mistymeow69

[mistymeow69]

I'm curious, how do transabled people feel about BIID as a term/concept? Is it offensive, having a simple identity no different from being transgender or wanting any other body modification, and yet having it be referred to as a mental disorder? Or are you okay with it and agree with that definition? Or do you view it as a separate thing altogether? I'm really curious

(Cr0sst4gging a bit from my usual ones to get answers, dw I'm pro-transid)

[mistymeow69]

I FINALLY GOT BACK ACCESS TO THE TRANSETHNIC DOC. This means I can continue edits on it and keep it up-to-date!!!!

It might be a bit off for a bit while I'm actively making adjustments after months of going without, but this is great because it means I'm accepting any criticism, arguments, and questions again!

[mistymeow69]

any1 have any japanese music recs? I wanna get more japanese cds for when I'm feeling dysphoric (⁠╯⁠︵⁠╰⁠,⁠)

for an idea of my music taste; I like will wood, tally hall, lemon demon, bôa, laufey, weezer, femtanyl, and more; most of those are pretty unique tho, I can get into most artists and genres so it doesn't need to be similar! ^^ I already listen to shiina ringo and vocaloid! I was thinking of getting a babymetal cd but my ears are very sensitive so idk if I'd actually listen to it...

so yea please reply w/ any japanese artists you like!

[mistymeow69]

I figured out how to do a plausible japanese accent while speaking english !! ^o^

site: bold voice

I'm not going to use it while speaking english quite yet, I still need to learn how to make it more subtle so 1: I don't sound racist and 2: I can gradually transition to it so my family doesn't notice and again, think I'm mocking natives ಥ⁠‿⁠ಥ however this is still good because it also means I have good pronunciation for speaking japanese as well !!

I'm happy to give tips if anyone wants it ^_^

[mistymeow69]

HII could you do transjapanese tips?

TRANSJAPANESE TIPS ꧂

- consume japanese media!! anime, games, etc

- watch/read things in japanese

- join japanese social medias, discord servers, anywhere you can talk to people

- speak out about japanese social issues!! theyre your issues now!!

- japanese celebrations and holidays and rituals!!

- japanese fashion!! there are SOO many types of fashions and pinterest and tiktok are amazing resources

- research ancient japanese culture, mythology, and folklore!!

- learn the language!! even just simple words!!

- japanese speech patterns!! men tend to speak more abrupt and women tend to speak softer and things like that

- japanese mannerisms/behaviors!! refrain from interrupting others, be humble, apologize, give gifts, receive gifts gracefully, “kenpai!“, “itadakimasu!“

- japanese accent!! look up videos for that :)

- japanese religion!! shinto and buddhism are two major ones

- go to japan in google maps street view

- japanese room decor!!

- buy from japanese stores!!

- pretend youre cis japanese!! you can make a social media account for it and everyrhing

- japanese music!!

- japanese crafts!! knot art, origami, and more!!

- japanese makeup!! look at tutorials :)

- eyelid tape for monolid!! dont just pull back your eyes with tape, youll get wrinkles. specifically use eyelin tape.

- japanese hair care!! look at tutorials :)

[mistymeow69]

ahhh race euphoria ^^ !!! sushi and my shiina ringo cd came~ /⁠ᐠ⁠｡⁠ꞈ⁠｡⁠ᐟ⁠\ すしは大好き♡

[mistymeow69]

pure love

[mistymeow69]

"You can't be a lesbian if you are a man or like men" and "trans men are all just confused lesbians" can combine to create a hypothetical person who both is and isn't a lesbian. Schrodingers dyke.

[mistymeow69]

" why can't you just appreciate japanese culture without calling yourself japanese ? " = " why can't you just wear feminine clothes without calling yourself a girl ? "

" you can't change your race, you are what you were born as biologically. " = " you can't change your gender, you are what you are born as biologically . "

" I'm native asian and I don't think you're a real asian . " = " I'm a cis man and I don't think you're a real man . "

" By identifying as japanese, you're minimizing the struggles and racism us asians face . We're more than just uwu kimono . " = " By identifying as a woman, you're minimizing the struggles and misogyny us women face . We're more than just pink and shopping . "

