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WoLF RADICAL FEMINIST SUMMER CAMP

Tuesday, June 24 - Monday, June 30

A woman-only week in the woods featuring radical feminist history and theory, political strategy and organizing skills, songs and stories around the fire circle, gentle hikes, free time for making friends, and some very yummy food.

Come to RadFem Summer Camp for (up to) seven days of woman-only space. Teach and learn, recharge and reconnect, share and speak your mind, and meet with old friends and new, as we build a magical village in a hidden forest venue. 

Topics

How to lobby elected officials

Strategies for discussing gender ideology in daily conversations

Understanding Postmodernism and Queer Theory

Non-Violent Direct Action theory and practice

Strategies for increasing social media reach

Q & A with radical feminist lawyers 

Break-out sessions for in-depth connection: young women, lesbians, detranistioners

And more!

Activities

Gentle hikes

Swimming

Enchanting encounters with the wild

Outdoor/camping skills share

Campfire activities and music

Games

Register by June 9

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Friendships, Your 20’s, & Boys (sometimes)

Tonight I made a 2025 Summer Vision Board with my boyfriend. We looked at our near future and decided the things we’d like to do with each other. It made me think about my friends and how long I’ve wished for girlfriends to make vision boards with me.

A lot of women discourse about female friendship, and about how other women distance themselves from each other once they get into a relationship. I’d like to share a different perspective on this phenomena, and talk about the things I’ve reflected on within the past year.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for the past 6 months, and we’ve done things I’ve been begging friends to do for ages. A lot of women in friendships see women distancing from friends and see a man taking away their dear friend away from them. I’d like to acknowledge the many cases of women in abusive relationships where they’re being isolated by male partners, and male centered women who prioritize their male partners over friendships. This is not that.

This is for women who have made an effort to maintain friendships and have found themselves in dedicated partnerships. I’ve found myself begging my girlfriend for so many things throughout my friendships. I often felt like my friendships with women were one-sided, and the effort to maintain a connection always fails. My friends reach out whenever they feel within an egregious amount of time, and expect me to be ready for their plans whenever.

When I found my partner, we connected so deeply because we were always willing to see each other and try new things. I so deeply wish for this connection and desire with friends. Schedules, priorities, etc seem to always get in the way and as we age out of high school and college, it seems going out becomes more difficult, but partners you meet may put in more effort than friends.

I’ve been in this position many times in my life and I’ve cut off connections to lots of people because of lack of frequency in communication, initiative to meet up, canceling RSVP’s to events I put on, and ignoring attempts to communicate, or shutting down communication with a quick response.

I agree with deprioritizing these people and making an effort to develop a true, long lasting connection with other people for a life long friendship. However, there’s no need to burn any bridges. Remain findable, you don’t have to check social media all the time, but make sure your peers can find you when you’re ready for a reconnection. Don’t put these relationships on your priority list, but consider them once a year for some coffee, or a fun brunch.

Put your effort into the people who make it their goal to be apart of your life and show up as a friend. Show up yourself as a friend and don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. I’ve recently gotten into a relationship and have made attempts to maintain my friendships but have found myself majorly unsuccessful. Regardless, I hope to find people who share similar interests and desires as me.

My recommendation for long lasting friendships and relationship is making sure you make the effort to:

* check on each other

* See each other in person once a month

* Do shared activities together to bond

* Commit to making memories rather than reminiscing on the past

When I was with my boyfriend, I had so much fun watching Mean Girls and picking the things we’d like to do together for the summer. We both picked things we wanted to do, designed the board, and added stickers of our choosing. I also showed him my pinterest board and the vibes for summer 2025, our relationship, and allowed him to create his own board of whatever he wanted to. He really enjoyed the app and I felt bonded to him because we connected.

A lot of my friends stay on their phone, and I don’t mind that, but we find a way to spend that time together. Rather than parallel play, we share a device and create together.

Tonight, I started our summer scrapbook to pass back and forth and put pictures into along with descriptions and letters that my bf and I will pass back and forth to communicate in a safe space in a journal. I’ve always wished for these close and fun things with a friend, but he’s always been down with my creative ideas and I love the feeling.

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Made a Judy Moody NOT SO Bummer Summer Bucketlist w/ my partner 💕