#and im at a point in my life where if someone doesnt prioritize this skill then i just cannot maintain a relationship with them
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learning how to confront awkward/uncomfortable situations and have a productive conversation about it is the single most valuable skill ive developed as an adult, especially now that more and more i need to advocate for myself wrt protecting my health
#being conflict avoidant is NOT a sustainable method as an adult like you NEED to learn how to talk about things#its scary and hard to work on this esp if you have anxiety or are autistic or are a people pleaser#but thats ALL the more reason why you NEED to be able to do it#and im at a point in my life where if someone doesnt prioritize this skill then i just cannot maintain a relationship with them#if you cant have an adult conversation with me when its needed then we're not at the same stage in life#and im past holding peoples hands about it#(NOT applicable to people who are younger than me - but if youre 25/26+ then yeah you need to be working on that man)
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Okay sorry but i gotta rant,your analysis really made me think i will leave you alone
(Your writing is very good btw)
So thats literally how i felt his actual motive were, it was just genuine pent up frustation he most likely kept inside for years
But that year, his life spiraled completely out of control ; he had to change locantion,probably had break up with his former gf (assuming he had one) and all of that just to be treated poorly PLUS a freaking god give him a power he couldnt even bear
So, with all frustation, loneliness and misery he probably felt like he needed to have control over something or someone again, and in that case it was Mayumi (im not sure thats her name im sorry) but it could be anyone, he would just invent some other excuse to get himself out of that mess
Okay im done, just needed to get this out of my brain
LITERALLY!!!!!!!!!
also imo i doubt he had a girlfriend i personally think he was lying sorry adachi but, i just, either it was the most shallow and meaningless short lived relationship in the world or it doesnt really mix with his primary issue which is that......... he doesnt prioritize forming and nurturing relationships in his life because thats how he was raised.
adding a readmore yet again because YET AGAIN i have "cant shut up" disorder
i just cant imagine him, especially before things crashed and burned (and especially when headcanoning him as comphet lol), going out of his way to date. dialogue with him just feels very like. transparent about the fact that he likes the surface level idea of having a girlfriend (someone who cooks and cleans for him and reflects well on him socially? fantastic, thanks) but finds the actual idea. like. tiresome. (gestures at his "marriage is where happiness goes to die" thing)
i just dont buy it, adachi......... i dont think your ex girlfriend is real..... that entire conversation just screamed "uhhh, yeah, im totally into girls! i had a girlfriend once. she was [checks smudged writing on hands] pretty and cooked for me. like, so attractive, trust me. dont look into this"
BUT EITHER WAY
yeah. no, he had very clear motivations without the incel thing. like???
atlus: okay so this character has immense pent up rage at the world, is desperate and impulsive and at a point in his life where he feels like he doesnt really have anything to lose (cough until he realizes he does with the dojima family cough) but man for what reason could we say he killed this woman?
atlus:
atlus: he wanted to fuck her!!!!!! :D
ATLUS IT WAS ALREADY ALL RIGHT THERE. HE DIDNT NEED A MOTIVE HE ALREADY HHHHAD ONE
and also. all the things he said to mayumi and saki feel very... like. are those things he genuinely felt/thought?
or were those hurtful things that other people circulated as rumors that adachi would have both heard and would have known would be extremely likely to piss them off and therefore work as a caveat for justification of him tormenting them- because, i mean, he was just asking a few innocent questions! theyre the ones who started the aggression.
its poking the bear!!! same with SAYING all of this to yosuke, who very blatantly had feelings for saki, adachi is PHENOMENALLY skilled at knowing exactly what to say to make people want to punch him and he does so REGULARLY because he finds it funny.
gestures at his interactions with dojima!!! gestures at the scene in arena ultimax where he gets pissed off at the cop and so he intentionally provokes the man with what he know will piss him off!!!! hes calculated!!! he KNOWS what hes doing. he plays dumb. hes just a dick because its funny!!! why would this be any different?
okay im done ranting (for now lol)
everytime i finish rambling i look back and go "oops! wasnt supposed to be THIS long"
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