*transrace person* " this is just some phase because of the internet and lack of attention, ignore it and it'll go away . " = *transgender person* " this is just some phase because of the internet and lack of attention, ignore it and it'll go away . "

" transasian people just want to invade poc safe spaces . " = " trans women just want to invade women's safe spaces . "

" you should appreciate your culture, you don't have to identify as japanese and mutilate yourself to get away from racism . " = " you should love your womanly body, you don't have to identify as a man and mutilate yourself to get away from misogyny . "

" if I saw a transjapanese person in Japan, I'd pv nch them . " = "if I saw a trans woman in a women's restroom, I'd pv nch them . "

*transrace person does it* " finally, another one off this planet ! " = *transgender person does it* " finally, another one off this planet ! "

You are no better than the transphobes you condemn.

"b-but it's different!!!!!!! being transgender is more socially acceptable than being transrace and so-"

You are no better than the transphobes you condemn.

[mistymeow69]

Ahh!! Welcome, [USER] ! Thank you for downloading ! Would you like to play the instruction manual for site navigation ?

あぁ～!! いらっしゃいませ、【ユーザー】 ! ダウンロードにありがとうございます ! サイトのナビゲーションについて取扱説明書を再生をご希望ですか？

( yes ik my japanese isn't good I'm not fluent )

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I am not transID because it's "fun" or "cute". I genuinely feel debilitating dysphoria that affects me nearly every day. I've felt this way since childhood, my entire life. I am transgender as well, and I can tell you it feels exactly like my gender dysphoria but worse. I respect those who are born with the things I am transitioning to, I am not aestheticizing anything; I am ancestrally mixed. I do not intend to harm anyone in the process of my transitions, but nor will I follow anyone else's rules. My identities are my own. It's not a joke or mockery toward any group of people, this is genuinely who I am. I do not have BIID, I am already disabled and I'm not even transabled. My account is themed cute because it's how I express myself, not because that's all there is to it. This isn't purely online either; I am already out to multiple people, who don't even use Tumblr or interact with the transID community, but support me anyway. (Proof, yes I used the term RCTA at the time ↓)

OPENING FOLDER . . .

NAME(S) 📁 Mist, ミスト (Misuto), 霞 (Kasumi), 曇り (Kumori)

PRONOUNS 📁 he/fae/they, or anything other than she !

GENDER 📁 non-binary trans guy / femboyflux + xenos (autigender)

ORIENTATION 📁 ambiamorous nebularose lesbian / lesboy / lesbiflexible (only with trans men) (autisexual)

AGE RANGE 📁 13+ minor (no I'm not 13)

ZODIAC 📁 gemini sun + moon, virgo rising

MBTI 📁 intp (be warned I don't know a lot about typology so don't come for me)

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Proship/fiction/fandom, radinclus, pro-transid, pro-k1 nk, pro-consent, pro-recovery, irls, pro-choice, radqueer neutral, neu-para, neu-endo, self diagnosis neutral, complex/anti-contact, anti-nonc0n abuse, anti-harassment, anti-cringe culture, anti-fake claiming/reality checking, mostly anti-transharmful*, anti-censorship

( I doubt neu- is an actual prefix but it's easier than typing "neutral" every time www )

( yes I know I'm a little hypocritical )

﹢₊ ⟡ ⊹﹢ MY IDs ﹢₊ ⟡ ⊹﹢

★♪ヽヽヽ★♪ヽヽヽ★♪ヽヽヽ★♪

CisIDS 🫧 ⊹﹢₊ ⟡ ⊹﹢

🫧 CisauDHD

🫧 Cisdisabled (POTS, hEDS, scoliosis, etc.)

🫧 Cismyopic

🫧 CisCPTSD

🫧 Cisbipolar

🫧 Cisnativeamerican

︎ ︎ ︎ ︎ ︎ ︎ ⊹﹢₊ ⟡ ⊹﹢☂️ TransIDs

☂️ Transmasculine ☂️ (my main

☂️ Transjapanese ☂️ 2 transitions )

☂️ Transintersex

☂️ Speciesfluid (mostly transcat)

🧁 OTHER IDENTITIES 🧁

🧁 I'm an IRL/fictionkin (my characters are pretty fluid, but I likely won't talk about that much on here)

🧁 I'm an otherkin (fae, vampire, along with multiple theriotypes; this kind of blends with my speciesfluid ID)

🧁 I'm a pagan (astrology, helpol, witchcraft, etc.)

