow burn, it exists in an axis of many problems interacting with one another.

The first important step is identifying what are the things actually making you feel unsafe. Its important to sit with that, to untangle it and to make it understandable and logical to your own brain. Break down the complexity of it into chunks.

Then from there on there are 3 possible ways to deal with feeling unsafe :

Taking action, making the situation youre experiencing safer for you.

Reframing the situation, so your perceiption of the situation changes and you feel safer.

Actively soothing your nervous system and working on your physical response to unsafety.

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Theres so much yarrow around basically everywhere, most importantly also in areas far away from where car fumes can reach them. That makes me really happy.

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Defog your mind by becoming aware of how much beauty there is around you every day. How many nice interactions between ppl you can witness waiting for the bus, whether one tree is blooming earlier than the others. How soothing the rain sounds whilst your craddled inside in the evenings, wrapped in a blanket. How easy it is to bake tasty chocolate cake. How many things that make you happy and feel good are easily accessible or actually free. Its easier to be grounded and present if the positives are more what youre concious of than the negatives.

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The hardest choices lie between what we feel and what we know.

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my observation from 2 months of kittens

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A few years ago while trying to find ways to commit suicide as painlessly as possible, I came across a PDF of Dr. Paul Quinnett's The Forever Decision. Thinking it might go into actual methods of suicide (I read an article once that actually did that and was trying to find it again) I started to read it, and I think I only got about two pages in before I was crying too much to actually see the words.

I downloaded the PDF to my hard drive and I open it again whenever I'm feeling too suicidal to do much else, but not enough to start booking a ride to the hospital. And every time without fail I only go up to a few pages before backing off and choosing to live another day just because suicide suddenly seems even more unbearable than whatever the hell upset me in the first place.

All the book really does is [I'm pulling a summary from GoodReads here as, again, I've read no more than 5 pages] "discusses the social aspects of suicide, the right to die, anger, loneliness, depression, stress, hopelessness, drug and alcohol abuse, the consequences of a suicide attempt, and how to get help."

But it also starts with the author kindly asking the reader to complete the book before going through with anything, and for some reason I'm compelled to really just try to read it all before finalizing everything. Despite not yet completing it (hopefully never will) I think I can safely say it's saved my life at least a few times now.

It's intentionally legal to copy and redistribute this book to keep it as accessible as possible, and it's very easy to find, but here's a link for it anyways.

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i have this unrealistic fantasy in my head where if you calmly and logically explain something to someone perfectly they will understand your position and gain knowledge from the exchange. unfortunately in the real world this does not happen often

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There's this interesting phenomenon where when you're a child, or some other vulnerable minority dependent on a job for shelter, you are actually under duress almost constantly. You can't say "I don't want to work today," you cannot say "I don't want to do the dishes, actually," you cannot choose not to participate. In a lot of cases, the punishment is explicit. Your parents might yell at you. Your boss might fire you. But in other cases, it's implicit. The mood will sour. You lose leeway. People get mad at you. And that creates a really shitty environment where you're constantly being coerced to do things!

And here's the kicker; you're not allowed to acknowledge that. You cannot acknowledge that you are being coerced, you cannot acknowledge that your free will is not being respected, because that's punished too. Your boss insists that you act excited. Your parents punish you for acting surly. You are forced to fake enthusiastic consent, constantly. It's a fucking nightmare. Your hand is being forced, you do not have the option to say "no," and if you ever, for a second, try to acknowledge that, everyone acts like you're the aggressor.

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by bjmstudioflowers