#adoptee activists

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@my-midlife-crisis why did you tag this with "adoption"?

Also why is a pro-abortion post the exclusive post you have on your blog with the "adoption" tag? Do you exclusively mention adoptees in the context of abortion?

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Pro-choicers arguing that foster kids are "unloved".

[franki-lew-yo]

LOOKIT MAH FOSTER'S OC!!

Her name is Alicia Boarding and she's another Imaginary-rights activist working out of Florida, running her own home for Imaginary Friends. Hers however isn't a foster-home, it's a boarding house and Imaginaries need to meet Lady Boarding's HIGH standards. Should they want to leave with a new family, the adoptees must be THOROUGHLY vetted. This means that her home is a lot stricter and harsher than Foster's, but also under these guidelines no friend like Bloo or Duchess would ever meet her criteria.

Lady Boarding herself is outwardly hostile and practical. Unlike Madame Foster and Herriman it's no surprise that she created her lifelong imaginary friend Ms. Swiftytrix, who acts as a stern and stoic governess to all the friends in their house. Scratch beneath the surface and you'll see enough of Boarding's hidden heart and kindness as well as Swiftytrix's eccentricities.

Madame Foster and Lady Boarding first met each other in college (when they had smuggled both their Imaginaries into the dorms with them rather than be separated), and were at first great friends. They did everything together and seemed to be both opposites and soulmates at the same time. Then, SOMETHING happened and Foster and Boarding have done nothing but accuse the other of stealing ideas from them ever since. Also, for some odd reason, Boarding calls Foster "Mehitabel". Don't know what that's about.

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10 Cool Jewish Women from Modern Day! Part 2 because I'm on a role

Liz Kleinrock, a self-described "Korean, Jewish, queer, transracial adoptee, antibias and antiracist nationally recognized educator, author, and consultant." Born in Korea, she was adopted by an Ashkenazi Jewish family in Washington D.C.. Involved in education, with a Masters in UCLA's Teacher Education Program, she has taught in California and D.C., and has also worked as a school librarian. In 2018, she received Learning for Justice's Award for Excellence in Teaching.

Loolwa Khazzoom, an Iraqi-American writer, journalist, activist, musician, and feminist. She was heavily involved in the Jewish feminist movement of the 1990s and is the founder of the Jewish Multicultural Project, which provides resources to Jewish communities about diversity in Jewish culture. She has also been involved in SOJIAC and JIMENA. Raised in California to an American Jewish mother and an Iraqi Jewish father, she graduated from Barnard College in 1991. She participated in a filming about the interplay of race and gender in America called The Way Home. She is the lead singer and bass player of Iraqis in Pajamas, a punk rock band that uses traditional Iraqi and Jewish musical elements.

Ariela Sofer, and Israeli and American operations researcher who is a professor of systems engineering and operations research, as well as a Divisional Dean, at George Mason Acamdey. She is a published author, with two books on Lineaer and Nonlinear Programming. Named as a Fellow of the Institute for Operations Research and the Management Sciences in 2016, she is also a Fellow of the Institute of Industrial and System Engineers and the International Council on Systems Engineering.

Ayelet Newman, also known as Ayelet the Kosher Comic, is an Orthodox stand up comedian. Born to a secular Jewish family on long Island, she pursued a career in TV and film after high school, appearing in The Hebrew Hammer. She became a baalat teshuva in the early 2000s, when she quit acting and began pursuing comedy, performing only for women.

Adina Sash, a Brooklyn raised American Jewish activist and social media influencer, also known as FlatbushGirl. Holding a Master's degree in Medieval literature from Brooklyn College, her online activism was started after receiving sexist comments. In 2017,s he launched a social media campaign called #FrumWomenHaveFaces that raised awareness of the erasing of women from Orthodox newspapers and magazine, gaining the support of Mayim Bialik (Jewish actress).

Tova Ben-Dov, former president of the Women's International Zionist Organization and former vice president of the World Jewish Congress, as well as a board member for the Jewish Agency for Israel and the International Alliance of Women. She joined WIZO as a young mother, and worked in the Chair of Women's Training Department of WIZO Israel. In 2011, she was awarded Honoree of Tel Aviv, and in 2016 the title of Honorary Fellow of the World Zionist Congress.

Kat Graham, an American actress, singer, dancer, author, and activist. Born in Geneva, Switzerland, to an Americo-Liberian father and a Polish and Russian Jewish mother. Co-founder of he wellness company Modern Nirvana, she had released work focusing on self-help. She speaks English, French, Spanish, and some Hebrew and Portuguese. She is known for her role as Bonnie Bennett on the CW show The Vampire Diaries, and has released two extended plays and four studio albums. She has done work as a Goodwill Ambassador for the UN Refugee Agency, inspired by her family's history.

