#Negative Ego

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Nothing But A 𝐖𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝 R³flection

[crystalsenergy]

Echoes of Separateness:

Ego, bullying, and the illogical path of the wounded ego #2

(I demand that the person be here, but in reality, I didn't even want that…)

Part 1: posted yesterday, previous post ✨

In this post, we introduced some examples of this problem that is so present in our lives:

In the case of school,

we see those groups of people who don't like person X. Person X doesn't want to participate in events that are held, for example, outside of school, and that many in the class attend. This person doesn't go because they know it won't be good for them, that there will be insincerity, and they won't feel good. This person prefers to be sincere with themselves and their peers, showing that they prefer to be themselves.

The peers, who already reinforced criticisms, gossip, and other malicious behaviors towards this person X, suddenly get offended and/or demand that this person attend. They complain that they didn't go.

Why, if in the end, there wasn't even a real desire to have the person there?

In the case of religion,

being bothered because the person you don't have a friendship with, don't have a relationship with, and, in fact, do quite the opposite, doesn't attend meetings because it didn't make sense for them to go to one or another, let's imagine due to a topic that was going to be discussed and they didn't want to participate.

You don't like the person… according to what you yourself show them. So why demand their presence?

In the case of workplaces,

situations that strengthen through exclusion, gossip, and badmouthing.

Let's suppose a group notice that a certain colleague has the habit of preferring to be more truthful, keeping to themselves, knowing that their ideas don't resonate with the group's ideas, including the ways these groups use to feel "good" (gossiping, excluding, etc.).

The people in this situation, noticing this colleague's independence and feeling bothered by it, reinforce their exclusion daily, gossiping and/or creating unpleasant situations.

One day, there is a gathering, and the colleague doesn't go, choosing instead to use their time on something that actually makes them feel good, knowing that it wouldn't be genuine, that there would be a lot of insincerity, and wanting to nurture different things in their life.

And then the colleagues get offended and believe in their minds that it makes sense to demand the presence of a person… even a person they exclude so much.

In the case of "friendships",

excluding people who are different from you because others do it, and you, unfortunately, depend on your group to feel belonging; or you do it and attract others to the same path…

and someone in the group starts to become more independent, wanting to move away from dependence, gets criticized for not attending all the meetings, outings. And the one who was "your buddy" yesterday becomes your main target for gossip and intrigue, just because the person is no longer present to nurture your ego.

My dears, it is time to learn the real concept and value of Freedom. Those who truly like us don't hold us back… if we really like someone, we don't hold them back.

And one of the ways to identify who likes us or not is: to observe what their first reaction is when we distance ourselves from them. Do they ask you why? Do they change their behavior towards you, acting sometimes with resentment, sometimes with insincerity? How do they act from a distance, if they haven't yet come to talk to you?

Unfortunately, those who are still on this path personalize everything. And they believe it will always be about them. It doesn't cross their minds that you might need to rediscover yourself, recognize yourself, self-discover, or be going through a turbulent period. Or that there really is a conflict, friction between you, and that this should be discussed.

These are people who, unfortunately, are extremely connected to their wounded ego. And they act and react most of the time based on this, on unconsciousness and the ego that at the moment is negative.

In the case of family,

people who exclude other relatives, blood-related or not, over ego issues, even very senseless things (which consciousness knows, but the person doesn't want to admit, after all, energies don't lie and not everything needs to be said for us to notice who people are):

being bothered by being near my truer, even more humble (not in terms of money, but personality) relatives, and then reinforcing the idea of exclusion to make them feel bad,

because I am still very insecure and live in the energy of appearances, of reinforcing something good about myself through my possessions and material goods… because it seems that without them, I feel empty.

Because I haven't yet realized that my meaning goes beyond anything ephemeral, that contains "glamour" in appearance and aesthetics, but often can be without content and meaning.

The person who is aware of the exclusion in relation to them, of the unpleasant things, doesn't attend all family gatherings, wisely acting in such a manner, but the relative who forces exclusion, separation, gossip, criticism, control, comes demanding this person's presence, often using as a foundation for "anger" precisely the fact that the person didn't go.