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• Time to respond (I have ADHD + anxiety + memory issues)

• Patience in general, I have this weird thing with brain fog making my personality change and sometimes my tone comes off totally different from how I intended and I don't realize until later :(

Please avoid interacting if you :

• Support yahtzees ( *including transn4 z1 and similar identities, only exception is if ur against transitioning for those things, that's what I mean by transharmful; I don't care if you're conabuse, not my business )

• Frequently talk about para discourse ( it makes me uncomfortable )

• Are under 12 or over 22 ( doesn't include short conversations ofc )

• Are fixed-minded, immediately providing aggressive knee-jerk reactions to things that confuse you, and are unwilling to change your mindset

I am happy to answer any questions about anything, but if you aren't respectful I will delete comments and block freely ! Negativity makes my head hurt ^^'

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Why don't I identify as radqueer? (feel free to skip)

1: Paraphilias. They are often a central theme of the radqueer community. I am not a paraphile, so it already wouldn't make a lot of sense for me to speak on such a topic that I haven't experienced myself. I also just generally feel uncomfortable around s3 xual paraphilias, I don't know it feels weird even if it's something non-harmful. I don't care if you identify that way, as long as you're not going to act on any crimes and don't talk about NSFT 24/7. You do you. I just choose not to associate myself with it because I view most as disorders so I don't really like the way the community treats the topic.

1.5: Pro-c people. A lot of people seem to think the radqueer community is too anti-c, but I honestly think it's the other way around. I see way too many people normalize relationships with literal gr0 oming and animal ab v$e. I know we're all weird here but come on dude . . . it's gone from a safe space for paraphiles to preda t0rs.

2: Certain transIDs. Specifically transharmful and projectIDs. I don't care about conabuse, what I mean is like I stated before, things like transna z1. Aren't we supposed to be progressive? Why are we looping back around into supporting people transitioning into the very thing that would kiII us? Again, though, it's a different story if you don't plan to transition and don't agree with those beliefs, and merely just feel a " connection ". I have much to learn there.

↑ And projectIDs, well, I just don't get it. I don't see how you can identify for someone else. Does that not go against the whole point of personal identity? You can't force an identity upon someone else, again, it goes against what we're supposed to be. And finally, there isn't a term for this one, but people who just . . . identify as their fantasies. Things that aren't even social constructs. Without even giving the actual experience and victims a second thought, just identifying that way for the purpose of doing it. For fun, a temporary little high from feeling problematic, not serious dysphoria and/or euphoria. You don't have to have a breakdown daily over your identity, but what's the point if you just view it as words?

3: Experiences. I've spoken on these issues before, and gotten totally brushed off and compared to a TERF. Because I said you should take the highly marginalized community seriously.

4: Stigma. This may sound silly coming from someone whose account is literally based on stigma, but I get a little sick of seeing "radqueer dni" in my friends' bios even though they don't care about what I support; if most people don't support radqueers but support my views, then there's no reason I should hold myself back with a false label.

Hopefully this makes sense, I still interact with the radqueer community and sometimes crosstag with it, since we still share a lot of views. And I'm totally fine with interacting with radqueers. I just don't vibe with the label anymore, that's why I coined evequeer.

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[mistymeow69]

As a cisdisabled(? Correct me if thats wrong) person that's experienced years of chronic pain n whatnot, i think it's beautiful that transabled people exist. That people can find euphoria within disability. It really fills me with joy that people can be happy with something that I've struggled with so much !!!

I love you transabled ppl , you're awesome don't forget that ❤️

[mistymeow69]

" if you're ____ you can't use this label i coined! "

that's not how shit works. if i identify with a label you made, i'm going to use it and you're going to get the hell over it???? you don't get to nitpick who identifies as what. that's common sense, i fear.

