#I'm sorry I'm a jerk but unfortunately I too have some boundaries :(

[arttsuka]

Ok, here's something I've been meaning to address. In the last 20 days, some people have shown me that they can't respect my decision of not wanting to do art requests at the moment.

When and if I ever decide to start taking requests again, I'd like to set some 'rules'.

This is fine

This is ok (a bit vague, who are these kids?) but you get it

This is not ok

You are sending an art request at a real human, not writing a prompt on chat gpt. It's gonna take me at least 10-30 minutes (if not longer) to draw whatever the ask says, the least you can do is spend 15 seconds and write it as a normal question/sentence.

Same for 'draw xyz'. Idk indulge me, write it differently.

[saxlochapologist]

I'm getting tired of people on tiktok thinking Lochlan is the only weird one in the family as if it wasn't Saxon who introduced the themes of incest into the season by calling their sister hot, suggesting that him and loch watch porn together and almost let his little brother watch him jerking off.

Sorry needed to vent to someone.

omg yes anon this makes me so happy I don't engage in fandom outside of tumblr bc takes like that would exhaust me too! Especially bc Saxon basically groomed lochy to view sex as something inherently degrading and coercive toward women lol. He's been told for years that all his big brother cares about is money, getting off, and being physically attractive. OF COURSE that creates a situation for Lochlan where he feels like if he wants Saxon's approval he has to conform to those standards and give Saxon what he really wants (someone to get him off.) I also think it isn't even only sax and lochy who have problems with this, the rest of the family is weird too lol. all the shit Victoria fills their heads with about how their family is this incredible ideal that no one else can come close to, the way she intentionally alienates other people in front of her family to reiterate the idea that no one else matters except for them (when Kate approaches the table Victoria is honestly so rude about not remembering her that it made me physically cringe lol). Victoria upholds the insider/outsider dichotomy at every turn! She tells that story about her own brother holding her down and dangling spit over her face, clearly she has NO problem with her children not having a concept of healthy familial boundaries. The entire Ratliff family are fucking trainwrecks and to suggest that Lochy is some evil deranged mastermind is a huge misunderstanding of the entire subtext of the show hahah. I hope this summer people start exploring actual critical thinking skills before engaging in textual discussions on complex issues but unfortunately it is doubtful. sorry, now I'm the one who's venting lol

[undervaluedagent]

hey hi hey! what are your favourite songs + episodes?? :D

Putting the episodes first because I decided to go on a music nerd tangent later on. And honestly, I don't know what my favorite episodes would be (I like them all), so I think I'll just talk about of all of them.

Also this response got long as fuck so I'm doing a readmore.

Creativity: Man the puppets from back then are interesting to look back on XD. Mad at Sketchpad for trying to kill Yellow Guy's creativity (even though other teachers tried to straight-up kill him). That boy's clown painting was good! ;-; Also am I the only one who keeps rewinding to when Duck says his favorite color is red? He sounds so enthusiastic about it! Then the main thing of the episode, I interpreted it as conveying that we're told to be creative, but only within certain boundaries. This also reminds me, the fandom has some trouble characterizing Sketchpad. @/gnomeniche has a post about it somewhere too, but basically Sketch is a straight-edge jerk and just because they're nonviolent doesn't make them nice. Aaaaand of course there were those people who made them all murder-happy. They're the exact kind of people Sketch would despise, I'm afraid XD.

Time: I just realized I have very little to say about that episode 'cause it was a pretty straightforward one, but it had a nice song and the fish joke was funny, so was the "It's time to go to time." It also took me a while to realize that Red decayed too (I think), I thought his ass was really long lived and just kept growing more and more hair. The ending is really weird and I still don't know what exactly to make of it, we know they're in a simulation by now but yk.

Love: Just an overall nice episode, the friendship moments were sweet. As I say later, I like the song, and I refuse to ever, ever call Shrignold a butterfly. That is a baby pigeon always and forever. Probably the most horrifying part of the episode was the salmonella /j. Also, I believe in the Shrignold was Michael theory, not really sure why they'd just make that weird story up unless it related to something XD. And I think it ties in with a LoveBird fanfiction that was recently started, think it only has one chapter as of now but I'm enjoying it, first chap is from Shrig's pov (it doesn't explicitly mention Michael or anything tho).

