#I understand censoring to spreads message or whatever

[0ccams-chainsaw]

Hearing people say “unalive” makes me want to kill myself

[xxspirit]

Hello, my name is Moon. And I'm asking you to spread the word of KOSA (Kids online 'safety' act) an awful, deceiving bill that will censor you, me, minors, and adults online alike.

How the bill works will cause social media to change in a horrible way. It will make it to where you must upload your ID publicly to prove you're old enough to view 'explicit' content.

In reality, that content is LGBTQ+ resources for abuse victims, resources for abortion, resources for Palestinians, resources for sex ED, and more.

It will censor us, destory fanfiction, WHATS NEXT? Uploading private messages? Putting your IP in public?

It will end Tumblr, Fanfics, privacy.

PLEASE HELP END IT! Speak out! Stop them, reblog as much as possible! #EndKosa

Hi, I appreciate you for helping to stop KOSA and helping people understand what KOSA is, and I agree with you that KOSA is terrible.

BUT we need to take a step back, and calm down. I know lots of people are freaking out about this act right now, I am too. But I think a lot of the chaos behind it is because of misinformation as well, specifically about the whole IDs.

Just a warning v

I want to clarify to anyone if they are just skimming past my words that I am NOT ADVOCATING FOR KOSA, I hate KOSA, this act is definitely not to defend minors from the internet but instead HARM them even more as well as EVERYONE ELSE. I just think we are causing a lot of panic and chaos because of misinformation.

I just want to help calm people down, I tried to do my own research and tried to fact-check myself to make sure what Im saying is true, but if you know I said something wrong please let me know and I am so sorry if I misspoke, I will correct myself as soon as possible. 🙏

KOSA DOESNT REQUIRE A PERSONAL ID: I did my own research about the need of uploading a personal ID, but this doesn’t seem to be true. I will be reblogging a few things today that I found, and also this website for my evidence:

KOSA still needs to go through congress, and then the President. Although it may or already have passed through the Senate sadly, there is still another chance. So keep up with the rallying and keep giving attention to KOSA about how stupid it is! WE CAN STILL STOP KOSA!!! DO NOT GIVE UP!!

Even IF KOSA does pass… it will take MONTHS for the act to go into action. I found this screenshot from another person, I’ll be reblogging their post after this one:

It will take a ONE YEAR and SIX MONTHS(A YEAR AND A HALF)before KOSA actually starts being implemented. In that time, we can think of what to do, migrate if we have to, or whatever.

Also- know this doesn’t help tumblr but I also saw on another post which ill reblog, that potentially Ao3 won’t be affected, which may be nice for some of you to know.

Here’s a petition I found, I recommend signing it!

It is so awesome to see the community work together to help stop KOSA, but let’s make sure to be checking our sources and try not to spread things that don’t seem to be accurate! 🙏

Stay safe guys, and stay strong 💪

[ghouldtime]

As a fellow writer that tries to bring a little more variety to the COD tag, I just wanted to say thank you for talking about the problem in the fandom!

I only saw one other person other than me talking about it, and honestly, I was almost starting to think that I was the weird one for judging the romanticisation and fetishisation of abuse when so many people enjoy it.

Like, I'm all for writing whatever you want, even terrible topics, but... sensibly? I genuinely don't understand how someone could write about rape or abuse without treating it like the awful, disgusting thing it is.

I often get told that I just want to have the 'moral high ground' and that's why I say that, but that's not the point at all. We all enjoy characters that have done some questionable stuff, starting with the cod men themselves. I'm just... worried I guess, about how many people find abuse enjoyable to read.

I wish people would at least tag this stuff properly.

Anyway, sorry for ranting, I'm glad I found your blog! 🖤

Oh the anon coward crawled back into my inbox to flail onto their back and utter, "Superiority complex". That's it. That's all they have to say. What about it? Who knows. I'm assuming they're trying to imply that I have one but they didn't write anything else, so I'm just going with they like saying random words (going to start anon messaging people things like carbonated hot dog water with no context to leave them befuddled the rest of the day)

It's a HUGE problem that I've seen and I'm honestly sick of it. I legit can't open the basic tags without being hit with it. No matter what or who you block, more ALWAYS pop up. I'm not saying flat out "Don't write these topics altogether". Like, COD is a video game about war and killing people?? There's going to be awful shit. Ignoring that entirely is doing a great disservice and censoring writing just because a topic is uncomfortable is extremely counter productive.

Also, adding this, I literally never said don't write it at all - to the anons who came for me, you're just mad because you can't read and are being called out on turning something horrible into an attractive/hot thing.

I'm saying "write it sensibly with respect for the topic and the victims of it. It's not a fetish it's not something for you to play the good ol' meat fiddle too. Real thing that affects real people and what you're writing, even if it's fictional, DOES AFFECT THE REAL WORLD". Literally, not that hard. So what if I'm told I'm taking a moral high ground? Cause I, sorry let me put on my reading glasses-🤏 👓

I have the moral high ground because I don't fetishize rape, abuse, incest, sexual assault, stalking, and the other long list of actual crimes that people are apparently treating like they're kinks - because I'm saying to not treat them as sexy time things and to instead give them proper respect when you're writing them. That's supposed to be moral high ground???? If so, I'm alright with that.

You're not the weird one. This is just common sense and sometimes terrible things are so normalized in fandoms that it's just one big echo chamber so it keeps being said and done, and people keep repeating it, and it spreads and spreads. Like, I'm not the weird one for going "hey fantasizing about a man abusing a woman and finding it so attractive you write about it and turn it into smut is weird." At that point, that's not an intrusive thought, that's a WELL AND CONSCIOUS decision when you plop your hand down and start typing away at the keyboard. It's a conscious decision when you ignore the actual harm it causes and keep on writing it.

"Write whatever you want" doesn't mean that what you write will be free from judgement. I'm all for write whatever makes you happy, I don't give a shit there. But when it starts to affect ACTUAL people, yeah, then we have an issue and I'm going to speak up about it.

Also, I can't "Don't like don't read" BECAUSE ITS NOT TAGGED PROPERLY, no one censors properly. The mature censor for SEXUAL CONTENT is absolutely free to use. Half the time, you're just thrown head first in and you're like "oh, oh this is fetish stuff, this is really gross fetish stuff". Its just so blatantly posted, no proper tags, just flat out in your face. I just avoid tags all together now unfortunately but what else can ya do. It's exhausting to interact and look in that regard so I just don't

My blog will ALWAYS be free from that and will ALWAYS be a safe space for those who want to avoid it. Not going to change that nor am I ever going to back down or go back on my word here.

Sorry for all the heavy stuff recently y'all but this MATTERS significantly to me as a victim of some of the stuff aforementioned above. I'm not going into details but it's a thing very personal to me and it's absolutely INSANE of what is treated as okay/what is done and I'm never, ever going to be okay with the incorrect depiction of this shit and the blatant fetishization/romanticization of it

[beardedmrbean]

WASHINGTON — The Supreme Court on Tuesday is considering for the first time on the topical question of whether tech companies are always immune from legal liability in disputes arising from problematic content posted by users.

The justices are hearing oral arguments in a case alleging that by recommending videos that spread violent Islamist ideology, YouTube bears some responsibility for the killing of Nohemi Gonzalez, an American college student, in the 2015 Paris attacks carried out by the Islamic State terrorist group.

At issue is whether there are limits to the liability shield for internet companies that Congress enacted in 1996 as part of the Communications Decency Act. The Supreme Court has never addressed the issue before, even as the power and influence of the internet have exploded.

The case, which tech companies warn could upend the internet as it currently operates, concerns whether Section 230 can be applied to situations in which platforms actively recommend content to users using algorithms.

The novel legal issue has given rise to some unusual cross-ideological alliances, with the Biden administration and some high-profile Republican lawmakers, including Sens. Ted Cruz of Texas and Josh Hawley of Missouri, having filed briefs backing at least some of the Gonzalez family’s legal arguments.

Liberal and conservative justices on Tuesday expressed skepticism and some confusion about the arguments being put forth by Gonzalez’s attorney, Eric Schnapper. Schnapper contended that some of what YouTube publishes in its recommendations, including thumbnails it creates, doesn't amount to third-party content protected under Section 230.

“I don’t understand how a neutral suggestion about something that you’ve expressed an interest in is aiding and abetting,” said Justice Clarence Thomas, who has criticized the statute's protections. "I just don't, I don't understand it. And I'm trying to get you to explain to us how something that is standard on YouTube for virtually anything that you have an interest in suddenly amounts to aiding and abetting because you're in the ISIS category."

Fellow conservative Justice Samuel Alito also expressed doubt about Schnapper's argument. "I'm afraid I'm completely confused by whatever argument you're making at the present time," he said.

Potential reform of Section 230 is one area in which President Joe Biden and some of his most ardent critics are in agreement, although they disagree on why and how it should be done.

Conservatives generally claim that companies are inappropriately censoring content, while liberals say social media companies are spreading dangerous right-wing rhetoric and not doing enough to stop it. Although the Supreme Court has a 6-3 conservative majority, it is not clear how it will approach the issue.

