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So, you know how certain Christian missionaries are trained to act in a very obnoxious way, so that most people they preach to will reject them outright, so they feel like the world hates them for being Christian and they can only be friends with fellow Christians? You know that thing?

I think as activists, we sometimes need to stop and ask ourselves whether we're acting like those missionaries. I think this type of behavior is a little more ingrained into our society than some of us realize, and some of us have internalized it without realizing what it's actually meant to do.

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money is such an underrated accessibility option.

like people want to think any disabled person who is after money is morally suspect some way, because they're not asking for "treatments" or "accommodations" like a lot of our issues can be fixed way more easily with money. can't drive? paying for a taxi is often one of the more accessible alternatives. can't cook? you can pay more to have prepared food delivered to you. food restrictions? that food straight up costs more money. can't clean? you can pay for someone to do that. house inaccessible? having (lots) of money can help with that, you get the gist.

having money won't make us abled. it also won't stop our symptoms from being distressing, painful, or debilitating. but there's a huge gap in experience between the average poor disabled person and someone who's actually wealthy. you can buy your way out of some of the difficult situations most disabled people are left to rot in. wanting money, needing money, asking for money is pretty natural when it's such a useful tool. why get so weird about disabled people wanting money like i'm pretty sure everyone wants money anyway

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"nonbinary people derailing a post"

>look inside

>post that should've included nonbinary people in the first place

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they are estrogen and testosterone. they are estrogenizing and androgenizing hrt. stop fucking calling them transfem and transmasc hrt. stop fucking calling them mtf and ftm hrt. stop fucking calling them feminizing and masculinizing hrt. stop going out of your way to exclude non-binary and intersex people.

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I feel like... hmm. There's a thing I read ages ago that said something like. White people who are a part of otherwise marginalized groups (queer, poor, disabled, etc) have this subconscious sense of. Entitlement, maybe? Entitlement to being privileged, which has been stolen from them because of the ways they're marginalized. And waaay too many of these people envision social justice as being about "reclaiming" this white privilege that they believe they're entitled to, rather than abolishing the concept of privilege altogether. That the problem they see is not that privilege exists, but that their fellow whites aren't extending the hand of privilege to them that they're supposed to for being white. And this doesn't tend to be as big a problem for PoC, bc being a PoC you aren't born into white privilege the way white marginalized people are. There isn't a sense of privilege having been "stolen" from you by the other *bad* whites, because you never had it in the first place.

Ofc this may be wildly inaccurate, and as I'm white myself and have no experience being a PoC or working within activist circles centered primarily on race and racism, I have no idea if this is a similar issue there but for, like, gender or w/e. But having spent a long-ass time on Tumblr, I do feel like it rings kind of true in some sense, and I think a significant chunk of the shittiness around here stems from this kind of attitude ngl. (I wish I could find the actual source for this tho bc it was worded way better and I hate taking words out of people's mouths but tumblr's search function is a dumpster fire)

A lot of otherwise privileged queer people in general have a hard time reconciling their relative privilege with their status (often newfound, as they are just coming out) as a marginalized person due to their queerness. This, also, has been a black talking point for a while.

The more multiply marginalized someone is, the more likely they are to want to start breaking down the system instead of making power grabs for what they can still benefit from. This is why you see a lot of the white allies of black movements are usually also poor, disabled, lower class, non-English as a first language, or occupying one of the "white but on thin ice" ethnicities and nationalities (Irish, Italian, Jewish, etc). Most of these folks were willing to become allies because they saw their struggle alongside black people's, and chose to fight against the system rather than turn on their fellow human beings for the offered entry into whiteness. It's also why those within those demographics who did choose assimilation into whiteness for the power and benefits see those allies as race traitors and try to remove their status of whiteness from them.

It is easier, of course, for other people of color to form coalitions between each other because that sense of white privilege is not in the way. People of color can be and sometimes even are still racist towards each other- antiblackness is everywhere, and I've seen sinophobia and anti-Latino and anti-indigenous sentiments and islamophobia and antisemitism within the black community. But even while racial relations may be fraught and full of tension, we also have plenty of evidence and examples of people of color reaching across race lines to help each other when push comes to shove.

