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Oh my god I finally saw deadpool 2 and hdjwjcsjdj. THESE TWO ARE SO CUTE I AM SO HAPPY!!! Also, Domino was HOT AS F jxjdfjjsjdjfjdjdnjsud

She’s my girlfriend, you intolerant shit. Whoa! Pump the hate brakes, Fox & Friends! I’m just surprised anyone would date you, especially Pinkie Pie from my Little Pony.

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I’m just surprised anyone would date you… especially Pinkie Pie from My Little Pony.

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fantasy au!

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Ugh i gotta shower and go to bed but im in too much pain yo

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theory: the rest of the world in the Mad Max universe is totally fine and Australia just did that

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Everyone made such good points. <3 Feelin’ for y’all. That was such a good point about being able to explore same-sex attraction topics safely with m/m.

But yeah, definitely internalized misogyny too. Omg I remember feeling so much hate for random female characters for no reason when I was a kid. Lala from fuckin’ Teletubbies (wtf???), Sango from Inu Yasha, Sakura from Naruto, Misa from Death Note, etc.. Maybe Kairi from Kingdom Hearts, lmao. It didn’t help that male authors would intentionally write cemale characters as annoying/dumb/useless.

I’ve always felt way more shame in sharing my fav f/f pairings for some reason. Especially irl, even when I knew my then irl friends were into fandom stuff/m/m. It was way more “normal” to like and talk about m/m than f/f. Like, it felt way too... close to home and awkward?? Lmao, everyone in my old friend grp were always busy beating down their attraction to girls/women and telling themselves they’re totally, completely straight. At least a few of them got over that and came out as lesbian..

This is random, but in therapy, we talked about how a lot of people don’t know the difference between guilt and shame. Guilt is when you have done/do something that goes against your moral code. Shame is when you feel that you can’t show your true self; That others will judge you or reject you if do.

Idk, I never really thought about what “shame” really meant before. Maybe it’s an obviously identifiable feeling to everyone else, idk, but for me, I never realized how much I’m wrapped up in it all the time.

I still feel shame & embarrassment when I want to talk about my attraction to girls/women. Even in “safe” environments. Sometimes I even tell myself I don’t REALLY feel that way. (But I know I always have.) Which is crazy considering how passionate I am about lgbtq issues.. Being with a gal still seems like it’s in the realm of impossibility for a variety of reasons tbh.

I see a lot of posts raising the valid counter argument that the usual explanation of why f/f is so rare in fandom (female characters generally being both less numerous and not written as well) can’t explain the situation fully bc people will go ham over male characters that appeared in the background for 4 seconds and all that.

And idk how common this really is, but I do wonder whether a contributing factor then is that a lot of fandom is made up of (especially young) wlw who are struggling with some internalised lesbophobia. Because shipping m/m pairings can be a method for gay women to explore their sexuality from a safe distance, but f/f pairings can seem very personal in a way that can be scary at first when you’re still struggling to repress those feelings in yourself?

Like I remember the first time I got really invested in an f/f pairing was before I realised I was a lesbian, and I knew I experienced same gender attraction but I had never been with someone who wasn’t a man irl or really allowed myself to envision myself being in a relationship like that. But then exploring it with an f/f ship involving characters I related to did hit me harder and did feel more personal and more like… the stuff i was trying not to think about?

And it did take a lot of time to overcome my internalised lesbophobia to get comfortable enough to allow myself to ship things without the safety and distance that I was used to having with m/m ships.

And like in a similar vein I think where society makes it so hard for us to understand or even conceptualise same gender attraction with women that might also make f/f pairings feel difficult to relate to, as well as the embarrassment/shame/etc. that we have to overcome before allowing ourselves to relate at all?

Anyways….. I don’t really know where I was going in this post other than trying to get these thoughts out a little but it is something I think abt sometimes.

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why are we still here? just to suffer? every day i get emails

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DIRECT ACTION

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anyway, the 8 hour workday and the concept of “8 hours work, 8 hours rest, 8 hours recreation” is outdated and based on the lives and needs of married straight men who had a wife at home doing all the unpaid domestic labor, childcare, and elderly care. We should all be fighting for a 4 hour workday tbh

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the one problem i have with people my age and younger is that a lot of us do not have hands on hobbies. like i have spoken to so many people my age who go to work, go to school and then fuck around on their phone/computer for hours and then ???????? like no wonder ur depressed and have low confidence in urself. u need to get ur hands on something, feed those dopamine receptors! learn how to play guitar, garden, scrapbook, fucking make model trains. i don’t give a shit, MAKE SOMETHING!!

it feels better than drugs when i finish making a thing—and then show it off or gift it.

and then so people my age say to me ‘well—i can’t draw/paint/knit/etc. like you can. my stuff would be terrible.’ yeah, well duh—a part of developing skill is sucking at something and then practicing it over and over and over again until you suck less. u’ll have a hard time feeling lonely or bored when you can’t stop thinking abt a technique you want to try or something you want to make for someone else. making things has SAVED MY LIFE. it gave me a reason to keep living day after day when i wanted to die.

making things improved my generational relationships (when i worked for the newspaper i would talk to customers abt jamming recipes or cross-stitch, one of my grandmas always gives me pattern books and tell me abt when she knitted things for mom, my other grandma is giving me a wedding quilt that HER grandma gave her 50 years ago because she knows i will appreciate it). it also got me likeminded friends who also make things.

take a ceramics class! pick up water colors, bake cakes! learn to work on cars! make soap. DO SOMETHING THAT DOESN’T INVOLVE STARING AT A SCREEN.

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of course the first ever sin was a woman eating