Gonzalez, 23, was studying in France when she was killed while dining at a restaurant during the wave of terrorist attacks carried out by ISIS.

Her family alleges that Google-owned YouTube helped ISIS spread its message. The lawsuit targets YouTube’s use of algorithms to suggest videos for users based on content they have previously viewed. YouTube’s active role goes beyond the kind of conduct Congress intended to protect with Section 230, the family’s lawyers allege. 

The family filed the lawsuit in 2016 in federal court in Northern California and hopes to pursue claims that YouTube violated the Anti-Terrorism Act, which allows people to sue individuals or entities who “aid and abet” terrorist acts.

Citing Section 230, a federal judge dismissed the lawsuit. That decision was upheld by the San Francisco-based 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals in a June 2021 decision that also resolved similar cases families of other terrorist attack victims had brought against tech companies.

The Supreme Court's eventual ruling could have broad ramifications because recommendations are now the norm for online services, not just YouTube. Platforms such as Instagram, TikTok, Facebook and Twitter long ago began to rely on recommendation engines or algorithms to decide what people see most of the time, rather than emphasize chronological feeds.

Tuesday's argument is the first part of a social media company double-header at the high court. On Wednesday, the justices will hear a related appeal brought by Twitter about whether the company can be held liable under the Anti-Terrorism Act.

The same appeals court that handled the Gonzalez case revived claims brought by relatives of Nawras Alassaf, a Jordanian citizen killed in a terrorist attack in Istanbul in 2017. The family accused Twitter, Google and Facebook of aiding and abetting the spread of militant Islamist ideology, which the companies deny. The question of Section 230 immunity has not yet been addressed in that case.

The Supreme Court has previously declined to take up cases about Section 230. Conservative Justice Clarence Thomas has criticized it, citing tech giants’ market power and influence.

[holographic-bone-jester]

I think what a lot of people don’t understand, or don’t want to understand, is that, the paleo community doesn’t care if you like dinosaur media that is old or innacurate.

You’re free to enjoy whatever you want, most of us also enjoy stuff like JP/JW/The Isle/ARK/etc.. You can enjoy these pieces of media, do fanart, do innacurate dinosaur ocs, whatever you want ! And even doing all of this, you can still enjoy paleontology (so long as you don’t try to shove innacurate stuff [outside from your own creation] in the faces of people on a paleontology server, but that’s mostly because it’s a huge red flag for trolls).

However there is a difference between enjoying something, and refusing to admit that it has flaws. What we criticize from these pieces of media isn’t “we should ban JP and if you like JW you suck”, what we criticize are how those big companies decide to ditch research and play into what’s popular (and by popular i mean most people don’t get to know any better because proper information is so hard to access through all the fiction stuff) and keep spearding misinformation, all for the sake of profit or because they don’t like feathers or whatever.

You should not be defending them. They don’t need to be “supported”, they already have money, they’re already made, these pieces of media aren’t in danger because people say their designs aren’t accurate and that this is a problem coming from big and/or popular companies. What that criticism is there for, is to send a message that this isn’t right, and that this needs to change in the future, that it is not ok to have the same “90s designs but more edgy monster-like” in 2020. We aren’t promoting to censor JW or JP or whatever, we are trying to tell companies that they need to make better stuff now, and stop treating people like morons who only like big monster on screen and can’t appreciate something that actually looks like what it’s supposed to be. What we’re basically saying is “keep monster designs to monsters, and do research if you’re making prehistoric animals that were real and are being studied in real life by the hard work of real people.”

We are not attacking you, we aren’t attacking anyone, we are stating issues that are going on with the way dinosaurs are treated outside of the scientific field, and the way that this leaks into the field itself (such as the way papers describing prehistoric animals, especially reptiles and dinosaurs, have to have a certain monstrous appeal, or be about a popular taxa, for news outlets to cover and spread the information)

So as much as people want to pretend we’re “gatekeeping” because we criticize accuracy in big selling games and movies, the truth is that anyone is welcome to become a paleontology enthusiast, so long as you don’t take a hostile stance towards, you know, science.

[sincerely-krp]

this will be our last response to this blog!

at the end of the day none of this would happen if vent blogs didn't exist. vent blogs are a parasite to this community that bring more harm than good. whatever accountability for writers and admins u encourage is immensely undermined by the resulting environment of mistrust and invasion of privacy you create. allowing anyone to say and submit anything, allowing people's private conversations to be spread without their consent for any reason, far beyond the borders of a community they elected to join, cancels out and far outweighs any potential benefits you claim to bring to the community. i do blame you for rise closing along with that one member who decided anonymous hate was worth a dozen other people losing a community they worked hard to build. i let a lot of things slide and ignored a lot of unkind messages while running this group, but this level of ooc drama is one thing that i will absolutely not put myself through.

the overall statement that vent blogs are harmful is true. to blame us for this issue however, is not okay! regardless of whether or not our blog existed, the toxicity would have remained. this is evident to us by the anons in our inbox that we did not post, representing the krp's opinions without any discourse on our blog to prompt it. the anons were being sent in across the last week, even after the only mention of hqrise was no longer on our blog.

on our blog, only one anon was posted in response to the question about hqrise, and privated the day after. regardless of the dm conversations we have, and then anons in our ask box, there was no other indication of anything that occurred in the krp publicized on our blog, or shared to anyone.

we were not the conduit for the hate leveraged against the member that had been removed, and we were also not the conduit for the krp's discussion of their revamp. part of why we were resolved to not post information on hqrise until we had our conclusions is because debating between a sandbox-style krp and a canon-style krp or debating the actions taken themselves should be done within the krp, and we should not provide an additional space for that conversation to go until the krp has come to their conclusions. this meant that responses to the anon question asking what occurred in hqrise would be harmful at the moment, until we as admins were shown otherwise.

this was a conclusion we came to after understanding what was happening in the krp, which is also why the anon remained private but other anons were also not shared.

allowing anyone to say and submit anything, allowing people's private conversations to be spread without their consent for any reason, far beyond the borders of a community they elected to join, cancels out and far outweighs any potential benefits you claim to bring to the community.

we did not allow anyone to say or submit anything to our blog, we did not spread private conversations without anyone's consent; either they were given to us without us asking, or they were given to us of the members' own consent! we also agree that if we had posted conversation on hqrise, that we would be taking away important decisions that should have been made in the rp itself.

while the admin did not intend to implicate the removed member, we are the ones who see the anons in our inbox in response to these posts. we defended people who were being attacked in our inbox, not because we want to bring drama to this blog, but because the members of this krp were trying to use our blog to hurt them, and then to get angry at us for censoring them. there was no mention of the removed member on our blog at all, and yet there were many anons regardless from the krp trying to cause them harm through our platform.

the point we are making here is that in this instance, our blog cannot be the conduit or the reason why tensions were rising in this krp, as we posted once about it over a week ago, and privated that post around a day later (among accusations against the removed member, conversation regarding whether or not the krp should be sandbox or canon, discourse on the admin's decisions) we also listened at every turn to both sides to limit the harm we could cause. the majority of the harm that would have been caused by our blog would have been against innocent people as is, so we can confidently say we did the right thing in this situation to mitigate the harm that otherwise would have been caused.

in other words, we posted a general anon with heated language towards the admin with proof that the admin made a move that members in the krp were conflicted with. we did not post speculation of specific members, anons that name people by word, anons that speculated as to who the admin is in the group, hateful speech towards any specific person, or general discourse on what direction the krp would take. this was us adhering to the same rules we keep for everyone.

the basis of the admin's blame to us is that we are not disclosing the original anon's information to the admin, and that is true. that is a pillar that belongs to our vent blog that if violated would mean we have to go back and violate every person's privacy whether right or wrong to every other party in our dms, as we can't make special arrangements. this would include us telling everyone who was spoken about by someone accidentally off anon who that person was and what they said. it's not conducive, and it is much more harmful.

while in this instance we can't accept blame for the decisions in the krp the admin made, we do accept the harm that our post makes by linking the krp to our blog, it was a decision made only because the admin mentioned our blog, linking us first, but that in no way means that it was without harm. in addition, vent blogs are harmful. this is fact. we did cause harm by allowing the anon to be posted in the first place with heated harmful language, regardless of the steps afterwards because every step after is simply us doing our job and not us doing anything special. this is a byproduct of running a vent blog when we misstep, and we do not want to ignore it! vent blogs are very often the cause for harm to krps, and this does not negate that!

hi everyone  ! a now-deleted strongly worded anonymous vent was sent to the vent blog , sincerely-krp , along with screenshots of members’ personal conversations . i’ve asked sincerely-krp if i could be provided the source of this vent and these screenshots but was denied , as is their right under their blog’s rules . as such , i will give the sender of this vent and these screenshots until march 20 , 6 pm kst to come forward with proof that they were the one to send the vent otherwise i will take down the directory .  i will absolutely not tolerate drama in a group that i run . i do not want to cultivate a culture among writers where you have to be wary of who you talk to , and afraid entire private conversations will be screenshotted , taken out of context and spread around without your consent . i do not know if the sender is still in the group ,  and i refuse to pour all the effort i do into a group where i have to constantly worry that someone has so little respect for the community and myself that they opt for hateful anonymous venting instead of seeking constructive solutions to help their community grow ; where i have to constantly worry that i’m leaving members vulnerable to being subject to this kind of behavior by having them stay in a group with this person . i want to thank the vast majority of you who have contributed positively to the group . it is because of your kindness, understanding and helpfulness that i’m compelled to take these measures . i want to continue running the group  and see characters’ stories develop , but everyone’s safety and well - being is my priority . i refuse to subject any more members to the unnecessary stress this has caused to those involved , and i want to do all that i can to protect the positive atmosphere that the majority of members have worked hard to maintain . thanks for understanding .

