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Important rules/tips I've learned as an adult that helped with anxiety

If people are mad at you, it's their responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess

If they're mad at you in secret anyways, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

If people don't like what you're doing, it's their responsibility to tell you

If they say it's fine when it's really not, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

People are allowed to be wrong about you

If they are wrong about you, wait for them to bring it up, because if you try to, you will inevitably overcorrect

Some people are committed to misunderstanding you. You will not win arguments against them. Yes, even if you explain your point of view. They do not care. Drop it

The worst thing that will happen from a first-time offense is being told not to do it again. Maybe with a replacement if you broke something

You can improve relationships and gauge willingness to talk to you by giving compliments. It's like a daily log-in bonus and nobody thinks twice about it

Most things are better after you sleep on them

Most things are better after you have a meal

Most things are better after you shower

Your brain makes up consequences that are irrational. If the worst DOES come to pass and someone acts like they do in your head, they are overreacting, and you are entitled to say "what the fuck"

If your chest hurts after you feel like you've made a social error, that's called rejection-sensitive dysphoria. It means your anxiety is so bad that it's causing you physical pain, which is a good indicator that you're overreacting. Tense yourself, hold it for 20 seconds, let it go, then find a distraction

If you're suddenly angry at someone after you feel like you made a social error, that's also rejection-sensitive dysphoria. You are going to feel annoyed about it for awhile, but being genuinely pissed off is your anxiety trying to find something to blame to take the responsibility off your shoulders, and getting scared because it can't justify itself. Deep breaths, ask yourself how much you ACTUALLY want to be angry at that person, then find a distraction

"Sour grapes" is more healthy for you than stewing. Deciding you don't like someone who's perpetually annoyed with you, won't talk to you, etc. makes letting go of anxiety over them easier

If people don't like you, they will find reasons to be annoyed with you when they otherwise wouldn't. If people do like you, they will find reasons NOT to be annoyed with you when they otherwise would. People do not ping-pong between the two

You DO have to make a conscious choice not to think about something. If you're having trouble circling back to it, say out loud that you're done thinking about it and why. Then find a distraction

When you're upset, part of you is going to want to make false bids for attention (suddenly texting differently, heavy sighs, etc. but when someone asks you about it, you tell them it's nothing). Do not listen to it. You gain nothing from it except more misery

People like to help people they care about. It makes them feel good about themselves

If you think you're insufferable for needing help, see above. Yes, really. They get a serotonin kick from it

If you think you're insufferable for mannerisms you have, you either have to consciously choose not to do them, or accept that they're part of the package that comes with you. Being apologetic about existing does nothing except make you more miserable

If you do things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it makes it easier to do them when you hate it

If you avoid things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it reinforces and magnifies how bad it feels when you hate it

Seriously. Read those last two points again. If you can make yourself make a phone call when you've got nothing to lose, you will slowly lose that panic you get when you have to make a phone call you haven't prepared for. You do have to CONSCIOUSLY take that step

Hobbies that make you care for something get rid of that nagging feeling that you're not doing enough. Go grow some rosemary

If you don't engage with your hobbies regularly, you will feel miserable, and anxiety will spike

Hobbies are things that give you a bit of happiness. They do not have to be organized or named to do that. Go be creative in something. Play with coins. Make up lists. Start a new WIP

No one cares what you look like

If people point out things they don't like about how you look unprompted, they are being rude. You are entitled to say "what the fuck"

People who like you will find you pretty to some degree. Minor things about your appearance go completely unnoticed. Literally, scars and dots and blemishes do not register to someone who likes your company

You looking at yourself in the mirror is 10x more closely than anyone is going to look at you

If you're anxious about your body type, and you're creatively inclined, make/write an oc with that same shape. Give them nice things and make other characters love them. Put them on adventures. You'll start to see yourself in the mirror more kindly

You care about wording and perfect lines/colors way more than anyone who views your work ever will

Sometimes when you're upset, you're going to feel like not eating. Do not do that. Not eating makes you more miserable

Same with things you normally enjoy. Denying yourself helps no one. You are punishing yourself for being sad. Stop it

Both of these will take conscious decision to break the habit of. Make yourself do it anyways, and it will slowly get easier

And again, to reiterate: If someone is mad at you, it is THEIR responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess

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sorry if i'm gonna be quiet for a while. my country recently introduced laws that make it so that in order to use social media to the fullest (not being able to view ns/fw content and in a few cases, not even having access to dms), i HAVE to give the sites my id/face scan.

it goes into effect july 25th. it'll probably effect here too, since this place allows mature content (tho not full on ns/fw)

i'm very distressed about it bc i might end up not even being able to talk to my internet friends. i don't really have any irl ones

if i have to disappear on most socials by then, you know why.

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His health has deteriorated very, very significantly. He has a bladder hemorrhage and is now in the hospital. The doctors said he needs an urgent operation and they are keeping him there under observation.

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Tumblr continues to be a deeply racist and overwhelmingly white website. Making fun of a Palestinian woman seeking help amid a genocide because your English speaking head is too far up your own ass to consider that other languages have words similar to yours but with entirely different meanings.

The name رحاب "Rehab" (The "H" is pronounced "Ḥ", not like the English "H" in the word rehabilitation. Here's what it sounds like.) is a very common feminine name in Arabic.

The least we can do for Rehab for having to put up with this nonsense is share her fundraiser and donate if possible. Rehab is dying from hunger.

Her campaign is vetter by @gazavetters and her number is #410 on the spreadsheet.

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Many celebrities from America and Europe are speaking out about Gaza and its suffering, but sadly, most people are ignoring them.

