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My Quarter Life Crisis

Told in a Series of Saved Snapchats

In about four days from now, I’m going to turn 26, which made me think that this might be a great time to reflect on year 25 of my life.

And well, also because I’m going through a post new year slump. You know, the point of time when you realize that you’re not sticking to any of your resolutions, you’re still recovering from the holiday season and struggling to get back into the daily grind, blah blah blah.

Since my creativity and productivity are at an all-time low, I figured that maybe if I just write and reflect, it might help get the juices flowing in my brain again. And I obviously had to tell my story in the most stereotypically millennial way possible - illustrated by a series of Snapchats that I’d saved over the year! :D

Sooo, back to 25 - the milestone number, the axis of our twenties, the pinnacle of our youth *eye roll*- was it everything I’d hoped it would be? Absolutely freakin not! Why?

Well to start, I spent most of the first half of my 25th year, sick as a dog. I’m not sure what exactly happened but sometime in 2016, my immunity decided to go on a vacation.

Pretty sure I had brought it upon myself with my love for Indomie and Chunky Monkey (I’m sorry, mama!), but my body was suddenly no longer capable of fighting bad bugs on its own.

I was on antibiotics for various infections, eight different times in a span of fewer than six months. The amount and dosages I was prescribed caused absolute chaos in my body.

Two months into my 25th year, after a particularly high antibiotics course, my stomach was pretty upset (common antibiotic side effect). I waited for the effects to fade away, but they never did. One week in, three weeks in, one month in, two months in…...my stomach was still chronically upset. When I say “upset”, you’re probably visualizing explosive diarrhea but it wasn’t that. I could literally not eat any food without my stomach bloating, having immobilizing cramps and feeling extreme pressure and fullness.

Now, all of these symptoms might not seem like a big deal, but imagine if this is your constant state of being where you’re always aware of the discomfort in your stomach. Imagine if the only time you feel relief is when you wake up in the morning because your stomach is empty then. Imagine if anything you put in your mouth is accompanied by the anticipation and fear of feeling like crap for the rest of the day. This was my life for months.

The doctors couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me, they said I probably had Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS). Now those who are familiar with IBS will also know that it is basically a medical pseudonym for “we don’t know what the hell is wrong with your stomach”. I didn’t even know what the problem was in order to look for a solution! So to fix myself, I had to turn to the last place I wanted to for help - the internet.

When you look up a sickness on the internet, it can actually be really helpful or it can fill you with a crippling fear and conviction that you’re going to die. But I had no choice because my doctor had sent me home with this very wonderful, completely unhelpful advice:

“Well all your tests seem normal. Just wash your hands more and get more sleep so you don’t fall sick.”

*crickets*. This is what you went to med school for, lady? Thanks, much. >:-[

Also, everyone and their dog is a doctor on the internet. You have no clue who out there actually knows what they’re talking about and who is click-baiting you.

Norma here would have made a much better doctor!

After trudging through hundreds of websites, I began my experimentation with the different remedies that Dr. Internet prescribed, in the hopes that it would give me some relief.

I tried three-day juice cleanses (juice only diet) and water fasts. This is supposed to help reset your stomach by giving it a break from digesting food. I received temporary relief but the moment I started eating again, my discomfort would return.

I avoided foods known to cause intolerance for months like gluten, dairy, soy, eggs, caffeine etc.

On a side note, I never realized how difficult life is when you have to actively check for and avoid ingredients like gluten, which wipes out more than half the options available to consume. My utmost respect for people who have to do this on a regular basis!

But that wasn’t helpful either because my condition was seemingly random, not caused (though exacerbated) by any particular kind of food.

I tried more antibiotics (look up Xifaxan, you need to sell a kidney to even afford this medication) and a ton of herbal drugs. Seriously, while my peers were out spending their money on vacation and parties, I was spending all of mine on expensive herbs and probiotics which promised results, but sadly never delivered. The herbal stuff was especially scary because it’s not regulated by the FDA - I was gambling with trying to fix my problem at the cost of causing new problems for my body.

And of course, I also tried more obvious things like yoga, crying, praying and what not, all in a desperate attempt to fix myself. I was trying to go about my daily life and work with a semblance of normalcy but I felt anything but normal.

There I was at 25, prime of my youth, unable to consume food, taking fistfuls of pills every night and avoiding eating any actual food, just so I didn’t have to deal with the discomfort. I lost a bunch of weight and the stress took the biggest toll on me, making my condition even worse. As if all of this was not bad enough, various members of my immediate family were having serious health issues as well which was further upsetting me.

Finally, sick of my constant visits, the doctor recommended that I get an Upper Endoscopy - a procedure where they shove a camera down your throat to look inside your stomach to make sure you don’t have cancer or a tumor.

$800 and the awful experience of having a minor surgery all alone later, the doctor came back and told me the same thing - my tests were normal! He suggested getting some other tests done too and kept talking, but as I laid there in bed in my shitty hospital gown and listened to him talk, I totally had a dramatic, bollywoodesque moment. I felt the doctor’s voice fade into the background as I made up my mind that I was fine. I covered all my grounds, did all the tests, tired all the remedies which yielded no results. I decided right then and there that I was going to be fine, even if I wasn’t.