[zirkkun]

you don't have to post this if you don't want, i just wanted to let you know I support you. maybe I'm just not in the right headspace to understand, but i truly don't get the mentality that you not wanting to create 18+ content for an au you love, even one that's specifically 18+, is somehow censuring. you are the owner of your blog and you create for you and how you're comfortable doing it? just because you personally aren't publicly making nsfw content doesn't mean other people can't/you don't like them. the only thing I sorta understand is the name thing and how, out of context, it could seem you weren't happy with the original, but even then that's a valid perspective. not everybody has to like an AU, and if someone wants to do their own version there is literally no excuse for sending them hate. this is a fandom of AUs and derivative content, to get mad at someone else for following suit is hypocritical. you aren't in the wrong here, and the people spreading misinformation about you with the intention to hurt (even if they feel thReAtEnED by your PERSONAL AU INTERPRETATION THAT RHEY ARE FREE TO CURATE OUT OF THEIR FEED SHOULD THEY NOT LIKE IT ...) are absolutely being horrendous. I'm here for you if you wanna talk, you can DM on discord or here. I hope you're okay.

I mean, in a way I can understand taking it as censoring, especially after talking to a few people about it directly, since it was a bit of a combination between both the interpretation of the name misunderstanding as well as ULR not being 18+ leading to the conclusion that it was censoring Underlust. But after I explained it, the couple of people who approached me about that specific issue understood pretty quickly, too.

And, in all honesty, if I don't really like something, I wouldn't go through the effort of trying to make anything based off of it. The closest example that I can think of where I did something akin to that is when I once tried like, writing an AU for Fire Emblem Fates, because I love the concept of the games, but thought the execution couldn't have been worse. (I've done insane amounts of research on how it truly was so bad, and honestly, the dev team was a complete mess, so I don't really blame them for how it turned out despite them being the ones that made it lol. They barely could come to a midway point for it, so the fact they released it was a miracle.) Sure, there's points of Underlust I don't like, but as I've said before I could say that about everything I like. Except maybe Promare /j (but it is a good movie)

It's also probably really weird, but like, even with things I know I don't like, I'm willing to read or look into sometimes. Like, I don't like Dreamtale at all, but I've gotten myself fairly invested in More than one fic about it and do like some people's works based on it. I'm between unable to handle and yet can tolerate yandere fics nowadays thanks to Alch's fics and them just being a generally wonderful human being, but like, before that they just sent me into a panic attack lol. Ragnartale is also a weird one I am somehow invested in, since it's like, on the surface, it looks like something I wouldn't enjoy, esp since. None of the ships showcased I'm really into at all. But I'm very invested in it ;w;.

Anyway, my point with this part lol is like, I love seeing different interpretations of the same thing, and it's absolutely wild to me walking into this fandom from every other fandom I've been in where like, and AU is just the same characters in a different scenario, while here an AU is literally a whole separate world based off of either Undertale itself or a different AU entirely and the cast is really varied and even if characters are of the same origin from one AU to another, they're so distinctly different that some of them are unlinkable to the character they originate from. And y'all made a multiverse out of it!! With consistent lore between said multiverse!! Wh?? Like I said I've been on the internet a long time but this is genuinely the only instance I've seen this happen, and while I've been told it used to be worse, y'all are super respectful about stuff here too (and like, notably on YouTube with AMVs and MEPs, people actually credit where they got the fanart from in the description?? It's not all of them, and some may be without permission, but this is still the ONLY fandom I've seen do that and that's one hell of a leg up on everyone else.) It's like weirdly, to me, like... an ideal way art should be? Like, a world where anyone can make whatever they want, and people work with each other and from different things, taking inspiration from each other with credit and care and love and not slamming people in the face with a big copyright button for so much as thinking about making something off of their content (coughnintendocough). Obviously Toby's a chill guy too, for not only allowing this to all happen, but based on that message he left in i think the 5th anniversary vinyls, adores it just as much.

So yeah, definitely being slapped in the face when I step in with my idea after all of that openness before me definitely kinda hurt LMAO. It does feel nice to finally like. Actually talk about it instead of holding it in though. Even if it's actually almost two months later now (cause this happened on like December 5th and i was like already having an awful week with a real bad birthday so that was fun avdbwvsn)

I don't know that the original intent was to spread misinformation, because from what it seemed like, they merely read one post, blocked me, and then told everyone about the information they got from said post, but from there it became misinformation, because that one post is probably the oldest post about ULR and doesn't properly summarize anything about it at all it just has character faces and rules for the ask box lol. And frankly, before I updated it, it was out-of-date and inaccurate as well, cause i never thought it would be necessary to change. But that info that i have is also from like one or two posts my friend snagged off of twitter (cause, well, they blocked me lol), so I'm not really 100% certain.

But even so, thank you for the support man, I think I'm good for now, but I really appreciate your offer and checking in on me like this, it really does mean a lot💕💕

[woeismyhoe]

Spill the tea, what's the deal with you and the BSG group (avatar-chang and her squad in particular)?

Ok anon, sorry for taking so long! I wanted to get everything right and honestly collecting the posts took a longass time xD

Anyways, the only ones I have a problem there are avatar-chang, hexful/dykesia/bizukos, catrademption, cardboardseagulls (never seen interacted b4) and bizulas (also never interacted b4).

I’m going to be really transparent about this whole thing so it’s gonna be long as there’s gonna be several links and I’ve included the dates so it’ll be easier to understand. Since I’ll be fully transparent about this, i’ll probably get hate or whatever. Honestly, I just want to put everything out there without being biased or hiding anything. I’m going to disclose everything here.

So, the whole thing between me and avatar-chang started off with this post I made last year on 10 March 2019. Afterwards, she PMed me on the same day and this was the conversation:

After that, I thought the argument was over because she blocked me lmao. The only ones I spoke to about this was nbw and my real life friends (who had nothing to do with ATLA lmao I just ranted to them).

And then the next incident I think was on 16 March 2019 when I made this post about Azula’s abuse of her friends. I was new and 16. I genuinely wanted to know why people labeled Azula as an abuser. It was dykesia who responded to me at the time.

Now, unlike avatar-chang, I had a few conversations with dykesia (who was bizukos then) that was generally civil. I first interacted with her when she made a post calling out Zucest shippers or something?? I was very new. Like fresh newbie baby ATLA tumblr fan new lmao so I thought what she said was too aggressive. I didn’t realize that there were actual Zucest shippers until after some time. And then she PMed me on 13 March 2019, saying that she doesn’t always agree on characters with me but I do write some interesting pieces on Azula— that she’s a huge fan of Azula but she just tends to stay away from her fandom. I apologized about the previous incident of the Zucest thing and it was fine after then. We talked about zuko, the fandom, the comics, Mai etc etc. I thought we were on fine terms.

And then I made a post about the cliff scene in the comics on 16 March 2019. Avatar-Chang made a post that was pretty directed at the post but it seems like she’s deleted it.

On 17 March 2019, I received an anon mail telling me that avatar-chang was talking shit about me behind my back. I censored her name then because I didn’t want to believe without any evidence. No one sent me any screenshots about it so I just dismissed it.

On the same day, avatar-chang answered an anon and talked about the 13 child post theory I made on 9 March.

On 23 April 2019, I received another anon mail about avatar-chang, asking if I’d seen the post she made about Azula. I censored her name again cuz I didn’t want to start any shit over having differing opinions. I’m assuming this is the post the anon was referring to.

On 28 April 2019, dykesia/hexful/bizukos PMed me to ask if I was talking shit about other people behind their backs, and her. I denied this because I hadn’t. This was how the conversation went:

Yes, I didn’t censor any name because as I said, full transparency. I have afp blocked because we’ve clashed several times and he’d still come for my posts last year despite already being blocked. If you’ve followed me long enough, you probably would’ve rmbered that time lmao

Anyways during then, I don’t think I realized that dykesia was actually being passive aggressive. It’d been barely a year since I started the blog and I just didn’t want to full out make enemies. Reading the messages now tho lmao she really was passive aggressive. But yeah then she said this in bsg so I don’t even know why she bothered to ask me if she wasn’t even going to consider believing me.

