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[tmarshconnors]

When Men React Emotionally.

I learned a long time ago that emotion is a luxury in battle and life is, in many ways, a constant battlefield.

When I was younger, like most men, I thought passion and fire would carry me through. Say what you feel, do what your gut tells you, wear your heart on your sleeve that’s the nonsense we’re sold by modern culture. And let me be clear: it is nonsense. In the real world the world of business, politics, relationships, and legacy men who react emotionally always lose to men who move logically.

Every. Single. Time.

It doesn’t matter how right you feel. It doesn’t matter how angry you are or how deeply offended someone made you. If your opponent keeps his cool while you blow your top, guess who walks away in control? Not you. Emotions are exploitable. Logic is unshakable.

We live in a society that increasingly tells men it's okay—even admirable—to be emotional. And don’t misunderstand me: I'm not saying men should be robots. But there's a dangerous difference between controlling your emotions and being controlled by them.

You want to cry? Do it in private. You want to rage? Go to the gym. But when you're at the negotiating table, standing in the voting booth, or facing someone who challenges your values, you must be calm. You must be cold. You must be calculated. 

(My podcast doesn’t count believe it or not all of it is in fact logical.)

The emotional man gets baited. The emotional man lashes out. The emotional man apologises for things he never did wrong. And the emotional man almost always regrets his decisions after the dust has settled.

Training the Mind: Discipline Over Impulse

I trained myself to think logically, and it was one of the best things I ever did. It’s not something you’re born with it’s a muscle you build. You train it by stepping back. By asking: “What’s really happening here?” Not “How do I feel?” but “What is the truth? What are the facts?” 

(Granted there is a whole other story attached to that which I am not going to make public at all.)

Logic doesn’t panic. Logic doesn’t flinch when someone attacks your character. Logic sees 5 steps ahead while emotion barely survives the present.

In today’s hyper-emotional political landscape, where people vote with their hearts and riot when they don’t get their way, logical men stand out like lighthouses. They're not swept away by the tide of hysteria. They anchor themselves in reason.

Emotional Men Are Easy to Manipulate

Here’s the harsh reality someone needs to say it. Emotional men are easy to manipulate. The media knows it. Politicians know it. Women know it.  Read that again..

Women know it. TRUST ME THEY DO!

Watch how easily they push emotional buttons to get a reaction, to shift the narrative, to win the argument.

But the man who keeps a level head? He becomes unpredictable. Dangerous. Strategic.

It’s no coincidence that history’s great leaders Churchill, Eisenhower, Thatcher, even Marcus Aurelius were known for their stoicism, not their outbursts.

If you want to win in life not just survive but truly win you need to master your emotions before they master you.

Let other men scream and whine and collapse under pressure. Let them react while you calculate. That’s how you become powerful. That’s how you stay respected. And that’s how you build a legacy that doesn’t waver with the tides of feeling.

Train your mind. Harden your discipline. Move with reason.

Because in the end, logic always wins.