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Sky above, sand below, peace within.

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do you do mains ands/or exclusives?

meh not really? it's not really something i latched onto in the rpc and to be honest i don't think i'd be comfortable using it? idk. i haven't really thought about it. feel free to message me about it and we can talk more maybe??

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ofmymuses​:

reblog & bold which connections you’d like for your muse !

PLATONIC

acquaintances | best friends | friends through a mutual friend | in the same squad of friends | in a current falling out | enemies turned friends | met recently | family friends | internet friends | pen pals | coworkers | good influence | bad influence | old friends | unlikely friends | childhood friends | ride or die | party buddies | gym buddies

FAMILIAL

blood siblings | step - siblings | half - siblings | foster siblings | adopted siblings | cousins | cousins who are more like siblings | cousins on bad terms | extended family | long - lost relative | owners of the same pet(s) | sibling - like bond | parental figure | twins | twins separated at birth

ROMANTIC

current significant other | spouse | divorced | polyamorous | high school sweethearts | toxic relationship | exes | exes on good terms | exes on bad terms | friends with benefits | forbidden lovers | first love | fake lovers | mutual crush | one - sided crush | long distance relationship | awkward one night stand | friendzoned | secret lovers | flings | exes with lingering feelings

NEGATIVE

enemies | frenemies | friends turned enemies | lovers turned enemies | rivals | bullies | virtual enemy | enemies with sexual tension | fighting over the same person | mutual dislike | mutual annoyance | jealousy | enemies because of a misunderstanding | enemies because of a lie | “friends” who bicker constantly | enemies who try to be friends but it never works

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it’s only fair that since i slept through the first 30 minutes of a very important work meeting, i miss the first 30 minutes of the LI s8 finale for *checks notes* another important work meeting 😔

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~ Beautiful Magnolias swaying in a fountain

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hi ess, i can’t help it but i always feel suckish whenever i come back after a hiatus :/ like all the friends i had here before are part of new groups now or there’s a feeling where i’ve sorta been replaced and i don’t really have the interactions levels i had before. it just feels awful but isk i notice that you always seem to have a decent amount of people who still interact with you whenever you end a hiatus. how do you do it?? what are your tips for not feeling this gross sucky feeling?

lmao i’m so sorry this has been sitting in my inbox since august OF LAST YEAR and i’ve vaguely answered it here and there over the last few months with the intention of maybe one day giving you a real, proper answer but like

i genuinely don’t think i could sum it up any better than the last few tags from this post

alt text* + a longer, more in-depth answer below the cut!

building genuine connections and friendships with your mutuals is gonna mean so much more than only caring about them for their writing/muses if a sustainable friendship is what you’re looking for?? being able to have ic/dash/writing/rp interactions that vibe well and can pick up again after long periods of time is just a byproduct of being friends ooc, tbh. 

but i mean... elaborating on that and to more specifically answer your second question, i would also say to set boundaries (if you haven’t already!!) or even healthier boundaries between yourself and being online, or between yourself and the people you write with. like if you’re feeling these feelings you describe of being replaced or, god FORBID, being jealous that people you thought were your friends are now... getting along better with other people or are doing what’s best for themselves and building spaces where they can be more comfortable.......... maybe you should reevaluate whether being in indie rp/writing space (which is very fluid and always subject to tons of new relationships or drifting-aparts) is the best space for you and your emotional/mental wellbeing.

tying it all together: when you view your mutuals only as transaction machines who are there to just write with you or talk about your muse(s)/plot(s) with you and you’re quantifying your relationships with your “friends” based on in-character things? especially if you’ve been the one gone for a while on hiatus and expect people to still want to connect with you (for ic things) on the same level when you return?? i’d very kindly ask you to reevaluate how you view and cultivate your rp space and expectations for it bc. that does not sound healthy NOR does it sound like a good time for anyone. in my very honest, very straightforward opinion.

also, if you’ve been on hiatus and not keeping in touch with anyone while you’ve been away, it’s normal for people to drift apart or lose connection for a little bit. how much are you willing to invest into rebuilding and re-sparking that friendship? if you haven’t even tried reaching out to people yet and are jumping to conclusions about being replaced (which, to an extent, could be valid), then i think you’re underestimating the effect even a “hi hello i missed being on here and missed you!” can do to kickstart that reconnecting process.

anyway i really hope this message somehow finds its way to you, anon, or that my two cents is of use to someone else who’s lurking but like. yeah. sending this out into the void and hoping it does what it needs to do!! message me off anon any time or just chat me up if we’re mutuals tbh. my discord is esscapekey#3726

anyway i really hope all of this isn’t just me blowing smoke up my own ass or sounding like i’m the know-it-all/fix-it-all go-to for this topic specifically bc i really am not but. best believe if u approach me and sincerely ask me for advice then yeah sure absolutely you bet i will do that to the best of my ability.

