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Love how tumblr has its own folk stories. Yeah the God of Arepo we’ve all heard the story and we all still cry about it. Yeah that one about the woman locked up for centuries finally getting free. That one about the witch who would marry anyone who could get her house key from her cat and it’s revealed she IS the cat after the narrator befriends the cat.

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When I am appointed to represent a child, my first action is to separate them from their parents and tell them the following things:

1. I am their attorney. I do not work for their parent or the judge or the cops. I don’t care what any of those people want.

2. My job is to listen to them and try and make what they want happen in court. (At this point I make a joke about how most people want me to get them out of trouble but if someone wanted to be in trouble I would do my best.)

3. What they tell me is confidential. It goes nowhere unless they agree to it. (If old enough, I talk to them about mandatory reporters, and how I’m a mandatory non reporter.)

4. I will give them lots of advice because I’ve been doing court for a while and I know a lot about it, and they don’t. It’s all really complicated, and if they don’t understand what’s happening it’s my job to help them figure it out.

5. They will make the decisions. (At this point I usually have to reassure them that I’ll help, I’ll speak for them in front of the judge, and I’ve got their back. It’s scary to have an adult say you’re in charge, most of the time.)

6. I tell them I know it’s absolutely wild to have some stranger come in here and say “hey, you can trust me!” and that I get if they don’t believe everything right away, because I plan to show them through my actions and my words that I’ll fight for them.

7. But nonetheless, I will treat them like a person who can make decisions, because they are living their life and I am not.

I do not:

Pretend to be cool.

Try to be their BFF.

Overwhelm them with detail.

Let their parents in the room until the kid asks for them. (I provide openings for this, and ask if the kid wants their parent to help them remember and understand.)

I want to emphasize I went into this job knowing nothing about how to interact with vulnerable populations, especially children. The training was minimal, and my role means that I can literally walk into a facility and get an unmonitored visit with a minor client one on one.

In my years of practice I have never felt threatened by a child, even one that was “violent” and “unstable.” It turns out just saying “hi, I think you’re a person with thoughts” is wildly successful? Now people treat me like I have special Child Whisperer powers. My powers are that I ask the child what’s up and I’m not scared to say things that are objectively awkward. I know nothing about anything.

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giving birth sucks tbh. not only do you and the baby you’re birthing almost die, usually you shit yourself and often you tear your taint. then you have to push an organ out of your body (placenta) and if even a little of that remains in your body, you can hemorrhage to death or develop an infection that essentially rots your body from the inside out. even if you had a relatively “easy birth”, you bleed for weeks on end. even after that stops, your body and brain is changed for the rest of your life, the pregnancy leeched minerals from your bones, that can cause osteoporosis later. minor urinary incontinence is not uncommon, brain scans of people who gave birth show permanent changes in their brain, you’re never quite the same.

I say all of this not to say giving birth is disgusting but it is a harrowing and visceral experience. society downplays how fucking awful it is and makes it out to be a ~magical~ experience but it isn’t a magical transformative experience for everyone. it can be an extremely traumatic experience for someone who wanted to carry a pregnancy to term, much more so for someone who did not want to be pregnant in the first place or someone who knows their baby won’t survive the birth. anyway, abortion is a right. pregnancy and birth aren’t just inconvenient, it’s fucking awful.

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A 'no questions asked' food pantry means no questions asked.

When we're stocking our pantry, we are not looking at a person's clothes or their accessories or what kind of car they drove there in. We are HAPPY to see it BEING USED AT ALL.

I don't know anyone's situation. Maybe they got that designer bag at a thrift shop. Maybe its a knockoff. Maybe it was a gift. Maybe they got it when they had money and now they don't have money. Maybe they're getting stuff for a friend.

Maybe they have plenty of money, don't need to be taking stuff from the pantry, but they are anyway because we said-

NO QUESTIONS ASKED.

Do you know what happens when someone takes from our pantry when they don't need it? We're down one item. But maybe they tell someone that the pantry is there. Or maybe they come back to it when they need it. Or maybe they throw a dollar in the donation box. Or maybe they put an item on the shelf. Or maybe they come to our food drive.

WE DONT CARE.

We don't care who used it.

We care that it was used.

Im not a cop. Don't make me do cop stuff, I wont do it.

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Rich Progressive: "I used to be working class. I became rich when I became an actor, singer, athlete, or something else that I got extremely lucky and could have easily failed at. Anytime I see someone who's homeless, I realize that that could have easily been me if things were just slightly different. I still have trauma from my struggles of being working class, so I want to use my privilege to speak up for others who are currently struggling."