And I swear to God, it felt like a switch had flipped and my body started getting better overnight. That night for dinner, I said “screw this shit” and bought myself pizza - I was eating gluten and dairy after months! I went back to eating everything like normal and ignoring the familiar discomfort I felt in my stomach.

Hell yeah, I post food Snapchats! Judge away!

And just like that in the following weeks, I started feeling so much better. Am I absolutely cured today? Is this going to be a miracle recovery story? Sadly, nope.

I still have pretty bad days when I’m doubled over with pain and I still take many probiotics and supplements every night. IBS is a chronic condition with no cure, it can only be managed. I know that it could be worse and that I should be grateful - I am grateful. But IBS has definitely affected the quality of my life and I will probably never be able to fully go back to how I was before. But I have learned to live with it and it’s just another part of my life now.

These were just some of the herbs, probiotics, supplements, vitamins and prescription meds I took (and still take) over the past year :/

So there you go, adulthood hit me like a brick when I turned 25 by bringing on wonderful IBS and what’s more stereotypically a sign of age than GI issues? I brought this upon myself because of self-imposed stress. The moment I consciously stopped thinking about it, I gave my body the opportunity to restore itself, at least to a capacity where I was able to go about my daily life with relative ease.

None of the stress I was dealing with was particularly special, it’s stuff we all deal with - career, visa, money, family, friends, romance etc etc. But I let it get to me and it nearly destroyed the one thing that I actually can’t fix if broken - my health.

In addition to being chronic, IBS is also pretty common and affects many people in different forms. I am hoping that my overshare story is relatable to those who suffer from it and for those who don’t, please chill out and don’t mess yourself up over things that don’t really matter like I did. Pretty basic life lesson which we all know but conveniently ignore.

But year 25 was still pretty awesome - I made great new friends (and lost some) and got my H1B visa finally after 3.5 years. IBS definitely did not hold me back from going on many many many adventures.

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A Snapchat montage of all my adventures from year 25.

While I’m super excited for 26, I do feel the twinge of regret because like most people my age, I’m nowhere near what I thought I would be by now. But a big part of growing up is realizing that the world sucks, it’s not fair, there’re always going to be men with bad hair and no intelligence (read Trump) trying to control you and there ain’t nothing you can do about it. It’s all about accepting that success is defined differently for everyone, that you can’t change everything and being okay with that. It took me a totally avoidable physical and mental crisis to realize that. Here’s me hoping that your journey to self actualization is smoother!

P.S Before you click through and start reading my older blog posts, please note that everything before this was from when I was younger, dumber and not nearly as woke.

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In fact, there are those who may spend their time alone, but don’t find themselves to be lonely. Here are 15 simple ideas that will help you find more ease and joy every day. While there are no rules about how to be happy, many people have success with the ideas outlined here. The ideas will feed off each other and lead to new ways of feeling happy. Being lonely without anyone else isn’t a good feeling, but it’s a worse feeling to be with someone who makes you feel lonely. And even if your household’s income is below that threshold, odds are that buying a new sweater or another dinnerware set isn’t going to bring you much long-term joy. If you are working on being someone who is happier in their life, gratitude is going to help get you there. Everyone only wants to live well, without working and only having fun. I know we can’t always feel happy or make ourselves happy, but I also know that looking for happiness in everything but ourselves isn’t working. This isn’t always immediately obvious, which is why I recommend recording your feelings for a few weeks. Why would you want to focus on the happiness of others while you're the one who's struggling to be happy? It's okay to stumble and fall, we all do it at one time or another. It’s a time when you can put your sole focus on yourself, your self-improvement, and spend your time focused on those activities. 3. Don’t spend your time on time-wasting activities. Instead of focusing on loneliness, turn your alone time into a period of self-reflection and improvement. By focusing on the loneliness, it gives more emotional energy to those feelings, which push out other happier aspects of life that may be going well. To end loneliness, you need other people—plus something else. In order to find happiness again, you need to determine what that looks like for you. Note: happiness doesn’t fix sadness or grief but it can add relief. Note: I wrote this post specifically about being satisfied with your physical “stuff” — but to be honest, most of this advice easily applies to any area of life where you feel like you need “more” to be happy.