The 9th of June 2019 was the last time she messaged and it was to ask if I mind her discoursing this Zuko post while ‘hard and drunk’. It was the first time she could apparently agree with me so it was I quote a ‘Yay??’. Afterwards I don’t know when she did it but she blocked me lmao

On 17 July 2019, I received another anon mail telling me that avatar-chang publicly called me a bitch when she was answering an anon about me posting the scans of the EK Chronicles. She mentioned this in bsg again on 19 April 2020 lmao (she’s that petty) it seems:

On November 8 2019, an anon (one of avatar-chang’s friends actually) asked about my thoughts towards the allegations against Aaron Ehasz. I still believe in the system of ‘Innocent before proven guilty’, so I didn’t side with anyone. I tried to be as objective as possible. When I said that I hoped men would also come forward, I said that because I don’t want men to just sit on the sidelines and let the women get the heat if they were telling the truth. At the end of this whole thing, I concluded that Ehasz was a dick of a boss to the girls. Being called an abuser carries more weight than just being a dick. Everyone has been a dick at one point, but being an abuser is something else. Just because Ehasz was a dick doesn’t mean I’m going to stop watching TDP or dismiss his involvement in ATLA.

The next day, BSG brought the issue up despite both avatar-chang having already blocked me by then lmao

On 5 February 2020, after Legacy of the Fire Nation came out, I made a post calling out Iroh’s bs to Azula (guy literally blames Azula for everything that happened to Zuko (something which avatar-chang agrees with apparently, and Iroh even sees Ozai in a better light).

That’s so far what I’ve remembered that involved avatar-chang and dykesia.

Moving on to the next three attackers: catrademption, cardboardseagulls and bizulas.

I’ve seen catrademption around, but I don’t remember if we’ve clashed before. We must have though cuz she’s got me blocked lmao and I mostly only debate back to people when they reply to my posts. For cardboardseagulls and bizulas, I don’t think I’ve ever seen them them before but obviously they’ve seen my blog and misinterpreted everything I’ve written.

But according to them, I’m apparently a Azula apologist, extremist, irrational, toxic, coddles and woobifies Azula, justifies everything she does and invalidates abuse victims.

You can see the posts I’ve made to judge whether I actually am an irrational Azula apologist who blames everything on Zuko. One of the most recent posts I made about Azula’s character is this, and there’s still several more posts like that. Just search #meta or #analysis in my blog search and all of them will just pop up. I can assure you, I have never acted as if Azula has done nothing wrong or did everything right or whatever lies these people are spewing.

If anyone has proof that I’ve talked shit about people in the fandom to other people before, please, present your evidence. I highly think this is impossible because I actually don’t have many friends on Tumblr, nor do I usually initiate conversation because I’m awkward af.

I’ve also tried approaching those I recognized in bsg to find out more about the situation (and at least give my side of the story). Most of them have chosen not to speak to me LMAO but one of them who’s chosen to remain anonymous for their privacy, admitted that dykesia (hexful) forced them to block a blog before (after realizing they were interacting with said blog) and if not, they would be blocked themselves. I can’t post the conversation publicly because they’re afraid their speech mannerism will give away their identity. @space-sword has also shared his experience with avatar-chang on his blog and was pressured to cut off ties with ppb21 just to join the oh so magnificent Ba Sing Gay.

There’s absolutely no reason to judge someone based on their sexual orientation, race, color or age either. They rant about being discriminated against or being generalized or stereotypes but they’re the ones hypocritically committing these actions, and then justify their actions by saying ‘we’re oppressed, they’re not, so it’s not racism or discrimination’. And yet people still wonder why discrimination is still rampant LMAO

I can’t speak for the blogs they victimized in bsg, but I personally don’t agree with talking shit about them on a public server and then criminalizing them as if they’re actually predators. I also don’t agree with involving the blogs’ friends simply because of their association. I also don’t agree with demanding people to block blogs they don’t like because that’s just pure manipulation. That’s wrong and marginalizing people. Unless someone has actually been harassing or literally preying on people, then there’s no reason to actually go around warning blogs about them unless they’re asked about it.

If they feel uncomfortable about something? Then avoid that blog, filter their tags or even block that blog if they’re that uncomfortable—BUT they shouldn’t demand others to do the same just for their own benefit. It’s not up to them to decide what a person can or cannot see or who they can or cannot interact with. They’re not their parents, and they obviously have no right to pressure people into doing things they don’t want to. If they think it tactless that I shared the conversations? Oh honestly, a line was crossed when they spread shit about me so idc. If they actually feel terrible for being called out? GOOD. That’s what they should feel, because in no way was any of what they were doing right or justified. If they’re going to shit on me then expect to be burned because I’m not someone who’ll just shrivel in fear because they have a bigger following.

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Thursday 29th April, Research Report: Lycanthropy and the hays code

Notable points * lycanthropy seems  to be synonymous with homosexuality- parallels between Teen Wolf and Buffy The Vampire Slayer's respective coming out scenes. * The Queer-ness of the character Remus Lupin from the Harry Potter books and film series. Many fans head cannon and write slash fics about Remus and Sirius' romance and relationship, reading the characters as queer. The ship, named 'Wolf Star' is quite popular and well known within the fandom. Many fans feel there is enough evidence to build this relationship on; Remus and Sirius' ghosts stood next to each other in the resurrection stone, mirroring Harry's parents,  a canonically married couple. They also bought Harry a joint present for his birthday and know the intricacies of each others personalities. Dumbledore also infamously told Sirius to 'lie low at Lupins.' But the problem here, as the article points out, is that Rowling doesn't acknowledge Lupin as queer, despite the homoerotic cues in the writings,  and instead gives him a female love interest and admits that Lupins Lycantrhopy is a metaphor for AIDS/HIV. She has further dismissed any alternative readings of the character, disappointing fans' hopes of there being a shred of representation in a queer monster who is actually queer. This sort of behaviour from authors and creators is what turns Queer-coding into the more harmful and frustrating Queer-baiting. A large majority of queer representation comes from connotations and interpretations. the clues are there and queer audiences do pick them up. However this grey area allows allows straight culture to use queerness for pleasure and profit in mass culture without admitting to it. Modern examples of this are CW's Supernatural and BBC's Sherlock. I can't personally speak for Supernatural but having watched Sherlock with the advantage of a queer eye, I can say with confidence that it is a prime example of queer-baiting. there is clear homoerotic subtext between Sherlock and John and even Sherlock and Moriarty. I Personally think it's entirely romantic as I head cannon Sherlock to be Asexual or at least on that spectrum but the point is, it is not just wishful thinking or pushing of a narrative. It's manipulation. Queer-baiting takes advantage of an already vulnerable group of people by preying on their desire for representation in the media.

In modern media werewolf's are often portrayed as having chiselled bodies and looming over each other. The 1985 Teen Wolf received a television reboot and it's fair to say it got reasonably more progressive.  It seemed interested in queering the werewolf narrative and in a sly moment of gender-bending the traditional Little Red Riding Hood narrative, protagonist Scott receives the Bite from a male werewolf while wearing a Little Red Hoodie (‘Wolf Moon’). Additionally, the show features LGBTQ characters while Scott’s human best friend Stiles visits a gay bar and makes friends with a group of drag queens in startling contrast to the gay panic of the 1985 film’s version of Stiles. By midway through the show’s second season, the slash pairing that had proved dominant in the fandom was Stiles and wannabe-Alpha Derek Hale. The two characters, who operate in the narrative as belligerent and begrudging allies, rapidly became a slash phenomenon, due, in part, to the chemistry and comic timing between actors Tyler Hoechlin and Dylan O’Brien. The narrative is further subverted when Derek is raped by an adult  human woman.