Dafna Bar-Sagi, an Israeli born cell biologist and cancer researcher at New York University School of Medicine. She is member of the scientific advisory boards, including the National Cancer Institute. A graduate of Bar-Ilan, where she earned her undergraduate and master's in neurobiology, she received her PhD in neurobiology from the State University of New York as Stony Brook. Her research focuses on the nature of he Ras oncogene and how Ras signaling leads to tumor development. She has been the vice dean for science, chief scientific officer, and executive vice president of NYU Langone Health.

Malika Kalontarova, a Tajikistan born Bukharian dancer known as the "Queen of Tajik and Oriental Dance." Rebellious as a child, she has always identified as Jewish, despite Antisemitism in Tajikstan. Trained by Ghaffor Valamatzoda and Remziye Tarsinova, she moved to Queens in 1993 where she opened up her own dance studio.

Jazz Jennings, an American spokeswoman and Queer activist. An honorary co-founder of he TransKids Purple Rainbow Foundation, which her parents founded in 2007, she is one of the youngest documented people to be recorded as transgender. She was accepted into and currently attends Harvard University. In 2013, at only 13 years old, she founded Purple Rainbow Tails, while engaging in a battle with the USSF to allow her to play on a girls' soccer team. She is a published author, and in 2014 was named one of the top 25 most influential teens. She has voiced several characters in an animated shows, and starred in an Amazon Prime movie.

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i just finished a novel you recommended (bed me duke! excellent!) and moved on to my usual annual re-read of northanger abbey and do you have any recommendations for romance novels for each austen couple? i think that would be pretty cool!

I love that! the Bed Me series has never failed me so far, and I'm very excited for book 4, Bed Me, Baronet (the hero's a blond and possibly a virgin based on ALL his friends speculating about him in each of their books lol). As for romance novels based on Austen couples, I'm gonna be a little selective here because I haven't actually read Sense and Sensibility (but I vaguely remember watching the movie) or Mansfield Park:

Pride and Prejudice

There are lots of romance novel adaptations of Pride and Prejudice, and there are even more claiming to be inspired by the "enemies to lovers" aspect of P&P EVEN IF IT'S NOT AN ENEMIES TO LOVERS ROMANCE. So my best recommendation would be Pride and Protest by Nikki Payne; it's a modern adaptation set in Washington D.C.; Liza is a local radio DJ and activist who meets Dorsey (a Filipino adoptee) and realizes they're on opposite sides of the gentrification situation occurring in DC. I loved how the book dealt with the class difference along with the added layer of race. It also modernized the "proposal" aspect really well imo because randomly asking a gal to marry you without even dating wouldn't necessarily work in the modern era BUT the proposal Dorsey put out there still felt inherently degrading to Liza even if she'd hooked up with him already (another change from the original, and an appreciated one).

Persuasion

Again the Magic by Lisa Kleypas: I'll forever recommend this; McKenna and Aline were childhood sweethearts before they were separated by her father the earl, because McKenna was a stableboy. Now he's uber-wealthy and resentful about what happened all those years ago BACK for REVENGE and by revenge I mean he's going to seduce Aline and... that's about it lol. Never has a man come back with more loathing/self-loathing with a plan that's so half-baked even his drunk friend is like "but are you sure buddy".

Full Moon Over Freedom by Angelina M. Lopez: Another second-chance romance; Gillian asked Nicky to take her virginity when they were teenagers and teach her about sex stuff before leaving for college. Now she's back and divorced, and they're skirting around each other and having multiple clandestine encounters even though they think it's all temporary. While there's not much of a class difference, you get the sense Nicky thought of himself as her bit o'rough and she was an unattainable princess-type to him.

The Legend of Lyon Redmond by Julie Anne Long: Second chance romance with love at first sight; There were a couple aspects that really reminded me of Persuasion; there's very similar language to Anne where Olivia is described as having "withered away" since Lyon left, and she refuses all other suitors. And! Lyon is a sailor like Wentworth except, well, not on the legal side of things lol. It's also just super romantic when they do reunite years later.

Emma

Bed Me, Baron by Felicity Niven: George and Phoebe are long-time friends who've known each other since she was a baby. She asks him for sex lessons so she can help her please her future husband who she's engaged to (not George lol). While there's not much of an age gap in this one (4 years), George Danforth is daddy so that should square you away there.

Olivia and the Masked Duke by Grace Callaway: Here's an Emma/Knightley-ish age gap, plus, Ben and Livy were family friends/friends since she was a kid. Later on, she sees him having sex with another woman in the stables and it's basically her sexual and romantic awakening, so she spends a lot of the book chasing after him while he's running for his life.... until he isn't. Sex-wise the vibes are daddy dom/mildly bratty.