She didn’t just want to introduce these tools to her students — she wanted to apply them to herself. My brain knew that I didn’t need anything else but I still couldn’t shake the feeling of constantly wanting more. However, I knew that if I wanted to change then I had to challenge my stories and you do too. If you have just lost your job or you have been unemployed for some time then you are probably unhappy about your present situation. Let us see how these emotions are expressed. Never ever let the mind wander idle. Write them down and be specific about why you’re grateful (keeping in mind the true cost of any new purchase— time, money, space and energy!). It’s tempting to sit down and binge watch a television show in your free time, but it won’t bring you any closer to being a happier person. This will show that you are a gentleman and a "man". Maybe not all of those are true for you right now, but certainly some of them are—which means there is good in your life that you can focus on. Meal prepping for the week means you can avoid eating fast food or other junk that can harm your health. Meeting new people or getting involved in another relationship means getting exposed to their wounds too. Researchers at Princeton studied three groups of seminary students on their way to a meeting who passed a needy person on the sidewalk. 15. Unfollow who and what does not serve your heart. Anything that creates a feeling of calmness or joy inside your heart. You’re not alone in feeling that way. Maybe you’re not passionate about anything at all. BUT until that kicks in, you’re going to need to learn how to resist instant gratification—and admittedly, this will be hard at first. Which of your own stories fuel your constant need for more and how can you consciously begin re-writing these stories? You'll be more content once you begin to see happiness as a choice rather than as a good fortune that only some people enjoy. If you can confidently say that you have never been happy in your life, you need to release yourself from that hold and give yourself permission to allow happiness to come from within you. Think about everything else we do to come together—like supporting your kid’s school, say. I used to think happiness was at the mall, or in my paycheck, or maybe at the bottom of my to-do list. ☛ The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom, by Jonathan Haidt. Finding happiness is different for everyone. For many, finding happiness is a life-long effort that they adapt along the way. As it turns out, happiness isn’t waiting for us, it’s within us. 9. Remind yourself that the grass isn’t necessarily greener. I know this probably isn’t news to you—deep down I’m sure you already know that a new purchase isn’t really going to make you happy. Put down your cell phone. Open the door for someone behind you; pick up an empty can or bottle from the ground and put it in the trash can; be that stranger that smiles at others to brighten their day. How can you put this to practice? When you're happy, you can just shout out ureshii! It's a quick way to feel instantly happy, because it helps you realize that your situation isn't as bad as you originally thought. It helps you have a sharper memory, lessens anxiety and improves your mental clarity. Since it requires you to change and grow, your beliefs about the way you live are more positive and your outlook improves. Although there are a number of advantages of living a life alone, we often cannot accept the benefits of such a life. When you’re alone, you have the freedom to dictate whatever it is you want to do, whenever you want to do it. Yes, you'll still have to work at it. ” Some offered their best guesses; others admitted they just made up a response; still others honestly admitted they were clueless. Be grateful for what you have, appreciate who you are, work hard every day to live your best life, and stop comparing yourself to others. If you want to be happy with what you have, try surrounding yourself with people who are happy with what they have. But, are you truly happy? Afterall, without sadness, how can you know when you are happy? If you’re experiencing a positive emotion (e.g. joy, accomplishment, pride, or gratitude), see if you can make it more intense and make it last as long as possible. 3-SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE. Why are so many people unhappy? Whenever you are feeling uncertain, stop and take a moment to breathe deeply. You could also take up a new hobby or activity with your free time. And deep within the quiet of the soul, something suggests that one more time we have looked in the wrong place. Then, I looked for happiness in the approval of others. Happiness doesn’t need you to prove yourself. Children need picking up after soccer practice? Maybe it's difficult at first but with practice it will be easier for you to find the right notes. Taking charge of it and setting things right will get the stress of his shoulder. The key is to identify the things that lead to both your suffering and your happiness. If you’re feeling crowded in your space, try a little cleaning and organizing to see if that boosts your happiness. It doesn't have to be for hours on end, and in fact a little each day is far more beneficial in the long run to raising your overall contentment and wellbeing. Happy people feel their way through life and they allow the good and the bad to penetrate into them so they can have the full human experience. How can you be happy with your life? Instead, it’s like a twitch and you can easily spend hundreds of dollars without even realising it. Instead, just pay attention and ideally, record your observations somewhere. Many people believe that money brings happiness, because if they can pay and fulfil all their desires they imagine that they will be happy forever. Another worthy reply to this query is happiness brings in a positive and stable mental frame of mind. Any time you think something negative, turn it around into a positive opposing force. Focus on the answer to these questions next time you’re struggling with the urge for “more” and see how it changes your perspective. 6. Focus on gratitude and what you do have. It makes sense that what we give our focus and attention to expands. A nap will boost energy and give your baby an excellent start. Happy habits result in a cup of coffee or glass of wine being an option, rather than a necessity to increase energy or reduce stress. Bananas boost your energy the low-cal way. They're full of calming potassium which combines with the calcium in milk to boost baby's growth. Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.

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2slowgoers · 6 years ago

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10/11/19 slow is the new goal for me

hey w,

thanks for sharing all that you did! from the squabble with T to your time at GHC and reflecting on what you’re doing with your time. You are so self-reflective. I really appreciate that about you. I agree that it is very weird and a tad uncomfortable all the contradictions that tech embodies. in tech, i find all these people who are genuinely good people with good intentions, but tbh at the end of the day is also just focused on their own well-being. it’s full of people who may care about the world, but care more about their own survival and having a happy life. these were the type of people Tv despised and complained about, and I guess you and I are kind of one of them and surrounded by. It’s something I struggle to come to terms with everyday, and contributes to my daily moments of misery and questioning “what the f am i doing here”. but what can ya do, life is short and we also want to be able to enjoy the world’s luxuries.

