#close2022

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Originally posted on May 3rd, 2023 This movie made me cry. I posted about it before. It really reflected a deep seated pain I had, a trauma I had as a kid. I love that movies and start help us make sense of things that we all go through but no one dares to speak about it. The movie is heavily inspired by the study by Niobe Way on Boys friendships and crisis of connection, titled "Deep Secrets" . . . I happen to have such book next to me. there is this moment in the life of men, when we all stop having such rich incredibly and intense friendships with one another. . . and even with ourselves. This is not an attack to masculinity or a forced advocation for sensitivity and delicate gentleness of males, but rather a conversation of a deep unspoken pain men carry. The movie does have some "imagery" a little over the top given that these are kids and they are boys, but it is not sexual nor it is intended to be this way. However, in context as a boy growing up with straight friends I can tell and I can remember very well how closed and sensitive we all were and little by little that went dying. At some point because of whatever it was, we wouldn't dare to hug, cuddle or have heart to heart conversations (remind you women do this all the time without being lesbians and gay men do this with their friends without engaging in any sort of sexual activity) We as men, and specially straight men carry this heavy burden of not being able to relieve their pain. It is a crisis. We are emotional animals, we need to touch, we need to feel and cry, and we need to be close to one another. Women have (and even used to have way deeper) friendships, stronger at times than their marriages. It enriches their lives. We men do, but something loose and aloof. We live without really living. There have been times I wish I knew how my buddies felt, I have a friend for example who lose his mom at 20, was a virgin and feeling lonely. I wish He had talked more about his feelings to me, how he felt, that He knew we would be there for him. Men only get "touchy" seek affection, connection, closeness, emotional, they get real when they drink. That's why men drink in my opinion which is dissapointing. While very few have the fortunate luck of having a wife that knows their most sensitive vulnerable side, even there is as if they abnegate everyone that can understand aspects of them than even women can't, but designate their poor wives to assume all these roles (not only their mother, but also an equal male buddy... ) Women unfortunale will never understand what is like to go through life as a man, same as us will never understand what is like to go through life as women (not even if we transition) So why do we live limited lives? why we as men have this strange disconnection with ourselves and lack of deep friendships? anyways, I love this film. _______________________________ Funny Story I used to have a best friend around the age of the characters, we were close like this. At some point because my inner fears of my own sexuality, I treated him so bad so I could push him away. He was my best friend from childhood. I destroyed a possible meaningful friendship and life story. I deeply regret of such. It was one of the worse emotional pains I went through and I caused it because I was afraid our closeness was too gay (he was not gay, and I did not have romantic or sexual feelings for him, I was just deeply scared of his closeness and that He found out there was something broken with me) I wish I could take all of that back.

close (2022) + male intimacy

[manyegos]

Emotionally catharsis?

Originally posted and reblogged on May 09, 2023 I don't remember quite well what triggered me. I think all my repressed emotions from a decade came back then. I also wrote "It’s like I blink and 10+ years passed" The movie was very heavy, and did hit close to home.

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Nếu bạn tìm xem bộ phim này vì nghĩ nó là một bộ phim đt, thì đừng, nó không phải câu chuyện trg bộ phim đâu, ôi giời ạ, mình ko nhận xét phim hay hay dở, chỉ là câu chuyện quá sầu và bi đát của nó, nhẽ ra mình ko nên xem nó ngay từ đầu, bị "lừa" vì vô tình thấy một đoạn video trên ins của nó nên cố tìm để xem...😫

– Close 2022

9/1/2023

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Highly recommended!! رائع بشكل لا يوصف

[manyegos]

I originally reblogged this on May 10, 2023.

CLOSE (2022)          dir. Lukas Dhont

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Resenha: Close (2022)

Entre os indicados ao Oscar deste ano, um pequeno nome brilha sutilmente na lista de melhor filme internacional. Trata-se do magnífico filme Close, do diretor belga Lukas Dhont.

O filme traz uma visão pouco explorada da passagem da infância para a adolescência. Leo, é um personagem interpretado pelo talentosíssimo Eden Dambrine, um ator jovem e bastante carismático que realiza seu papel com esplendor. Ele contracena diretamente com o brilhante e espetacular ator Gustav de Waele, que interpreta o melancólico Rémi. São dois atores igualmente talentosos e dois nomes que provavelmente ainda serão muito falados na indústria do cinema da França e da Bélgica.

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