Sense and Sensibility

The closest I could think of in terms of Marianne/Col. Brandon was Rosalind and Torrington from A Recipe for a Rogue by Kathleen Ayers. Like Marianne, Rosalind is initially horrified that an *older man* like Torrington might want to marry her (the number of old man-girdle and secretly balding hair jokes.... hilarious) and Rosalind avoids every attempt her mother makes to match them. Torrington is attracted to her from the get-go and slowly woos her by way of exchanging recipes, baked goods, and licking food off her thighs.

tbh I have no idea who'd fit Elinor/Edward's vibe.

Northanger Abbey

It's actually very hard to find heroes who have Henry Tilney's playful irreverence paired with Catherine's sweet naivete so I'm holding off on this one for now!

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hiiii lantern, amber, & quilt please 🍂🎃🧡

Hi 🫦🫴🏼🫴🏼💦 (sorry) (🫦) (sorry)

🎃Lantern: best friend lore

Sorry babe you opened up the floodgates on this one.

I have several best friends and all their lore is remarkable. One of them I've known since I was four and we bonded over our love for spiders and playing dress up and wanting to marry each other instead of boys (ew). One of them introduced my husband and I to each other when we were all fifteen. We've all kept each other all these years and have survived a lot of shit. I quite literally wouldn't be here without her. One of them is my platonic soulmate I met as an adult and she is my James in that, there is no real word for what we are to each other but there doesn't really have to be. There's a lot of choice and intentionality in our relationship.

And this doesn't even cover the iron-clad relationships I have with several other important groups of people, who are all my family in every way that matters.

I have kind of a thing about friendships I think, about not being afraid to commit to them, to let the love in, to make all the long distance work. That's something I've learned about myself in adulthood.

And I think I also have to acknowledge my high school best friend here. We are still friends and love each other very much, but our relationship is different now from what it was fifteen years ago. Sometimes I wish I could tell her she was my first love, and I wish I had had the space and the language to have told her that back then.

😬Amber: Unpopular opinion

I really couldn't care less to debate fandom characterizations so I'll make this about something real bc it's my blog and I care about this.

TW: infertility, pregnancy, family separation, adoption, queer parenthood

I have learned a lot about the realities of the institution of adoption, things I didn't know until I started looking into it after I couldn't have biological children. After literal years of research, therapy, following and listening to the voices of adult adoptees, I largely don't support adoption, at least in the way most Americans/Westerners consider it. I am RABID about the intersectionality between children's liberation and queer liberation, not to mention all the other identities that overlap when you're discussing these topics: race, class, sex, gender, religion, etc.

*THIS POST IS NOT COMING FOR ANYONE I promise. Also, just to spell it out in case there was a shed of doubt, I do not believe a set type of person or people is better suited to raise a family than another. BEING A GOOD PARENT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR GENDER OR ORIENTATION. I just happen to occupy a very unique little corner of the evangelical>infertile>queer agnostic pipeline that gives me unpopular opinions on, say, a lot of adoption tropes in queer fanfic. Tropes i would have seen absolutely nothing wrong with before learning from adoptees. I am thrilled to point people to resources and activists in this space if you would like to learn more. I am also thrilled to ignore/block/delete anyone wanting to have an argument on the godforsaken internet. That's not for this page, pick another one 😊

Tldr: adoption tropes in fic and media in general---epecially baby-on-the-doorstep/infant adoption--is not a viable happily ever after ending for a queer couple to me.

Uh.... next question, I guess??

☕️Quilt: How I take my tea/coffee

Coffee. And it's oatmilk. Not picky but I do love a nespresso with oatmilk or a nitro cold brew with oatmilk. I have also been known to order a cappuccino.

Does anyone even want to play after that dumpsterfire

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You don’t, I thought the same thing.

But… there’s something about the way the hyena-farm adoptee rattles off things like “We do hate speech and roller coasters!” and “…shoes made out of human-rights activists” and “Wait until the weekend’s over; we’ll get our white cis-male stank all over you” that just… really makes me want to write a very long fic about the process of him unpacking his reactionary conservative identity in the wake of his father’s death (and the crushing realization that he helped a non-ironic nazi gain power).

"he would not fucking say that" but its about a character being a leftist. he would not fucking believe that

[maitejeannolin]

This speech was written for and read aloud at a protest in front of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission on April 10th, 2025, Seoul. The Protest was a joint movement from adoptee associations and human rights organizations : DKRG, FKRG, NLKRG, NKRG, CAFE, USKRG, AUSKRG, IbyangIN, KoRoot, ASF, SKAN.

ADOPTION ECHOES THROUGH GENERATIONS

I am here today, speaking in front of you as the daughter of a Korean adoptee. Many names can describe my position in this story: adult child of a Korean adoptee, 2Gen, or the one I currently like to use: a DoKAD (Descendant of a Korean adoptee).

