#I think the algorithms just suck atp

[irasra]

hi tumblr why do u guys keep showing me stuff from like October on my dash now I look like a weirdo liking stuff people post from like 4 months ago 😭😭

[wildpeachfarm]

Sorry I keep sending in asks LMAO but yeah I totally agree especially nowadays I think the fandom numbers and activity is fine on tumblr? It seems to be similar as before for me but on Twitter holy fuck is it like really really dead (at least the interactions are) I can’t tell if people are just more inactive or just don’t interact w art as much as before + dranart is like gone most of the month so my posts barely even hit likes and interactions as it did before which feels like a punch in the gut for sure I don’t want to sound ungreatful in ANY way btw hope I don’t sound like that😭😭 I think most artists and writers are going thru it rn I hear that their interactions keep getting dropped like 50% every week it’s so sad

I think it’s the fandom + the algorithm too cause I have NOT been seeing any dteam stuff on my tls just because I was inactive for a couple days which is wild like 😭

Many artists and writers are probably feeling down and struggling with numbers and self worth including myself so we just gotta push forward and wait for the drupload ig 💪💪 atp since everyone’s struggling just draw write whatever the fuck you want you know nobody gives a fuck in a good way if you think kinda positively ig haha

Also people on twt usually only interacting w mostly straight forward Cc art (in case of Dnf like them cuddling and kissing) like it’s cute yeah! But those seem to be the few art that people actually interact w which is sad too as an au based art acc LMAO but ig it is what it is and I need to deal w it

Sorry for the long rant GJSJFKA love you mokuuuu

ILY wolfy and yes you are so correct I really do think people especially on twitter need to get better with supporting artists and writers because I am especially seeing low rts. Dream fanart pivoting to liking random shitposts and tweets from stan accounts definitely killed their impact because now their likes hold very little importance AND we can't even see them any more 😭😭😭 so that also sucked and it just happened to be during a time where reach and sharing was low to begin with. Certainly hope that activity resumes with more content but idk I think ultimately we need to remind the fandom how much supporting others really helped everyone and uplifts the fandom "functionings"

[bubblerise]

sooo i've been on bsky for a week now and want to give my thoughts.

in theory i like it more than twitter and tumblr, but in execution? ehhh.. the big issue is the lack of private accounts. i got harassed by a weird terminally online guy today and there was nothing to stop him from making alts to continue harassing me, which he did. needless to say i don't like that. i've met some really sweet people there, but there have also been a lot of weird people that def seem like they came from twitter, and atp i'm worried the site is just going to be Twitter 2. we'll see. overall i think tumblr will still be my main site but it's at least a lot easier to make friends and find ppl with common interests on bsky.

adding to that, i don't really like how much attention my bsky account gets. when i post on social media i only care about my posts reaching friends and people that share my interests but bsky seems to have no algorithm bc very often it's random ppl following me and liking my posts that don't even share any interests. and every time it's a guy they just act weird as hell. the men on that site genuinely suck, aside from like 3 guys. and one of those 3 is one of my tumblr mutuals so that doesn't even count. all in all, i'll stay there until it crashes and burns like twitter did. it has potential but lacks features that it really needs. no privs is a dealbreaker when so many weirdos are starting to run rampant.

[occluminary]

hi ok this is like. soo embarrassing but. do u…have dating app advice? from a nonbinary person wondering which apps are most queer/nonbianry friendly, and also just in general. i’ve been wanting to try it for ages but i was so terrified of someone i know irl seeing me on there but i really want someone to flirt with n kiss :(( am desperate atp im willing to risk it lmao

hi!!! not embarrassing at all, i'm more than happy to share my experience and advice! this got reeeeally long so i'm going to put a cut, so sorry😔😔😔😔

first thing: you can't change your name after you set it, so if it's your dead name, you are stuck with it and im quite frustrated bc i don't want to have to delete my accounts and start over but alas....

