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Hey gyns, I wanna tell you about the one thing that basically destroyed my dysphoria and gave me so much confidence in myself, my body, and my womanhood: doing difficult manual labor with other women.

In high school and the first part of college, i was very dysphoric and thought I was non-binary because I thought I “wasn’t like other girls” because I didn’t fit in with misogynistic stereotypes. I couldn’t escape libdem ideas and always felt claustrophobic. Classic. I also was severely depressed and had an eating disorder that landed my in the hospital and almost got me removed from university. I had no self confidence and felt disconnected from other women.

Then, right after college I landed a job on a wilderness trail crew with the US Forest Service. By some stroke of luck I ended up on a four-woman crew. They were some of the most amazing, strong and hard working women I’ve met.

We spent the days using crosscut saws to remove fallen logs from the trails (think old-timey logger two-person saws), chopped smaller logs with axes, moved huge boulders with our bodies, and hiked 10-12 miles a day carrying about 60 pounds of gear each. It was amazing. Over one summer we cleared about 300 miles of trail, just the four of us.

It was an awakening for me. While I’d done manual labor growing up, it was always in the presence of men. With men, they insinuated I wasn’t as strong, tried to do my work for me, or showed off, etc. With my crew of awesome ladies, the environment was so different. We were strong, yes, but we met difficult tasks with effective communication and creative use of our body mechanics, instead of “brute strength.” There was no derision, no judgement, no mind games that there would have been if men were present.

Throughout the summer I stopped thinking of myself as non-binary. I stopped feeling shame in being a woman, and began to feel connected with my body for the first time in years. I started believing in myself again.

Doing manual labor with women honestly changed/saved my life, and I encourage all women to find a similar experience. I understand not everyone physically can do physical labor, but I guess my message is this: regardless of what the task is, do hard things with women. Learn, cultivate skills, work, and work hard with other women. It will teach you, fulfill you, and truly empower you. Seek out opportunities to complete your work away from men and you will flourish.

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“Think about the strangeness of today’s situation. Thirty, forty years ago, we were still debating about what the future will be: communist, fascist, capitalist, whatever. Today, nobody even debates these issues. We all silently accept global capitalism is here to stay. On the other hand, we are obsessed with cosmic catastrophes: the whole life on earth disintegrating, because of some virus, because of an asteroid hitting the earth, and so on. So the paradox is, that it’s much easier to imagine the end of all life on earth than a much more modest radical change in capitalism.”

— - Slavoj Žižek, Žižek! (2005)

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worst trend of 2020 is instagram influencers with a large audience starting an onlyfans for bikini pics or whatever, making 10-20k their first week, and then posting about how easy it is to an audience that includes tens of thousands of young girls, who are going to start one at 18, end up having to do much more hardcore stuff to make any money, still not make nearly as much as those people do because they aren’t famous to begin with, and then be stuck with nudes of them online for the rest of their lives. i’m not anti sex work but people talking about it like it’s a quick and easy way to make money with no negative impact on you at all is... deeply irresponsible

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Women’s labor <3

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Glass clif phenomenon

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ok yes, so society places unfair beauty standards on men “be tall, be muscular, but not too tall not too muscular, etc.” but the fact of the matter is that when men don’t obtain those standards it’s ok! society doesn’t say “well you’re useless now” even when looking at the ugliest man society will say “well he’s smart, he’s funny, he makes a lot of money” what have you, even if those things aren’t true, ugly men are still given value and ugly women are not. so if we could please stop saying things like “well yeah, but society gives men unobtainable beauty standards too” that would be great because they are just not the same.

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shelley duvall was ROBBED by hollywood, absolutely fucking robbed, SHE was the star of the shining (1980), not jack nicholson, she was the emotional anchor of that movie and she carried it ON HER OWN, all nicholson had to do is squint funny and thats it, meanwhile she was out there crying and screaming and shrieking and running ALL WHILE antagonized by the director who felt like he had to flex his misunderstood loner genius muscles or some shit. years later and when people talk about the shining they either discuss the joker or cube rick when they should be talking about how shelley duvall made the terror of that movie REALLY, TRULY POP. like what was i even doing in 1980??? i sure as hell wasnt defending her talent and hard work i was busy not existing like an absolute fucking fool and i can never atone for that

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guys: fight each other all the time

girls: support each other and share hand cream

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When you’ve been taught all your life that it’s impolite to refuse, that you’re rude if you say no, then you haven’t been given the tools to vocalize your own boundaries. This means men can (and do) take advantage of your fear of being seen as a bad person. This puts you in harm’s way.

Female socialization is not just inconvenient. It’s dangerous.

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2020 for me has just been “am I stressed because of a global pandemic and an increasingly fascist far-right government, or am I just struggling to exist under capitalism” and I’m really getting tired of it

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In 2016, everyone was taking online personality quizzes to find out what superhero, Disney princess, or 90s sitcom character you were. I took one of these myself (I’m Batman, if you were wondering).

In 2017, the fad suddenly vanished. Then we found out Cambridge Analytica had been using online personality tests to secretly mine user data and create personality profiles to divide Democrats against each other, manipulate swing voters, and help elect Trump.

Now it’s 2020, and suddenly these quizzes are back. And I see even many of my most politically astute friends are taking them. If we’re not going to learn from the past, I guess we deserve whatever we get.

https://www.facebook.com/apiper/posts/10157287692029232

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Compliance causes a shocking realization that must be registered by all women. That is, to be ourselves causes us to be exiled by many others, and yet to comply with what others want causes us to be exiled from ourselves. It is a tormenting tension and it must be borne, but the choice is clear.

Women Who Run With The Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

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Can we stop being rude to first world Christians?

We don’t face the same struggles as our brothers and sisters in other places but it still sucks to lose friends (esp close ones), family, jobs, and other opportunities because of your faith and live in a society that largely hates you and finds you to be an acceptable target for hatred and mockery for standing fast in your beliefs.

You can acknowledge the persecution of Christians around the world while still having compassion for those who suffer in less severe ways.

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https://twitter.com/LouMycroft/status/1307277261444395008

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No plastic surgery or any form of aesthetical body alteration brings the person subjected to it one concrete beneffit other than the consciousness of looking pleasant to others, "for myself" is a capitalist/patriarchal facade to stimulate femininity by giving it a false, fabricated sense of autonomy.

A certain feature is only perceived as unadequate when it is compared to upheld adequate, nothing is fundamentally aesthetically unadequade in the human body; beauty is cultural.