the topic i wanted to write about today is the essence of our tumblr name, being “slow” and how that is the new goal for me. it’s always kind of been my nature, but one that I saw as “bad” and tried to grow out of. but i am feeling a change within, and to embrace and accept myself more, is to also embrace that part of me. i look around me, at my coworkers, my acquaintances, people i pass by on the way home, and it appears that people are always doing something, going on to the next thing, either focused on developing relationships or developing themself in some hobby, to get better... if it was the Sims, everyone’s trying to level up. It’s something I never quite did, and never quite got, but I always felt the pressure to do.

it’s been enough years of trying to push myself to be someone I just am not, and time to get in touch with who I really am, and that is someone who wants a life of slowness. I want to spend days floating in the water, lying on the grass, listening to the same music on repeat, admiring each moment and what i get to see when i slow down (which i am lucky to get to do on my walks to work/home). i am most naturally, and at home, when I get to do close to nothing (but in interesting environments). that might be when I am the happiest. it is the pressure of how that is not “good” that i think in my early 20s, pushed me overboard and to be constantly unhappy with myself and thinking there was something wrong with me. of course, i still enjoy the occasional push and feeling ‘high’ like that feeling when you click with someone in your first moments or when you accomplish a challenging hike, but for the most part, i don’t want that to be my everyday.

a reason i struggled a lot with this about me, is because society typical “motivational” stories are about “getting out of your comfort zone” and “do what makes you uncomfortable” and “you’ll never know if you don’t try” and “nothing’s going to change if you don’t change how you live your life”. so as a result of listening to that advice, i pushed myself to try all these things, and try to put myself out there. sometimes in the short term i would appreciate what i learn or people i meet, but looking back a few months later now? i wish i didn’t do those things lol (but also am glad i did, otherwise i would never know). idk, it’s weird, how do i get out of my comfort zone, if I know the things I will just genuinely not enjoy? what if I don’t want to go to that concert? or go dancing? or go drinking? those are technically all outside of my comfort zone, but i know if i do those things, i will feel drained. what is the balance? at this point, i know what isn’t for me, and i am okay with that. it might change someday in the future, but being around lots of people is something i know i really can’t stand nowadays.

I remember when I first moved out here, I had this list and I was obsessed with picking up new hobbies and doing things... I need to learn to farm! to sew! to camp! to drive! exercise! eat healthy! art communities! activism! make friends! blah blah. and here i am, 1.5 years later, having met a lot of people in these spaces and made some “friends” (you know, people i do things with), and tbh even thinking about all of it makes me tired. i’d say the hikes i’ve done here are the only thing i am grateful to have done. i am grateful for doing everything else too, because i realized i didn’t want to continue doing them. so yeah, i am going to slow down. do what i know i like - more nature, more hikes, more slowing down, more learning, more being around the right people. less pressuring myself, less pushing myself, less attempt at trying to “level up”. because honestly, what’s the rush? also if it’s not my priority to be really good at something, then there is no need for me to focus my time on doing that. i know that doing something i enjoy for my day job (doesn’t have to be content, but rather the structure/freedom/flexibility) hugely impacts my life, and right now, being in tech in the bay area just isn’t doing it for me.

all of this reflection was really sparked by my typical thoughts as i walk home how, if i dig really deep, i am not happy/satisfied with my life. i know it’s all temporary and i am capable of pushing through, but there is nothing exciting about my work. being able to find it exciting or engaging means a lot to me, so that is where i am putting the energy i have left, to take the steps where i can, to do something fulfilling, or at least, something on my terms.

cheers to us 2slowgoers, going slow. and even if your preference is to go fast, that’s awesome too :) i’ll be cheering for you just a few steps behind hah.

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So I want on leave on May 20th due to best rest. I used all my vacation and leftover sick time, and the rest is paid by short term disability, a total of about 9 weeks total. I stayed home 6 weeks after my baby was born since my work doesn't cover any of my pay. I work in a very small private business, just 3 of us. My boss had never handled maternity leave before, and I think he did it wrong. A few weeks after I gave birth he said he got a check from the disability insurance agency, it was made out to his business. So he cashed it and wrote me a check for the total amount from his business account. There was no explanation of how to dole it out, so he just gave me the total amount. Then, just now, 3 weeks later, I got another check mailed to my home from the insurance company?? What happened? I should of only got paid for the 3.5 weeks I believe from short term disability because I was paid for the rest. The insurance company is not open until tomorrow so I cannot call them yet.""

Paying for car insurance I don' need while being oversees?

I plan an extended overseas travel this summer (lasting about 3-4 months). During this time, I will not be using my car in the U.S. I simply will lock it in a garage. I'd like to know how I can avoid paying for my car insurance (or lower my insurance bill) during this time. I understand that I can simply return my plates and drop the insurance before leaving but then upon my arrival back to the U.S. I will be with no insurance at all, and will need to get a new one (this will not happen instantly). Is there an option or insurance company that serves people who are away from the U.S. but who want to get covered when they return right away?""

What is the price of a mini copper and its insurance?

just wondering what the price of a mini copper is to buy and the cheapest insurance? Details would be helpful Thankx

What to do when car insurance refuses to cover an accident?