Computer (or whatever it's called): Colin is best boy goddamnit and I talk abt this later but he did nothing wrong. Song fucks too ofc. I also love how done with life Red is the whole time, and the "wow, look, nothing!" Unfortunately I don't really have much to say abt the episode, I just like it.

Health/Food: Oh boy. This episode. What I would consider the only scary DHMIS episode (sorry, the rest are just interesting). The way Duck is so scared the whole time breaks my heart and makes me fear for him, the Steak Guy creeps me the ever-loving fuck out, and the music. Okay. So the lyrics are super weird, often contradictory or just plain wrong in a way they aren't in any other episode, which is super off-putting, and the rest of the time they're just obviously incomplete. You're like, what the hell are these mfs doing??? And the audio breaks when the phone calls come through, with the creepy-ass ambiance, it's so unsettling! Audio is a key piece if you're trying to scare me. DHMIS 5 certainly suceeds in that. And of course the actual stuff that happens. Oh my god. Best episode if you're a real horror guy.

Dreams: Intro is heartbreaking of course, poor Yellow Guy, but what a power move for him to just turn the light back off when the teacher first shows up! It didn't work but it was still a power move! Red Guy is such a nerd XD, and that guy who was like "Well, that's rude. No clothes" well okay then, maybe should've kept your clothes on bro. (Also wtf is with their office building why does the staircase look like that). The presence of the teachers extends to outside the simulator, as seen with the mic and box radio thing. That's interesting. And people don't tend to notice this, but Red Guy himself popped on the screen briefly when he was going through buttons on the thingy. Man the lore implications. (Also a very merry piss off to that one guy who theorized that Duck showing up on the screen was a sign that he wasn't real and that he's replacable XD.) Roy was certainly creepy here, but my bigger question is, doesn't stretching like that hurt his arm? Oh and also the rebooted guys are cute <3

Jobs: I kin Red Guy rn. I too wish I was doing Nothing Day. But back to the point, the autism in this episode was so high. Someone else pointed out it was a lot like masking, and yeah that's definitely what Yellow and Red were doing HARDCORE. Also I don't really ship Yellow x Claire partially for this reason, I just don't trust that Yellow was able to be himself at all just due to the work environment and stuff. (Also Yellow's aro.) I don't hate the ship ofc, that's just my thoughts on it. And Duck in the elevator, that part was great. Having him be presented with a stupid emotion chart and be like I don't know these emotions and knock it over was also an autism moment, as was being spoken over and told what your feelings are for you. That Stress song was stressful for sure and I felt bad for Duck the whole time, and I do not like the Carehound bc it brainwashed Duck. I am protective of my boy Duck. Anyway, at the end of the episode, Duck and the gang got a pound. In the next episode, when Larry goes on his little spiel about what happens after we die, he says they get a pound every time they get it right. I guess they only got it right for one episode, huh? (I guess it's also the only episode aside from 6 where the teacher didn't fucking die.)

Death: Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. These guysssss. They can't live without each other! They love each other! Also I have beef with Coffin for the exact same reason I have beef with Sketchpad (stifling Yellow's creativity), but Coffin has a soothing voice so I don't care. I've also made a post abt how Duck was affected by the episode that I'm not gonna repeat here. I would say poor Stain Edwards, but like...I'm protective of Duck and I really don't want them replacing my boy so I kinda fear them. Memories is gut-wrenching ofc. And Big Day is the song that actually led to me getting into the series.

Family: *foams at the mouth* I'm going to hit Red's family with a truck and the creepy family with a truck and decide what to do with Roy but probably hit him with at least half a truck. (Partly joking, ik the twins are kids and there's prob something more to them.) Something I never see being talked about but I really enjoy is how the FAULBCHDT song is foreshadowing for the fact that the twins and their family aren't actually a real family. Still mad that Red felt like he had to apologize for being happy. The fact that Toddney managed to hypnotize Yellow Guy to sleep makes me wonder what the actual fuck is wrong with these two, and the fact that after the others leave Yellow Guy keeps asking where they are hurts me, also shows how he's got his awareness on. I am So Confused on how to feel about Roy at the end of this! I'm so confused about how to feel abt him in general actually! God I need to see him with batteries so bad.