i have used tinder, hinge, and the app her (which sucks i would not recommend) and i prefer hinge out of all of them although i will say the free version is limiting so sometimes i'll treat myself to whatever half off special they run and pay $10 for a month of premium and then cancel it so i can get more swipes but that's only if i have money to burn which is not often. tinder and hinge have similar prompts to answer but i like the features of hinge better because you can send comments when you swipe, this helps get responses back instead of the dreaded no one messages first.

i think getting over the concern of how others were going to perceive me was the hardest part about setting up my profile because im my harshest critic so i look at everything from every angle and try to be the perfect person for everyone. well that's not realistic lol so i changed my approach and decided that i was going to present as authentically myself as i could because i don't want to be trying to date someone who doesn't accept me for who i am. i live in a large city so i don't have many people i know show up on dating apps, but (for example) if you have it set for women only, you are only going to be shown other women who have their preferences set up to show nonbinary folx, so if you were worried about Jim Bob down the street seeing you on an app, he probably won't because you aren't compatible through the algorithm. idk if that eases your nerves at all, but i hope so!!!

i am not interested in cis men so i don't have that turned on for my profile, but in general i don't think cis men on dating apps are the safest for trans/enby folx so i always advise turning off men because it also increases the amount of other-gender options.

the other thing i do is make my bio full of a wide range information about me so other people have a pretty good vision of who i am/why we would be a good match. things like hobbies/special interests/other facts about me that lead into an easy conversation of getting to know someone. i always like seeing someone have two truths and a lie because that's an easy in to a conversation once we match. nothing is worse than an empty profile! i will never swipe on someone no matter how attractive they are if they don't tell me at least a little bit about them in their bio. also, any time i get really excited about someone else's profile, i make note of what i liked and tweak my profile slightly so it's always improving.

here's the most important but the hardest part to actually do: you have to interact first. and i know! it sucks!! but generally you won't get any messages once you match bc no one is willing to make that first move. the way i think about it is that im making a respectful move to someone who also swiped on me, so there's already a mutual attraction. and if they don't want to respond, there's no pressure and no harm done. but if they do respond?? now you are cooking with gas!! and it only happens if you just are brave for 5 seconds to send a message asking how their day was or commenting on something from their profile.

if you are comfortable coming off anon, you can send me a message and ill share some of my profile with you for inspo and if you need help coming up with some things, it's my favorite part but it always takes me some time lol

[louisliamforever]

Louis probably deleted the story because he saw larries crashing out trying to prove that he’s not with Zara ( giving away his location, weirdos 🤦🏻‍♀️) but that photo he liked accidentally lol Zara was tagged in it so he either looked through he tags or maybe it came out on his feed. But man larries are pissing me off sm it’s really bad for my anger issues atp 😭😭😭 they’re insane and I need them to leave Louis alone. Can’t even imagine what happens when he gets married or has another child, these people are losing their mind over Instagram likes and follows 🙆🏻‍♀️

Right!!! They're so intense and it's crazy! It's like this video I saw on Twitter the other day from a Tik Toker who was critiquing the 1D fandom and was basically saying a lot of the fandom is fake and just wants the boys to act like fanfiction and I even had to check myself on that too. I know I'm not crazy but some days you gotta remember that at the end of the day the boys are just random men that none of us truly know.

But yeah L*rries just want L&H to act out their delusions and fanfics irl and also I think some of their behavior stems from just wanting to be right and not delusional. Just weird conspiracy shit.

They don't really bother me most of the time but sometimes I do get annoyed. And I can imagine especially being a fan of Louis that you just want to protect him from it. It sucks. I hope he doesn't see a lot of it and that he has some words blacklisted to protect himself from it but there's only so much he can do cause some L*rries censor their words. And I've blocked so many of them since being back on 1D Twitter but my algorithm STILL shows me L*rry accounts so I can't imagine how it is for Louis.

Whoever Louis marries will have to be strong cause they will come after them very strongly