My boyfriend crashed his friend's car recently. He had permission to drive it but happened to get into an accident. His friend has insurance for the car and my boyfriend has his own insurance, but neither ones' insurance will cover the car. He thinks his options are limited to only taking over the car payments or going to court (the friend's insurance says it should be reported as stolen if he doesn't pay up). Shouldn't the friend's insurance be extended to cover my boyfriend as a temporary driver? Aren't there other options?""

Cheap health insurance for college students?

I live in Orlando, FL and i'm a non-smoking college student. Does anyone know of any cheap health insurance or even health discount plans that I could get on just to cover the cost of my Bipolar disorder meds and possibly a couple of visits to the psychiatrist? Yearly physicals and examinations I can handle, but this psychiatrist that I see is $200.00 a visit PLUS the cost of all of the perscriptions he prescribes to me. HELP!""

My car insurance premiums why are they so expensive?

low mileage driver 28 years old 5 years no claims 5 years held full license Car 1.2 Clio worth under 2K completed PASS plus after driving test I would think all the above would suggest low premium. But because my postcode is just inside Greater London, all my premium quotes seem to fall in 55-60 when in a previous town I was paying less than 40, This surely can't be fair or right can it? Can anybody suggest a good but cheap insurance company?""

Car insurance excess?

My car is now only worth between 200 - 300 so if it was involved in an accident I doubt the insurance would repair...& write it off. Insurance is due for renewal & I have a 250 voluntary excess, which means that I would end up with nothing in the event of a crash. If I increase my vol. excess to 500 the premium goes down by about 30 which looks like a good idea to me but. If my car was written off due to an accident with another vehicle would I still have to pay the 500 vol. excess towards repair of the other vehicle or does the excess relate only to my car in this situation?""

Affordable health insurance 4 someone with prexisting conditions? I have no kids and in a low income household

I NEED MEDICAL INSURANCE! I have recurrent urinary tract infections that are often resistant to antibiotics. I have Kidney stones as well, had a Kidney infection and when I was hospitalized they urged me to see a specialist but I CANNOT AFFORD a specialist! A social worker in the hospital said that I shouldn't even bother applying for medicaid because I don't have children so applying would likely be a waste of time. I am unemployed at this time due to several psychological issues I will not get into. Medication is too expensive. I need medication in order to be mentally balanced. I started taking Valium & Adderall and both help me feel sane. The only problem is I don't know how much longer I can even afford it!! Anti biotics are so costly as well! I have a family history of cervical Cancer and I NEED to see a gynecologist for a pap test but cannot afford it! I need dental insurance cause I have cavities but can't afford that either! I feel hopeless! Can someone give me some hope?""

How much would car insurance cost me?

IM 17, have a 3.67 gpa, the car will be a 98 van, and w/ that driver education training thing how much would it be.""

Does my Company car insurance cover me to drive other insured cars 3rd Party?

im insured fully comp to drive my company car, so because i am fully comp does this mean that i am insured to drive 3rd Party any other car that is also insured Fully Comp?(not in the company)""

Insurance rates on classic sports cars for new drivers?

obviously, insurance rates are higher for new drivers and even more so if they drive a sports car, but aren't rates lower on classic cars? if so does the reduction make up for the car being a sports car? for example, a 1965 Ford Mustang.""

Good maternity insurance in Michigan?

We are looking for good affordable maternity insurance here in Michigan. Everything that I've found has a huge waiting period, and they still expect me to pay through the entire time. Any help?""

NEW TO INSURANCE!!HELP

if someone doesnt have insurance, which is better? primary or excess? why?""

In the future will car insurance for young drivers get cheaper?

What car would be cheaper for insurance?

I am about to be 16 and I live in nebraska in a small town I was thinking of getting a 2005 camaro or a 2000 or 2003 corvette what car would be cheaper for car insurance and if I get a truck would you recomand a ford f250 or ford f350 and how much would insurance be monthly for the ford trucks and if you have any sports cars you would recomand to get then tell me it and insurance on it monthly

How much will pay a 40 year old new driver car insurance?

Where can i find a list of insurance terminology and definitions?

i teach business english, i have a student who needs to produce insurance policies for his goods. i want to stay clear of health and life insurance. thanks""

Why did my car insurance go down?

My car insurance premium went down by $10/ mo. I have no idea why. My credit score just went from 631 to 747 in just a couple of months because I fixed some errors, and I am also turning 24. Could either of these be the reason that my premium went down? Or is my car just worth less b/c all the new models are comming out? I drive a 2002 Honda Civic.""

Health Insurance?

Will my health insurance cover going to a psychiatrist regarding anxiety issues?

Free car insurance??

My partner just called up his car insurance company to have me down as a named driver on his car. all the asked for is my name, DOB and my occupation. and they said there is no charge its free. Is this for real?? why is it free?? nothings free these days lol i also only have a provisonal""

I have insurance for a car I had for 6 days. The insurance co. says it's a total loss. They gave me a value?

