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A special valentine’s gift I made to turn into a keychain   😊

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Never thought I’d be back here :’)

Might revamp & update things here if I can find some free time...and the power to get through going through old angsty teenage posts.

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Remember, you can disappear into the woods whenever you want. You’re an adult.

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San, Princess Mononoke for today. #KoRiandraws

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one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have. 

no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation. 

no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying. 

no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.

no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.  

a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age. 

Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse. 

I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships. 

The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery. 

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I wanna make you happier than you’ve ever been before, because that’s what you do for me.

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My new 70-page autobio comic about moving to LA and starting in animation is now online!! I also posted LOTS of helpful links at the bottom of the page for anyone interested in story art or a career in animation.  Follow the link to read more~ http://homeiswheretheinternetis.blogspot.com/2017/09/animation.html

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[Original video here]

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❄ snowy day ❄

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when ur playing video games to cope with depression but its not working

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:V

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lots of requests 4 froppy

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不二咲 by GB | Pixiv ID 20567587

※ Authorized reprint ✓

If you liked their art, and wish to encourage the artist to do more, please do take the time to rate and bookmark it at their Pixiv account. Do NOT use/repost without permission and/or remove credit

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i really wish i could get a refund for all the love i’ve wasted on people like! repay my emotional labour your bill is in the mail

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me

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remember being little and thinking dandelions were fun or a pretty color or something and every adult in an 80 mile radius wouldn’t let you say that without screaming ITS A WEED