#Cw: catheterization

[raelemond]

Your sex toy tierlist got me thinking, I scored on 17 items but only because I genuinely have no idea where you even FIND the kinds of sex "toys" I want to try, let alone body safe ones, so as a humble small town kinkster I ask: where on EARTH do you find things like catheters and shock devices and how do you use them safely?

thanks for asking! don't worry, the vast majority of respondents scored between 2 and 8 toys, you're doing great! I'm going to split this ask up into two, so people can filter as desired, given the potential for squick around both of these types of play!

for various legal reasons, I'm going to remind people that this is for educational purposes only. what you do with the information is your responsibility.

for catheters, scalpels, medical staplers/staples, vet wrap, needles, etc, your best resources are:

Medical supply stores

Veterinarian supply stores

Mr. S Leather (they ship!)

Ebay/Amazon (your milage may vary, however, so I would be careful here)

there are a lot of different kinds of catheters, but the two major ones I'm familiar with are the self-insert (intermittent or straight) types which don't have a balloon and are basically straight pieces of plastic ghat go into the urethra, and Foley catheters which do, so they can stay in place without having hands on the outside of the catheter. I'll point you to medical toys dot com, which has a how-to for that play for those with penises, though unfortunately it doesn't use affirming language.

for people with vaginas and/or shorter urethras, I'd take a look here. (same problem as before, it doesn't use affirming language). I also talked to a nurse who said that the hardest thing about catheterizing patients with vaginas is that it's hard to find the urethra; also, age and weight influence this too. the older and/or heavier a patient, the harder it is to find. there are a few different positions you can have people get into to effectively catheterize them, so you might need to experiment!

trans people who are post-bottom surgery, and anyone who's had significant surgery actually, have probably had the experience of having a catheter placed and removed--but this is definitely a question to field to your doctor, or a friendly MD; same goes for intersex people. (I'm going to see if I can ask any of the community nurses or MDs what they'd do and report back, but they might not have experience--for nurse and MD followers who want to, please feel free to chime in)

make sure to pay attention to sanitation, and don't leave a catheter in for too long for play; you're always risking infection with something like this.

[almostfini]

My disability story pt 1/?

Check out the CWs in the tags

I was born with problems. Some of it comes down to genetics. It probably didn't help that my mother's only prenatal care was from an untrained midwife. I had problems with my lungs when I was born but my parents waited 3 days to take me to a doctor.

I always say I was one of those sickly Dickensian children. I caught certain respiratory viruses easily and older than most children. When I was 4 I was hospitalized for dehydration following a stomach bug. I have a clear memory of being rushed into my pediatrician's office while vomiting over my father’s shoulder, seeing my sippy cup fall to the pavement as my grip became too weak. My mother told me years later that they catheterized me in the hospital and I screamed in pain.

A few months later I started having agonizing pains in my legs. I remember repeated visits to the children's hospital for testing. I was so small they had a hard time finding a vein for the dye for my bone scan, leading to multiple sessions of sobbing while a nurse jammed a butterfly needle into my wrist. Then I had to lie still in a machine by myself for an eternity. Or at least long enough to watch most of the Monsters Inc tape we brought each time and played on a tiny box TV in the corner.

In the end they concluded it was just growing pains. I gained a ton of medical trauma and my parents decided this was proof I was just overdramatic. They would bring it up the rest of my life with them as a reason to deny me medical care or as evidence I was too fragile to do something (like attend school). My asthma, which was beginning to show symptoms, wouldn't be diagnosed until I was 13 because my parents believed I was faking for attention.

Sometime that same year when I was 4 (probably after all the tests) I broke my collarbone falling off a bouncy horse onto concrete. My mother didn't believe I was truly injured until the next morning when I refused to lift my arm to get dressed. She only took it seriously after she forced my arm up and I screamed.