*photo text:

@anon asking how to retain a community after being away or on hiatus for so long— this is how!!

develop genuine ooc friends with ur mutuals!!! care abt their interests off the dash and outside of their muses!!!

tbh if you only care about their muses it is not a sustainable friendship or writing relationship at all!!!! imho!!!!!

anyway sorry i was going through my inbox and saw an ask from *checks notes* a million years ago (*lmao once again.......... i am so sorry)

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i’ve sent out memes/starters for everyone who liked the post; if, for whatever reason, you liked the post and didn’t receive anything in your inbox, please let me know!

and please feel free to message me for more info about potential verses/AUs we can play around with, too ✨

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hi ess, i can’t help it but i always feel suckish whenever i come back after a hiatus :/ like all the friends i had here before are part of new groups now or there’s a feeling where i’ve sorta been replaced and i don’t really have the interactions levels i had before. it just feels awful but isk i notice that you always seem to have a decent amount of people who still interact with you whenever you end a hiatus. how do you do it?? what are your tips for not feeling this gross sucky feeling?

lmao i’m so sorry this has been sitting in my inbox since august OF LAST YEAR and i’ve vaguely answered it here and there over the last few months with the intention of maybe one day giving you a real, proper answer but like

i genuinely don’t think i could sum it up any better than the last few tags from this post

alt text* + a longer, more in-depth answer below the cut!

building genuine connections and friendships with your mutuals is gonna mean so much more than only caring about them for their writing/muses if a sustainable friendship is what you’re looking for?? being able to have ic/dash/writing/rp interactions that vibe well and can pick up again after long periods of time is just a byproduct of being friends ooc, tbh. 

but i mean... elaborating on that and to more specifically answer your second question, i would also say to set boundaries (if you haven’t already!!) or even healthier boundaries between yourself and being online, or between yourself and the people you write with. like if you’re feeling these feelings you describe of being replaced or, god FORBID, being jealous that people you thought were your friends are now... getting along better with other people or are doing what’s best for themselves and building spaces where they can be more comfortable.......... maybe you should reevaluate whether being in indie rp/writing space (which is very fluid and always subject to tons of new relationships or drifting-aparts) is the best space for you and your emotional/mental wellbeing.

tying it all together: when you view your mutuals only as transaction machines who are there to just write with you or talk about your muse(s)/plot(s) with you and you’re quantifying your relationships with your “friends” based on in-character things? especially if you’ve been the one gone for a while on hiatus and expect people to still want to connect with you (for ic things) on the same level when you return?? i’d very kindly ask you to reevaluate how you view and cultivate your rp space and expectations for it bc. that does not sound healthy NOR does it sound like a good time for anyone. in my very honest, very straightforward opinion.

also, if you’ve been on hiatus and not keeping in touch with anyone while you’ve been away, it’s normal for people to drift apart or lose connection for a little bit. how much are you willing to invest into rebuilding and re-sparking that friendship? if you haven’t even tried reaching out to people yet and are jumping to conclusions about being replaced (which, to an extent, could be valid), then i think you’re underestimating the effect even a “hi hello i missed being on here and missed you!” can do to kickstart that reconnecting process.

anyway i really hope this message somehow finds its way to you, anon, or that my two cents is of use to someone else who’s lurking but like. yeah. sending this out into the void and hoping it does what it needs to do!! message me off anon any time or just chat me up if we’re mutuals tbh. my discord is esscapekey#3726

anyway i really hope all of this isn’t just me blowing smoke up my own ass or sounding like i’m the know-it-all/fix-it-all go-to for this topic specifically bc i really am not but. best believe if u approach me and sincerely ask me for advice then yeah sure absolutely you bet i will do that to the best of my ability.

*photo text:

@anon asking how to retain a community after being away or on hiatus for so long— this is how!!

develop genuine ooc friends with ur mutuals!!! care abt their interests off the dash and outside of their muses!!!

tbh if you only care about their muses it is not a sustainable friendship or writing relationship at all!!!! imho!!!!!

anyway sorry i was going through my inbox and saw an ask from *checks notes* a million years ago (*lmao once again.......... i am so sorry)

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truly sorry for the person i will become once love island ends and Sports become my entire personality

truly sorry for the person i will become once hockey season ends and love island becomes my entire personality

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“You can die for it— an idea, or the world. People have done so, brilliantly, letting their small bodies be bound to the stake, creating an unforgettable fury of light. (…)”

— Mary Oliver, from Sunrise in “New And Selected Poems: Volume One”

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who has the most romantic mutuals and why is it me !!!! 😩🙏🏼

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the mun and the muse. ✨ ——— picrew link.

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You had hardly described our meeting in Berlin when I was already dreaming of it…we weren’t walking arm in arm, admittedly, but we were closer to each other than when people are arm in arm. Oh God, it’s difficult to describe on paper my invention for not walking arm in arm, not being conspicuous, but still walking very close to you…

But wait, I’ll draw it. Walking arm in arm is like this. But we were walking like this.

Franz Kafka, Letter to Felice Bauer, February 11th/12th, 1913

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“the twins”

broke: fred and george

woke: ✨💖🥰 padma and parvati 🥰💖✨

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Flowers for Veronica, Los Angeles

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thinking i will start writing my cho-adapted/inspired/etc etc oc character off of tumblr, please hmu on discord if you’re interested in a bit of trial run over there or something idk @ esscapekey#3726

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Daniel Oyegade: This is life not heaven, 2020