A lot of the black theory I talk about, while counted as *black* specifically, came from Native and Latina women. Some, even, from Asian women. And a few points even from white women who broke from the white feminist movement when they saw that said movement was abandoning their sisters over race. It was during a time that if you hung out with black people, the blackness would rub off on you, and you were treated far worse by everyone in your social and political circle. The nonblack women who reached out a hand to help knew that, and wanted to help anyway.

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that name isnt "literally unpronounceable" its just not english and im going to fucking kill you

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normalise saying ''what the fuck is wrong with you'' to mean people

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I've talked a lot about the night walks I took in college to people close to me. I went to school in a small town in ohio, and liked to stay for the January term. It was so cold. It was so dark, but I could always see from the stars and the moon. I walked past cornfields, then again when they were covered in snow. I picked a direction and walked across cracked pavements, past decrepit houses, till the lights of the town faded into the distance. I walked until I saw the sun rise one time, and had breakfast and coffee alone with a book. I went hours without seeing a car drive by. I stared out at fields of snow and wondered how long it would take to find my body, and decided to keep walking. I think a part of me is still chasing what the air tasted like, that night.

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naked: normal naked

naked with shoes on: super naked

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"I'm just a girl☺️🥰💖💞💅🌺🌷🦄" when you were eight and the teacher said she needed some strong boys to carry something you used to be furious, and when you convinced them to let you help, you carried twice as many chairs as the boys with the righteous anger of a girl who knew she was just as capable as them. Where did that go?

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if you just register for a dysautonomia international medical conference. and you just let the videos play. and you even just half pay attention. you will gain the ability to change and save other people's lives.

so many chronically ill people only get diagnosed when someone other than their doctors say, "hey, have you heard of postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome? it is really common, treatable, but it only shows up on specific tests."

or "hey, I know you have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, have you had autonomic testing or testing for non length dependent small fiber neuropathy? 30-40% of people with fibromyalgia have small fiber neuropathy, and a lot of that is the non length dependent pattern, which not a lot of doctors know about."

or "hey, you know how you have weird allergy issues? have you ever heard of mast cell activation syndrome? around 17% of people have mast cell issues, and they can cause debilitating symptoms all over the body until treated."

there are so many debilitating chronic illnesses that are EXTREMELY treatable, but only show up on specific tests. a lot of people with these conditions test as 'healthy' otherwise. and so fucking many of these kinds of conditions are presented at dysautonomia international in presentations that are easy to understand.

these medical conditions are everywhere, and have been around forever. and covid-19 has multiplied how many people have these, around the world.

everyone has an autonomic nervous system, and it breaks very easily. dysautonomia can happen alongside countless other medical conditions. every chronically ill person needs to be asking themselves if they might have some form of autonomic dysfunction. because chances are pretty good that they do.

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its always been surprisingly effective to look at someone being an asshole online and respond with "this is an obvious troll/ragebait" . because if youre right then youve just called them out accurately and you can move on with your life. and if youre wrong then you still kinda win because nothing gets someones goat quite like than having their argument dismissed. like sorry dude you sound so cartoonishly evil that i have assumed youre simply faking it to get a reaction. i dont believe you believe this. no normal person thinks this way. bye.

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I get that sex and drugs are fun but even im like. at least have a 3rd thing. at least one more hobby. you can have a 3rd hobby. this isnt a purity thing this is a some of u are fucking boring thing.

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all the “peer pressure is bad” education we give kids is practically useless because all it cares about is telling them that Drugs Are Evil rather than the much more useful lesson of ‘the person who responds to you saying you don’t drink by telling you they’ll find a way to get you to is also going to be shitty about all your other boundaries’.

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I think more media should narratively punish parents for not listening to their kids and specifically I think it should punish them in cruel and terrifying ways. I want real life parents to go through life with a healthy fear that if they ignore their children's boundaries a witch might cook and eat them

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btw it is never "detransition" when someone who formerly identified as binary trans comes out as nonbinary. you cannot "detransition" into being nonbinary, you are not a single bit less trans than you were when you identified as binary. someone figuring out they are nonbinary is always cause for celebration, and never cause for shaming or accusing them of "abandoning" binary trans people.