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maintain friendship

you’re not going to have the same bond with all of your friends and that’s okay. its okay to have close friends, business friends, going out friends, travel friends, etc.

friendship requires upkeep as much as a romantic one does. in order for any connection to flourish, you need to do the work and put in the effort.

long term friendships require a lot of flexibility. your friends will go through many stages in life where they can be less available and maybe less present. learn to give each other appropriate space and grace before you jump to conclusions

you have different friend groups for a reason! dont be greedy tryna mix everyone into one group

being friends with people just cause they’re cool people will eventually get old. you have to have things in common for the friendship to last: morals, values, goals, spirituality, etc.

you don’t have to be friends with everyone, your friend’s friend is not your friend. learn to keep stuff to yourself. it’s ok not to have many friends.

reject any friendship dynamic that requires you to constantly make all the sacrifices or the compromises. if there’s only room for validating one person’s feelings over yours, there isn’t room for you in that friendship.

if they don’t reciprocate the love, concern, & support that you do for them—they’re not your people.

friendship requires intentionality and vulnerability. show up for people. let people show up for you. even when you’re down bad.

it’s never too late to make new friends. intention and action is everything.

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things to do while in college

lebih fearless untuk ambil opportunities. ikutan lomba yang keliatan serem dan apply magang di perusahaan top dari awal.

disiplin ngerjain tugas kuliah tiap hari walau deadline masih lama. gunanya biar gak numpuk dan bikin stress, dan buat momentum untuk berprogress.

ikutan kegiatan yang bisa ngembangin skill, kayak workshop atau seminar walau di dalam atau luar kampus. dan kirim email ke pembicaranya setelah acara selesai.

mulai belajar skill spesifik yang relevan sama target karir dan bangun portfolio while learn in public.

learn to love learning, find enthusiasm in growth and challenge. find others that love learning and be humble

belajar cara cold email yang bagus.

latihan berbicara di depan kamera

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traveling tips

on the plane, don’t wear jeans because it will make you uncomfortable. wear cotton pants or sweatpants, a hoodie, or a soft jacket.

wear sneakers/slip on shoes that are not difficult to open and wear socks

keep antiseptic wipes, sanitizer, mints, personal medication, inhalers, note books and pens in your bag.

entertainment: books, downloaded movies/shows. airpods or wired headphones

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habits for happiness:

be kind, eat well, exercise, meditate, be honest, dream big, be patient, judge less, smile often, believe & love yourself, forgive easily, show gratitude, think positively, keep an open-mind, put your needs first, don't make excuses, speak well of other, listen to understand, choose faith over fear, make the most of now, exercise self-discipline, look on the bright side, avoid social comparison, see failure as opportunity, don't take opinions to heart, select friends that lift you up, let go of what can't be changed.

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when you carry an intense energy and magnetic frequency, you may notice people will be drawn to your light, but eventually grow to resent it. your authenticity triggers those who cannot keep up with your growth and shine. they love on your light until they become blinded by it. become aware of this behavior without taking responsibility for it. leave people right where they had you misconstrued. you should already know their fickleness has absolutely nothing to do with you.

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relationship advice

When someone loves you, you can feel it in your bones. In the way they touch you, the way they speak about you to other people, the way they talk to you, and the way they treat you. You can sit it in their eyes and feel it in their heartbeat; that feeling of love is strong. It is truly an indescribable feeling to have that sense of security of knowing the person you’re with, truly loves you for you and shows it fully. To know that someone in this world can love you so deeply that it shows in every movement of their body and tone in their voice.

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unpopular opinion, but in life, in order to have anything you want, you have to develop mental toughness. you can't live life in victim mode, seeing yourself as small & weak, just letting things happen to you. you can't be swayed, moved & bothered by everything you see or hear. YOU and only YOU are in charge of your life. you have control over your thoughts, therefore your emotions. the more power you give to your emotions and reactions, the more you become a slave of it, mind over matter.

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networking secret

being a founder of something (a club, blog, project, etc) is huge selling point for older professional who you want to network with.

don't be afraid of meeting people in person for networking meetings

you should be able to snap into your elevator pitch at any moment—you never know who you’ll meet and when

you can probably find the person who is doing your “dream job” on linkedin and reach out to them.

the best way to get more comfortable with speaking to stranger is to participate in class.

professor routinely give students jobs themselves or connect them with jobs. go to those office hours and get to know them.