Audatex is not kelly blue book they look at craigslist & not the dealer. Craigslist sometimes has cars where a mechanic might not catch it but is damaged. The price I paid is higher due to getting sick & credit went down so I had to go to a local dealer with higher interest. They want the insurance check plus $1700.00 & interest. So I will pay for this thing for over 1 1/2 years. I had it 6 days when some crazy driver almost hit me I turned & hit a wall. The insurance company says I loose my good driver discount. Since I will have to wait to pay off this car I can cancel my insurance once the dealer gets the check. Is there any California law that would say if this happens I would be able to pay off the car. It's worth more as a loss then to try to fix it. Please help. Thank You.

What are you young people paying for full coverage insurance?

I have full coverage on my 09 ford focus sedan, clean record and everything for $1000/6months, is that 2 much?""

Car insurance question.?

If you are in an accident does your insurance company only pay to fix your car or can they pay you like cash for how much the damage costs?

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Insurance Prices on a Antique 76 Corvette?

I have a '76 Corvette Stingray that I will be getting soon. I'd like to know what your insurance price are for those who have similar cars. In florida a car must be at least 30 years old to be considered an antique. The vette is. Will i get any nifty insurance breaks? if you have a older antique corvette or similar car... what do you pay for insurance?

19 year old needs cheap car insurance?

i need to get car insurance but i cant afford something too expensive, im 19 my car is a 1997 ford mustang coupe, someone help i have to find a place today! my parents arent helping i have to get it on my own.""

Insurance question?

if you are being sued for a car accident how much will the insurance company cover up to

Where can i get affordable health insurance for someone with no kids?

""Car with basic insurance stolen, what will insurance company say?""

My 90 honda civic was recently stolen, and I had the most basic insurance legally possible. Will my insurance help cover this at all? I have car insurance through Omni and I already called them... but I have to wait 24-48 hrs before I'll hear back from them. I think I know the answer already, but can anyone that's been in a similar situation fill me in?""

Car insurance lapse question for NY?

We don't do automatic payment with our insurance so sometimes we don't have enough to pay and twice we'd lapsed in three years. First time we paid the civil penalty on all three vehicles. This time? There's a three year limit; we had to turn in the plates for eight days (the amount of lapsing) and wait while using a rental car. My mother found out by getting pulled over and getting a ticket. We just got the new plates, new stickers, and are fine now. But she said when you pay the civil penalty you are cleared immediately in the system; if you get new plates and registration, is it the same? She said it can take up to three months until cops read that your registration is valid. I'm having an anxiety attack over this as I've never gotten pulled over and am terrified of cops and travel populated, cop traveled streets to my job. Thanks.""

Do I have to have a job that offers dental insurance to get it?

how do I find an easy and affordable dental insurace that will aceept people that are self-employed?

Best insurance companies for 17 year old passed my test?

ok ive pased my test and i gettin a car this week and i need some insurance on the car obviiously lol, well basically whats the cheapest car insurance all you 17 year old have and who is it with, please :)""

""How do you purchase a car without insurance, and how do you get insuracnce with out a car?""

I left my insurace expire, and noe I need to get insurance, but I don't know what car i'm going to get, so which comes first, the insurance or the car?""

What's reasonable insurance quote for new driver (UK)?

Hi Everyone! I'm a new UK driver searching insurance quotes for my Ford escort (engine size 1.4). I'm thinking third party only for starters. What sort of ammounts should I consider to be reasonable offers? Also, must I pay the premium in one lump sum? P.S: I'm 23 years old... Cheers!""

Will my disbalitiy insurance through medicaid get shut off if i get married?

Cheap car insurance for a young driver on a VW Golf?

Where would be able to find the cheapest insurance for my Golf 1.6. I'm 17 years old and I'm going to be a named driver on my dads name (him being the main). The cheapest I can find is 2000. If anyone could find me a good website to find an insurance quote cheaper than that; it would be fantastic! Thanks in anticipation

Why do red cars go hand in hand with a high auto insurance bill????

Red cars always get a high insurance rate. Not all red cars are sporty or fast so why is this?

Buying an insurance write off ( car )?

I was wondering if it was possible to buy an insurance write off for the purpose of using it off road, for things such as car trials and banger racing? i know that if a car is category C or below, it can be returned to the road after repairs, but what are the rules as to off road use?""

Insurance for a jeep wrangler?

I really wanna buy a two door hard top keep wrangler. I was just wondering roughly what would my insurance be like. I have never gotten in an accident or in trouble with the law, I have good grades, took a drivers Ed course and I'm a girl. Anyone know how much the would be? Roughly""

""Which is the best car insurance in uk, cost wise and service wise.?""

Which is the best car insurance in uk, cost wise and service wise.?""

Looking for health insurance for children?

I have a friend , a single mother of 2, is looking is looking for an affordable health insurance for her kids - 8 and 10. The mother is 46, with Graves Disease and require her to ...show more""

Insurance cost for 2.3l fox body mustang 16 year old?

I am 16 and considering purchasing a 2.3l four cylinder mustang. These were made from the mid 80's to early 90's. They have like no power but get good mpg. I am worried that insurance companies would see the word mustang and give me a high rate. BTW my sister is 17 and pays only 50 a month on a family plan for a 1995 suzuki sidekick.

Where can I get moving insurance?