The pair 'Sterek' gained so much traction that it caught the attention of MTV and the cast and crew behind the show. So much so that they released a video of Hoechlin and O'Brien cuddling on a boat, asking fans to vote for Teen Wolf for this  years Choice Summer TV Show at the Teen Choice Awards. This  was big as it acknowledged fans and slash flics and the pairing itself as a possibility and many queer voices who watched the show felt heard and validated. However this didn't last long. MTV released a video on the official Teen Wolf Facebook, this time featuring O’Brien asking fans to vote for Teen Wolf in a TV Guide Poll. O’Brien joked that if fans did not vote, then the show would kill off its sole remaining gay character and one of the few remaining non-white characters on the show, Danny. The Teen Wolf Facebook released the video with the following caption: ‘Keep #TeenWolf in first place! Heed Dylan and Linden’s advice or we might have to. #KillDanny’ (Teen Wolf). The show’s social media team then attempted to make the #KillDanny tag go viral on Facebook and twitter, but fans, understandably, were not amused, primarily using the tag for outraged tweets to MTV (Baker-Whitelaw).Such blatant disregard for fans’ concerns about queer representation on the show alienated a large number of fans, especially when coupled with Jeff Davis’ more frequently dismissive and condescending comments about the Sterek pairing where he had been enthusiastic and even encouraging of the ship. As seasons wore on without any indication that Sterek would indeed become canon, it became clear that MTV and Jeff Davis had been queer-baiting Sterek fans as a marketing technique and that the unique interplay that fans had enjoyed with Davis, which offered a new kind of truly interactive fandom had, in fact, been something of an illusion. ' serial killer Hannibal Lecter and his love interest Will Graham in Hannibal, and reanimated gay corpses Kieren, Simon, and Rick in In the Flesh. Notably, both series have received an overwhelmingly positive response from fans and critics who have applauded the series for taking their queer monsters beyond mere coding and into explicit text. The warm reception of Hannibal and In the Flesh’s handling of queer representation by fans, and the continuing frustration with Teen Wolf’s queer-baiting and the appropriative nature of Remus Lupin’s narrative in Harry Potter, belie a desire not only for better queer representation, but also for more complex re-articulations of queer monstrosity' the symbolic and narrative trappings of monsters are often used as metaphors for queerness without actually acknowledging the positive behind that queer identity or even confirming the queer identity at all. Another positive example is the miniseries Good Omens. Based on the book of the same name, written by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman. Pretty much the whole fandom believe That the two leads, Crowley and Aziraphale are in a romantic relationship. They've known each other for centuries and perhaps what was the main fuel to this ships fire was the episode 3 cold open. Even fans who have only read the book seem to support these two as a couple and what's perhaps even more amazing is Gaiman’s response on twitter. "I wrote it as a love story. They acted it as a love story. You saw it as a love story. How much more proof do you need?" and "I wouldn't exclude the ideas that they are ace, or aromantic, or trans. They are an angel and a demon, not as make humans, per the book. Occult/Ethereal beings don't have sexes, something we tried to reflect in the casting. Whatever Crowley and Aziraphale are, it's a love story." It's beautiful because not only does it confirm that they are in love but it also leaves room for interpretations of what kind of relationship they have together.

https://dialogues.rutgers.edu/images/Journals_PDF/2017-18-dialogues-web_e6db3.pdf#page=164

In the year 1922, when cinema was gaining traction and popularity, The Motion Picture Producers and Distributors Association (MPPDA) hired a devout Presbyterian, Will H. Hays as its head. Eight years later, in 1930, the MPPDA ratified the Motion Picture Production Code. Also known as the Hays Code, these guidelines were set up as “a list of rules that studios could follow to avoid the censors’ wrath” one specific line read “sexual perversion or any inference to it is forbidden” This era in censorship set the stage for a culture in which the stereotypical behaviour of homosexuals, or any behaviour deviating from the traditional gender roles, is seen as dangerous, evil, and even fatal. By representing coded homosexual characters as depressed, perverse, and succumbing to punishing ends, it shifted social subconscious beliefs of LGBT individuals in real life to those represented on screen. Media often teaches us how to feel about others and ourselves – e.g., it promotes specific body types and clothing styles. In the same way, by promoting gendered behaviour and banning homosexuality, it spread a message that homosexuality was not fit to be viewed openly. Although themes of homosexuality were banned they were definitely alluded to and that continues today.

[dreaminginthedeepsouth]

LETTERS FROM AN AMERICAN

December 16, 2020

Heather Cox Richardson

The reality that Joe Biden is about to become president and Kamala Harris is about to become vice president is sinking in across Washington, and today gave us some indications of what that’s going to mean.

Stories about what exactly happened in the Trump administration are coming out, and they are not pretty. Politics trumped everything for members of the administration, even our lives.

Today Representative James Clyburn (D-SC), who chairs the House Select Subcommittee on the Coronavirus Crisis, revealed documents from senior appointees in the Trump administration overriding the work of the career officials in the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Those documents show that the political appointees at the Department of Health and Human Services called for dealing with the coronavirus crisis by pursuing a strategy of “herd immunity,” deliberately spreading the coronavirus to try to infect as many people as possible, with the theory that this approach would minimize the dangers of the pandemic. While doing so, they downplayed what they were doing, tried to hide the dangers of the virus, and blamed the career scientists who objected to this strategy for the rising death rates.

Although the White House has tried to distance itself from senior Health and Human Services Adviser Paul Alexander, last summer he was widely perceived to speak for his boss Michael Caputo, the Health and Human Services Assistant Secretary for Public Affairs whom Trump had appointed, and for the White House itself. Alexander, a part-time university professor from Canada, defended Trump against scientists, accusing CDC Principal Deputy Director Dr. Anne Schuchat of lying when she provided accurate public information about the worsening pandemic. When she suggested everyone should wear a mask, he claimed: “her aim is to embarrass the President.” Alexander attacked Anthony Fauci for his attempts to protect Americans. “He just won’t stop!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” wrote Alexander on July 3, 2020 (yes, I counted the exclamation points); “does he think he is the President???”

Alexander advocated spreading the infection to younger Americans: “So the bottom line is if it is more infectiouness [sic] now, the issue is who cares? If it is causing more cases in young, my word is who cares…as long as we make sensible decisions, and protect the elderely [sic] and nursing homes, we must go on with life….who cares if we test more and get more positive tests.”

Alexander wrote to Caputo: “There is no other way, we need to establish herd, and it only comes about allowing the non-high risk groups expose themselves to the virus.  PERIOD.” On the same day, he wrote: “Infants, kids, teens, young people, young adults, middle aged with no conditions etc. have zero to little risk….so we use them to develop herd…we want them infected…”

On July 24, he wrote to FDA Commissioner Stephen Hahn and Caputo: “it may be that it will be best if we open up and flood the zone and let the kids and young folk get infected” as a strategy to get “natural immunity…natural exposure,” an argument that illuminates Trump’s insistence this summer that schools and colleges must open.

But the idea that young people are safe from the virus is wrong. Today, an article published in the Journal of the American Medical Association reported that while Americans older than 65 have borne the brunt of the coronavirus, young adults are suffering terribly. From March through July, there were almost 12,000 more deaths than expected among adults from 25 to 44. Young Black and Hispanic Americans make up not just a disproportionate number of that group of victims; they are a majority. Those extraordinary death rates have continued. Younger adults are indeed endangered by the coronavirus; the idea it is harmless to them “has simply not been borne out by emerging data,” doctors Jeremy Samuel Faust, Harlan M. Krumholz, and Rochelle P. Walensky—Biden’s pick to run the CDC-- wrote in the New York Times today.  

Another report today showcases two former CDC political appointees who are now speaking out to call attention to the silencing of career scientists at the agency. Kyle McGowan, a former chief of staff at the CDC, and his deputy Amanda Campbell watched as political appointees in Washington ignored scientists, censored doctors’ messages to the public, and cut the agency’s budget. “It was… like a hand grasping something, and it slowly closes, closes, closes, closes until you realize that, middle of the summer, it has a complete grasp on everything at the CDC,” McGowan told New York Times reporter Noah Weiland. “Every time that the science clashed with the messaging, messaging won.”

Politifact, the Pulitzer Prize winning fact-checking website from the Poynter Institute, named the downplaying and denial of the seriousness of coronavirus its “Lie of the Year.”

Today it became clear the administration dropped the ball in other important ways. We have more information now about the extensive computer hack that appears to have been conducted by operatives from the Russian government. It’s bad. Hackers placed malware on commercial network management software upgrades to gain access to government computers, along with those of major U.S. companies, as far back as last March. They have been able to root around in our secrets for months. Hackers accessed the Treasury and Commerce Departments, the State Department, the Department of Homeland Security, and parts of the Pentagon, among other targets. The intrusion was discovered on December 8, when the cybersecurity company FireEye realized it had been hacked and alerted the FBI.

Today the FBI, the Cybersecurity and Infrastructure Security Agency (CISA), and the Office of the Director of National Intelligence (ODNI), issued a joint statement acknowledging “a significant and ongoing cybersecurity campaign” and indicated they are not sure yet what has been hit. “This is a developing situation, and while we continue to work to understand the full extent of this campaign, we know this compromise has affected networks within the federal government.” It is clear the U.S. has been hit hard: Trump’s National Security Adviser Robert O’Brien has cut short an overseas trip to come home and deal with the crisis.

In the New York Times, Thomas P. Bossert, Trump’s former Homeland Security Adviser said, “the magnitude of this national security breach is hard to overstate.” He insisted the U.S. must call out Russia for this attack (assuming it is confirmed that that country is, indeed, behind the attack). “Trump must make it clear to Vladimir Putin that these actions are unacceptable. The U.S. military and intelligence community must be placed on increased alert; all elements of national power must be placed on the table.”

“President Trump is on the verge of leaving behind a federal government, and perhaps a large number of major industries, compromised by the Russian government. He must use whatever leverage he can muster to protect the United States and severely punish the Russians.”

The New York Times called this breach “among the greatest intelligence failures of modern times.” Senator Richard Blumenthal (D-CT) called it “stunning.” “Today’s classified briefing on Russia’s cyberattack left me deeply alarmed, in fact downright scared. Americans deserve to know what’s going on,” he tweeted. Blumenthal also recognized the severity of the coronavirus early: he tweeted on February 25: “This morning’s classified coronavirus briefing should have been made fully open to the American people—they would be as appalled & astonished as I am by the inadequacy of preparedness & prevention.”