[mistymeow69]

" why can't you just appreciate japanese culture without calling yourself japanese ? " = " why can't you just wear feminine clothes without calling yourself a girl ? "

" you can't change your race, you are what you were born as biologically. " = " you can't change your gender, you are what you are born as biologically . "

" I'm native asian and I don't think you're a real asian . " = " I'm a cis man and I don't think you're a real man . "

" By identifying as japanese, you're minimizing the struggles and racism us asians face . We're more than just uwu kimono . " = " By identifying as a woman, you're minimizing the struggles and misogyny us women face . We're more than just pink and shopping . "

*transrace person* " this is just some phase because of the internet and lack of attention, ignore it and it'll go away . " = *transgender person* " this is just some phase because of the internet and lack of attention, ignore it and it'll go away . "

" transasian people just want to invade poc safe spaces . " = " trans women just want to invade women's safe spaces . "

" you should appreciate your culture, you don't have to identify as japanese and mutilate yourself to get away from racism . " = " you should love your womanly body, you don't have to identify as a man and mutilate yourself to get away from misogyny . "

" if I saw a transjapanese person in Japan, I'd pv nch them . " = "if I saw a trans woman in a women's restroom, I'd pv nch them . "

*transrace person does it* " finally, another one off this planet ! " = *transgender person does it* " finally, another one off this planet ! "

You are no better than the transphobes you condemn.

"b-but it's different!!!!!!! being transgender is more socially acceptable than being transrace and so-"

You are no better than the transphobes you condemn.

[mistymeow69]

ahh thank you this works really well for what I was looking for!! I've never really understood what being "pro para" or "anti para" means because like, you never hear people say "pro depression" or "anti bpd"

i wish there was a term like radqueer that specifically meant pro-transid but anti-para (when I say anti-para I don't mean "everyone with a para is evil!!!!!!" I mean that I believe most paraphilias are inherently disordered, and I'm against pro-c anti-recovery paras, if that makes sense) hmu if you have one

edit: well actually moreso just something that isn't affiliated with paras at all 😭

[mistymeow69]

Hi! Im doing a research paper on transracialism, diaracial, ect! If you could pls answer a few questions it would help alot!

How did you find out you were trace? How does being trace affect you? Do you experience racial dysphoria and if so how does it affect you? And what are your overall experiences with this identity?

Thank you

Hello! I'm sorry for taking so long to respond to this, despite using it for a while I'm not too familiar with Tumblr so I didn't even know this was an option for a while, and I still don't know if you'll be notified that I'm responding to it now 😭 but anyway I'll answer below the cut!

"How did you find out you were trace?"

Well, it's kind of complicated. When it comes to being Japanese, I've always had a "feeling" my whole life. I didn't always know what it was, or that it was me being trace, but it was always there in the back of my mind. I won't get into dysphoria too much since that's its own question. But when I saw Japanese culture, Japanese people, etc. I felt... whole. I've always felt like there was something missing from me, I've struggled with identity issues my whole life but considering most people don't believe you can change your race or ethnicity, I never thought it could've been that. I believed I was what I was born as, and that's that. It couldn't be changed. But that didn't take the feeling away. I was obsessed with Japanese culture, I couldn't get enough, I wanted to learn Japanese and move to Japan. But unlike how it'd usually be for someone who just really liked another country's culture, somehow, that wasn't enough.

I started interacting with the "weeb" community, believing I was feeling what they did, but that felt wrong too. Once people started explaining to me why, I became scared of myself. It was because of the stereotype surrounding non-Japanese people who loved the culture, mostly because of the behavior of "weebs"; ignoring the history and culture that isn't pop culture, fetishizing Japanese people, etc. I was so horrified of becoming that type of person, especially in native Japanese people's eyes, that I pushed down all of my interests. I pretended I never loved the culture, I stopped learning the language. I told myself it was weird for someone like me to have fallen so hard for a place like that. I told myself it was unattainable, but it never took away the pit in my chest. It just contributed to the depression I've had my whole life, forcing myself to stop loving the things I do.

Then, in late 2022, there was a trend on TikTok that started; "RCTA", you've probably heard of it; standing for "race change to another". This was my first exposure to the trace community. Everyone else hated them, so I tried to as well. But I'd secretly scroll through the videos, and eventually I stopped trying to conform, I came to terms with myself and accepted that this was what was "wrong" with me my whole life. I made a secret account, it was my first time calling myself Japanese. It felt weird since I wasn't used to it, but... good. Right. Who I really was. The same feeling as when I was first called by he/him, as a trans guy. There were a couple times where the hate got to me, and I convinced myself I wasn't actually trace and that it wasn't real, but it always bubbled up again. Because it's not a mental disorder, or a fetish, or something I'm simply interested in, it's who I am and always was. Everything finally made sense.

