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Your symptoms don’t have to perfectly match the stereotypical view of the disorder.

No, you don’t have to have extremely distinctive alters or switch 24/7 to have DID/OSDD/PDID.

No, you don’t have to feel empty and sad 24/7 to be considered to have depression.

No, you don’t have to be super clean, tidy, and “perfectionistic” to have OCD.

No, you don’t have to be hyperactive externally to match an ADHD diagnosis (there’s inattentive, quiet types too)

Most of all disorders live on a spectrum, and within that spectrum are several smaller spectrums for each symptom. Everyone poses their symptoms differently, and every experience is very unique. The overall “umbrella” of a disorder is just for: 1) insurance diagnostic reasons and 2) to better relate someone’s experience to a broader experience.

The experience and symptoms you have matter a lot more than the label.

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"A system can't self diagnose!" As a diagnosed system...what are you on about? Sure, they may not know exactly what they have, but I'm pretty sure they don't need a diagnosis to confirm they have other beings sharing their mind and body??? I knew I was a system far before I was given a diagnosis.

I'll say it however many times it takes to get it through the heads of the ignorant,

LET UNDIAGNOSED SYSTEMS BE SEEN FOR WHAT THEY ARE, A SYSTEM

( Note - I am a traumagenic system with a DID diagnosis, but I've done my research, and I believe endos if they fit diagnostic criteria are valid, cry about it, but there's evidence to suggest it's real.)

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Anyone else feel wildly underrepresented and ignored when videos and memes about plurality are only about DID, full switches, and just the most to the dot things about it? Like, yes, wonderful, that is some peoples' experiences, and that's okay, but there's nothing for anyone else.. Where's our OSDD rep? P-DID rep? Non-disordered plurality rep? Endogenic rep? Willogenic rep? Tulpa rep? Partial-switch rep? Barely switching rep? Median / Mediple rep? Introject rep?

Plurality is a spectrum and we only see videos, memes, and other rep for the systems who are DID, diagnosed, have full-switches, are traumagenic. Half the time, the 'rep' is just about how miserable it is being plural and about how scary being plural is (ex. "You could just switch out with someone who is harmful... at ANY POINT")... and then they proceed to act as if that plurality cannot exist outside of that standard that they themselves built out of the fear of not being the norm or for being wrong.

Its great that those with DID have a lot of rep but the rest of the community also would like some rep too.

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It is such a shame that the only representations of plurality you can find in horror is the evil alter trope, like not only does it stigmatize plurality but it’s also so overdone. Why not the horror of everyone around you seeing through you, only valuing the body not the people in it? That would be far more interesting than just “multiple people in one body so scary”.

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It is such a shame that the only representations of plurality you can find in horror is the evil alter trope, like not only does it stigmatize plurality but it’s also so overdone. Why not the horror of everyone around you seeing through you, only valuing the body not the people in it? That would be far more interesting than just “multiple people in one body so scary”.

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endo neutral btw! can't edit the desc for some reason

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a lot of posts about headspaces fall into a couple of categories: discourse (therapy device vs real emotional experience), advice (tips for building a headspace), or positivity. it leaves myself feeling a bit alienated as a system who doesnt have a headspace by choice.

i know for myself, the effort it takes to build one is better spent on other goals for my system. it sometimes feels like headspace is trotted around as the Main System Thing that every system should have and aspire to have, but i’ve picked up some other tips to cover some of the bases that a headspace also covers.

these tips might not be accessible for everyone and might not work for everyone, but these are tips i got from friends who are also systems and my therapist who is a system. take what you need and leave what you dont :)

having a safe irl space for parts to feel comfortable existing in

having safe irl hobbies for parts to use as outlets when needed

visualizing my parts existing in the space around me instead of in a headspace area, especially when trying to communicate with them

this isnt something i do, but having objects (stuffed animals, toys, etc.) that you can “project” your parts onto when communicating

having conversations with parts while looking in a mirror (helps with making responses feel less forced/coaxed out)

having mundane things for parts to do when they front to help them feel more comfortable

having many many many grounding objects/fidgets available for parts who may need help feeling attached to my current place in life

having safe system friends that make parts feel comfortable in self identifying and dont pressure us to introduce each part

having a journal/place to log memories when they appear. for us, it usually ends up being art rather than actual written journal entries

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Unreasonably long post about plural shit

So I'm gonna be honest and uncharacteristically vulnerable for a second because I think people might relate or have internalized similar things. My name is Pyre; at least that's what I'll be going by on Tumblr. I'm a fictive, some of you might've already seen me sign off on comments or something using my source name but I don't really care. Also I'm not Techno, he's open about his source. Thought I'd get that out of the way for those of you who know us. Pyre is a very Techno name though and I just stole it faster.

Anyway, to the point: We've seen posts shouting out systems/collectives who are "too similar," particularly median systems and such who experience a lot of internal fakeclaiming and imposter syndrome because of that. This is for the non-median systems who are "too similar," though. This is part a post to point out their validity, and part a post talking about my own experience so far with that.

