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journeysfable · 13 days ago

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Genuine question: is it ok to be like

(Example inspired by a convo with my trans bestie)

Yea bras suck. We hate having to look for bras for different reasons. Your reason for disliking bras is a uniquely trans thing. But hating bras isn't a uniquely trans woman thing. Regardless, we share this hatred for bras. So we're not so different. We aren't completely the same either, do to the aforementioned different reasons. And I find this beautiful.

Is that ok?

saying "I think this is just a general woman experience" on posts about transmisogyny actually is not always helpful thank you. it's really something you've gotta read the room a bit for.

ah yes, the general womanhood experience of the difficulty of clothes shopping even years into transition, how could I forget.

I'm so relieved that all women experience the experience of being a trans woman and not having your discomfort or struggle recognised, this is very reassuring.

I thought this was an issue of transmisogyny but this brave soul ever so kindly reminded me that I'm new to womanhood and can't recognise anything because I'm barely a woman all women actually deal with this :)

really honestly it's more of an afab experience than anything else. the unique afab experience of being a trans woman :)

#there are many times where I've seen a posts about a trans woman experience and I was tempted to reply with #i'm not trans but I've experienced that #but I always decide not to #or try to say something like '#oh yea I get the feeling.#like solidarity yknow?#like I get what your dealing with its never fun even as cis women #or something #cause i don't want to shift attention away from the topic of trans women but i thought maybe knowing cis women also experience it would mak #them feel better? cause idk a better way to describe it but trans woman are trying to be woman #i know they already are in like their soul and gender is a flimsy concept and theres no true ideal woman but like #i thought it'd be affirming #anyway theres also the fact that saying 'cis woman also experience that' ignores the fact that transwoman prob experience it in a #fundamentally different way #idk how but like that just makes sense to me #esp if the thing in question is new to them #like a trans woman venting about constantly being talked over by men is different from a cis woman doing so #cause the trans woman prob isn't used to it #and finally the fact that trans woman sometimes get clocked and shit or don't bother hiding that their trans #and me relating them is probably again for different reasons #they're being treated like men because societal gender bullshit #i get treated like or perceived as masculine because societal race bullshit #also I remembered different prob better example of trans and cis woman experiencing the same thing in different flavors: trying to explain #that sexism does in fact exists #anyway #im open to being told I'm wrong about any of this

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