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Do you think this cast is problematic and insensitive?  Gather around the fire with me, you delicate tulips.  Let me tell you a story.

There will be potty language.  And there will be no straddling the fence to appease both sides.  So, read at your own risk.  But, absolutely always feel free to respond and engage in discussion!

When I got into this show, I fell down the rabbit hole like everyone else, and watched con footage and interviews and became more invested than I ever have in a show because of all the (perceived) incredible positivity and kindness reflected from the cast to the SPN Family and vice versa.  I had never seen anything like it.  And I was so impressed with this fandom and proud to be a part of it that I do something I rarely do - I gushed about it to friends.  Even though I knew they’d give me shit.  Because we think we’re too cool for school or something.  I don’t know.

My love for this show and fandom eventually led me to Tumblr and the actors Twitter feeds.  I went full fangirl.  I thought, “Yay!  Other people who enjoy this amazing show.  Gifs!  Funnies!  Fanfics!  Art!  Support!“  And there is that, undoubtedly….but there is also this seedy underbelly that gets far more attention that it merits.  And I have become so disillusioned and angered by the shit I see here on the regular, not to mention Twitter…. that I feel like I need to disengage from following both (SPN-wise), so I don’t burst a fucking capillary.

Before I do that…. to the handful of "fans” that have caused a Twitter uproar and instigated shortsighted and nasty smear campaigns regarding:

1.  Jareds inappropriate joke

2.  Mark Pellegrino and William Shatner defending Jared over some other Twitter bullshit.  They didn’t cause the initial offense, they merely defended their buddy against all the flamers….which, apparently is not allowed for these specific individuals.  They’re so evil.  How dare they have a human response to seeing their friend get charbroiled online.  It’s like they think they’re real people….

3.  Jensen supporting his FRIEND JDM when he was harassed and lambasted on Twitter and Instagram for wearing a Blue Lives Matter t-shirt.  *Also, see #2*

4.  Jensens retweet of Pellegrinos very nice message welcoming India to the SPN Family (flooding Jensens feed with demands that he not support his castmate and friend because Mark stood up to them or because they don’t agree with Marks ideology.  Way to take something positive and turn it ugly, BTW.  Sorry, India.  Truly.  I’m secondhand cringing over here.)  *Also, see #2*

5.  *See previous rants on this page*

Can you please fuck off already?   I hear Antarctica is nice this time of year, and that knitting is a great way to take your mind off things and meditate.  I might follow my own advice, in fact.  But stay the hell away from my yurt.  I am stabby when it comes to you people.

There are always going to be people who feel compelled to stir up a lot of shit over anything these guys say and do, and they generally also apply that rule to most things in life, I’m guessing.  And I know opinions are like assholes (everyone’s got one), but really, there seem to be a handful of folks that LIVE for the drama around here. Get a grip.  Be useful.  Because what you seem to enjoy doing - Tearing down public figures in order to promote your own agenda, and making threats and accusations and spreading them like cancer?  It’s not productive. It’s toxic.   With regards to THE JOKE:

I don’t want to tell the joke.  TELL IT!  No, my jokes are all inappropriate.  TELL it!  Nah… TELL IT ANYWAY, WE DON’T CARE!  *Tells joke*  *Sees personal integrity torpedoed and potentially damaged career/legacy due to an influx of online articles based on a handful of tweets by reactionary “fans” who probably weren’t even there*  Nice set-up, people.

Neither one of these guys is or has ever been anything but gracious to fans, not to mention caring and supportive.  That’s why fans from all over the world come to see them and share their personal stories of hardship with this cast.  And they are certainly not proponents of rape culture.  

These conventions are for adults, by adults.  And if you bothered to even watch a sampling of con footage of these guys, your delicate sensibilities would probably be overwhelmed by the sexually charged and deeply inappropriate things that get said BY some fans TO these guys.  But here’s the thing, these actors take it in stride and treat their fans like friends.  And these cons are very intimate and personal, open and extremely funny.  Is content inappropriate sometimes?  Yes, thank Chuck. THAT’S USUALLY WHAT MAKES IT FUNNY.   

Have you ever watched a comedy routine?  How do you handle dark humor?  Can you?  If you can’t?  Don’t watch.  Don’t play Cards Against Humanity either.  In fact….turn the internet off and spend time around real people.  Build up some tolerance.  Take your newfound tolerance to a domestic violence shelter and volunteer your time.  Immerse yourself in a new culture.  Read a few books.  Educate yourself a bit and grow wiser.  Pick your battles and fight for what’s right.  Not for what you “think” is right for Twit hits.

And you know what?  If you’re the type of person who is going to go on a witch hunt that results in these guys having to share the same platform with guys like Weinstein and Spacey, with potentially irreversible damage done to their professional and personal lives over something like THIS?   Congratulations.  You’ve become the thought police.  You’re demonizing people who have done a tremendous amount of good in the world around them via campaigns that stem from a desire to reach out to their fandom and support of people in crisis, particularly women, over a lame joke that Jared and especially Jensen, didn’t feel was appropriate to share in the first place.  These are genuinely kind and decent men, maybe do some more background research and check your motivation before you irrevocably damage someones well-being and livelihood.  

And because I don’t know any of your names or whereabouts, I can’t actually fuck up your life, can I?  And even if I could?  Why on earth would I??  Anonymity’s great, though….isn’t it?  We can go online and sit on our own virtual Mount Olympus, raining down accusations, judgments and sentences with minimal effort, foresight or concern for the ramifications of our actions.  