Friendship: Wow. I dislike Warren so much, so like congratulations for making a well-written hatable character! (I don't hate him tho, for me a prerequisite for actually hating a fictional character is bad writing which isn't present here.) So happy about the Colin cameo in this episode, he's so cute (also he was adorable in Dreams but I forgot to mention that earlier). And the implications of Yellow Guy's maiden name being Rat-Eyes, that implies that his last name was never Gribbleston, which makes me think that Lesley's last name was passed on to the kid, which makes her full name Lesley Rat-Eyes, which I find hilarious. I have to wonder if the trio would've actually taken Warren to a restaurant style meal if he hadn't fucked up. Probably not. But it's nice(?) that the other two tricked Warren into helping anyways. Also the part that truly made me dislike Warren? Him being a dick to Shy Imaginary Older Brother. For reading slow and having difficulty with passwords. Very similar reason to why Warren was "defending" Yellow Guy. Warren doesn't care about jackshit, he just wants to be a hero and be fucking worshipped for doing...whatever the hell it is. Bro would totally bully me. Songs are good, fight scene is hilarious.

Transport: Absolutely amazing episode, I don't even know if I could explain because I feel like so many people have done so better than me, but anyways the end shattered my heart to pieces, actually a lot of the episode did, these poor fucking puppets. Honestly I'm really tired rn tho and pretty much everyone and their dog has talked about this ep so I'm not gonna explain further.

Electricity: Also an amazing episode, I was rewatching at some point and you can find it through the "#i'm rewatching episode 6 rn" tag (I'll tag this post with it so you can find it more easily), and I put a lot of thoughts in there, but I didn't say anything about Lesley, that funky woman. Her laughs at things that aren't funny and doesn't give straight answers swag is beginning to captivate me. It's making me wonder if she's the reason for this series' more comedic tone in comparison to the webseries. Also very curious what's above her ofc. I'd love to have a conversation with her and try to get an answer to literally anything.

I like every song from DHMIS. One of my favorites from the webseries would have to be the one from Love because it's super soothing when you ignore the context (and has the most actual singing which is important for me as a choir nerd), and also has an interesting chord progression with the frequency of its C augmented chords. The other fave from the webseries would have to be Computer (idek if that's the right name XD), because Colin is my favorite teacher, he's my special little guy who did nothing wrong and also the song is a whole vibe. Honestly I don't think he meant to harm anyone. I mean, ig there's debate on if anyone did, but Colin specifically? Definitely not.

As for the TV series, I really like the Electricity somg because first of all Electracey is my second favorite teacher, and second of all it's a banger, especially with the electric guitar parts. Plus everyone's just vibing! It's nice! I like the FAULBCHDT song because it's funny (I love how Duck is like wtf is this the whole time) and also vocal-heavy, the Worm In Your Brain song because it's rlly soothing, and Duck's Family song because it tears my heart out and eats it every time! Duck baby! He feels the need to pretend that he isn't lonely and that he's tough even when nobody's around, dearest it's okay to say you miss them we all know you love those other guys.

Side tangent, there are a total of four songs in DHMIS that aren't in what I consider a childlike key (just a key that many children's songs are in) (which I consider to be F major to A major on the circle of 5ths (so F, C, G, D, and A major)). These songs are the Stress song, which the melody is so weird that I don't want to bother pinning down a key (I think that's intentional bc it's ironically supposed to be a stressful song), but is definitely not in one of the earlier keys, the Memories song, which is in C major for part of it, but switches into what is likely C dorian (similar to C minor but with a natural 6th), but could also be G minor (probably not tho), the Worm In Your Brain song, in B major, and the Transport song, also in B major.

Aside from the Transport song, which is sung by an old man (so it makes sense for it to be in a less kiddish key), all the songs here have something to do with feelings, the Stress song with the feeling of, well, stress, Memories with grief, and Worm In Your Brain with anxiety and self-doubt. Also, all of these songs are from the new series. I feel like there's a connection to be made here but I'm sick and thus a bit stupid and can't explain it.