I'm moving cross country. This involves lots of companies, packing, boxing, loading, unloading, car haulers, etc. Does someone sell a blanket moving insurance?""

What kind of insurance would i get for a honda cbr 600 (im 16)?

im moving out to california after highschool to pursue the music industry so i figured it might pay for itself in gas money, but then i started to think about insurance...""

SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME OUT WITH THIS (CAR INSURANCE)?

i'm a learner driver with my 1st car that im covering with 3rd party fire & theft since i'm not able to go out alone either my partner or dad will be with me while i drive but just say say for whatever reason they had to take over would they be covered to drive my car even though neither would be a named driver on my policy? They both have fully comp insurance for their own cars does this cover them?

How do i report insurance fraud?

for the last year i have worked for one of sacramento's mortage realestate companys. during that time i have witnessed my boss committing hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of insurance fraud, filing false police reports , theft, vandalism . who do i report this to and is there a reward ?""

How much will be my car insurance for new or used car?

I am planing to buy a car.I am thinking to get a new one but i am afraid of high price for its insurance.I am a new driver,till 25 years old,no driving experience,NJ.I need a professional advice,please. Maybe to buy a used one is a good idea but the new car is less headache.:)""

Does anybody know of a cheap insurance company for eighteen year olds?

I just turned eighteen and I'm looking for car insurance since what I'm paying right now is really high ( 290 for minimum) Everywhere else I look wants like 1000 dollars a month for minimum coverage thats crazy how can anyone afford that? Are there any good companies in specific for someone in my position?

How much will it cost me to repair a paint less dent on a Nissan Sentra?

My car was recently hit without my knowledge. No one saw it and it happened while I was parked. The dent is right above the body of the tire frame and its about two inches wide. My question is will my insurance pay for it? And if not how much will a repair like this cost me? The car is Nissan Sentra 2012.

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One way ticket anyone?

Regardless of your beliefs, whether it's in the Big Bang or Darwin's theory of evolution it's a fact that at some point on this earth there was a first man and a first woman. Whether their names were Adam and Eve is irrelevant. What is relevant is our purpose.

Through the centuries we have evolved through societal structures, behavioural patterns and intelligence. Well, that's what history tells us. However, we live in an era of ever decreasing levels of happiness, increased levels of prescribed medications such as anti-depressants, homelessness is at its highest level and with no solution of the housing crisis. Kindness is such a rarity these days that it's mistaken as flirting or an invitation to bed. Suicide rates in teenagers is dramatically on the increase. Does this really sound like an evolution of mankind? As a teenager your life is just starting, these should be the best days of your life, not the worse and certainly not so bad you don't want to live. These facts are alarming and beg the question; are we evolving, revolving or regressing?

I just want to take a minute to ask you something. As a person reading this right now, are you aware of what makes you happy? On a scale of 1-10 how happy are you? What makes you unhappy? On a scale of 1-10 how unhappy are you? Which of these questions was easier to answer?

Every person on this planet right now causes an effect. Where there is effect there is cause, they are one and the same. Without cause there is no affect, like a ripple in the pond. There would be no ripple if there were no stone. Fact. However where is the intention within our cause? Cause and intention have to be an equilibrium for congruency to be prevalent. There is often little thought given to our intention because we act in cause. The effect we have is misaligned with our purpose because the cause of the effect is given little if any regard. We act against our instincts despite it being the greatest tool we have all been gifted with. In the busy lives we lead, it's too easy to silence that gut feeling, to dismiss the little voice inside us and it's only when we're lost do we wonder what happened. The truth is that, that little voice is your soul guiding you. My favourite Steve Jobs quote is "be lead by the soul, it's the only one that knows the way and it's best when we let ourselves be guided by it." Have you heard your soul before? Let's take a minute to listen to our soul right now. Stop what your doing right now. Close your eyes, listen to your breath, let your thoughts flow until they have run dry and then absorb the silence. That silence right there is your soul, it's beautiful isn't it? (If you struggle with this bit then there are many guided meditations on YouTube that are free. If you are struggling with the feeling you are experiencing in the quiet of your mind, please know it's perfectly normal. It may even feel scary. I remember the first time I observed the feeling of a silent mind and it was dark and very daunting. But trust yourself. This is just a tunnel taking you through to the other side of consciousness. You are simply awakening your mind. There is nothing in your thought process you can't control. You are perfectly safe.)

As we grow, we evolve. Our learning becomes constant, we listen more and ask more and more questions. My Granddad always said "you have two ears and one mouth girl, use them in that order." I had no idea what he meant until I actually shut my mouth and started actively listening. To listen to someone without thinking is a beautiful gift. To really stop what you're doing, open your mind to their speaking, close your mouth and really give someone your attention is amazing. You notice so many different elements you didn't notice before. The way they breathe and the sparkle in their eyes. It doesn't happen often, people are often busy thinking of a response they need to give in the conversation or messing with their phones or thinking what they need to cook for dinner.