And Jared is a prime example of that sometimes.  I’m sorry to say, because he is a good dude, but he’s guilty of some of the same flamebroiling of people that you excuse yourselves from in the name of self righteousness.  The difference is - you can hide behind your anonymity.  He can’t.  And I’m down with calling people on their bullshit behavior (clearly), and Jared has had it coming a few times, but THIS?  This is ridiculous.

Since you seem to be fond of extreme responses, I could make the comparison that encouraging, no….demanding that someone do something that they don’t want to do, and then shaming them for it when they do what you’ve asked? That’s REAL textbook abuse.  Chew on that for a minute.

Congrats again, because when you search either of their names, that’s the FIRST thing that comes up.  "Jared Padalecki and Jensen Ackles made a rape joke”.  The joke in and of itself doesn’t and shouldn’t negate all the good they’ve put out in the world, but in the eyes of the general public outside the fandom?  NOW it does.  THAT’S what people now see.  

It’s amazing how a 7 word joke can lead to online character assassination that tears down over a decade of good works.  And I wouldn’t blame them one bit for shutting down future cons and/or reducing their conversation with fans to subject matter that strictly pertains to the show. 

And if you have stated any iteration of “I will no longer be a fan or watch this show because of these horrible meanies”… GOOD.  FUCKING.  RIDDANCE.   It would make the SPN Family a much better place to be if ya’ll and your other easily offended brethren who can dish it out, but can’t take it, would fuck off to parts unknown to fixate on something else and leave us in peace.  

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Bullying Is Not Okay

Disagree with a post or a comment to it? Fine, but don’t send anon hate to the person in question. This goes for everyone. If I disagree with someone’s opinion in public, that is not an invitation for anyone to attack them in private. We’ve been talking a lot about empathy lately, how about we start practising it?

Thank you.

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‪We love and support you @JensenAckles @jarpad ‬ ‪#ILoveJ2Because ‬ ‪#IStandWithJ2 ‬ ‪We got your back guys, always‬

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SUPERNATURAL ICONS - HALLOWEEN ver.  [Set 2] [Set 1] [Set 3] [Set 4] HAPPY HALLOWEEN, LOVELY HUMANS !! next set with Bobby, Jody & Crowley and yes, they don’t really look like they should But I DREW SOME OF MY FAVORITES FOR THE FIRST TIME and I’m so proud of myself.. (Crowley was supposed to be the Queen of Hearts but I failed..)

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SUPERNATURAL ICONS - HALLOWEEN ver.  [Set 3] [Set 1]   [Set 2] [Set 4] next set !! AND YES, I’M REALLY BAD AT DRAWING OTHER CHARACTERS THAN DEAN AND CAS , I’m so sorry– but there’s my love Gabe (as Dr. Sexy because I love that perfect reference)

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SUPERNATURAL ICONS - HALLOWEEN ver.  [Set 4] [Set 1] [Set 2] [Set 3] last one… I’m extremely tired … BUT HEY  it’s Charlie and Chuck !! STILL DONT LOOK LIKE THEM; BUT I ADORE BOTH OF THEM. enjoy them and see it as a small gift for all those lovely humans who decided to follow my blog ! I love you and I love everyone who talks to me .. thank you all !!

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His Red Right Hand by artmetica [ao3, deviantart, livejournal, tumblr]

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MISHA: When I say “When in Rome”, I just meant, “Show each other our underwear.” JENSEN: [growling noises]

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Destiel in numbers

Me: Notices that it is 147 days between Cas dying in 12x23 and 13x01, 148 counting the premiere date.

Me: Remembers this:

Buffy: How long was I gone? Spike: Hundred forty-seven days yesterday… um, one-forty-eight today. ‘Cept today doesn’t count, does it.

*THROWS COMPUTER OUT THE WINDOW*

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I need your help! Please read until the end

Hi, I’m coming here, even though I’m not using tumblr a lot lately, to ask you for help.

I need to help my godmother to earn some money, in 2015 she found out she had breast cancer, and without anybody’s help except her son and mine, she had to go through all the chemotherapy, radiotherapy, stay at home unable to do any work, and all the other procedures.

But to pay all that, the medicines and doctors appointments she had to get loan from the bank, and not pay some other bills.

She is going to lose her job now in December, they are firing her because she is sick and still has to take medicines (that’s against the law but she entered with a lawsuit and lost it) and just because they don’t like her.

But she still has all these bills to pay that are getting bigger every mont because she can’t pay them all with the little salary and still be able to eat and pay normal bills like water and light.

I come here to ask your for help, even the most little amount it’s going to help, just 1$ (American dolar) it’s worth about R$3,50 (reais) depending on the day.

With R$30.000,00 she can pay every little thing she owes, but I’m asking to collect just R$10.000,00 to help her as soon as I can, now in November 5th it’s her birthday and I’m trying to get as much money as I can to help her (even though it might take longer than that to get all the money).

She already lost an apartment that was under her name, sold almost everything she has, and if she doesn’t pay the bills they need to take other things from her, but she doesn’t have anything they can take.

Please help me the way you can, 1$ it’s enough, but if you can’t, please pass this on so others can help, thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️

To help you can donate here

Thank you for reading until the end

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i like imagining them relaxing under the quiet countryside night sky 

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