Holy shit this whole thing took like two hours to answer because I have chronic writes way too much and then gets distracted syndrome

[youngblood-182]

hi! can i get a naruto guy match-up pls?

physically i am 21, female, 5'2" and petite (unfortunately very flat-chested but i do have an ass from lifting weights kinda) but i have some muscle definition. i have long brown hair and hazel eyes, i'd say medium skin tone. i wear mostly jeans, leggings, crop tops/t-shirts, and big jackets or sweaters.

i'm studying environmental science at college and hope to work for a non-profit that educates youth on ecology and sustainability! in my free time i like hiking, reading, playing guitar, and drinking coffee. i'm quite shy and it takes a lot for me to warm up to people, i had a lot of abuse in my childhood so trusting people can be difficult but once i do trust you i'm a very loyal and dependable friend. i love animals and the dogs that i grew up with a lot. i'd love to adopt a bunch of animals someday. in the meantime, i have a bunch of succulents and cacti in my room.

the most important aspects of a partner, for me, are: kindness, empathy, and ambition (i want someone who doesn't "settle" in life, ya know). i want a partner who wants a family someday. also, someone who understands what it's like to have hardship and is willing to take the time to gain my trust and won't jerk me around.

sorry that this is so long!! also, no worries if you have too much on your plate to answer this. i love your blog and your other match ups.

FIRST OF ALL, imma give you a big hug ok 💗 you deserve a big hug.

Second of all, KIBA! I SHIP YOU WITH KIBA!!

-kiba in a relationship gives golden retriever vibes, I feel like you two together would just be very soft.

-I feel like you both met at a park, he was walking Akamaru and this dog decided he liked you across from the park. He led Kiba over and the two of you started talking and BAM!

-I feel like Kiba would still have his loud personality around you, he’d just be a bit softer. He’s aware of your past and as your boyfriend he wants to ensure you feel safe and comfortable around him.

-I feel like he’d do the boundary test humans do to dogs 🥹 like not the actual thing but something similar.

-he’s loyal, he cares and respects you a lot. Everything you listed I feel like Kiba represents and that’s just so cute to me 🥹

-he’s ambitious but like a team player ambitious, he wants to see you succeed as much as he wants to and will not let you get left behind. He’s so motivating.

-he’d probably get you to volunteer at animal shelters with him 🥹

-you are a very precious person to him, and the SOFTNESS 🥹🥹💖🤭

SONGS

Delicate - Taylor Swift

Animal - Neon Trees

Talk Too Much - COIN

Electric Love - BØRNS

Pretty Young Girl - Logic

[spookiest-tanukiest]

"harassment is a word I shudder when I hear" = making it about their feelings and not yours

"I'm sorry if it has ever come across that way" = invalidating your experience in already saying it does feel this way

"Qin is meant to be... Sir Percy was just flirting... James is kind of a jerk..." = giving excuses

"I'm sorry you feel offended" = no one can apologize for YOUR feelings, they're avoiding apologizing for their part

"I think you are overthinking it." = Just straight invalidation

"It's very hurtful you see me in such a negative light" = making it about their feelings

An example of what would be a more appropriate response to your criticism would be along the lines of, "oh wow! I had no idea you all felt the npcs are getting too manipulative and bordering on harassment. That's not a pleasant feeling and makes the game unpleasant to play. I overstepped some boundaries in how I managed these characters and their actions and I am sorry. It sounds like you all are willing to continue. I want to fix these characters so they don't feel this way in the future. Here are some ways I will do this [examples]. What are some ways you all think we could approach this as well? I want us to be able to have all types of characters but not at the expense of everyone's comfort. Thank you for bringing this to my attention."

It sounds like a really stressful and unfortunate situation. Hope this helps ❤️

Trigger Warning: Discussion of Sexual Assault

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Recently in a session, we've had a few interactions that fall heavily in the harassment category of things. Tonight our DM asked if we had any thoughts and criticisms towards the campaign and we brought up an event that was perceived by a lot of the party as a player sexually assaulting an npc. Below is the text discussion we had that resulted in the DM disbanding the whole campaign, unfriending us, and him and his wife blaming us for its combustion.

We tried to go about the discussion in a logical and clear, non-blaming way, but we know we are not perfect. No one is.

We really just need some non biased feedback about the whole event. We are open to all forms of criticism relating to the event. We want to maintain the friendship and hopefully fix the problems in the campaign.

Note: Character Names have not been blotted out, but all identifying names of people have