And yet, there are signs that the country is reorienting itself away from Trump and modern-day Republicanism.

Former New Jersey Governor Chris Christie, previously a staunch Trump supporter, has released an advertisement urging people to wear masks and admitting he was wrong not to wear one at the White House. It seems likely he is eyeing a future presidential run, and clearly is calculating that it is wise these days to distance himself from Trump’s anti-mask politics.

Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell (R-KY), who has refused to advance a coronavirus relief bill since the House passed one last May, seven months ago, is now trying to make a deal that includes direct payments to Americans hurt by the pandemic. He explained to Republicans today that Republican senate candidates Kelly Loeffler and David Perdue, who are running against Democrats Raphael Warnock and Jon Ossoff in Georgia, are “getting hammered” because the people want the bill and the Senate is holding it up.

Finally, Bloomberg last night ran a story by journalist Craig Stirling highlighting the work of economists David Hope of the London School of Economics and Julian Limberg of King’s College London, who examined the concept of “supply side economics,” or the “trickle down theory.” This is the economic theory popularized in the 1980s saying it’s best for the economy not to support wages at the bottom of the economy—the demand side—but rather to free up capital at the top—the supply side—because wealthy entrepreneurs will create new jobs and the resulting economic growth will help everyone. This idea has been behind the Republicans’ forty-year commitment to tax cuts for the wealthy.

In their study of 18 countries over 50 years, Hope and Limberg concluded that this theory was wrong. Tax cuts do not, they prove, trickle down. They do little to promote growth or create jobs. Instead, they mostly just help the people who get the tax cuts.

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LETTERS FROM AN AMERICAN

HEATHER COX RICHARDSON

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Though I agree with most the things you say I definitely can't agree with the pedophilia parts. I just think any form of children in sexual situations is plain gross, but other than that I'm sorry you're getting so much hate dude :(

First of all, thank the heaven’s you aren’t telling me to get le corona or whatever, I appreciate the politeness <3

second of all, I totally understand. And I will say this: it makes me uncomfortable too. I also find it gross, and I don’t like it. But I recognize that I have self control and I get to chose what I do and don’t see (blacklists exist) and I recognize censorship is very, very bad. A lot of us are lucky to live on the western side on the globe, because places like China, especially with the Hong Kong protesters, face major censorship issues, and to suggest to censor content without KNOWING how that can grow into a huge problem is...scary. 

In fact, I once read a story for class that featured heavy depictions of sexual abuse aimed at a minor, and it made me legitimately nauseous reading it. As well, I was made to read a story (for class, again) that depicted somebody heavily suicidal, and it triggered me greatly as I was suicidal during that period of my life. But...I would never wish those stories to be burned, or censored. I don’t like those books. I never want to read them again. But they have the right to exist, and to spread the messages they want to spread about how dark the world truly can be.

I am a survivor who used shipping and fucked up fiction to cope. My therapists (I use to talk to several) all told me it was normal, as long as I recognized that it was bad in real life. It saddens me that many antis won’t support survivors with different opinions. Survivors who already feel like freaks or already feel outcasted are being outcasted by other survivors. It’s a terrible feeling, and I use to feel it heavily. To know other people who went through my struggle see me as dirty, or less-worthy, even accusing me as “fetishizing” or “supporting” the very things that terrified me, It’s plain terrible. 

I will never understand how people can say that to survivors and not feel bad about it; it’s one of the most emotionally fucked up things you can say to a human.

Some taboo fiction is created and consumed by survivors. Others by non-survivors. You should not have to disclose your personal trauma to be able to make a fic, or to post art. The fact antis feel they need to hear your trauma and then judge if you’re “traumatized enough” to own an opinion is....well.....terrible.

It doesn’t bother me anymore, but it used to a lot. I felt like I needed to kill myself all because I coped in a way that wasn’t pure and saintly to these people. Because my mentality isn’t black and white. Because humans aren’t perfect, pure creatures. Because I’m wrong for functioning differently.

And so, to answer you: I do not like p*dophilia fics or art. But I understand why it exists, because I know how it feels to go through this. Even if it’s made by a non-survivor, I feel it has the right to exist. If it really came down to it, if it stopped somebody from harming a real actual child, then that’s all that I can really hope for. Everything has pros and cons, and I don’t think we should deprive survivors or people going through tough times of resources just because some people use them badly. And in those instances, we should catch and punish the abusers, not the people making content, because they weren’t advocating for such things. At least I can take comfort in the fact Ao3 won’t delete fics (unlike wattpad or ff.net), but the stigma around survivors who cope in less pure ways is bothersome.

And I will say this: if you’re reading this and you’re somebody who enjoys taboo fiction, survivor or not, there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s normal. Humans are diverse. Humans aren’t simple black-and-white beings. Humans think up fucked up things. The world can be dark. You are not a bad person and you are not doing anything wrong, never let anybody tell you otherwise. 

[bigskydreaming]

I have a question. In one of your recent posts, you said that trigger warnings come from a place of obligation and not true caring. I agree with you that a lot of the time, that’s true. Which can be concerning. But my question is that at the end of the day, does the person’s reasoning matter? Maybe they’re an awful rude person but if they’ve tagged their stuff, made it easy to see what’s gonna be in the fic, doesn’t that still help? Even if coming from a rude place. The end result is good

Well sure, any time a trigger warning is a benefit to someone, it doesn’t really matter what the reasoning for making it was. Absolutely.

My point there was the problem is one of priorities, and approach. And bottom line, a person who is only tacking on expected trigger warnings out of a sense of covering their own ass, like......they’re not ever likely to be examining their own work with an eye towards the kinds of negative effects it could potentially have on people, because they’re too busy denying that there’s any possible negative impact it could have at all. Despite the fact that this is just willful obliviousness - if fic can have a positive effect on people and inspire or reinforce positive ideas, it has just as much power and likelihood to have a negative effect on people and inspire or reinforce negative ideas. Its not about a one to one correlation, like, its not like anything someone reads in fic they’re going to do, but as pieces of a larger fandom culture? That absolutely adds up and contributes to the normalization and perpetuation and spread of negative ideas and ideologies.

And this is the kind of self-scrutiny an over-reliance on trigger warnings gets in the way of....because its just accepted or taken as fact that trigger warnings ARE the solution....despite all the times and ways people speak up to say well there’s a problem here because this alleged solution is not working here and here and here and over here too. 

But someone who’s convinced they ALREADY did their due diligence by tacking on a couple trigger warnings is never going to be as receptive to being told they missed some, as someone who approaches things from a perspective of understanding that trigger warnings are not infallible, they’re only effective when an author has an HONEST view of their own work.

(And if fandom was truly engaging in a lot of this content honestly, as I’ve said, tags like dub-con and pseudo-incest and consensual underaged sex would not be as widely used as they are in the ways that they’re most often used.....ways that are categorically NOT what those things mean and advertise).

And most importantly, trigger warnings as they’re used by fandom now, like....have kinda become an excuse for authors to try and abdicate any responsibility for what they write. “Oh, I used trigger warnings, so any impact my fic has on someone has nothing to do with me past that point.....unless of course its a positive impact, in which case I’m still more than happy to soak up the praise.”

And that’s just not how it works. You know that thing I said in an earlier post about how all writing is just another form of communicating things - to ourselves in journals, to others in stories or emails or messages.....bottom line, writing has one purpose: to convey ideas, meanings, etc between the person writing and the person or people they’re writing TO or sharing that writing WITH.

In essence, a fic that you’ve written and then decided to POST, to publish, to put out in the world in some form and share with others.....at that point, it stops being a conversation with just yourself and becomes a conversation that’s being had with anyone and everyone who then reads that fic....even if it is a one-sided conversation for the most part, with others just listening to what ideas and thoughts and images and impressions you’re conveying via your writing.

And think of it in terms of like, literally ANY conversation you might have out loud.

If you say something offensive, is it anyone’s fault or responsibility other than yours, that you said something that was offensive?

If you say something you don’t actually believe, but don’t follow it up with anything that actually indicates out loud that this isn’t something you genuinely believe, is it realistic to pretend that people have no basis for listening to what you actually SAID and from that drawing conclusions about what you believe or support?

If you say something that’s in direct opposition to something you said earlier, is it any wonder if people question which you ACTUALLY meant or believe MORE, or just flat out don’t believe what you said earlier now?

If you say something insensitive or even cruel, do you have any right or reasonable expectation why anybody who hears you shouldn’t be within their rights to call you out for what you said and why it was fucked up?

If you choose NOT to say something, out of respect for someone you’re around, or because you know its insensitive or offensive or anything of the sort....are you being censored, or are you just choosing not to be a douchebag?

And so on and so on.

Writers have a tendency to kinda hide behind the logic “not everything we write has to be something we personally believe, we can write characters who have very different values than us” - and that’s absolutely true....but only up to a certain point.

