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Yesterday, my mother fractured her arm while trying to get aid. I couldn’t go with her because I’m severely malnourished. She smiled through the pain so we wouldn’t worry, but I could see it all in her eyes — and it broke me.

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i think transmascs who experienced forced hair removal deserve to gut anyone who tells them to shave because their facial hair doesn't look "good enough". calling it a greasy neckbeard or pedostache doesn't make you any different than our misogynist abusers, actually.

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ppl will see one transmasc post something or reply one time and be like "UGGH MEN ARE TAKING OVER EVERYTHING. GIRLS CAN'T HAVE ANYTHING" literally shut up, not everything is about you

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it really is convenient that when people want to erase and minimize the danger that trans mascs face there's suddenly never a middle step between being pre-everything and being fully transitioned and perfectly passing, and trans mascs are always conveniently the safest one in every situation.

trans mascs have "afab privilege" because at any given moment they could just pretend to be a conventionally feminine cis woman for safety (which as we know has no associated trauma or danger to it whatsoever).

and of course trans mascs Also have male privilege, because at any given moment they can Only be read as cis men so long as they don't disclose that they're trans (because it's So Easy for trans people to be gender conforming to everyone's standards 100% of the time with no risk of being outed, obviously).

there's never a thought given towards what happens to trans mascs who are somewhere in between or who present one way in the wrong situation.

what happens to the trans masc who's been on T for 10 years who's visibly pregnant? who needs to escape an abusive situation? are they supposed to just perfectly pass as a cis woman to never experience transphobia and get the help that they need? is that their afab privilege at work?

what happens to people who are too masculine to pee in women's restrooms without the risk of getting harassed (or potentially arrested or murdered) but too feminine to risk getting clocked in the men's restrooms? is it male privilege to be afraid of what might happen to you no matter where you go?

and what happens to the fully transitioned trans mascs who don't Want to be masculine, who don't Want to be gender conforming? what happens to the trans mascs who are pre-everything who don't Want to be feminine?

are trans mascs supposed to just conform to whatever gender people Think they should be regardless of how they feel about it forever? and then what, disappear in the middle and come back when they're "Basically Cis Men" ?

what if you don't Want top surgery? what if you don't Want bottom surgery? what if you Can't do hrt for health or safety or money reasons? are you supposed to just suffer forever and choose the safest way to present and call it Privilege?

and none of this is Only relevant to trans mascs, of course it's not.

but trans mascs never get spoken about like we're visibly trans or visibly gnc (unless it's to make fun of us for having huge tits and wanting to go by he/him). and That's what erasure is. to pretend like our experiences do not exist and insist that we don't Deserve help or community because we Obviously have it so easy.

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There was a character in a book I read once who was described as "handsomely fat" and that phrase is stuck in my brain forever. The author really was like "no shut up, they're charismatic, they're good-looking, they're handsomely fat. not just handsome AND fat; them being fat is directly contributing to their good looks. you agree." and they were RIGHT

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always annoys me when posts about transphobia as a whole just HAVE to specify trans women. "this anti trans bill is awful for trans women—" Okay Who Else Is Affected Here. let's use our thinking caps

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eating a green apple in public is much more sophisticated than eating a red one. i just came up with this opinion.

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Driving my girl to work on our tandem bicycle. Takes me 15 minutes to drop her off and 45 minutes to get back home

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sorta funny how many cis people seem to think being an ally just means like. not actively commiting hate crimes. "i'm an ally i'm just worried that hrt is dangerous and i dont like when they shove pride right in our faces and i think all this sjw stuff in movies is unrealistic and im worried about the children-" okay. so i dont think you know what that word means,

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Am I old or is the userbase really young now?

You're telling me you don't remember mid 2010s bi/pan/acecourse? The hell that was all of that? (I had the misfortune of identifying as bi, pan and ace at various points in that period)

You don't remember late 2010s transmedicalism ? Being called a trender even if you were binary trans because you don't believe you need dysphoria or need to be binary to be trans? The pushback against that transmedicalism (which was affectionately called trendercore)?

The late 2010s and early 2020s rise of the self-described baeddel movement? The noticeable shift from generic mainstream feminism in queer spaces to specifically radical feminist talking points?

You're telling me some people here don't know? And if they were too young at the time, they haven't been told yet by someone else what went down and what came of it?

Like, this was only 10 years ago at most and barely 6-7 years ago at least.

Maybe I'm just old (mid 20s) but when you've lived through all the other waves of queerphobia and see the pattern, transandrophobia on this site just reuses all the same talking points.

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"I know chatgpt is bad but you just don't really have any choice" you literally do. Don't use it. Have some moral backbone.

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Sometimes someone will talk about an acquaintance who is an "undiagnosed narcissist with obvious borderline personality disorder traits" and I'm like... We used to just say "a bitch", and I know all the reasons why that was bad, but I'm not sure this is better.

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i’m gonna say something that doesn’t feel good but you might need to hear it: bending over backwards being a people-pleaser, being conflict averse and not telling anyone your needs, and then being resentful and upset when your needs aren’t met is a You problem first

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