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Berdamailah dengan sepi. Bahwa jiwamu masih tegar bertahan sendiri. Bahwa dadamu masih luas menampung rindu di hati. Bahwa suara lirihmu tetap akan didengar langit sekalipun bumimu ini masih saja sunyi.

— Taufik Aulia

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“I can be sobbing in front of you with a broken heart and I’ll still crack a joke.”

— unknown

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To feel you in my veins like God in the rivers and adore you in the sorrowful bones of dust and lime, to watch you passing painlessly by to emerge in the stanza—cleansed of all evil.

Pablo Neruda, from The Poetry of Pablo Neruda; “Love,” (via honeyfleshed)

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Darling we will cry with our hands on our knees, we will close our eyes with tired souls and dreamless sleeps, but I always hope that —someday— one morning— we will wake up with courage and wonderful beginnings.

ma.c.a // Hope is a gamble, and I’m in (via vomitingwords)

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Kalau sabar ada batasnya, maka kebersamaanmu dengan Allah juga akan ada batasnya. Kalau kamu buat batas untuk sabar, sama saja kamu buat batas antara kamu dengan Allah. Allah bersama orang yang sabar, kan?

Taufik Aulia (via taufikaulia)

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We cannot change, we cannot move away from what we are, until we thoroughly accept what we are. Then change seems to come about almost unnoticed.

Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person (via fyp-psychology)

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Menyedihkan itu, kamu dirundung masalah dan hanya punya sosmed untuk menumpahkan semuanya.

Taufik Aulia (via taufikaulia)

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My only relief is to sleep. When I’m sleeping, I’m not sad, I’m not angry, I’m not lonely, I’m nothing.

Jillian Medoff, Hunger Point (via books-n-quotes)

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Do you Suffer from Imposter Syndrome?

Impostor syndrome is a psychological condition where people are unable to believe in their successes. Thus, despite the evidence that points to the fact that they are skilled, capable and competent they write this off as temporary – or timing and good luck. Thus, they constantly struggle with feeling like a fraud.

So what are some ways that you can counteract this syndrome?

1. Admit this is something that you suffer from. When we know we’re not alone, and our symptoms have a name (because they are part of an identified disorder) it can help disperse the feelings of anxiety and shame.

2. Distinguish between facts and feelings. Everyone feels stupid and inept at times. That doesn’t mean we’re stupid. Our feelings aren’t facts. So try to be objective - and seek out the real truth.

3. Don’t demand perfection. It is good to set goals and have high standards for yourself. However, it’s unhealthy to obsess over every little thing. You’ll simply waste a lot of time and never feel quite satisfied. And all of us are human and make lots of mistakes.

4. Take a look at the rules you have imposed upon yourself. Are you saying to yourself: “I have to always get it right”;”I should never ask for help”; or “It is bad to make mistakes”? These are misguided rules that undermine your self-esteem. They set you up for failure as they close the door to help.

5. Change the tapes in your head. Instead of constantly repeating faulty self-destructive thoughts (such as “Wait till they discover just how useless I am”) replace it with a thought that builds esteem and confidence. (Such as, “I’m better at this now as I know what I am doing … It’s so much easier when you’ve been here for a while.”)

6. Don’t look to others to affirm your success. Don’t look to other people to rate and judge your work. Set your own personal goals, and mark your progress and success.

7. Fake it till you make it. Almost every individual who succeed in life has a period when they’re acting, as they don’t feel confident. It doesn’t mean that they’re a failure, a fake or a fraud. It means that they’re still learning, and are not afraid to try.

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When you can tell your story and it doesn’t make you cry, that’s when you know you’ve healed.

Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

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Alternative to platonic love

Aristotelian Love – Your partner completes you.

Newtonian Love – There’s a strong attraction between your bodies.

Freudian Love – They’re the partner of your dreams.

Lacanian Love – You want them to want you.

Foucauldian Love – You like to discipline and punish.

Hegelian Love – There’s this whole master-slave dynamic.

Shakespearean Love – Sometimes you pretend to be other people in bed.

Joycean Love – Sometimes you see other people.

Arthurian Love – One partner is married.

Schrödingerian Love – On the verge of collapse.

Heisenbergian Love – Moving fast but you don’t know where it’s going.

Heideggerian Love – When you can’t be without your partner.

Homeric Love – You’re cousins.

Lovecraftian Love – Horrible and indescribable.

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Menutup Hati

Selama ini saya menutup hati. Ada yang datang bilangnya serius. Eehhh ternyata nol. Oke. Finish. Ada yang curhat bla bla bla… Bilangnya “berharap itu kamu”. Tapi ga bisa serius dalam waktu dekat. Oke. Finish. Ada yang sampaikan langsung dan karena tahu perjalananku. Kasihan? “Jangan dipaksain mas. Kasihan kamunya.” Pernikahan itu tidak mudah. Coba luruskan niatnya lagi. :))

Bahkan Allah lebih tahu waktu yang tepat itu kapan. Hanya butuh sabar dan syukur tanpa batas katanya @taufikaulia

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There are few people whom I really love, and still fewer of whom I think well. The more I see of the world, the more am I dissatisfied with it; and every day confirms my belief of the inconsistency of all human characters, and of the little dependence that can be placed on the appearance of merit or sense.

Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice (via books-n-quotes)

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Kita sudah cukup “matang” untuk tak perlu hanyut meratap tersebab urusan perasaan, sebab yang “hak” bagian kita hanyalah apa yang telah diikat dengan cara yang Tuhan anjurkan. Maka jika sesuatu benar-benar pergi sebelum waktunya tiba, barangkali ia hanyalah bayangan yang terlalu dini kita sebut nyata.

Sebaik-baik harapan tetaplah percaya bahwa Tuhan tetap peramu masa depan terbaik, kan? Apa yang perlu dikhawatirkan berlebih? (via jalansaja)

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Berjuang pada akhirnya bukan selalu tentang memenangkan. Tapi memaknai setiap proses yang dilalui.

Aku pernah berjuang, dan yang selama ini aku kira berjuang akan selalu berujung dengan mendapatkan apa yang diperjuangkan. Tapi nampaknya aku salah, beberapa kali berjuang, yang aku dapatkan tidak selalu sama dengan yang aku harapkan. Mungkin kiranya memang benar, pada akhirnya yang kita syukuri bukan terletak pada hasilnya. Tapi bagaimana kita menjalani proses perjuangannya dan bahagia dengan kenangan yang tercipta saat melakukannya.

Hujan Mimpi

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