Because you can absolutely write a CHARACTER who believes the opposite of stuff you actually believe or value.....but your NARRATIVE still has to refute that somewhere at some point in some way.....otherwise.....there is literally no reason why anyone reading that, ‘hearing’ what you spoke into the world, would think you DON’T actually believe that. You’ve communicated something toxic or ugly or even harmful or predatory....without accompanying it with ANY communicated idea as to why a reader SHOULDN’T just absorb those ideas as is.

Like.....if you write a rape fic that’s INTENDED to be received as sexy or hot, even if you’re not actually condoning rape within the fic, and even if you would never condone it in real life.....

If your fic still garners comments like “that’s so hot” or something like that, and this isn’t a problem for you because this is a reaction you expected or even a response you intended or were seeking?

You didn’t say or express that you would ever rape someone or say it was okay to rape someone.

But you still communicated, without any kind of self-contradiction: 

“Hey, here is a scenario in which rape is hot.”

And whether you’re talking about fiction or reality, why WOULDN’T that communicated idea be anything other than wildly insensitive and yes, even offensive and yes even DAMAGING to many rape survivors....even if you’re one yourself? 

Like.....another example, okay so I’ve literally been gaybashed, nobody’s likely to ever accuse me of being homophobic, its a pretty safe bet, right? But if I write a fic FOR WHATEVER REASON, in which a character is homophobic even though I’m not myself, but where a character expresses toxic, prejudicial, HARMFUL ideas about being gay....and then my fic nowhere at any point says or does anything to REFUTE or contest those harmful ideas......why would the fact that I don’t actually believe those things make ANY difference whatsoever in terms of whether those things were absorbed by readers in the exact way I communicated them....but without the benefit of any of the reasons I KNOW - but did not communicate in the fic - that they’re harmful and shouldn’t be paid attention to?

So yes, fiction absolutely can do harm, if its not treated with the appropriate responsibility. It can make people who’ve never met someone who’s Muslim decide all Muslim people are terrorists. It can convince people that destructive, harmful instances of incest are actually the outliers and most incest is harmless and between equals. It can normalize the idea that all bisexual people are slutty and promiscuous. It can do tons more beside all that.

And yes, fic absolutely can and often DOES, in fandom, communicate the idea that many of the exact same people who swear they support survivors and have nothing but sympathy for what they went through and all that....can in the right scenarios and circumstances still find the very IDEA of rape hot and exciting, can find the IMAGERY of a hot or sexy character being raped to be sexually stimulating and gratifying and DESIRED, and so on and so forth.

And why wouldn’t that communicated idea make someone question if you’re someone they can ever be comfortable being around, because one way or another, you still found and advertised, broadcast, invited others to join in enjoying.....a scenario in which something an awful lot like that someone’s trauma was hot or sexy to you just as long as it was projected on someone else - a distance which may not matter to them or make them feel any better about the fact that you’re still talking about one of the worst things to ever happen to them, but skewing it in a way where every thing actually being said isn’t about how its bad or wrong or nothing you’d ever condone....but hot and titillating and sexy? 

Why wouldn’t it bother someone or weird them out that you see no conflict of interest between having sympathy for them but then flipping a switch and happily consuming content that’s entirely and unilaterally just about characters going through the exact same kind of thing.....and the viewpoint you’re siding with in this particular instance is that of like....the actual attacker, the one going yes, this is good?

ALL OF THESE are the kinds of questions - and the kind of impact - that not only do trigger warnings just flat out not cover....but that the over-reliance on trigger warnings makes less and less likely to even pop up in a writer’s brain as something worth considering or weighing at all.

So again, like I said at the top - I mean yeah, if a trigger warning is actually helpful to someone, it doesn’t matter WHY it was added or put in place.

But if it wasn’t put in place out of a genuine self-examination of your work and a genuine desire to look out for readers’ comfort and take responsibility for the kind of heavy content you’re choosing to write and share.....

Chances are, the fact that one trigger warning did work for one person or however many, was just a stroke of luck and there’s likely to be a dozen other ways in which that writer failed to consider or even ask themselves....is there anything else I should recognize and acknowledge as potentially having a negative impact on people?

And please, if you read or write dark fic for any reason, you don’t owe me an explanation but you owe it to yourself to at least take a second and honestly ask yourself if you’ve EVER stopped to ask or examine any of the above questions or angles. And if not, why? Ask yourself if you’ve ever been encouraged or had it suggested by others in fandom to even just ask or wonder about these things. And if not, why?

Please examine - who benefits MOST in all of this, from encouraging more and more readers and writers to just NOT think about ANY of this stuff at all, and to instead just shut down any and all conversation about it or attempts to START conversations like this......

Other than people who like and enjoy this type of content and genuinely just do not care about the impact it might have on others....and so similarly, want as few other people as possible to care or even THINK about the impact it might have on others....and thus, maximize the number of people who absent those considerations, have no problem contributing to or enjoying that type of content?

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

No, you blocked me because you’re both an intellectual coward and intellectually dishonest, @suckedbackiniguess.

I neither know nor care what someone so lacking in commitment to their own beliefs is even talking about, but I’m pretty confident I can read things and understand them for myself. I learned that skill years ago. While your god - whichever one that is - might need you filtering and censoring its words to keep it in line and pretend it’s compatible with the 21st century, i do not require this service from you and did not request it. I can think and speak for myself.

Deleted unread. Blocked in return, marked as spam.

You apparently have enough energy to reblog over 100 posts today alone, including several about “big dick energy,” but not enough energy to commit to defending your god - whichever one that is. What would your god say about you re-blogging over 100 posts instead of spreading its message of... wind or agriculture or fire or serpents or the moon or whatever it’s the god of? The end result of which is for you to just shrug and try to make your burden into my burden so you can go back to re-blogging anime memes  - a burden I have exactly no investment in and will not shoulder for you, and one that is evidently not even important at all to you to invest any effort or time in. Yet I should? I owe someone so bankrupt in integrity literally nothing. Who even are you?

[puckyou-forpuckssake]

North Star (5)—C. Parayko

I’m so excited about the love and response to the series. I never expected this when I first started this. Message me to request an imagine. Warning: pregnancy stress. Check out more of my imagines by searching my blog for my master list or with #hockeyimagine. There are other parts to this series. Find them by searching with #northstar on my blog.

You tapped your hand on your thigh anxiously waiting. Colton grabbed your wrist, causing you to look up at him. He smiled. “Why are you so nervous? You’ve been to these appointments before. I should be nervous. I’m going to be a dad.”

You smiled and leaned against him. “I’m nervous because you’re here. This whole time I haven’t felt like this is real,” You pointed to your protruding belly, “Even though the evidence is sticking straight out. Having you here makes me believe it is all going to be okay. I’ve been so scared these past few months. I just wanted us to be okay. I didn’t know how you would act. I should’ve known amnesia wouldn’t change you.”

Colton chuckled softly. “Amnesia doesn’t change a person or the personality. It makes it hard to develop memories or takes them away in my case,” Colton paused. “Well, I guess they could because maybe those memories were important in constructing certain beliefs and aspects of a person’s life. I can see why were worried now.

“But know,” Colton said, clasping your hands, “That I will always love you. Some things are always meant to be, like in that Netflix movie we watched, When We First Met.”

“Y/N?” the nurse called.

You took a deep breath before pulling Colton with you to the nurse. She smiled. “It’s good to see you, Y/N. I’m glad to see you brought someone with you. How have you been feeling?”

You smiled as you stepped on the scale. “Better,” you answered, glancing over at Colton. “I’m a lot better now. Mindy, this is my husband, Colton.”

Mindy the nurse shook Colton’s hand. “It is so nice to finally meet you. I’m glad your memory is back then. That stress Y/N was going through was not good for the baby. Dr. Cox was getting extremely worried.”

Colton frowned. “My memories aren’t back actually,” Colton informed her when they entered the room. “I’ve started to remember really small bits and pieces, but I don’t remember a lot of the past two years still. I’m here because I just found out I’m going to be a dad.”

“You didn’t tell him?” Mindy gasped as she took your blood pressure.

“There wasn’t a right time.”

Mindy rolled her eyes. “Everything is looking good. I’ll let Dr. Cox know you’re ready. Just do the usual. Colton, there are some papers you need to fill out regarding your medical history. If you have any blanks on the data, please do call someone. We’d like to have them done ASAP. I’ll grab them real quick.”

Mindy exited and returned in a flash with a clipboard and pen before leaving again. Silence encased the room as laid down on the exam table.

“I can feel your thoughts, Colton,” you said, breaking the silence. “Say whatever you have to say.”

“I’m sad that you couldn’t trust me enough with this. The amount of stress and pressure you were under could have done serious harm to the baby.”

“But I was worried about you!”

“I know, and that’s what I’m upset about...with myself. I made you feel alone and that you couldn’t trust me. I hurt you and in hand hurt our baby,” The distress was all over Colton’s face. “If anything had happened—“

“But nothing did!” You argued. “I was worried about you, and I had every right to be. That first month was critical for you.”

“And the first three for you.”

You sighed. “Can we please not do this now or here?”

