#I refuse to be roped in

[rheakira]

I've come to temporarily break my hiatus to bring up something deeply important. Because after a recent event, if I have to go another day without talking about it, I don't know what I'll do.

Fandoms have an enormous issue when it comes to bigotry and people feeling comfortable enough to be openly bigoted.

And I want to make it clear: everyone is capable of it. In fact, most people do it more often than they don't. But because this strange myth has been built up that if you aren't "blatantly saying slurs" or "killing others" it can't possibly be bigotry, we have done nothing but become dangerous behind closed doors.

If your friend has odd beef with a person of color in the fandom and holds them to standards they don't hold their white friends to, that is bigotry. If your friend feels some sort of way about the trans person in your friend group and tries to come up with reasons for why they specifically can't stay, that is also bigotry. If your group insists that a person with a personality disorder is making it up just for attention and uses that as a reason for why they can't be around them, that is bigotry as well.

I've never been upfront about it because... why do I, as a human being, need to be upfront about my identity when people randomly decide what I am? But I am in fact a person of color who is queer and disabled. Whenever I join a fandom group that is mostly white people, I am liked until this is discovered. And then I watch as people get brutal about things I do or say. Things that they don't do to other people in the group, and I also watch as they take my words and either twist them for convenience or ruin my reputation for it.

As a marginalized person, both in fandom and out, you are held to a unique standard that does not apply to other human beings around you. It makes doing what you love very difficult, because unfortunately as a marginalized person, people will always subconsciously side with the person trying to oppress or attack you. This has happened to me my entire life, from school to work spaces to even internet spaces claiming to be safe places.

People will say that they care about you and like you and even form a friendly bond with you, but the moment a person of privilege decides they do not like you very much, they can and will side with the other person even without proof of their issues with you. It's exhausting and ruins lives in places that should be fun and safe.

I am on my umpteenth experience with this exact cycle and I would be lying if I said it didn't make me feel like I couldn't live or breath in places I should be allowed to be involved in. It's a very real problem that refuses to end because no one has the courage to challenge it. I am speaking not only on my own experiences, but for the many other people of color or queers or disabled people who simply cannot join these so called "safe spaces" because of our identities conflicting with people who have been taught that we are lesser and not worth love or care.

If this is a problem you face, please know that I see you and I love you. It's hard to keep surviving in a world that wants to hurt you and leaves you abandoned and alone. I want you to know that the world is scary, but we all exist. You should be allowed to experience joy and fun without feeling like you're being suffocated and wanting to die.

You matter. The people around you that make you feel like you don't are nothing by comparison. You matter and I truly hope that we'll one day find each other and become the safe space that we deserve.

The marginalized people in your fandom are more important than your fictional characters and plotlines that you put above us. We're here and we're not leaving. Learn to live with us and protect us.

If we're truly your friends, you would care when your privileged "friends" want to remove us.

Additionally, please do not take this rant and make it only about white people who are part of these marginalized categories. This is a post about EVERYONE. Including the people of color around you. Do not remove us from this conversation. Care about ALL OF US if you support this at all. Thank you.

[reel-by-reel]

yippee

[trebuchet151]

I am so very late to the "Sidestep wearing their partner's merch/underwear" trend started by the lovely @kidhellion

Behold: some hypothetical domestic future where Corey can be soft and steal ALL their girlfriend's clothes

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[ropes3amthoughts]

😱😱😱

[saturnniidae]

I genuinely loathe the prosthesis Hiccup had for like five years bc it's seemingly just held on by. Rope?? and also his stump sits on top of it, rather than inside like there's no kind of cuff or anything (what the fuck. Ow). So he tinkered with it until he basically just invented the pinlock socket system for prosthetics actually

[feroluce]

And with that, we've finally hit 40 fics in the henghill tag!!

[lorillee]

she was also really funny for this

[the-rodgulhaj]

i got stuck in ouchie-ville

really hoping i can take the ibuprofen bus out of it soon

[the-crystal-femmes]

I don't usually post on tags (and especially not one of these tags but I feel the need to)

We saw the term yumeship by proxy, which makes a lot of sense that that's being coined but

Would that technically include someone who's selfshipping because they're in a relationship with a fictionfolk?

[ pt: Would that technically include someone who's selfshipping because they're in a relationship with a fictionfolk? /end pt ]

I don't mean that in like. A judgemental way at all, I'm more so asking if that's also included in the definition. My wife and I are fictionfolk and technically selfship because we don't want to source separate and my wife is extremely source connected /gen question

[lilaccatholic]

Never fails that when I see a blog full of the most misanthropic, pompous, taking-the-fun-out-of-everything stuff I'll scroll down and see a "Why am I so miserable?" post from that user

[gu6chan]

will say about the dnd party im part of one of the characters is, according to their player, inspired off nifty from hazbin hotel and it shows (negative)

[bloogers-boogers]

Another continuation from last post

[twpsyn-who]

In a world where Marco didn't die yet still everyone but Annie joined the Survey Corps, Jean wouldn't notice when his feelings for Mikasa has faded and the ones for Marco began to bloom.

Not until they see the ocean for the first time. When Marco comes to him all excited, yelling 'Jean! Jean, look what I found!' before showing him a shell. But Jean's not paying attention to it, but to the way Marco's eyes were shining with excitement and happiness. Of how happy his best friend was, for the first time since a very long time. And Jean would think 'I wish he would smile more. It looks good on him'. Then he would think 'I wish I was the reason why he was smiling'.

Then Marco would take hold of his hand and put the shell in it before saying 'You should have it. The color brings out your eyes!' and that, that exact moment, would be the moment when Jean realizes that he has long stopped having romantic feelings for Mikasa. That all he wants is to be by Marco's side, only the two of them.

[chiarrara]

night before last i had a dream that logically concluded in megumi making out with me. last night i had a dream that logically concluded in chappell roan making out with me. life is good

[lxvenderjewel]

when sonic 3 comes out i will be so insufferable. because it is the one hyperfixation i've had where my friends are actually willing to watch it. if you think i'm throwing this opportunity away you're sorely mistaken. sonic 3 will be my roman empire

[oceanwithouthermoon]

pk academy battle of the bands ☠️