#but i think it's possible to do that without exaggerating her flaws and mischaracterizing her

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posts that portray buffy as the sole aggressor in season 6 spuffy annoy me. like even if we disregard seeing red it's just not true? for example, she absolutely does beat the shit out of him in dead things, but the same episode also features the balcony scene. the sex itself in that scene is um. i'll be generous and call it dubious consent on buffy's part. also the entire time spike is telling her that none of her friends truly love her and he's the only one who could possibly understand her etc. which is classic abuser shit. and again, don't get me wrong, i'm by no means saying that the toxicity is one sided. but the idea that it was just buffy hurting spike the whole time is demonstrably false.