Someone knocked at the door. Colton nodded in response to you. “Hello Y/N,” Dr. Cox said when she popped in. “How have you been feeling?”

“Good.”

“Morning sickness?”

“None.”

“How about your headaches? And the aches?”

“Better. Aches no more and headaches only once or twice or week.”

Dr. Cox nodded. She walked towards you and lifted your shirt up and looked up. Shock crossed her face for a second. “I hadn’t realized you had brought someone with you. You must be the husband, Colton. I’m Dr. Adaley Cox, your wife’s OBGYN. It’s a pleasure to finally meet you.”

“Likewise.”

“Your presence answers some questions I had,” she said as she spread gel across your abdomen. “I remember hearing about your accident. How have you been?”

“Better. I remember smaller details every day. Retrograde amnesia sadly doesn’t go away overnight. How’s Y/N and the baby?”

“Mom and baby have been doing fine. I was a little worried for a while with the amount of stress she was under so early on, but she and baby prevailed,” The unsettling eye contact between you and Colton caught Dr. Cox’s attention. “Do not blame each other or yourselves for what didn’t happen. Baby doesn’t like that.”

You chuckled causing Colton to smile. “Alright, let’s have a look at baby Parayko.”

You and Colton turned your attention to the monitor. The monitor went from being completely black to being filled with shades of grey. “Have you felt the baby move at all?”

You shrugged. “It’s possible. I’m not quite sure. I’ve felt some sort of feeling today. It kind of feels like gas.”

“You’re around 18 weeks now. You should start being able to feel the baby’s movement,” Dr. Cox smiled as she moved the probe around. “And there is sweet potato sized Parayko!”

You and Colton gasped at the sight of your baby. You could see the outline of its head, arms, and legs. You were at awe. You and Colton had created that.

“Baby looks to be doing well,” Dr. Cox said. “At this point the baby would like humanish. Ears have developed now so it can hear what you’re saying. Movement, hiccups, and yawning will be frequent, and from the looks of it, baby has the hiccups right now.”

“We made that,” Colton whispered. You looked over and saw him grinning with tears in his eyes. That sight confirmed for you that everything will be okay with him. Maybe he’ll never remember meeting you or proposing to you or meeting each other’s families for the first time, but it won’t stop the expansion of the universe called your relationship. You squeezed his hand and smiled.

The next thing you heard was thumping. You knew what that sound was. Your face matched Colton’s now. Dr. Cox smiled. “And that’s your baby’s heartbeat. Everything looks good for both mom and baby. Now for the important question. Since you are about halfway through your pregnancy, the baby should have the formation of genitalia. Would you like to know what you are having.”

You turned to Colton. “I don’t care. I want to be surprised but I also really want to know.”

“Is there any chance you can find out and put it in an envelope for us to open later?” You asked Dr. Cox.

She nodded. “I can do that as long as the baby is in position for a clear image. Would you like an ultrasound picture to take home though? Without the gender of course.”

Both you and Colton eagerly nodded. Dr. Cox printed of a few copies before moving the probe around. She smiled. “It looks like baby Parayko is coropporating. Let me go get an envelope. No peeking.”

“When do you want to look?” Colton asked. “Christmas is tomorrow. We could look then.”

You thought for a moment. “Or New Years? Start the year off with some really great news.”

Colton nodded. “Midnight of the new year it is.”

Dr. Cox returned with an envelope and printed the picture out. Closing the envelope, she handed it to Colton and gave you a towel to wipe your abdomen. “I put a note in there of the gender in case you can’t see with the picture.”

“Isn’t just looking to see if there is a little thingy between the legs?” Colton asked.

You gave him a strange look. “You mean a penis?”

Colton shushed you. “The baby has ears. I don’t want to use that kind of language around him or her.”

You laughed. “Colton, then we can never introduce or be around the team if you want to censor language.”

Dr. Cox chuckled. “It is as easy as that, Mr. Parayko, but you might not quite understand what you are looking at. I’ll see you in about two months, Y/N. Don’t hesitate to email me if you have any questions or schedule an appointment if you feel the need.”

You thanked her and walked to the front desk to reschedule. “Lunch now?” Colton asked when you two left. “Then we head to Vlad’s for Christmas with them and Pietrangelos.”

———

The holidays went well for you and Colton. Christmas Eve was fun with your friends. You and Colton spent Christmas Day snuggles together on the couch watching movies and eating pizza. Your family came down the next day. His was supposed to be there that day too but got delayed a day because of weather.

You all went to the Blues game the 29th. The team celebrated Colton even though he wasn’t on the ice playing but sitting in a box. St. Louis was just glad to see he was doing fine.

Neither of you had told people your plan to find out the baby’s gender. They had asked and you answered with, “We’ll see.”

The small New Year’s Eve bash between your family and the Paraykos was going strong when you faked tiredness around 10:30. No one questioned it. Colton promised to give you a midnight kiss though with a wink.

You laid in bed watching reruns of The Office when Colton quietly walked into the room. “It’s five til.”

You nodded and leaned over to open your nightstand drawer and grab the envelope. Colton wrapped his arms around you. You both sat quietly on the bed, staring at the envelope. “What do you want it to be?” He asked.

“Healthy. I don’t care if we have a girl or boy. I just want our baby to be okay. You?”

“Same,” Colton replied. “I’m nervous.”

“Me too,” you agreed. “It’s only been these last couple of weeks that it’s hit me that we are having a baby. In four or five months there is going to be a little human with us.”

You could start to hear them chanting downstairs. Colton kissed you. You almost dropped the envelope as you leaned into his touch. “Happy New Years!” They yelled down stairs.

Colton let you go. “Open it.”

You took a deep breath and pulled out the ultrasound. You smiled at the sight whereas Colton squinted. “She was right. That picture just looks smudged. Where’s that sticky note?”

You handed Colton the note that confirmed what you saw. You watched him grin and wipe a tear away. He looked back at the ultrasound and then kissed you again. His hand rested over yours on you belly. Your universe was expanding and you couldn’t wait for the Big Bang.

[kmp78]

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Yeah.

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#DEAL ✌️

[quesselfships]

Limerance with anyone!

limerance - gush about your f/o, no limits… but the catch is, gush as if its a message directly to your f/o.

(It took me a couple of days to write this, and I kinda wrote it fic style? I'm imagining this is a letter I'd mail to him while he's at Chernobyl. It also does get kind of Nsfw, and maybe a little sad?? Am I just hormonal, because I cried over it)

My dearest Valery,

I hope these chocolate covered Zefirs get to you. I know how much you love them. You denied yourself on your last visit home, but I don't think you've grown too stout. I like how soft you are, how cozy it is to be near you.

The house is empty without you. The cats and I miss your gentle muttering when you're focused and the tapping of your feet. You fidget so, but it's comforting to remember that you're there. You still move and breathe and think.

I know how much you're needed on the project. You, my love, are the only one capable of this task, as impossible as it seems. You, and only you, are wise enough to understand how that machine ticked.

I know you'll deny it. You always do. You're too humble, or perhaps too bashful to accept it, but you are a hero. You have already done things no human has ever had to do. You've taken it in stride, shouldered the responsibility, and you deserve to be recognized for it.

But of course, I wish I could keep you to myself, and not give you away to your mistress Chernobyl. I admit I'm jealous. But I know you've studied me like you've studied her. You know the type of chocolates I like, and know when I need them. You know the best trinkets and gifts to bring home. Even while dealing with your mistress, or worse, in Moscow. How do you do it? A meeting with Gorbachev, somehow back on the helicopter before you know it and yet you find something for me. I don't want gifts, Valery. You have nothing to prove to me. My love for you goes deeper than objects.

You're thoughtful, and kind. You never ask for more than I can give. Even after being gone for so long, to such a dangerous place, you're content to watch me nod off, book in hand, and only carefully removing it once I've passed out in your soft arms.

I suspect at this point the censors have stopped reading, thinking this is a vapid love letter, so I can be blunt.

I miss all of you, and I love all of you. And this includes feeling your soft, still shy kisses along my shoulders. The grip of your hand at my waist, pushing me back into you. Your heart pounding against me as I wiggle my ass against you.

You're probably blushing now as I say it, but I like it. For a man so shy, your cock has no problem making itself known. The feeling of thst ridgid length pressing into my hip drives me mad. Even now, just thinking about it makes my heart flutter and my thighs squeeze together.

You are so gentle with me. So loving. You never rush me. Sometimes I wonder if the orgasm you're chasing is really yours. You focus on me.

But my God, the things you do. The light brush if your knuckles over my breasts... How you hold my legs, hooked over your hips... You could just do that, you know. Hold me spread wide for you. But you do more. Your fingers do more.

Valery, you should have been a violinist. The music you can draw from me with just a swipe of your thumb is better than any symphony.

And when in through, when you've drawn every bit of pleasure from me, and covered me in your own, I feel at home in your arms.

We've only been together for a short time, I know, but I love you with all my heart. Your mistress will take you away from me sooner rather than later, but I want to spend whatever time I can with you.

I probably wouldn't say no if you asked me to marry you.

I love you.

Lea