I am part of the generation after—the one that inherits the gaps, silences, misinformation, lies, uncertainty, missing family members, unknown names, inaccessible past.

Most Koreans have heard of, or even met, adoptees looking for their families of origin; adoptees visiting the Motherland; adoptees connected to adoptee associations or even, as we witness today, adoptee activists advocating for their rights.

But in my view, these adoptees represent only a small fraction of Korean adoptees worldwide. The vast majority remains off the radar. Some have already passed away—some by taking their own lives. Others are grappling with severe mental health issues, carrying their trauma alone. Some have turned away from the past entirely, distancing themselves from the adoptee community. And some have simply blended in, built new families, and moved on.

My mother is one of them. She built a beautiful family with four daughters. She never searched for our Korean family of origin and, for most of her life, turned away from her Korean identity. At home, we rarely spoke about it openly—partly because it was such a sensitive, painful subject. But also, as I’ve come to understand, because it felt like there was simply nothing to say. Her adoption file states she was “abandoned,” with no details about where, when, or by whom she was found. From her perspective, that was all the information she could ever hope to have.

Therefore, she has put up with the idea that she was most likely abandoned by a poor family. Her story is a sad story— a story we better forget.

So did I, for most of my life, thinking that our past was buried somewhere, inaccessible.

But as I grew up, I had the chance to come into contact with adoptees who broadened my horizon. What if my mum's story, which oddly resembled so many other adoptee cases, was actually incomplete, inaccurate, or even completely fabricated?

In 2018, I went to Holt’s post-adoption services to ask about my mum’s file. But since I’m the daughter of an adoptee and not the adoptee herself, I wasn’t allowed to see anything. Talking to the social worker, I realized that the file my mum had always known might just be a fragment: the version sent to France was only a part of the Korean one. She said it was simple—adoptees just had to come to Korea and ask. I was in shock. Did they seriously think it was "simple" to look for something that was supposed not to exist?

Even then, we know that the agency would probably still keep some of it hidden. So wall after wall, lie after lie, it takes a lot of energy to engage in this type of journey. Not everyone wants to do it or has the resources to do so, whether psychologically, emotionally, or even financially. 

And yet, even when we’re aware of these barriers, some of us feel compelled to keep searching — perhaps not for ourselves directly, but for those who came before us, or those who come after.

That’s why I feel that, as the daughter of an adoptee, I stand at a very interesting crossroads. Even if I don’t have the same trauma from adoption and abandonment as my mother, I carry so many questions, a desire to understand my family’s story and a grief for what has been taken away from us. 

But legally, if my mum doesn’t want to take the steps to look into her past, it is currently impossible for me to find out more.

Although I respect my mum’s position, it strikes me that the Korean administration behaves as if it were only her story and her family. I think we, as children of adoptees, should have a legal right to access our information. And I insist—I say our because it’s strange to keep pretending it doesn’t concern us.

Think about it: in a "normal" family, if my mum were estranged from her own mother and didn’t want to be in contact with her, would I be deprived of the legal right to access my grandmother? No. In the end, it should come down to a personal choice: Will this damage my relationship with my KAD parent, or not? Will I take these steps, or not? 

That’s my choice to make—not the government’s.

Throughout the years, I’ve encountered other people like me—other DoKADs—who are asking themselves similar questions. Although we share common ground, our experiences are very singular and show how adoption has affected us in different ways.

Marrit, whose KAD mum died by suicide, has been looking for her Korean family of origin. It was only through her grandparents—her mum’s adoptive parents—that she managed to get some information from the adoption agency. She tried asking NCRC about DNA testing and entering the database for missing children, but her request was rejected.

Lovijah, another DoKAD, recently tried the same path through her grandparents as well, but she couldn’t get anything at all.

Tanya, whose KAD mum died from cancer, was diagnosed with cancer years later. At the doctor’s office, they asked her: “Does this run in your family?” But she had no answer. Not knowing her medical history meant she couldn’t anticipate a genetic illness. And the consequences are real—sometimes, it’s a matter of life and death.

These stories remind us that, for now, when a Korean adoptee dies, Korean law ensures that their past is made forever inaccessible—sealed away from us.

That’s why today, I, along with other fellow DoKADs who are concerned with these issues, would like to ask for a TRC3.

We need to make sure that more cases can be investigated by a new commission. And we would also like to ensure that the TRC3 makes it possible for Descendants of adoptees to submit the adoption case of their KAD parent for further investigation, whether they have passed or don't want to submit it themselves.

This would be a meaningful step towards acknowledging that the loss and trauma of adoption do not end with the adoptees — they echo through generations. We carry this story too, even though we never chose to be a part of it. We were born into it, and we deserve the right to understand it.

Thank you.