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this is your life. you’re allowed to change your mind. to change your heart. you’re allowed to be a different person. to wake up one day and not want to do things you’ve been doing all your life. you’re allowed to love who you want. to move on from the people who are not good to you. to let go of anyone without any kind of explanation. without any kind of regret. you’re allowed to make mistakes. to learn from them. or not to learn from them and experience everything all over again. you’re allowed to forget your past if you want to. or to stay in it but you must also understand that this is not how you will grow. you’re allowed to change careers. to dress differently. to chase different dreams. to change locations, even if, at first, you’re terrified to do so. you’re allowed to dislike yourself but also allowed to change those some parts you don’t see eye to eye with. to work on them until you’re completely comfortable with who you are. this is your life. make it count. make you own validation. your own path. your own way of life. you are enough. and you are not broken. you’re a lot stronger than you want to believe. now breathe.

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ways to invest in yourself as a woman

learn about the menstrual cycle + cyclical living.

choose quality materials for clothing and home.

embrace and emphasize your natural features.

actively spend time with & nourish your loved ones.

spend time alone & foster your self-relationship.

challenge and re-frame limiting beliefs.

read voraciously and widely, stay curious.

take classes that spark creativity & nurture your soul.

create a sisterhood of like-minded friends.

set boundaries with social media.

nourish your body and prioritise your well-being.

cultivate your personal style.

prioritise a spiritual practice - prayer, meditation, etc.

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i will marry a man who loves me and can provide for me abundantly. i will marry a man who inquires about my thoughts, feeling, and ideas regularly and genuinely. i will marry a man who gives me everything i want. i will marry a man who gives me free reign of his finances. i will marry a man who gives me a life where nothing is unattainable. i will marry a man that my family loves. i will marry a man who treats my friends as if they are his friends. i will marry man who is proud to call himself my husband. i will marry a man with whom i can communicate with clearly and openly. i will marry a man that makes me smile as i’m falling asleep. i will marry a man that makes me want to be the best version of myself. i will marry a man who buys me everything i want because he understands this is what makes me happy.

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things i’ll teach my daughter

if i become a mom, i wish i’d give birth to a daughter. i’ll teach her all the valuable lessons i had to figure out on my own. i’ll speak to her kinder so she learns how to be kind to herself, too. that when she looks in the mirror, she doesn’t tear up questioning her worth. i’ll teach her how to stand up for herself. how its’s okay to raise her voice, fight back when needed, be loud in silence. i’ll tell her that it’s okay to speak softer too. make her comfortable in her own skin. let her dye her hair to a color she likes. grow them long or cut them short. i’ll braid them too if she wants. i’ll help her stand up when she falls to her knees. so she knows that even if the world gets cruel, she doesn’t have to bear its weight all by herself. that sometimes it’s okay to lean on people you trust. but at the same time, i’ll warn her that life gets confusing and complicated and painful. that when things become hurtful, she must learn how to put herself first. that her boundaries are there for her safety. and no one has the right to change her mind to a half-hearted yes when she say no. i’ll show her my bruises and scars, so she learns not to inflict those to others. and she learns how to protect herself from it, too.

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habits of highly successful people ⭐💫

they say what they mean and mean what they say. they are impeccable with their own words. successful people don’t make you guess what they mean. they tell the truth and make it stupidly simple for other to understand their objective and intention in order to work well together.

they are self-aware. they know who they are, they have defined vision, and they know their strengths and weaknesses. successful people understand their responsibilities, roles, and identity.

they manage their time by managing their emotions. everyone can plan for the next day by allocating tasks into their schedule, but successful people go beyond that. they do what they need to do even it makes them uncomfortable. they manage their emotions better than everyone else.

they start before feeling ready. they do procrastinate, but they know how to deal with it. successful people never wait for the perfect timing to take action because they understand that there is no such thing as the perfect timing. they make decisions and take actions fast.

they eliminate choices and options. successful people are focused. they never dabble. they create systems to eliminate the need of making choices; they reduce their options before they even need to think about it. certainly, highly successful people make a lot of decisions, but they make sure those are really important ones.

they show up. they show up even when nobody does. not just showing up in the wins and celebrations, they are showing up during the grind, and in the face of fear and adversity.

they contribute before they ask. they find ways to provide value to others (their partners, team, customers) way before they even ask for anything in return.

