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vorin societies are so gendered it's insane. if i were vasher and rolled up in alethkar and suddenly everyone expected me to be illiterate i would also be cranky all the time. imagine. you're just a normal worldhopper or even just a normal foreigner and just because you're a man and you write/play an instrument/like sweet foods you're suddenly an anomaly and every vorin in sight will treat you like a certified freak. like jesus christ you people are genuinely unhinged. can you even blame szeth for thinking stonewalkers are heathen idiots at this point

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The thing about the fall of the Roman Empire is that nobody fully agrees on when it fell so I choose to take the most hilarious position which is that it never fell actually and we’re all still living in it.

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goth/nerd/prep/jock alignment chart but with dropout cast

but there's 2 versions because, to quote Zac in Ratfish...

why do they all feel like fuckin' Beardsley?

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Sam made that joke about not being like Mr Beast and it's actually made me weirdly appreciate the LinkedIn advertisements even more?

Mr Beast pretends he's doing charity, but he's actually just turning charity into content that he makes money off of. People do benefit, I don't want to pretend that they don't, but he's not doing them a favor. He's essentially turning them into his workers. This isn't terribly uncommon, but Mr Beast adds some real dishonesty to it.

And Sam just put a spotlight on it being content to make money off of. He's doing something incredibly kind for Jake! But he also made it clear that it's work. Jake is doing the episode, same as any other time he's done an episode, and he read ad copy for a sponsor, same as anyone else being paid to promote a company would do. They didn't show up at his house with a giant check and pretend they weren't going to make money off the episode while they quietly demanded he perform for them. It was aggressively honest and incredibly generous, and I really appreciate that.

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ai can’t deliver a painting to you with cat hair stuck in the paint strokes. but i can. and i will, every time. you don’t even have to ask.

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useless opinion of the day

There's more of that "men throwing tantrums over women invading 'their' spaces" stuff again, so here's my impulsive opinion:

The reason men think that women are "suddenly" entering their spaces is due in large part to the internet.

In pre-internet days we were all isolated to our own communities. If you were a bunch of dudes playing D&D and you never saw a woman (or girl, or fffemale) in your space, you assumed that was how it was everywhere. Meanwhile, in other communities, women were settled into their D&D groups (or starting their own) and that's just how it was there.

Yes, part of the issue is that nerdbros can be incredibly toxic and will aggressively police "their" spaces, making sure they're so virulent that any women trying to join in feel unwelcome or actively threatened. If they didn't stay, it was their problem for being too "sensitive."

Really, though, the bigger part of it is that they had no (or at least very little and unlikely) way of knowing that other D&D groups were allowing women to join or even that women were in charge and maybe even allowing men to join. All they knew was that their group had no women and their friends and their groups had no women, so it must be because women don't understand or are too squeamish or stupid or whatever excuses they made up to explain it. If they even thought about it at all.

Then comes the internet. Suddenly everyone is a lot more connected, and those isolated, toxic nerdbro groups find out that women DO play D&D (or like Star Trek/Wars, or read comics, or played video games). It's an unpleasant shock to them. Where did all these women come from? Why are they getting their horrible girl cooties all over stuff intended for men only? Why can't they stay in their own girly spaces and let men have the "real" interests?

It never occurs to them that women have been here all along because they never saw it so it couldn't possibly exist.

The generations of nerdbros after that grow up with stories from their elders about how D&D used to be a "safe space" for men and then suddenly women were everywhere and ruining it. So they believe it and resent the intrusion and carry on the traditions of hating women and blaming them for "ruining" "traditionally male" spaces.

There's more nuance to be found, of course, but those are the broad strokes. And of course, just my interpretation of history.