But what logic and sense does that have, if you don't even like the person's presence?

It is a cycle of nurturing bad things… that people seem not to notice!

It is important to wake up to this to put an end to these toxic processes in our lives and in others'. And this message of ending or setting a limit applies to all cases and to all "sides",

both the demanded and the demanding. Freedom and truth are the only keys and real solutions…

All this that I pointed out makes no sense, following a raw and straightforward logic, but it makes sense based on the idea that these people act this way, from beginning to end,

out of FEAR of abandonment.

FEAR of being alone.

FEAR of judgment.

And in a process of badmouthing, not accepting to look at this at the moment with openness, care, they spill this pain that they hide from themselves onto others.

[0mniscy]

Anita max wynn (2024)

[eddiebloombug]

all comic fans know how to do is: develop superiority complexes based on their personal perceptions of a character, eat hot chip, and lie

[molathesunfish]

more of this one i'm quite fond of her

[its-a-gemfact]

Wwaaaaaahh I can't stop being emo about Stan & Fordddd. Bc they're two sides of the same coinnn,, they're both insecure,, but stan is afraid of abandonment, while ford is afraid of connectionnnn

Cus Ford had to meet impossibly high expectations!! But no one expected Stan to amount to anything!!

And so ford became deathly afraid of getting close to people, because his real self didn't live up to his unattainable self-image. That shame made him scared of being truly seen and understood, so he pushed everyone away!!

But Stan already felt unwanted, he relied on external validation to give him worth. His self-image was so poor, his self esteem so low, that he pretended to be someone else. He wanted family more than anything, because he couldn't love himself!!

All they ever wanted was love and acceptance, but to truly be loved, ford had to destroy his own self-identify, where as Stan had to create his!

Stan & Fords story is about ego!!! Ego death and rebirth ggaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhh ooouughhghu

[croik]

I know protagonists are better when they're not perfect, but I think it's also fair to be sick of watching a dude, FIVE SEASONS into his "I was a piece of shit to people I cared about but I'm trying to be a better man" redemption arc, blatantly take out his frustrations on the people he cares about by screaming and swearing at them. There's not a whole lot of show left, right? He's going to learn eventually that it's immature and unfair to scream at your friends when you're frustrated at something that's not their fault, yes?

[fiona-fififi]

It actually really bothers me that Tim is framing this as some grand tribute to firefighters who have lost their lives. The story with Red was a tribute. The story with Kevin was a tribute. This slap dash bullshit that didn't actually make sense or build up or even center Bobby at all was NOT a tribute.

[tabl3]

me when the donald and douglas dynamic is paralleled in the show between adam and chase, but it's become the dynamic between bree and chase in my series

[coronangelic1]

"i think i made a mistake" you did? OH YOU THINK? YOU REALLY THINK SO?

[ronkeyroo]

ᴛɪʟʟ 𝘿𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙝 ᴅᴏᴇꜱ ᴜꜱ ᴘ ᴀ ʀ ᴛ

[doitforthelentilsoup]

some assortment of stuff!

2 is a redraw of https://www.tumblr.com/bluehairedspidey/645853183959334913

[fluffycatgirl]

yeah as expected. it's not walpurgis. it is fuckin. fell bullet yi sang (id) though. wonder if we'll get contempt, awe or sticking as well. (probably not.)

[bikananjarrus]

cried the whole drive home about cinta. which i know sounds dramatic, and i know i keep saying i’m upset but i am. i’m just so sick of finding and falling in love with characters that i see myself in, that make me feel represented, only to have them pointlessly ripped away

[bibvck]

anirudh saying that the crew was made to believe that ravi was the one who died and he had to lie to cover the truth is fucked. that's fucked. why are we doing all of that on that set ?? and then to not even bother trying to hide anything about the ceremony ? what is tim's problem

[anxietycontinuum]

maybe it's just me but framing perfectionism as something ultimately negative doesn't help. saying it's "good for you actually" doesn't do anything either though. guess i'll die