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Toxic People

The other day, a toxic person entered my daughter's life. I've learned to spot a narcissistic type person, right away. There's good people and there's toxic ones. I don't know. Maybe we are all both. The difference is, some of us focus on and practice at being good. We hold ourselves accountable and want to live our lives to the fullest. We want to help others do the same. Toxic people are entitled and thrive on and practice destroying other people's dreams and ambitions. They are miserable people and want everyone around them to be miserable. They must believe if they can tear someone down, somehow it will build them up. Or maybe they are just trying to get what they want at all costs. I don't know. It's mind boggling.

Toxic people mistakenly believe that all good people are weak. Some of us seem weak because we'd rather not be in negative energy, or fight, or hurt others. Sometimes we allow them to "get their way" just to make peace. We should always stand in truth. Sometimes you have to stand and fight too. There is such a yin and yang to it. It can be difficult to explain. It takes time to learn what is the right thing to do. Every interaction has a different answer.

When a toxic person enters my circle, I used to go from 0-10 on emotions. If you know me, you know I'm a fighter for what's right. Since I was born, I was taught to be a leader, and frankly, a fighter. I used to just "cut" the ruse of the other person with truth, but with strong, untamed emotions. I wanted to get rid of the negative energy or the situation as fast as possible. I wanted to send a strong message to the toxic person to move on. . .and that I wasn't going to be an easy target. I've gotten much better over the years at standing my ground on truth without going all the way to 10. I'm at a 6-7 now. When it comes to my children, I'm still around a 7-8. I still have some learning and growing to do.

The energy we spend on a narcissist can be exhausting. Especially if you haven't dealt with them as long as I have. I call them "Tasmanian Devils (from Looney Tunes back in the day). They literally swirl into your life and leave as much destruction as they can behind. Our job is to mitigate how much damage they do. The thing to remember is that there is NO resolution with them. When they show up, silent power is your best friend. Stand back, take notes, and let them hang themselves. No matter what their ruse is. . . the truth always comes out eventually.

Once they realize they can't control you, they will absolutely 100% go on a smear campaign against you. That's just what they do. Some of them are masters at their game. They can be very convincing. You may be accused of something you didn't do. Some will believe them. That's exactly what my daughter is dealing with right now.

Here's the truth. The toxic person will cause some damage. My daughter will sit back in silence, while this continues. BUT, what was intended for evil will be turned for good --(Genesis 50:20 As for you, what you intended against me for evil, God intended for good. . .). The toxic person will get what's coming to them. After all, what goes around, comes around. God's Universal Laws take care of that -- (Galations 6:7 Whatever one sows, that will he also reap).

The wind has been temporarily knocked out of my daughter's sails. But, she will come out stronger on the other side of this and she will thrive. My solace is that I know she will be protected. She has truth and God on her side

No matter who comes along in our lives, there is always a gift through it all. My daughter has always tried so hard to do her best, and goes above and beyond to please others. This is a great trait that, despite this disappointment, I hope she continues. All the while she is learning that we can only please some of the people some of the time. She is also learning who her true allies are. It's a 1/3, 1/3, 1/3 world. A third of the people love you, a third hate you, and a third is neutral. She is focusing on the third who loves her right now. I told her that through this, she is getting another layer of skin. God is strengthening her. We all need thick skin in this world.

The only thing we can control when the Tasmanian Devil arrives, is how we respond. Respond with faith, power, and strength. Respond with as much dignity as possible. We aren't going to be perfect because we are human and there are emotions involved. Step back, but, stand your ground. The truth will come out eventually. And always remember. . .God is in control. No matter how messy it gets.

Source: Toxic People