they time-travel by picking other’s brain. they read to learn ideas that took the author 20 years to figure out, in 20 minutes. they value mentorship to skip through unnecessary mistakes and challenges that are coming in their way. they hire people who are smarter than them to compensate their weaknesses.

they are consistent. successful people put in the work day in and day out. they understand that results never appear from nowhere on the first day. they have faith in the power of tiny actions, and always aim for the long-term results. they won because they’re playing a long game while everyone else goes short.

they value true relationship. i haven’t found a successful person who messed up the relationship with everyone around them. successful people know that they won’t achieve what they had today without their mentor, friends, partners and team members.

they think they are lucky. we’re experiencing hundreds of incidents and events in a day, a slight change of any outcome is going to turn your life to a very different path. and successful people believe they are lucky to be successful and feeling grateful for that.

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professional life hacks

do not show off : no one likes to feel inferior. if you are always rubbing your intelligence on people’s faces, they’ll start avoiding you.

accept people as they are : don't try to change people or speak against their most cherished beliefs. it really makes them uncomfortable.

show that you accept the general norm : most people usually like to show how morally superior or different they are in their workplace. this usually leads to alienation, which is not good.

make people feel important : ask for advice from others, listen to them when they speak. they’ll love you for it.

be observant : know your work environment, observe those you work with.

call names : everyone likes the sound of their names. it’s like music to our eyes.

be kind to people : everyone loves to receive good treatment from others.

don’t judge people before you know them : avoid using someone else’s opinion to evaluate people. it makes it harder for you to really know them.

respect yourself : respect is everything. if you don’t respect yourself, no one will. let people know their boundaries when dealing with you.

dress well : always. a lot depends on how you look!

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best romantic relationship tips

spend the whole saturday afternoon watching romantic movies together.

visit the mall or go window-shopping together on a weekend while holding hands.

go out together and enjoy a night out, eat out, watch a movie, and return home late, or sleep in a hotel

go to bed and doze-off while cuddling each other.

watch a photo album or read a joke book aloud and laugh together.

take your sweetheart to the secret place you used frequent when you were a kid.

spend an afternoon or evening in an art gallery holding each other’s hand like a romantic couple and pretend you’re professional art collectors.

go and watch a soccer match together on a saturday afternoon.

leave a love note for your sweetheart at a place she did not expect like in his handbag or in his dressing table drawer.

watch the olympics or world cup together over a cup of coffee and cookies or popcorn.

fix breakfast for your sweetheart when he is still asleep.

randomly say the magic words, “i love you” and suprise your sweetheart without him suspecting.

go out on a picnic in a private, secluded place, just the two of you, and make sure you carry his favorite food, sandwiches, snacks, and a bottle of wine to spice-up the adventure. spice-up the date by feeding each other.

decorate the house with your sweetheart’s favorite colors and light candles before he arrives from a trip.

send a thank you note or gift after a romantic date; even if you’ve been married for decades

spice-up your sex life by having sex wherever convenient—on the couch, in the bathroom, on the floor, in the kitchen, in the car, in the pool, on the beach, on a picnic, in a hotel, or in a tent, etc.

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a warning to myself

don’t have unprotected sex. always use a condom! because if you don’t cause possibly catch a disease so please stay safe.

work hard. always stay on top of your schoolwork because it’s important. you will need all your credits to graduate.

social media isn’t worth it. it might be helpful but in the long run, it’s not helpful it won’t get you anywhere in life.

read. always read. doesn’t matter what you read, it can be newspapers, books, magazines, or anything as long as you read.

don’t send nudes to anyone. trust me your pictures can end up online without your permission so please don’t send anyone nudes.

always be yourself. you don’t have to change for anybody.

some people are not your friends. the people that you call your friends probably aren’t your real friends they probably are just using you.

don’t go out looking for love. it will come to you.

keep your grades up. it’s really important.

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i was never a memory keeper before and i never liked the idea of being photographed, but once i learned that everything is fleeting i realized how powerful and important a picture is. now, i might be a memory hoarder who likes to take a picture of everything. and looking back at my camera rolls throughout this year i feel the need to just store everything all at once somewhere, from the most mundane things (like the unaesthetic pictures of my instant noodles) to some bigger moments that carried a lot different emotions. i want to treasure them all. then it dawned on me, (perhaps) what shall be remembered will be remembered: let some memories stay in your heart and mind, but also allow some memories to dissipate through you. it shall be remembered again when you need to (you can look back at your pictures again).