#blame the other guy

[skull-pun]

lol he was so quick to throw Musk under the bus there what a fucking weasel.

[probablyautistic-definitleygay]

GOD it must be so difficult for Bashir being the only bitch serving this level of ✨CUNT✨ on DS9

i need that Sudanese-English doctor in a way that violates the Prime Directive :))))))

[warningsine]

THE HANDMAID'S TALE Elizabeth Moss as June Osborne and Yvonne Strahovski as Serena Joy Waterford

Well, God's been smiling on us so far since…since we've been on the run. Why do you make it sound romantic?

[idolomantises]

So, I’m not sure how but I noticed a lot of people are misinterpreting Aurora and the new angels as the rest of the seven prime angels.

These are just lower ranked angels that were born on the same day as Aurora. Gabriel is the only Prime Angel.

[risetherivermoon]

what if i said that yall should not be blaming Curly for Jimmy's actions, what if i said that yall taking the blame off of Jimmy and attaching it to one of his victims because he's not a perfect angel is WRONG and it PISSES ME OFF and its DOING EXACTLY WHAT JIMMY WAS DOING IN THE GODDAMN GAME TO BEGIN WITH!!

[inkskinned]

there's a video on instagram of a man kicking his partner's door in. the top comment is (with over 4 thousand likes): "how about you tell us what you did to make him that angry?"

barring emergency, nobody should be kicking anybody's door in. many of us lived in houses where it was always, somehow, an emergency. there is a strange, almost hysterical calm that comes over you in that moment - everything feels muted, and you almost feel, however incongruently, like you should be laughing. you are living inside of "the emergency." oh my god, you think. i am now a fucking statistic.

there is another comment with 2.8 thousand likes: "if this was a woman doing it to a man, nobody would give a shit."

do people give a shit now, though?

barring emergency, the door should remain standing. the emergency should be panicked, desperate - "i'm coming in there to protect you." many of us know what it feels like when the emergency is instead "i'm coming in there to get you."

1.5k likes: "and yet you post this for notes. glad to see being the victim has become your whole personality."

hysteria is a word connected to womb, from greek. what you're experiencing is so senseless and inhumane that you (a rational creature) try to find any ground within what is irrational and cannot be explained. one of the most frustrating things about staying in bad situations is that we also lie to ourselves. we also ask ourselves - wow. what did i do?

women can be, and often are, also abusers. abuse is not gendered. abuse is not just a "straight person" problem. abuse does not have a face or figure or sexuality. you cannot pick an abuser out of a crowd. an abuser could be actually anybody.

and then so many people rally behind the man kicking the door in. here is something nobody should be doing, right? you want to ask every person that liked that first comment: do you ask this because you side with him? do you ask this because it helps you feel safe from this ever happening?

in some ways, you're weirdly sympathetic to the top comment, because it is the same logic you see frequently. the idea is that the average, normal, sane person doesn't just break down a door. doesn't just shoot up a school. doesn't stalk and kill women. doesn't threaten sexual assault. doesn't run over protesters. doesn't shoot an unarmed black person. doesn't scream at underpaid walmart employees. doesn't just "lose it". something had to have happened, right? because the default (white. straight. cis.) - that is someone who is always, you know. "sane."

(right?)

on a podcast, you hear a sane, normal, rational person. "if you piss me off, i'm going to need to hit something. sorry but i'm not apologizing. that's just who i am that's how it is." his voice almost sounds like he's laughing.

you think of the door, and how you were almost laughing behind it, too. ironically, every real emergency in your life has almost felt peaceful in comparison. fire, car accident, flash flooding - these felt quiet, covenant to you. you'd stood in all of them, feeling them pass over and up to your chin, never actually overwhelming.

but when the door was coming down, you had felt - is there a word for that? there has to be, a word, right.

surely one of us has figured out the word for that, i mean. it's such a large fucking statistic.