저는 오늘 한국 입양인의 딸로서 여러분 앞에서 이 자리에 섰습니다. 이 이야기 속 제 위치를 여러 가지 이름으로 표현할 수 있습니다. 한국 입양인의 성인 자녀, 2세대, 그리고 제가 현재 즐겨 사용하는 DoKAD(한국 입양인의 후손) 등 말입니다.

저는 한국 해외입양의 다음 세대에 속합니다. 공백, 침묵, 잘못된 정보, 거짓말, 불확실성, 실종된 가족, 알려지지 않은 이름, 닿을 수 없는 과거를 물려받은 세대입니다.

대부분의 한국인들은 친가족을 찾는 입양인, 모국을 방문하는 입양인, 입양인 협회와 연계된 입양인, 심지어 오늘날 우리가 목격하듯이 입양인의 권리를 옹호하는 활동가들의 이야기를 들어보거나 직접 만나본 적이 있습니다.

하지만 제 생각에 이러한 입양인들은 전 세계 한국 입양인 중 극히 일부에 불과합니다. 대다수는 여전히 주목받지 못하고 있습니다. 이미 세상을 떠난 입양인도 있고, 스스로 목숨을 끊은 입양인도 있습니다. 또 다른 입양인들은 심각한 정신 건강 문제로 홀로 고통받고 있습니다. 어떤 사람들은 과거로부터 완전히 등을 돌리고 입양 공동체와 거리를 두었습니다. 그리고 어떤 사람들은 그저 사회에 녹아들어 새로운 가정을 꾸리고 살아갔습니다.

제 어머니도 그중 한 분입니다. 네 딸과 함께 아름다운 가정을 이루셨습니다. 어머니는 원래 한국 가족을 찾지도 않으셨고, 평생 동안 자신의 한국인 정체성을 외면하셨습니다. 집에서는 그 이야기를 거의 꺼내지 않았습니다. 너무 민감하고 고통스러운 주제였기 때문이기도 했지만, 제가 이해하기로는, 그저 할 말이 없는 것처럼 느껴졌기 때문이기도 했습니다. 어머니의 입양 기록에는 어머니가 "버림받았다"고만 적혀 있을 뿐, 어디서, 언제, 누구에 의해 발견되었는지에 대한 자세한 정보는 없었습니다. 어머니의 관점에서는 그것이 어머니가 바랄 수 있는 전부였습니다.

그래서 어머니는 가난한 가정에 버림받았을 가능성이 높다는 생각을 참아왔습니다. 어머니의 이야기는 슬픈 이야기입니다. 우리는 그런 이야기를 잊어야 합니다.

저도 마찬가지로, 평생 동안 우리의 과거가 어딘가에 묻혀 접근할 수 없다고 생각했습니다.

하지만 자라면서 제 시야를 넓혀준 입양인들을 만날 기회가 생겼습니다. 다른 많은 입양인 사례들과 기묘하게 닮은 엄마의 이야기가 사실은 불완전하거나, 부정확하거나, 심지어 완전히 조작된 것이라면 어떨까요?

2018년, 저는 홀트 입양 사후관리 센터에 가서 엄마의 기록에 대해 문의했습니다. 하지만 저는 입양인의 딸이지, 입양인 본인이 아니었기에 아무것도 볼 수 없었습니다. 사회복지사와 이야기를 나누면서 엄마가 항상 알고 있던 기록은 일부에 불과할지도 모른다는 것을 깨달았습니다. 프랑스로 보낸 기록은 한국 기록의 일부일 뿐이었습니다. 엄마는 간단하다고, 입양인들이 한국에 와서 물어보기만 하면 된다고 말했습니다. 저는 충격을 받았습니다. 존재하지 않아야 할 것을 찾는 것이 "간단"하다고 생각하는 걸까요?

그렇더라도 기관은 아마도 그 기록의 일부를 숨길 것이라는 것을 알고 있습니다. 그래서 벽을 쌓고, 거짓말을 거듭하며 이런 여정을 시작하려면 엄청난 에너지가 필요합니다. 모든 사람이 심리적, 정서적, 심지어 재정적으로 그렇게 하고 싶어 하거나 그럴 자원이 있는 것은 아닙니다.

그런데도 이러한 장벽을 인지하고 있음에도 불구하고, 어떤 사람들은 계속해서 찾고 싶어 합니다. 어쩌면 자신을 위해서가 아니라, 우리보다 먼저 왔던 사람들이나 우리보다 나중에 올 사람들을 위해서일지도 모릅니다.

그래서 저는 입양인의 딸로서 매우 흥미로운 갈림길에 서 있다고 느낍니다. 비록 어머니처럼 입양과 유기의 트라우마를 겪지는 않았지만, 저는 수많은 질문과 가족의 이야기를 이해하고 싶은 열망, 그리고 우리에게서 빼앗긴 것에 대한 슬픔을 안고 있습니다.