Working Class Conservative: "Oh come on. You're rich. You can't speak for me. You have no idea what it's like for people like me who have to work multiple jobs just to feed my family. Now shut up and move out of the way so I can listen to rich people who were born rich, got richer by exploiting the working class, and openly advocate for policies that will make them richer, but who I worship because they hate the same people I do."

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For everyone, what's something you've always wanted to say but never said?

Deep thoughts and fun thoughts and any thoughts are good, anything you'd like to share

Ro: So this is what it’s like to hold a Tony award

V: I feel fully prepared for whatever is about to happen.

P: Shut Up

L: I love you

J: I’m tired

Re: How come you left?

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Do you check for trackers and remove them before sharing links?

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"That happens to everyone"

Dear able bodied people, When I talk to you about a symptom I am having that is related to my chronic illness, please do not respond to me by saying “that happens to me sometimes” or “that happens to everyone”.

Because no, not everyone has a chronic illness. When you say “that happens to everyone” it invalidates my disability, it erases my identity. When you say that, suddenly everyone becomes disabled. And if everyone’s disabled… Then disability doesn’t really exist because there wouldn’t be any able bodied people to distinguish us from. It erases the validity of our chronic illness, and it erases our disability.

When someone says “that happens to everyone” they’re actually saying “you’re not disabled. Stop faking it”.

So don’t say it.

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Rich people silence their opposition by threatening to do what they're going to do anyway even if they get what they want. Bootlickers believe them.

Even if employees were paid $4 per hour, corporations would still be looking for ways to automate their labor and save $4 per hour per employee.

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So there's a post going around complaining about American Imperialism and Pride, blaming queer Americans for other countries doing Pride stuff in June.

And I've chosen not to reblog it for a lot of reasons.

First off, it's blaming American Queer people for making Pride "international." This ignores the history of the movement. The whole reason it's called "Pride" comes from the people who were celebrating the anniversary of Stonewall. The reason this term (and the June date in some places) was adopted in other cities in the US, let alone countries, was as a show of solidarity as a movement. This was a choice made by marginalized people in those other places, and not an act of "imperialism." While this was starting, we were fighting to have any kind of "Pride" events in the US to begin with.

The OP says that they're in aotearoa, and claims their pride should be in July, not June, because they earned their rights. They acknowledge that the official pride months in New Zealand (which differ by state) are in February and March -- but it misses the god damn point.

Pride isn't about having won anything. No one won any rights at Stonewall, nor was any historic legislation passed that day.

It was a god damned riot.

Pride is about the fight. It's about the day we decided to fight back.

Pride is about celebrating our ability to fight for our own existence.

If you don't want to celebrate it in June? Fine. I genuinely don't care when you choose to celebrate the fight -- I just care that you're fighting and I'm happy to stand alongside you. If you think people need to learn more about queer history in your country too? Awesome. I'd love to learn it. Share some resources or try teaching us.

But this weird attitude that it's somehow American Queer people's fault that your own community decided to adopt the anniversary of a riot in the US is just insane to me. They chose it to show solidarity, because when we fight for us, we're fighting for you too and vice versa. Especially in a year when American Queer people are fighting for their lives more than they've had to for a long time with the attacks on the Trans community, it feels pretty fucked up to equate those getting stepped on by the boot with the boot itself.

And maybe that poster is just young and hasn't thought about it. Maybe they're just frustrated that their nation's own queer history isn't more widely known. But this is also the exact kind of thing that gets fed into communities like this one in an attempt to divide it.

Don't fucking fall for it.

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— requested by manbunjon

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Police in China arrest female authors of homosexual novels in crackdown on 'boys love' fiction genre.

July 12, 2025

Female writers have been summoned by police for posting and sharing homosexual romance stories online, in a widespread crackdown on the "boys love" genre in China.

If convicted, they could be subjected to detention, financial penalties or even prison sentences. Many of the targeted writers published their work on Haitang, a Taiwanese website popular with fans of boys love fiction — a genre that features romantic relationships between male characters, often depicting sex scenes.

Three lawyers, representing some of the writers, also posted about the crackdown, noting the scale of action has been widespread, with estimates that at least 100 writers have been affected.

Mr Zhang said authorities may have restarted the crackdown on boys love fiction because it was seen as unfavourable to China's new policies in raising fertility rates.

After decades of forcing Chinese couples to limit themselves to just one child, Beijing has now reversed course and is urging people to have more babies.

"Officials may think that these cases can eliminate the social influence [of homosexual love stories] and give young people a more 'positive' sexual orientation, and in a way promote fertility rates," he said. Mr Zhang explained that China's fertility rates were dropping and many young people were opting out of marriage.

Despite this, he believes China's law on digitally obscene content should be updated to reflect the new social reality.

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