[dailygihun]

day 6 || this era lasted like 2 minutes but i love it anyway

[lucabyte]

A belief in Nominative Determinsim

[delicioustarong]

Cannot stop thinking about tfp! Megatron having a sensory crown. I blame @/nonsscrapheap's latest Universal Observations chapter (go read it you, yes you🫵)

Now thay I highlighted this part-- doodle dump 👇👇👇

Tfp Megatron is so hard to draw, but drawing his side profile is easy for some reason

Idk, starscream with a random human (I just wanted to draw him interacting with a human okay--)

Starbee ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ hehe

Eww why is there an ugly ahh mosquito here??

[crintsiewintsey]

rawdogged the whole isat in three days and then went on a drawing spree

[saradrawing]

a very lupintic summer 4: the beach -tanned- boys

two hours after

[lookstairs]

I think one of the most realistic parts about Baby Reindeer (2024) is how much Donny downplays the abuse he faces

I know everyone wants to hate on him for being “stupid” and blame him for everything that happened because yes from an outsiders perspective he made questionable choices but isn’t that what HUNDREDS OF PEOPLE DO?

I know so many people who’ve “played nice” or tried to downplay abusive behavior. You try and tell yourself “It wasn’t that bad”, or that it was just some crazy experience that should be forgotten. It seems so much easier to stay silent and just try to move on.

You don’t wanna start problems

You don’t wanna be mean

You don’t wanna be the bad guy

[dykedvonte]

I think a very interesting idea and misconception within the fandom is the idea Curly himself spreads the idea about his superb leadership and status as a great idealistic person.

A big personal issue with him is the very idea that he doesn’t think he embodies much of either. Or rather doesn’t think it was meant for him. The status is placed onto him from people like Jimmy, the rest of the crew to an extent and Pony Express themselves. He is never exactly excited or eager to hear praise on those fronts as he’s grappling with the existential woe of imposter syndrome and feeling like he’s done nothing despite moving up in those roles.

We buy into Jimmy’s belief that Curly holds himself up on the same pedestal and cares when he’s placed up there and scared of coming down, not that he doesn’t want to. He also just sees himself as some guy. A guy with a lot on his plate. A guy with a lot of responsibilities he doesn’t want. But still just a normal guy. Good and bad. Average. He’s very honest with himself about his own faults, very aware of the the thoughts plaguing him, both by his dialogue in the HFIM DLC and the awareness he shows to Jimmy before he’s shit down. Of course, that doesn’t mean he’s good at expressing it to other people but it is the stuff he actually believes about himself.

The reason he keeps up the facade is for others, the necessity of his job for the Captain to be put together but oddly enough he never tries to reinforce it himself. He falters at the praise and bristles at personal concerns to himself. If you outright asked him if he thought he was a good person or even a good captain, there’s of course the objective answer and then the one he’d have…

[stevens-pastrami-sandwich]

SHRRGFFFF... OUUUUUEUEUUUUUU PROFESSOR BOXLEITNER NOOO DONT CRY WAAHH anyways og under the cut

[starbuck]

sometimes there are situations where it is equally strange to blame a character for something OR to act like they were just a helpless victim. my kingdom for a nuanced take.

[twentyfoursevenghost]

it never gets any less frustrating for me to see die hard Dean stans act like Sam is a selfish monster for "abandoning" Dean when he went to Stanford or when he ran away the first time. Sam didn't have the same connection to Mary that Dean and John did, he never knew her when he was old enough to remember her. It's understandable that he wouldn't feel the same drive to avenge her, and it's understandable that he doesn't feel like he deserved to be abused and manipulated for struggling to set his heart on a mission for someone he didn't know. Dean watched his mom die, he knew exactly what happened to her, so he understood John's issues in a way that Sam never could. Logically, Sam knows this, but you can't force yourself to experience feelings you don't have. Sam didn't abandon Dean those times he left, he escaped John. Sam basically outright says this in Dark Side of the Moon, he explains that family doesn't mean the same thing to him as it does to Dean because all he's ever known was John's worst moments. He never had the small comforts and happy family that Dean holds onto. And yet this is the scene I most often see referenced when Sam is being called selfish and a traitor. It's reasonable why Dean would feel like Sam betrayed him, but the truth is that he didn't, and I wish certain fans were able to look at both perspectives with more nuance.