Sami is one of the many people in Gaza who has gone through extremely difficult conditions and is still suffering to this moment. Tonight, Sami and his family were hit by the most violent and hysterical bombing since the start of the war, in an attempt to force them to evacuate.

Sadly, Sami's little daughter, Lynn, was injured - small rocket shrapnel is stuck in a sensitive area in her back. He cannot move her from place to place under the bombing, and she urgently needs surgery abroad because the hospitals have been destroyed by airstrikes.

There are verified medical reports confirming her injury, and pictures are available for those willing to help. Sami could be killed at any moment... and you may never see another post from him again. Please, forget politics for a moment - leave Gaza aside, and help Lynn. She is now between life and death. Donate to save his injured daughter and his starving family.

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Many celebrities from America and Europe are speaking out about Gaza and its suffering, but sadly, most people are ignoring them.

Sami is one of the many people in Gaza who has gone through extremely difficult conditions and is still suffering to this moment. Tonight, Sami and his family were hit by the most violent and hysterical bombing since the start of the war, in an attempt to force them to evacuate.

Sadly, Sami's little daughter, Lynn, was injured - small rocket shrapnel is stuck in a sensitive area in her back. He cannot move her from place to place under the bombing, and she urgently needs surgery abroad because the hospitals have been destroyed by airstrikes.

There are verified medical reports confirming her injury, and pictures are available for those willing to help. Sami could be killed at any moment... and you may never see another post from him again. Please, forget politics for a moment - leave Gaza aside, and help Lynn. She is now between life and death. Donate to save his injured daughter and his starving family.

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this document contains information, links and resources on palestine, sudan, congo, haiti, yemen, lebanon and hawai’i !! please give it a read and make sure to share this with as many people as you can !!

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Well fucks? Get to it!

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Why does the Israeli occupation allow American aid into Gaza, but block most other forms of humanitarian support?

Because they don’t want us to live — just to survive.

They want us breathing, but broken. Alive, but only enough to suffer. So we can be bombed again. Hunted again. Forced to cling to the very aid that barely keeps our children alive.

Every day, one of us risks everything just to fetch food or clean water. A mother. A father. A brother.

They step outside for a bag of flour or baby milk — not knowing if they’ll return home… or become another name whispered in mourning.

This… is only a glimpse of what we endure in Gaza.

The world sees the headlines. But it doesn’t feel our pain.

And no one seems able — or willing — to stop those who keep killing us

What are we waiting for from murders like them ?

If you don't want to see us as a number of their victims, please donate for us here

7# Verified By @bilal-sala7✅

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Hello 🙋

My name is Ahmed, I’m 20 years old, and I’m from Gaza City. I used to dream of a peaceful life, completing my education, and getting a job, but the war has turned that dream into something impossible 💔😭. We lived through this massacre in every painful detail, and we are still in pain 😔. We were so happy when the ceasefire was announced, and we returned to our homes in the north of Gaza after being displaced for a year and a half in a tent in the south of the Strip. After we fixed a small room in our destroyed house to live in and start over, unfortunately, the war returned, stronger than before 💔. Now, we have no shelter and no source of income. We have exhausted all our savings during the war. I know that I started my campaign very late, but that’s because there is no other way to help my family 🙏. I am fully confident and hopeful that someone here will help us as much as they can and save my family in these difficult circumstances 😔.

I know that the feeling of starting from scratch is painful and frustrating, but I hope to receive any amount for my family 🥺🙏.

https://chuffed.org/project/helpahmedfamily

Even a small donation would have a great impact on us 🥺. May God bless you, my friend 🥰❤️.

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Listen to the story of Abdul Rahman's family

Here lives fell... and homes were destroyed, but hope still awaits your donation.

He stands on the rubble of what was, just hours before, a warm shelter for an entire family. . . A massacre occured here, with more than 20 martyrs were killed in a single moment.

This was his uncle’s house, but now it's no longer there. . . God miraculously granted them their survival. They were pulled from the rubble with serious injuries, while everyone on the upper floor was martyred. Will you wait for the same to happen to the rest of them?

Will they have to be buried beneath the rubble before anyone acts? Help them survive. . . Help them escape Gaza before it's too late. 💔 Every donation from you is a chance for a new life for Abdul. The screams of children, the groans of the wounded, and the smell of dust and blood still linger. . . How long? How long must they wait for death? How long will their blood be allowed to bleed unseen and unheard? 💔

They have lost everything. Now they plead for the chance to live. Your donation today could save a life, and give a child a chance to survive.

Please don’t scroll past. Share. Donate. Be part of saving a life.

Even the smallest donation could be the reason this family escapes.

Only 8% of the €30k goal has been reached so far. Please do your best to donate and share.

Abdul's campaign has been verified by GazaVetters #642.

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Here is one of the Palestinian families who is going through a very difficult situation.Please help them as much as you can.

Donate to the Balousha family here 👈

Donate to Karim Al-Mashaal's family here👈

Nour Badr's family donate here 👈

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Hey. Minors following me. Internet safety is key!! NEVER include these in your bio/byf:

Medical diagnoses - this is nobody's business but yours. You don't owe anyone an explanation for why you are the way that you are

Trauma - same reason as above

Triggers - people can use these against you! Don't give people tools to hurt you. No one has to know what tags you block. Just block tags to stay safe!

Age - age is okay for adults to include but is iffy when you're a teen. Predators want this information, don't give people more than they need. Just state that you're a minor, that's all that anyone needs to know.

In general: stay safe. If you're not comfortable with every stranger out there having access to this information, you shouldn't post it on the internet.

Play devil's advocate and ask yourself about what would happen if someone searched for your information with intent to hurt you. You do NOT owe anyone an explanation!