하지만 법적으로, 어머니가 과거를 돌아보려는 조치를 취하지 않으신다면, 저는 현재 더 많은 것을 알아낼 수 없습니다.

저는 어머니의 입장을 존중하지만, 한국 정부가 마치 어머니와 그녀의 가족 이야기만 다루는 것처럼 행동하는 것 같습니다. 입양인의 자녀인 우리는 자신의 정보에 접근할 법적 권리가 있어야 한다고 생각합니다. 그리고 저는 우리와 상관없는 척하는 것이 이상하기 때문에, '우리'라고 말합니다.

생각해 보세요. "정상적인" 가정에서 만약 제 어머니가 친어머니와 떨어져 지내고 어머니와 연락하고 싶어하지 않는다면, 저는 할머니와 접촉할 법적 권리를 박탈당할까요? 아닙니다. 결국 이는 개인의 선택에 달려 있습니다.

이것이 KAD(한국입양인) 부모와의 관계에 악영향을 미칠까요, 아니면 안 미칠까요? 이러한 조치를 취할까요, 아니면 취하지 않을까요?

그것은 제 선택이지 정부의 선택이 아닙니다.

지난 몇 년 동안 저는 저와 비슷한 질문을 스스로에게 던지는 다른 DoKAD(입양인2세)들을 만났습니다. 우리는 공통점을 가지고 있지만, 우리의 경험은 매우 독특하며, 입양이 우리에게 각기 다른 방식으로 어떤 영향을 미쳤는지 보여줍니다.

KAD(한국입양인) 어머니를 자살로 잃은 Marrit은 한국 출신 가족을 찾고 있습니다. 그녀는 조부모님, 즉 어머니의 양부모님을 통해서야 입양 기관으로부터 정보를 얻을 수 있었습니다. 그녀는 NCRC(아동권리보장원)에 DNA 검사와 실종 아동 데이터베이스 입력에 대해 문의했지만 거절당했습니다.

또 다른 DoKAD인 로비야는 최근 조부모님을 통해 같은 방법을 시도했지만 실패했습니다.

KAD(한국입양인)으로 힘들어 하셨던 어머니를 암으로 잃은 로비야는 몇 년 후 로비아는 암 진단을 받았습니다. 병원에서 의사는 그녀에게 "가족력인가요?"라고 ���었지만, 그녀는 아무런 대답도 하지 못했습니다. 자신의 병력을 알지 못했다는 것은 유전 질환을 예측할 수 없다는 것을 의미했습니다. 그리고 그 결과는 현실이며, 때로는 생사가 걸린 문제입니다.

이러한 이야기들은 현재 한국 입양인이 사망하면 한국 법이 그들의 과거를 영원히 접근할 수 없도록, 즉 우리가 알 수 없도록 봉인한다는 것을 우리에게 일깨워줍니다.

오늘 저는 이 문제에 관심을 가진 다른 DoKAD 회원들과 함께 제3기TRC(제3기진실화해위원회)를 요청하고자 합니다.

새로운 위원회가 더 많은 사건을 조사할 수 있도록 해야 합니다.

또한 제3기TRC를 통해 입양인의 후손들이 사망했든 직접 제출하고 싶지 않든 KAD 부모의 입양 사건을 추가 조사를 위해 제출할 수 있도록 해야 합니다.

이는 입양으로 인한 상실과 트라우마가 입양아에게만 국한되지 않고 세대를 거쳐 울려 퍼진다는 것을 인정하는 의미 있는 발걸음이 될 것입니다. 비록 우리가 선택하지 않았더라도, 우리 역시 이 이야기를 품고 있습니다. 우리는 이 이야기 속에서 태어났고, 이해할 권리가 있습니다.

Maïté Maeum JEANNOLIN

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LM24-47. ZARA PHILLIPS. Somebody’s Daughter.

“for the LOVE of Music” with Sara Troy and her guest Zara Phillips, on air from November 19th ZARA PHILLIPS Somebody’s Daughter Adoptee Activist  Celebrating the release of her autobiographical film Somebody’s Daughter, Zara Phillips offers a candid perspective that contrasts with the often cheerful portrayals of adopted children in media. Drawing from her advocacy work, sociological research,…

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Beneath the Layers: We discussed transracial adoption and the search for identity with Lou Eve

Feminist and decolonial activist on Instagram, Lou Eve releases her first novel, “Sous les strates”, on August 31st, published by Les Escales. With poetry and accuracy, she traces the overwhelming search for identity of her fictional alter ego, Linh, a transracial adoptee searching for the missing pieces of her story. Encounter. To miss. Lou Eve, you’ve been holding out for several years an…

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I keep getting annoyed by things so. (Disclaimer that my knowledge level is “read through some websites.”)

