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the person i immediately at the start of the semester recognized as a boymoder in my media project group came to class today in girl clothes i have never felt more vindicated in my whole life. very cute girl clothes too it was crazy. huge leap from baggy jeans and hoodie to short shorts w stockings and hair tied up with a ribbon. so extremely moe + cultural victory we cant stop winning folks

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poor Bocchi

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lantern miku

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Having fun with some outfits for my trans OC

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He thinks he’s all that

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they need to invent a way for trans girls to cuddle each other over the internet

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um…………………

Who else?

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so many of the transfems i know spent their time pre-transition performing a kind of lifelong exercise in self-deprivation, the goal of which was to find out exactly how little a person needed to live. they starved themselves, dressed carelessly, shunned friends, and hollowed themselves out so as not to be burdens on anyone but themselves.

i see it now, too, in the girls around me. i'll ask if they want care – a home-cooked meal, relaxed company, sex without the expectation of reciprocation – and they say no, no, thank you, i don't need it; what would you like, what do you want, because in their head they're still doing that awful calculus, still training themselves to disappear in the eyes of the people around them.

i don't think i'd have died without transition – not in the conventional sense, at least – but to take that leap, i had to stop thinking of myself as a human experiment in fuel-efficient living and start nurturing the anemic, atrophied flame of desire in my heart. i had to learn to eat well, to exercise, to style myself beautiful, but harder than that, i had to learn to ask the people around me to work on my behalf in order to enrich my life and give me the things i wanted.

and i did it; i learned. and it was agony, but courage is a muscle you can train, and every day i get better at accepting gifts with the hungry gratitude i never learned in my years and years as a sad, scared, lonely boy.

so be patient with the trans girls in your life. better than that: be proactive, attentive, generous; be forceful, if you have to, and learn to distinguish real discomfort from the terrified reflex of self-denial that so many of us once learned to rely on.

and if you are so lucky as to love a trans girl, you must insist upon her. you must insist upon her happiness, her comfort, her pleasure, and her rest, because she may still not yet know how to make those demands for herself. if you can devote any amount of energy to becoming an engine that nurtures the flame of even a single tgirl then there is a place for you in trans heaven, which as far as i'm concerned is the only one worth going to

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Sharing is caring <3

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tetoteto!!

why teto and baguettes

i eat them! (i eat them)

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hi! this'll be my first ever post on tumblr,,I posted on tiktok(the_epicfruit), pinterest, and instagram

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Surely if I keep spiraling and avoiding the mirror the facial hair will just go away on its own

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"Would you ever consider visiting Blackrock?" "Not recently, it has always had a bad reputation." "Though, I could go with you sometime."

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little animated doodle of tem WoL (ffxiv)

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"Isn't it exhausting being someone you're not?"

"No! Isn't it exhausting being the same?"