The more I evolve and grow the more I realise how little I know. But the further I get along this journey the lighter I become. There's a constant decrease of negative people in my life and a lot less emotional baggage I'm carry around with me these days. The biggest lesson my Granddad taught me is death is inevitable, fact. We are all going to die. Whether we like it or not, there will be a point when you and I don't exist. It may not tomorrow or the day after, but there will come a day when you and I will no longer be here. Does that thought scare you? What scares you most about knowing you will die? Life is the journey to the destination that is death. Why are we all racing there? Take a minute right now to look at your life. Do you love your life? Whatever the answer, now ask yourself do you think it's possible to love your life more? Let me tell you the answer is yes. Plain and simple but you are the only you can create a life you love so intensely. No one else will do it for you, we are all working on loving our own lives.

We may be on this planet a long time or a short time, we don't know. But time is only relevant when we compare it to something other than itself. For example a life that exists for one year isn't very long when we compare it with the life of that of a 85 year old. But when we compare one year with one second it seems quite a lot longer. Knowing you may die in one second, one year or 85 years is only relevant when it's compared. But where does that leave this moment right here? In this moment as you are reading this, and as I am writing this to you. This is the most important moment of your life. Really. Why? Because it is the only thing that is real. This moment right here and now is the only moment that exists, and you have the power right now to take your life into your hands and be the happiest you've ever been. So as you read this, take a deep breath in, fill all your lungs with air, look up and smile. As you exhale, breath out with gratitude for the air you are breathing. It's more than some people have right now. Understand you are so rich in life right NOW. Feel your lungs as they fill with air and know that is the gift of life. Forget about the past, learn from it. Don't focus on the future, it doesn't exist yet. Breath in the now and exhale the love and gratitude life is giving you, right now. How amazing is that?

I'm going to tell you a little secret, no ones life is perfect. Well not as perfect as they make out on their Instagram account anyway! Society pressures programme us to know and feel that we are lacking, we are not enough, nor do we have enough. You know the feeling. We think we need that 50" television, or the latest iPhone...blah blah! Currently I'm saving up to buy myself a MacBook Pro! But we have to established and understand we don't NEED anything but oxygen, food and water. Actually we WANT those things, there's a difference. It's fine to want them, but don't allow yourself to become obsessed with them and then place your every ounce of happiness in purchasing them, it will only leave you feeling dissatisfied. Let me ask you a question, does that thing you're working towards getting, whatever it is, does it define your soul?

Our purpose in life is only to experience our souls desire. That doesn't mean we can't have the big house, expensive car but know the difference between wanting and needing, soul defining and enriching. Know yourself enough to know you are enough exactly as you are. Exactly. With faults and all. That extra 2kg your carrying right now around your waist doesn't define you nor does it make anyone love you any less because it's there. Love everything you are. No one else will love you greater than the love you can show yourself. Be kind to yourself. The things we tell ourselves are things we would never say to another. Would you tell your friend that they look fat today, that they should have done better in that job interview? No, so why do we feel it's acceptable to tell ourselves that? I'll tell you why, because we are taught to. When we look at magazine covers, adverts, films, it's drilled into us that we are not enough. We're fat, we're not successful enough, or rich enough. All these elements should be measured on personal preference, not defined by societies dictations. I want you to know that you can make a change today and realise you are enough. How? Listen to me and know I'm telling you that you are. If you want to disagree with me that's cool. I'll take you for coffee and tell you everything I see that's beautiful in front of me when I look at you. That's a promise and I'll keep telling you that you're enough until you don't need me to tell you anymore because you believe it.

So, where does that leave us? Well, to maintain happiness of course. Who doesn't want to be happy for the rest of their life? We just need to take one step at a time. Remember this is not a race, and if it is I'm happy to come in last. I'm not ready to die anytime soon, are you? Don't rush a single moment. Live and breath the good the bad and the ugly moments that are waiting for you around the corner. That's the beauty of life. Everything is temporary. Everything. Happiness and sadness, fear and love. It doesn't last forever. Embrace the pain you will experience, it only means your growing and evolving. Wouldn't it be tragic if we looked back at our life in 10 years time and it was exactly the same? Life is hard, yes, and you will experience some really shit moments, that I can promise you. You will cry, scream and hate. That's life. But you will also experience happiness, you will laugh so hard you cry and your stomach hurts. You will experience love, and whether it's love for yourself or love for another intensity it, embrace it and embody it. Love is the gift of life, receive it with open arms as though it's the best gift you could be given on your birthday. The only effect I want to have from you reading this that you know you are loved. That is my greatest intention, and I hope this is the cause for you to start loving yourself. Let's stop revolving, let's start evolving in the revolution against society and be happy. Not because we have material possessions but because we can tell a stranger we love them and show compassion and kindness without it being mistaken for an invitation for sex. Tell someone today that you love them, don't be afraid to tell a friend they look pretty and buy the homeless guy a coffee. Acts of kindness are the revolution and the key to a beautiful future. We are in control of what we choose to receive so don't let anyone ever tell you again that you are not enough. Know you are beautiful and loved. Share this article with someone you love today and don't be afraid to tell them why you are giving them the gift of happiness. Life can be as beautiful as we make it. Let's make it the most beautiful gift of all. Change can happen if we happen together.

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