Some adoptee rights organizations with lots of information: American Adoption Congress, Bastard Nation, AdoptionTruth, Against Child Trafficking

Birth parents: Concerned United Birthparents

Good beginner’s guide to adoptee rights

“The Adoptees Bill of Rights” and “The Birthparents Bill of Rights”

Some articles on open adoption

Good intro to economic exploitation and adoption

Article on for-profit adoption agencies and privatized foster care feat. interview with activist Krista Bowman

This page encouraging people to take out adoption loans. Yes you read that right. A loan with which people pay money to adopt a child.

International adoptee whose records were falsified (she wasn’t actually an orphan) writing about the issue, links a ton of articles

FAQ of a nonprofit working to end adoption trafficking

Adoption is often talked about as “baby minus pregnancy!” Kill that idea. Every adoptee came from someone who had a baby they are now not raising. If we lived in a magic world where people only got pregnant when they intended to, infant adoption would be practically unheard of.

Foster care!

Separating a child from their family is traumatic. Yes even if the family was abusive. Kids should only be removed from their homes when the harm of not removing a child outweighs the harm of removal.

Intro to foster care

Difference between foster care, legal guardianship, and kinship care

Difference between legal guardianship and adoption + same thing

Defines kinship care, links tons of resources

Reunification is the primary goal of foster care

Article “Co-Parenting With Birth Parents In Foster Care”

“The Reality of Reunification” by Sweetiele Moon, about her experience returning to her family after being in foster care

“Reunification From Foster Care: A Guide For Parents”

“A parent’s guide to working with child welfare”

Resources for parents with kids in foster care from Parents Helping Parents + their guide “You Are Not Alone: An Empowering Guide for Parents Whose Children are in DCF Foster Care”

Some birth parent voices on the system

Reasons kids can be taken into foster care

About ICWA: one, two

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Must Read Article and More

Adoptees who publicly support Roe targeted by anti-abortion activists: ‘What if you were aborted?’ Take the time to read the full article above and then we can talk about it. Personally, I’ve never met an adoptee who hasn’t been schooled on how grateful they should be to be adopted; how lucky they are because they […]Must Read Article and More

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Please watch this critical, insightful, rigorous conversation about adoption, colonialism, forced migration, and resistance.  

FYI, the beginning and one presenter’s talk are in French, the rest is in English. Listen to whatever parts you can...it’s all wonderful/important. 

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Reblog

Obviously not only in competition with Kate.

So not only in competition with Kate but going for the Thompson.

Hockey, Thompson, ALL ONE, Justice for Girls in Canada ???

Grasping to be seen as a Humanitarian, Visionary, Vet Supporter, tie to Indigenous rights, Hockey History and Justice for Girls in Canada?

Why does this sound mighty ducking familiar.

No surprise folks, it's also A Thompson of Toronto Thompson.

Library Archives/Military History/Sports Canada/Royal Family

2008 Gonzo Journalist and Creative Activist A. Thompson

Connecting the dots:

International Human Trafficking/Invisible Chains/Missing Persons

UK Publications Featured A. Thompson

Credit: Google/IMDB

2009 Oprah Production was allegedly notified of this Case.

Emmanuel Jal and Angela Thompson / The Be Inspired Campaign

Emmanuel Jal and A. Thompson

World Vision/ United Nations

Birth Rights, Children's Rights, Indigenous Rights. Human Trafficking. Credit: Google Open source, Instagram and Facebook

Emmanuel Jal and A. Thompson were introduced by his former Artist Manager Team and her sister Lorette Stevenson to share their Story of forced childhood separation and the long lasting ramifications.

Lorette Stevenson, Sunshine Girl and Angela Thompson were from the Golden Horse Shoe of Ontario, Toronto. The sisters were separated after Angela went missing. A missing persons advertisement was placed in the paper and failed to reach the Family. Angela was Adopted by The Thompson Family. The two sisters also Celtic twins, never gave up on finding one another. They fought to be reconnected. Their end goal much greater then themselves. To shine a light on Human Trafficking, Indigenous rights. Child Separation, Missing and Murdered People, Violence against Women and Children. Long lasting ramifications of Trauma. Cancer. The Right to Play Sport. The importance of Musical Education. The Sisters are granddaughters of Veterans and are supporters of Canada and The Royal Canadian Legion. Lorette Stevenson recently passed away from Cancer in Hamilton, Ontario on Truth and Reconciliation Day.

Hamilton ... Unstoppable ... formidable forces for Change.

Emmanuel and Angela both Adoptees, shared their unique experiences, artistry and causes. A. Thompson joined in dance at the along side his former Manager at JUNO Week in Hamilton, Canada.

She would later lend her voice without credit to his new disc.

A. Thompson is a Professional Fundraiser and has assisted in Campaigns for The Canadian Opera Company, The National Ballet, The AGO, The ROM, Save The Children and also World Vision.