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always complain about things. okay, you know how programmers explain their code to rubber ducks when it's not working? same principle. an appliance breaks down. I get pissed off, try everything, go through the various stages of despair etc. I complain about it to a friend and explain why it frustrates me so bad, and suddenly I'm thinking 'wait I should try unplugging it and then doing a factory reset and then—' and I go home and do that and it starts working again. I keep losing my earrings. I complain about it to a friend, about how I keep them all in a little dish but then the specific one I want always dematerialises the moment I want it. my friend says 'I just keep them on the little card backs they came with' and I think well shit, I always throw those out. but then I think aha I can make a bunch of pinholes in a decorative postcard. genius. I read a story. it's about something I'm usually into, but for some reason I don't like this story at all. I complain about it, I figure out what irritates me about it, I have a great idea for a way better story. I try a new recipe, it doesn't come together. I bitch about it like crazy, about what I thought I did right and how it failed, and before I know it I'm explaining out loud which parts I'm inexperienced at or didn't understand or adjusted wrong. I need a little table for drawing on. I complain about it in the group chat, two days later someone says 'hey I spotted the kind of table you're looking for on the side of the road, do you want to come pick it up'. I complain, endlessly. my life is enriched. the art of complaining.

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Vic Michealis is not and will never be trapped on the Game Changer set with Sam, he’s trapped on the Game Changer set with THEM.

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I am gently taking your hands and begging you, BEGGING YOU, to understand that humans are not inherently harmful to the planet. We are animals who are part of the ecosystem. We belong here. This is our home. We belong here. You belong here. Yes, you belong here.

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On the subject about parents needing to control their child's reading and invade their privacy in order to "protect" them from "inappropriate material:

Until I was in....college? At least? The vast, vast majority of the books I read were either a) assigned by my school or b) (the vast majority of my reading) provided to me by my mother.

My mom is a librarian. She filled our rooms with books, picked especially for us. She pointed out books on the shelves in our home library (separate from our bedroom shelves) that she thought we would like. She bought us books for birthdays, Christmas, and just stacks of recommendations. She once paid me $10 to read one of the Cirque Du Freak books because she said I needed "to be exposed to bad literature."

She respected my privacy in room, didn't go through my belongings. She explicitly pointed out to us that she wouldn't know if we took a particular book of the shelf, as long as we returned it, if we didn't want her to know we were reading it. She purposely brought us books that she didn't care for herself, because she thought we might find them valuable or enjoyable.

And if we wanted to read something she thought might upset or disturb us, she would explain why. She wouldn't stop us from reading it - just ask us to check in with her, to talk through it.

And so when I read something that upset or disturbed me, I would go to her. She would listen and talk through it with me.

If she said she didn't think I would like something, or that a book might disturb me, or that she thought I should wait until I was older, I listened to her.

She didn't need restrictions or control to protect me. Because she proved I could trust her.

Controlling kids is never about "protecting" them. It's just about control.

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one of the funnier parts of having online friends is when they casually reference something that seems weird as hell from your perspective and you have to go "okay so is this like a reigional/cultural difference or is your specific life experience just insane"

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Just lost a few braincells reading an nyt article about gen z "treat culture" and I can't even fathom that this is a thing. We're living in a dystopian hellscape where someone spending $5 a week on a cookie is considered a wasteful brat because they should have just gone for a nice free walk instead and saved the $250 a year that roughly equals four days' rent. That's why these ungrateful kids can't buy a house, naturally.

I am ALL for free treats, like hiking or reading in the park. But at some point you can't budget your way out of poverty, and you will literally go mad if you deny yourself basic pleasures that are literally all around you. They even lamented that little treats could snowball into doing something absolutely unforgivable like learning how to play the guitar or buying concert tickets.

At what point do we just start saying out loud that living an enjoyable and fulfilling life is now only acceptable at a 100k+ salary, and if you're one of the millions of people unlucky enough not to be in that category you should just eat dirt and be grateful?

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absolutely the worst part of the male helplessness fetishism is that men know about it and will weaponize it against you. they will fuck up and do stupid shit and pretend not to know how to clean a mirror or find grapes at the grocery store and then simper and giggle expecting you to think its adorable. and then they will get REALLY angry when you do not

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confiscating cis peoples gender until they can learn to be normal about it. sorry you spent too much time talking about how men and women are 'supposed' to act, you're getting put in nonbinary time out. sit on the naughty step. no gender until dinner time.