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in order to unlearn racism u have to be willing to accept that u are racist. it’s not a bad thing to want to change for the better. it’s not a bad thing to say hey, the way i’ve been acting is racist and i don’t want to be racist anymore. when people of color are telling u ways in which u have been racist, it’s actually not cool to brush it off and say, well i didn’t mean it that way.. u actually have to make an effort to stop doing those things if u want to be able to actually say ur anti-racist. u can’t just say ur not racist because u don’t wanna be seen as racist. that’s not how unlearning racism works.

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flavor of the day

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Bon giorno it is 10 am for the beutiful fashionistas of italia right now perfect time for a brunch with handsome loved onws

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i step out onto stage clad in full corpse paint and death metal regalia and start playing the most middle-of-the-road soft rock you've heard since 1974

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My daughter, Toleen, she has special needs and is currently living in a tent in Gaza, struggling without basic care. She faces daily hardships due to the lack of medical support, food, and shelter. Your help can provide life-saving resources and care. Please donate to give her and others like her a chance for survival.

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Pizza for the hungry in Gaza!!!!🍕

Hi Today we have carried out a charity project to feed the hungry in Gaza, and this is thanks to your kindness and donations... People are in dire need of you, so your donation is very important. Please donate what you can to feed the hungry here So the money will go to help me, Iyad, because I suffer from the same suffering as the people here in Gaza, and it will go to feed the hungry here as well.

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hi all. a friend of mine was in a car accident recently. she's physically fine, but she could use your help!

gofund.me/7a9bc204

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hi all. a friend of mine was in a car accident recently. she's physically fine, but she could use your help!

gofund.me/7a9bc204

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the bombings have intensified and abdul @abdulrahman-family and his family still haven't met their goal, a goal that is just meant to be means to survive by healing and being fed, because the certainty of that means they can get out and truly be safe.

he still needs surgeries, there's still a famine and what little food is allowed inside is being let to expire by the zionists who dare oversee the checkpoints, we must top the goal abdul set and soon, he stands in ruins and he holds on to hope alone, let us be the certainty that hoping isn't in vain please share and donate to his campaign

€6,229/30,000

please share and donate as soon as you can, if you're going to protests try to direct people to campaigns please i beg of you on their behalf

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here's a link explaining the answer to the question, and some legal considerations of it as well i suppose.

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My sapphic ass just missed the toilet bowl & slipped in the puddle & fractured muy hulking iron body & now im too crying to get up now theres bugs crawling on me everywhere cuz i spilled my slurpy on my shirt 5 days ago & they want the sugars stuck in it wich i dont even blame them for at all

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Top 10 most racist land acknowledgments, ranked by how extinct the author believes the indigenous inhabitants are

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oh boy i saw a Post that i know was at least partially a joke about how we should get to appeal people who've blocked us... i made the mistake of checking the comments. oops. lots of people who don't understand how people can be such meanies and block people over almost Nothing at all, or that blocks should expire after a year... and, well.

i have several people blocked for safety reasons/peace of mind, people i want to have the least amount of access to me as possible (harassment campaign, terfs, etc). i figure most people agree that these are good and noble reasons to Block. but i also have lots and lots and lots of people blocked for seemingly petty reasons (bad opinion, annoying to me). i have also found myself blocked by several people - some i know exactly why, some complete strangers i have never interacted with and cannot figure out the motivations of. so let's explore some angles here:

- Receiving An Appeal: i did actually have someone email me to ask if they were really blocked or if it was a mistake. i was put in the very fun position of having to find a nice way to explain that yeah, sorry, i soft blocked you several times because the commentary you kept adding to my posts was driving me nuts but it didn't stick so i had to hard block you. no hard feelings, you're fine, i just personally find you annoying but please don't take it personally. i mean i didn't HAVE to reply to that email, and maybe i could have found a way to tell that person to give me some space, but. the internet is so loud and so full of people and i have a threshold for how much i can handle, i do not have the capacity or patience to sit down with every person i find annoying and tell them to please repress their entire personalities for my sake. i don't WANT to do that! i want people to be their loud and vibrant self but sometimes i need to slam my door shut before i snap at someone. or everyone. taking care of myself is to everyone's benefit okay!!!

- Wanting To Know Why: look, i get it, it's frustrating to not know exactly WHY someone blocked you, but my honest advice is that... you probably don't actually want to know. maybe if it was someone you have a personal relationship to outside of tumblr, sure! that's a whole other can of worms to deal with. but you probably don't actually need to hear a stranger tell you you're annoying or that your headcanon sucks or whatever. there's a parallel here to wanting to hear the Exact reasons for why someone broke up with you and it's just gonna make you feel like shit regardless of what it is - except it's an online random who doesn't even know you probably. you literally do not need a stranger's approval to exist in a space and do your thing, and the stranger did the right thing by curating their space. i'm sure there's lots of examples where people get blocked for a "small" reason and the blocker forgot Why and could probably easily unblock them and carry on. But. do you really really really need access to This particular stranger online? maybe they have a really cool blog you enjoyed! but there's so many other cool blogs. you'll live!!!!!! i promise.

- Is Blocking A Declaration Of War And Ill Intent? no. it's just not. it's a tool for curating your internet space. nobody gets along with literally everyone else on earth and we were not made with extreme exposure to millions of other people worldwide in mind. maybe it seems extreme to yeet people out of your blog just for being a little bit annoying, but it's not so extreme if you have a larger following and lots of people making noise in your notifs. it doesn't have to be deeper than that!!

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palm_mall

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It takes real strength to say, “I don’t like this part of myself, and I want to work on it.”

We all have traits shaped by trauma, by survival, by what we were modelled growing up. But when those traits start to harm us, or harm the people we care about, it’s our responsibility to notice and adjust.

“I shut down every time someone’s upset”

“I guilt-trip when I feel abandoned”

“I lash out before I explain how I feel”

These examples aren’t how it has to be. They’re starting points for change. You aren’t doomed or irredeemable.

Saying “That’s just the way I am” might feel protective in the moment but over time, it can become a wall between us and the relationships we want to build.

Healing means learning to say:

”This is how I’ve been but it’s not how I have to stay.”

“I’m allowed to outgrow my old coping mechanisms.”

“I want to become safer for myself and for others.”

Change doesn’t make you less you. It makes you a version of you that can breathe easier, love deeper, and communicate more clearly. It can improve your quality of life and make your relationships more fulfilling.