"How does being trace affect you?"

I can't say it's the best experience, but it's an undeniable part of me nonetheless. It's made many things hard for me, even though I'm more used to calling myself Japanese now I still get scared. When I make online friends, all I can think about is if they'll find out that I'm not native, and think I'm weird and leave me. Or if I call myself Japanese before or after showing someone my face, if they'll be able to tell that I'm not native. Japanese people often have a more "western" look than other East Asian countries, and many people who are ancestrally mixed don't look like their races at all. But it's still a possibility, sometimes it makes me wonder if I even deserve friends. If identifying how I want is worth the risk of losing everything. If maybe this is all stupid, and I should leave it behind. But every time I try, it just hurts so bad, that I'd rather be alone forever than be with people who don't love me for who I am. Although I've had people accept me before, and to be fair I feel this about a LOT of things due to just general insecurity. But I think things would be easier if I had just been born Japanese.

"Do you experience racial dysphoria? If so, how does it affect you?"

Yes, and it affects me pretty severely. Though I'm often too scared to reach out to anyone about it, because I don't want to look silly. Ever since childhood, whenever someone calls me my deadrace, I feel a sting in my chest, I get a headache and I start to feel cold and dizzy. The same feeling I get when I'm called a girl or my deadname. Even when I pushed myself down, I spent countless nights crying myself to sleep, wishing I had just been born as a Japanese boy. If I didn't have to do any transition, or learn any language, or move countries, or deal with all of the criticism. Things would've been so much easier. Regular people don't feel that. Weaboos don't have mental breakdowns over the fact that they won't ever be able to be themselves to the full capacity they desire. Even to this day, I look in the mirror and pick apart my features. My huge nose, my double lids, etc. the only things that bring me a little bit of peace is to focus on my features that do pass as Japanese, such as my pale skin. I just wish there was more research and awareness around diaracialism like there is with transgender people, because I know there's nothing I can physically do to make myself look more Japanese. I know, who I am on the inside, I'll never fully be on the outside. It hurts the more I think about it, I hate it so much. I'd give anything just to be reborn. Or at least not feel this way.

"What are your overall experiences with this identity?"

Well, I think I've already explained the majority of it. There have been many hardships, but there is also good. I've come out to people, such as my mother and (now ex) girlfriend. They both supported me, well, kind of. My ex was actually very abusive, I hadn't realized until it was too late and she leaked private information about me, including my trace identity. But honestly, I think it gave me the push I needed to stop caring about what other people thought. I call myself Japanese as if I were native, I have the culture and language all around me. I study whenever I can, although I don't have much time or energy because I'm disabled, so I make sure to be kind to myself while also fulfilling those needs. There are communities where I can talk to people just like me. Ever since I accepted myself, even if I can't always be open about it, I've felt so much more like myself. Although I won't pretend that I sometimes get scared and have doubts and run away, I don't regret identifying this way. Because I didn't choose it, it's just who I am.

I really hope this is helpful, I love sharing my experiences with people! Hopefully I'm not too late and this isn't too much, I'm kind of tired right now but I kept forgetting to respond to this so I made myself suck it up and do it (⁠^⁠～⁠^⁠;⁠)⁠ゞ

[mistymeow69]

can we take a moment to appreciate these transrace icons /silly

[mistymeow69]

"you'll never be asian!" why do you want all races to be strictly segregated and disclose their biological race so badly, why do you care so much that the race one calls themselves differs from how they outwardly look, it's almost as if you want races to stay apart from each other... wonder if there were certain groups of people that thought the same thing...

race isn't real. it's a social construct. we're literally all just people. why does it matter if a brown egg is dyed white or vice versa, when they're both the same on the inside? why do you have to know what someone's birth race is behind the screen so bad? races blend together, mix like watercolors until it becomes transparent.

at the end of the day, there are much worse things in the world you could be arguing against. queer and people of color are losing their rights at an alarming rate, why are you still attacking people who are the same as you and spewing the same racist terf rhetoric that you hate so much?

sorry if this makes no sense I can't see rn /srs I had an image and a dream