#directness

[airedelalmena]

"“According to Joe Pasternak, [Dietrich] first spotted the Duke in the commissary and shouted, ‘Mommy wants that for Christmas.’ John stayed as far away from her as possible.”  Dietrich wasn’t the type to play coy, and Wayne, despite all his on-screen bravado, clearly didn’t know what to do with that kind of heat off-camera. In a Hollywood still stitched together by backroom deals and fragile egos, Dietrich’s directness landed like a smack across the chops. She wasn’t chasing the Duke like a wide-eyed fan; she was claiming him, loud enough for the whole commissary to hear. For a man who built his legend on being untouchable, Wayne found himself completely knocked off balance. It wasn’t just Dietrich’s beauty that rattled him; it was the sheer force of her will."

[average-emo-enigma]

“Am I really good at reading in between the lines or is it just a fun game I play sometimes that is probably wrong when I least expect it?” - a memoir by maybe-autistic me

[outstanding-quotes]

He said what he meant; he was puzzled if you did not. Some people might have mistaken this for simplicity. But is it not a sort of genius to cut always to the heart?

Madeline Miller, The Song of Achilles

[edsrosetattoo]

This is the best idea in the history of film.

[cazort]

I desperately want more people to read this whole post, reflect on it, and let it sink in.

And yes, it is 100% relevant that it's about an autistic trans woman to begin with. All autistic people deal with this to a degree, and indeed, all people, even allistic, can potentially deal with this to a degree too. But there's a special intensity with which transfem neurodivergent people are subjected to this crap. The combination of having trouble with social norms and cues, with having disconnects in gendered socialization, and people stereotyping us negatively because of seeing us as "men coming into women's spaces with our 'male' socialization and thus bullying all the delicate cis women" is particularly nauseating. There is bias against us, often severe, and this bias shapes how people interpret our actions. People often don't even ever give us a chance to respect boundaries.

99%+ of the time we are trying very hard to respect boundaries and doing the best we can.

I cannot count how many times in life I legit did not realize I was crossing a boundary or breaking a norm that someone interpreted as willful aggression, when I honestly did not know. I can't count how many times I could not tell someone was trying to send me subtle hints to piss off and I didn't pick them up immediately and it escalated to either badmouthing me behind my back, publicly shaming me, or just being overtly rude or aggressive to me personally, either to my face or in writing.

In spite of me continuing to get better at this stuff I was still occasionally having it happen even into my 30's.

This issue will not be solved in society until we make it the norm, everywhere and in every social context, to revert to direct verbal communication at least once before assuming bad faith. Seriously. How much is it to ask to give people one chance with direct verbal communication?

I saw some snippet of a callout post for an autistic trans woman where they list social faux pas she committed, and I think we allistic people should all feel 100x more ashamed of not telling people in the moment how we feel about what they're doing. I think its extremely evil and cruel to not only lie to an autistic person and blame them for it but also to feel justified shaming them for your behavior. And it's currently the social norm to do that

[ahotknife]

the thing is that childhood doesn't just end when you turn 18 or when you turn 21. it's going to end dozens of times over. your childhood pet will die. actors you loved in movies you watched as a kid will die. your grandparents will die, and then your parents will die. it's going to end dozens and dozens of times and all you can do is let it. all you can do is stand in the middle of the grocery store and stare at freezers full of microwave pizza because you've suddenly been seized by the memory of what it felt like to have a pizza party on the last day of school before summer break. which is another ending in and of itself

[petewentzisblack1312]

we seriously need to stop conceding to the personhood trap when it comes to abortion rights. is a fetus a person? thats a spiritual question. i dont care about the answer. should another person dictate what someone can do with their body? simple answer: no.

[demilypyro]

[batter-sempai]

THERE IS NO DELTARUNE

THERE IS NO SILKSONG

AND THERE IS NO QUEEN OF ENGLAND

[endrimer]

OH MY GOD

[chipper-smol]

fun behaviors to give dragons that aren't feline/canine based

cause as much as i love dragons purring and roaring i wish there was just more variety in how they would act

clacking their teeth together to show contentedness/happiness (budgies)

using tails as a defensive weapon in a whip like fashion (iguana)

twitching to express that they're not a threat to members of their species (hognose snake)

feeling calm when eyes are hooded/covered (birds of prey)

head bobbing as a threat display (anoles/bearded dragons)

flattening neck or sides to appear bigger (snakes/lizards)

mantling over food to protect it from hatchmates (birds of prey)

wiggling neck as a courting maneuver (budgies)

audibly grinding teeth as a warning (macaques)

maintained eye contact as a challenge (gorillas)

pounding wings against sides as a threat (gorillas)

slapping other dragons with their claws when their personal bubble is invaded (seals)

hoards used as a site to impress mates (birds of paradise)

snorting when undergoing heightened stress (horses)

making repeated loud noises with surroundings to establish territory (woodpeckers)

loud constant arguments with other dragons when roosting (bats)

building lairs that cause a domino effect of change in the land around them (beavers)

slapping their tails against the ground/water as a warning (beavers)

wiggling tail tip to attract prey (various animals)

wiggling tail tip as a warning (snakes)

plucking or scraping off scales as a sign of stress (parrots)

raising spines/frills as a response to danger and carrying on with their usual business as they believe they're protected (lionfish)

and im not saying canine and feline behaviors are wrong or bad to give a dragon (people wouldn't write dragons with those behaviors if they weren't fun in the first place!) but i feel for creatures that are mythological giant winged lizards that you can do more and get experimental with it. often the more unfamiliar behavior the more dragony the dragon feels

[happybird16]

and did you have to look it up

[doomtribble73]

[chibanova]

To everyone considering paying 5 billion dollars per year to play gamecube games on switch

Take my hand. I can show you a better way

[sachiko-odile-aiuchi]

what the fuck was this direct