In my source, I'm kind of a badass. I was admittedly an asshole, and very misguided, but at least within my canon (within the shows canon is questionable, we never did finish it rip) I was fighting for what I believed was right. Fighting for those who fall through the cracks for no good reason, for those that get hurt for things they can't control. If I were brought here, in this world, in my own body, I wouldn't afraid of shit. I'd gladly punt a transphobe. I wouldn't shy away from conflict; sometimes conflict is how progress happens.

In reality, I don't have my own body. And one of the things about our body is, well, its nervous system is wired to treat any small amount of conflict as a threat. We're incredibly risk averse, and this isn't a personality trait, it's built in. No one in our collective is likely to ever take an opportunity, no matter how well laid out, to call out someone being an asshole or have some witty comeback to a transphobe or whatever. We won't even think of one. That's wired into our nervous system, it's just how our body reacts to danger. We stumble over ourselves if we try to do anything other than freeze.

This isn't a fault. This wouldn't be overwritten by sheer personality and willpower in a "real system." Some systems, maybe, but not all. So for those of you who feel like you "should" be a certain way and just can't because it's built into the body you're in to act differently; you're not any lesser for it. Whether you're a fictive, sourced in some way, have a certain role that "should" be different, your personality is just like that, or some other reason I can't think of- don't be too hard on yourself for things you can't control. The body you're in just wants to protect you.

Even if sometimes, you (and I) strongly disagree with it on what exactly that means.

-Pyre

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answering a post you made abt endos. one second of research can prove that DID is caused by trauma. this is why people hate endos. they fake a serious disorder caused by childhood trauma. /nm just educating

Surely it can’t just stem from childhood trauma? What if someone experienced something super severe in their early adult years or something. Or if they’re neurodivergent, or suffer from psychosis. Can that still cause it? And if the person had experienced super severe trauma, why would you want to tell people about it. Idk maybe that’s just a me thing but if I expected mind altering trauma, I don’t think I would want to go around telling people that my DID stems from that. Keep in mind, I don’t have DID, so obviously I don’t know, but I feel like singularly, DID only stemming from one possible thing just doesn’t make too sense in the context of how our brains work. (/gen) (/nm)

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endo neutral btw! can't edit the desc for some reason

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i strongly suspect that your visual imagination (how well you can visualize an image in your mind) is directly correlated to how much of a headspace you have. This would give a reason for why headspaces vary so much, and why those with aphantasia (from what we’ve heard) tend to lack a headspace.

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I do think the avid presences of fake claiming and seeking who's "truly valid" is due to the stigmatization of DID combined with the added sense of constantly needing to label yourself. It creates a toxic space where anti endos who are diagnosed feel the need to constantly have to prove they're real and lash out at those they perceive are "giving the other side ammo".

DNIs and pro/anti dichotomy prevents any meaningful conversations, either through sub conscious isolation and implemented bias or conscious hostility. Especially seeing as the concept of Anti Endo, at its very core, is Anti Alters not formed from trauma-- or those who believe they're not formed from trauma. Such a stance is devisive and fakeclaiming by design. It sows distrust into the community by creating constant paranoia over who is "actually" experiencing what they are.

The youth of the community and lack of grassroots and open resources on plurality means it's harder for us to educate and unite. Younger people/New comers will mimic the behaviors of the "larger" community, especially since the topic of origins is niche outside of us. They will look for similar structures that other minority groups (LGBTQ+, POC communities) just don't have (proper definition of terms, role models, inclusive rhetoric) thus repeating the cycle.

Syscourse kills unity. Pro/Anti dichotomy kills unity. DNIs kill unity. Systems are being oppressed and our biggest enemy is ourselves.

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low headcount? COOL

high headcount? COOL

lots of fictives and introjects? COOL

lots of nonhuman alters? COOL

none? COOL

ur still a system ur still allowed to exist ur existence is not invalidated by how ur system presents

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i love you systems who call your alters "parts"

i love you systems who call your alters "alters"

i love you systems who call your alters "headmates"

i love you systems who call your alters "voices"

i love you systems who call your alters swears

i love you systems who call your alters things that are silly, weird, or normal

dont let anyone tell you what to call them <3

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if I hear "did is rare" [as an argument to why "you can't possibly have it !!"] one more time im going to start fakeclaiming redheads. I swear to god.

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It's okay to dress like yourself.

It's okay to have your own items.

It's okay to feel uncomfortable using other alters' items.

It's okay to feel uncomfortable pretending to be the system's singletsona.

It's okay to be a system.

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does anyone else with OCD find it literally impossible to accept anything unless they have a Dx of it?

i was told by therapists and a psychiatrist that i def have a few mental health disorfers that are unDxed, but since they aren't it rockets me into denial about having it and I adamantly refuse to believe I have anything wrong with me.

this has led to actual physical harm (albeit unintentionally), but this hasn't changed my POV on the issue. i even have a Dx of OCD anf I refuse to believe I have it about 70% of the time.

anyone have advice for "getting over" this?