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very odd to look for kindness in the face of a colonizer

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🔥 Ireland

Ireland is like Mecca for white leftists because they’re too proud to openly like China and Latin American countries are too complex for them to fully understand or relate to.

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Diversity win! Ancestral curse recognises non-biological parenthood!

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i just got this wrong number text and was like “that can’t possibly be a real name” and i googled it and was led to bobbi babalooney’s website which autoplays the single best and most ridiculous jingle i have ever heard and it drove me to actual tears please go listen to it and have your whole life changed by bobbi babalooney’s hype man

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i feel like succumbing.. so much of what i feel and how i am now is because of the violence embedded within the institution of international adoption.. anger issues impulsivity disconnectedness from others disconnectedness from myself and my own emotions, not knowing who i am or where i come from, no roots, no direction.. and everytime my behaviors or thoughts or words reflect this upbringing im ashamed all over again. i feel like succumbing to the shell they think i am. i dont want to continue. i dont want to die either but i want things to stop being so hard. for all of us

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"You survive this and in some terrible way, which I suppose no one can ever describe, you are compelled, you are corralled, you are bullwhipped into dealing with whatever it is that hurt you. And what is crucial here is that if it hurt you, that is not what’s important. Everybody’s hurt. What is important, what corrals you, what bullwhips you, what drives you, torments you, is that you must find some way of using this to connect you with everyone else alive. This is all you have to do it with. You must understand that your pain is trivial except insofar as you can use it to connect with other people’s pain; and insofar as you can do that with your pain, you can be released from it, and then hopefully it works the other way around too; insofar as I can tell you what it is to suffer, perhaps I can help you to suffer less."

- James Baldwin, The Artist's Struggle for Integrity

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Andrés Ríos.

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painting this on the ceiling above my bed so it's the first thing i see upon waking in the morning and the last thing i see before falling asleep at night

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Ngl downplaying your needs and wants into oblivion is an easy way to farm people who only want you to be a mannequin with preprogrammed responses built in

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literally insidious bc like well my dad does have anger issues and so do i but we are not genetically related so that means it was learned.. this does raise the question of how much credit we give "nature" as opposed to nurture (learned behaviors). I think a lot more of our behaviors are learned but it is within the best interest of like the state and apparatuses of power to say that they are inherited and innate and unavoidable

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for the thesis can have a brief section that discusses children’s rights in general and the flawed idea of letting the parents be in charge of “best interests of the child”, children as an extension of the parents,

(cw: sexual assault) the pedophile -as it is understood outside of academic circles- is a mythical creature. the idea that a complete stranger who kidnaps and sexually assaults kids is their biggest threat is absolutely insane; not one case of CSA (child sexual assault) in a hundred looks like that. CSA is committed almost uniformly by adults in a preestablished position of authority (such as family, family friends, clergy, or teachers) and in a way that a victim who doesn't know what sexual assault looks like will be left unsure what happened to them. without knowing concretely how sex and sexuality works, would you be able to tell the difference between molestation and the various other forms of unwanted physical touch and abuse kids are regularly subjected to? would it even seem that different? but parenthood and the submission of youth to adults as institutions are threatened by the reality of CSA. adults need to justify their ownership of children through an imagined outside threat constantly held at bay through their diligence. the truth - that putting yourself in such a position of authority over children directly enables abuse (including sexual abuse) - is thrown aside.

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"In the ‘60s one either believed that America was being greened or that America was being morally defoliated. You either believed that this was the dawning of the age of Aquarius or you believed that we were on the eve of destruction. I sometimes think that the most malignant aspect of the period was the extent to which everyone dealt exclusively in symbols. Certain artifacts were understood to denote something other than themselves, something supposedly abstract; some positive or negative moral value. And whether the artifact was positively or negatively charged depended not on any objective reality at all but on where you stood, where the polarization had thrown you. Marijuana was a symbol. Long hair was of course a symbol, and so was short hair. Natural foods were a symbol – rice, seaweed, raw milk, the whole litany. I found myself in situations during the late ‘60s where my refusal to give my baby unpasteurized milk was construed as evidence that I must be “on the other side.” Probably an undercover. In fact, it meant nothing except that I had grown up around farms and I had known children who got tuberculosis and brucellosis from drinking raw milk. But this was a period in which everything was understood to have some moral freight, some meaning beyond itself. And in fact, nothing did; that was the peculiarity of the decade. In a way it was very touching, this whole society so starved for meaning that it made totems out of meaningless artifacts. The whole country was like a cargo cult. But it was also very destructive. Because nothing meant what it was supposed to mean."

Joan Didion's 1975 Commencement Address at UC Riverside

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looking for evidence or any studies on the effects of foot binding over generations. this article talks about adaptations over one lifetime but i have to believe generations of footbinding have an epigenetic effect..

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for my timeline

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(cw: sexual assault) the pedophile -as it is understood outside of academic circles- is a mythical creature. the idea that a complete stranger who kidnaps and sexually assaults kids is their biggest threat is absolutely insane; not one case of CSA (child sexual assault) in a hundred looks like that. CSA is committed almost uniformly by adults in a preestablished position of authority (such as family, family friends, clergy, or teachers) and in a way that a victim who doesn't know what sexual assault looks like will be left unsure what happened to them. without knowing concretely how sex and sexuality works, would you be able to tell the difference between molestation and the various other forms of unwanted physical touch and abuse kids are regularly subjected to? would it even seem that different? but parenthood and the submission of youth to adults as institutions are threatened by the reality of CSA. adults need to justify their ownership of children through an imagined outside threat constantly held at bay through their diligence. the truth - that putting yourself in such a position of authority over children directly enables abuse (including sexual abuse) - is thrown aside.