She has also modeled for Miss Universe Canada and MV Augusta LIVESTRONG Sick Kids International Motorcycle Show to raise awareness and participation the fundraising for research.

The LiveStrong MV Agusta Motorcycle is a Flat Out Industries design, who also customized the now-famous matte black CTS-V Cadillac coupe Batmobile for Justin Bieber.

Sick Kids is a very important cause to The Stevenson Sisters.

Location: Canada, Time stamp: 2011-2017

International Archives: 1966-2023

Credit: Google/Social Media/Open Source

IN TOTO GONZO

Credit: Google/Social Media/Open Source

Interesting how this pops up:

'Suits' star Meghan Markle & performer Emmanuel Jal spoke at the fifth edition of Kruger Cowne's Breakfast Club at Soho House London, celebrating International Women's Day.

Location. Location. Location.

Fact Check: Video Below Time Stamp, Mar 13, 2015

Mar 24, 2016 — World Vision was also proud to announce Meghan Markle is a newly appointed Global Ambassador for the organization. Markle travelled to Rwanda ...

Ft. Emmanuel Jal. since removed from World Vision Website.

Meghan Markle: Humanitarian and global citizen

Meghan Markle served as Global Ambassador for World Vision for two years. Now she’s preparing to wed Prince Harry and join the royal family. In that role, she’ll continue to care about humanitarian issues alongside her husband.

Charitable Giving

Source https://www.worldvision.org/author/jasmine_owen

... Meanwhile, Emmanuel Jal also a World Vision Artist, can be seen in a live video for Peace Music with a group of Artists and Activists at his Cafe where he 'jokingly" stops and announces that A. Thompson is single and offers A. Thompson for sale for the price of 300 Cows.

Make no mistake, Human Trafficking is no joking matter.

A. Thompson survived Generational Human Trafficking and an Adoptee like Emmanuel Jal. It is reported that she wrote to the United Nations of International Human Rights. Justice for All.

Location: Toronto Fact Check: Video Live Time Stamp, Spring 2016

Credit: Open Source live post on Several Social Media Outlets.

A. Thompson began her Gonzo Journalism Project in the 90's whilst in Elementary school upon learning of a mishandling of her own case as a missing child and minors being trafficked in the sex industry.

She was known for public speaking as early as Kindergarten, with a love of poetry, and would later speak on subjects such as Rwanda, Zoology, Admiral Richard E. Byrd and polymath Albert Scheitzer.

A. Thompson was a St. John Ambulance Squadron Leader. She trained in Radio Communications, Aviation Emergency Disaster and competed in the McMaster Challenge in Hamilton Ontario.

2017 Gonzo Journalist and Creative Activist A. Thompson

Connecting the dots: You've GOT Mail! September 6th

Prior to the 2018 Royal Wedding.

Credit: Google/Instagram

Gunning for the T.

Nice work Gotham.

Original Comment:

Markle still thinking she is important and trying to compete. So, she has this group release photos today. She is so jealous of Kate. Wearing all white too. She’s a joke.

... Na Na Na Na

the appropriate term is

... Fugazi

Ask Chelsy Davy or Donnie Brasco.

Seems like the true gem came from the Steel City, Dofasco.

Coast to Coast. From The Rock and Beyond.

#LoretteStevenson #AngelaThompson #Hamilton #Thompson #RoyalFamily #HumanRights #InternationalHumanRights #History

Markle still thinking she is important and trying to compete. So, she has this group release photos today. She is so jealous of Kate. Wearing all white too. She’s a joke.

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“Many adopted adults have profound identity issues, desire to be connected to our original families/cultures, and work toward preserving families to prevent others from losing what we have lost.

Are you listening?

Adult adoptees are bombarded with questions about adoption.  We are expected to provide our insights and emotional labor for free, then often dismissed and minimized for not further perpetuating the fairytale adoption narrative.

Stop and listen.  Then go and do better.”

— from Family Preservation 365

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Activist Annie Wu, a Chinese adoptee, said she’s repeatedly heard the question, “What if you were aborted?�� It’s an all-too-common hypothetical that anti-abortion proponents have lobbed at adoptees who publicly defend reproductive rights, particularly amid the recent fall of Roe v. Wade.

​​”If my birth mother aborted me, that would be FINE with me. I would not exist so I would not care or be impacted,” Wu, a digital organizer with nonprofit PA Stands Up, wrote in an Instagram post.

Many adoptee activists who support abortion rights say they are uniquely positioned in the crosshairs of the debate: Their very existences are often “manipulated” to advance anti-abortion views — with adoption framed as the moral alternative to abortion. They find themselves vulnerable to harassment, their experiences questioned or made light of, and their agency too often removed in the fight, they say.