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This is sexual harassment.

This is insane

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Around the 30-minute mark, there's a really great point made that for all BDSM's talk about safe, sane, consensual theres no real control in place for women. She says, "You have no idea how hard a man is going to hit you." It's true. Women already aren't believed about rape. Try telling your BDSM friends that you consented to sex, AND you consented to being hit, but that you didn't want it that hard. Try articulating that. Try it while traumatized. Most are simply going to ask, "Well, did you use the safe word?" And if you didn't that's your fault. If you did and he stopped, well, no harm, no foul. That's the fundamental problem with a safe word too. What use is a safe word after you've already been hurt?

Meanwhile, the guy who hit you (who probably had been in the BDSM scene longer than you) has been telling everyone, "She just wasn't prepared for the scene." "She never used the safe word." "I stopped when she said to" "She's exaggerating. I didn't hit her that hard" So no one does anything.

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Bruh she goes on to explain that homophobia was invented by white colonists...

How is she not embarrassed?

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How is she not embarrassed?

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Early on, she talks about how upside down triangles are a symbol homosexual people use, but that its not a great one because it was used by the nazis

Then like a page later she talks about how q*eer USED to be a slur but that its been reclaimed since the 90s.

I always find this attitude stupid. I'd be chill if people decided both symbols couldn't be reclaimed because they'd had a bad history, but how are you going to argue that a slur used well through the 90s and beyond is totally reclaimed but a hate symbol that hasn't been used since late 40s and was revived as a symbol of protest in the 70s can't be.

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This is a bad argument. Sociopaths and psychopaths tend toward bisexuality irl because it's a greater pool of victims. I think its perfectly natural that writers would pick up on this for films. Even the author herself says there's a correlation between mental illness and bisexuality so it shouldn't be THAT much of a surprise that the mental illnesses they have might be some of the bad ones.

Also, I haven't seen Killing Eve, but isn't Sandra Oh also bi in it? Like that's the whole thing, they're into each other? Sandra Oh has a husband before, but she's sexually obsessed with Villanelle? Sandra Oh isn't a sociopath in it, is she? Amanda Seyfried's character is also bi. She's also in a scene fantasizing about Jennifer and "plays girlfriend-boyfriend" with Jennifer. Classmates talk about how obsessed she is with Jennifer. She's literally the hero.

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Fucking ew!

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Im not even exaggerating. This is the situation that she compares to sexual harassment and stalking. Like, is it just me, or is there not even an indication the women are talking about them??? How does she even know they're "presumably lesbians?" She calls her random male savior "flamboyant" (could be gay, bi, or even just non-normative straight), but these random women, making vague comments, are "presumably lesbian"

Gotta interrupt my long-term hiatus to say Im reading the WORST book about bisexuality right now. Chapter 1 includes this anecdote about Kinsey, where he is clearly being a pervert to his female students, and the author treats it as if he just hadn't found his niche yet. There's a study about prospective employers rating mentioning bisexuality (and too a lesser extent homosexuality) in CVs as inappropriate that doesn't include a heterosexual candidate, just a sexuality unmentioned candidate. Extensive use of "monosexual." She calls a heterosexual transitioning male a lesbian. Im only half done.

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Omggg this chapter literally starts off with an anecdote of a gaggle of mean lesbians mocking her for kissing her girlfriend. She's rescued by a man she calls "flamboyant" calling out "you're so hotttt!" From another table. She then compares the lesbians mocking her to men who later sexually harassed her and her girlfriend at a bus stop and followed them home!!!

Gotta interrupt my long-term hiatus to say Im reading the WORST book about bisexuality right now. Chapter 1 includes this anecdote about Kinsey, where he is clearly being a pervert to his female students, and the author treats it as if he just hadn't found his niche yet. There's a study about prospective employers rating mentioning bisexuality (and too a lesser extent homosexuality) in CVs as inappropriate that doesn't include a heterosexual candidate, just a sexuality unmentioned candidate. Extensive use of "monosexual." She calls a heterosexual transitioning male a lesbian. Im only half done.

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Gotta interrupt my long-term hiatus to say Im reading the WORST book about bisexuality right now. Chapter 1 includes this anecdote about Kinsey, where he is clearly being a pervert to his female students, and the author treats it as if he just hadn't found his niche yet. There's a study about prospective employers rating mentioning bisexuality (and too a lesser extent homosexuality) in CVs as inappropriate that doesn't include a heterosexual candidate, just a sexuality unmentioned candidate. Extensive use of "monosexual." She calls a heterosexual transitioning male a lesbian. Im only half done.

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Okay honestly Im just screaming into the void atp. Im gonna just delete the app. I might be back later. I might not.

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I was gonna take it to poll, but there's no way to describe Kamikaze Hearts that isn't deeply embarrassing for me, so ¡Las Sandinistas! it is!

Sigh. I need one more kino lorber to avoid the shipping fee, and I can't piiiiiiiiick.

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Sigh. I need one more kino lorber to avoid the shipping fee, and I can't piiiiiiiiick.

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When I read the influenza book and the characters die from influenza.

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If you want unproblematic neurodivergent characters, try yurodiviy lmao

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I think a lot of the perspectives regarding mental health coming from liberals are just cringe. I was reading one of the numerous 1-star reviews for A Little Life where the reviewer took issue with the author saying "some mental health struggles are beyond saving." The reviewer got all up on their little soapbox about how we should be doing everything we can to save these people and yadda yadda yadda. It really takes some gymnastics to say that an author is arguing against helping people at all just because she says sometimes people are beyond help.

I mean, we can't possibly believe every person who ever killed themselves did so because they didn't get help, or no one was trying their damnedest to help them. Sometimes, the help isn't right. Sometimes, the help isn't wanted. I mean, this even operates under the assumption that we know everything there is to know about mental health already. What fucking hubris.

I know when I tried to off myself, I had a therapist. I had a therapist who even let me call her and text her day and night if I felt like killing myself. I had full access to medication, too. I didn't even try to reach out lmao.

I was watching a video essay about Prozac Nation, too, where the author talks about how self-centered depression is. A bunch of her viewers popped into the comments to take issue with that author's perspective. The video essayist had to essentially be like "haha please dont attack me." It was so baffling because the author of Prozac Nation was talking about her own experience of her own depression. She even cited that she was never sicker than when she had a boyfriend who validated and indulged her every depressive episode, and she was never healthier than when she dated a guy who told her to get over herself. She can't be the only one.

I've honestly never had any friends or family who were indulgent in my behavior, but I can tell you that when Elizabeth Wurtzel calls depression a "me, me, me" illness that resonates with me. When I am going through it, nothing matters to me but me and how shitty I feel. I can barely hold a conversation. I gotta do like an apology tour every time I finally pick myself up again. It's not just me and Wurtzel either. I dont feel like going into details, but I got a ton of other examples of people I've tried to be friends to who expected not just to be babied through their depressive episodes but also to not have to even be sorry for the fucked up shit they do. Then thry just get worse!

I dont have a neat little bow to wrap this up in. Just I dont think it's helpful or accurate for liberals to get up in arms every time someone even suggests poor mental health sufferers aren't the poorest little meow meows.

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Im not gonna explain what they're about because I already have before.