#experiments with rando brushes

[orinew]

I gotta say, I’m curious.

[dirtbra1n]

reclining and smoking a lollipop. I hope shirahama has a particularly bad time this week

[bountycancelled]

OPLA characters reacting to a sweet, girly reader who turns out to be a a ruthless fighter

genre: headcanons, fem! reader, kinda suggestive??, idfk just read it bro

requested: nope, but reqs are open! pls, for the love of god, request for the opla♡

feat: zoro, sanji

a/n: reader's feminine but not female if that makes sense, only witting again because I'm obsessed with the one piece live action. also, this may be a little ooc, since I haven't watched the anime/read the manga, sorry about that! also, if you wanna be added to my perm taglist, pls feel free to ask!

☆ZORO☆

when you first joined the crew, zoro was immediately unsure of what exactly you brought to the table. I mean, they already had a swordsman, a sharp shooter, a navigator, a dumb cook and a captain/motivational speaker. so what were you doing here?

from luffy's explanation of you, he was aware that you were a good fighter, but he had never seen you in action.

the only things he had seen from you were stuffed animals laying around the ship, pastel outfits he could spot for miles, and bows that had been put in his hair while he slept.

he was tolerant of you at best, and straight up apathetic at worst, but finally, there came a time where someone tried picking a fight with you since you seemed like an easy target while you were walking with him and nami.

although he wasn't particularly fond of you (lies), he still felt the need to defend you as a crewmate, but the ass whooping you gave the stranger made him freeze in place.

there was blood splatter on your pretty face, deep red sploches of your cute clothes, and a look of pure hatred in your eyes. and you had never looked more beautiful in zoros eyes.

that was the first time zoro had ever smiled at you. sure, he had slightly smirked at your cuter tendencies, but in that moment he was truly smitten with you.

from that day, zoro wanted to train with you. what you lacked that he had in experience, you made up for in absolute cruelty when fighting. you were quick, agile and you weren't afraid to make zoro hurt, and he loved every second of it.

zoro would sometimes smile when he saw bruising on his body from his time training with you but catch himself and go stone faced immediately. no, he was not falling for you, absolutely not.

except he was, and the next time you showed up by his side with a slight limp, some tears in your cotton candy coloured clothes, blood all over you, and a sadistic smile on your face, he would tell you as much.

SANJI♡

sanji is unsurprisingly, enamoured by you the second you join the straw hats.

I'm talking, looking at you like you hung the stars in the sky, cheesy and constant compliments like "you're cuter than any of your stuffed animals, yn-swan~" and even brushing up on his baking skills to bake you aesthetically pleasing sweet treats that always put a smile on your face.

if I'm being completely honest, it doesn't bother him that he doesn't know exactly what your strengths are, you could be amazing at everything like barbie or you could literally not know night from day and he'd still admire you all the same.

one day, you're wearing bottoms that are on the shorter side not that sanji minds at all and you're out exploring the island you're at with him by your side, holding all your bags because in his words "angels don't do hard labour when he's around" when someone decides to hit on you.

you reject them politely, but when they make a less than appropriate comment about your outfit, you click your tongue and shake your head, readying yourself to hospitalise someone.

sanji's mood switches to one of being happy because he's around you to one of murderous intent the second this rando tries you, but you already have them wheezing on the floor with broken nose before sanji can even lift his leg off of the ground.

you're back to usual self, fixing the bow on your hair while complaining about how fucking hard it is to get blood stains off of your clothes, while sanji is thinking about how fucking hard he is

safe to say that this heartless, terrifying side of you makes sanji fall even harder and question whether or not he's a masochist.

he'll still insist on doing things like carrying you anywhere (most of your shoes you impractical as fuck, but style>functionality always) lifting things for you and treating you like a piece of fine china because that's exactly what you deserve, no matter how badass you are.

only difference is, now he'll never come to aid when it comes to kicking ass, because he enjoys seeing you take people to heaven and back more than anything.

he compliments now range from "omg you are the most adorable, lovable, doll-like angel I've ever seen" to "please punch me, step on me, make my nose bleed, choke me-" and he's now ten times more annoying about you than he was before, which no one thought was possible.

believe me when I say that images of you in frilly outfits with your eyes gleaming like diamonds eveytime you make someone bleed occupy 90% of his thoughts. (the other 10% is all things cooking, of course.)

[dillytaunt]

Why do so many fans think Jun Wu has no control over who ascends? Like, yes.. people ascend without his permission because there really is a cosmic order in this universe but he literally only needs to fill the slot to prevent randos from ascending.

And YES he CAN artificially ascend people and he DOES. I’m fr about to write up a whole essay on ascension this weekend istg.

The man literally says:

“Even fates can be swapped. Why not spiritual power?” Jun Wu said. “There are many things that are hardly as difficult as you assume. It is only a matter of a few words and a few brush strokes from a few great heavenly officials.”

Right after he sucks out one homies spiritual power and injects it into another.

And let’s be real.. Do y’all really think Jun Wu actually ascended a second time using his own power?

The dude who has the suffering souls of his first attempt at human sacrifice plastered on his own face and.. screaming?

Hell nah. This dude became the grandmaster of demonic cultivation. He experimented on fetus spirits like some mad scientist interested in unethical stem cell research. He probs invented the damn fate swapping ritual himself.

He has an entire fucking Burial Mound volcano where he vents his resentful energy. You think all that energy is accumulating just cus he’s mad? Or from just the three faces?

No way fam. This man is actively cultivating the dark arts and probs needs so many followers just to help balance the yang to his yin.

I mean.. c’mon. You fr think Feng Xin and Mu Qing ascended back to back naturally? And just after they left Xie Lian? There’s a whole damn arc about how unusual it is for two people so close to ascend so fast and so young

Jun Wu gifts Feng Xin a bow called Fengshen which is a homophone for the name of an entire Chinese myth about appointing mortals to godhood for political reasons.

Blows my mind to see that so many collectively deny the possibility when the narration is screaming clues from every digital and physical page.

[yandere-yearnings]

do u have any writing tips dar??? Ur stories are immaculate

nonnie?? that's so sweet of you to say, thank you😭🩷 in general, a lot comes to mind bc there's so many different components to writing (i.e dialogue, characterisation, structure,, even mindset!!) so if you want to hear abt anything specific pls lmk🥺 for now tho, i've summarised a few across the subject that i think are helpful, and they will be below the cut bc i'm shit at explaining things, so i ended up writing a lot hhh

i also wanna point out that these are just things that i've personally made note of over the years from my own experiences + being friends w/ other writers, but that doesn't mean they will apply to everyone!! more than anything, i always believe that you shouldn't let other ppl dictate how you do and enjoy things, so if smth works for you and you like it, there's nothing wrong w/ that even if it contradicts an opinion you got from some rando on the internet (a.k.a. me😔💔)

Know your game

I'd like to say that in writing, there's a vein of liberty that isn't echoed in very many other creative fields; a lot of the times you can go in blind, and still make something of it because the nature of fiction is liquid — if you can imagine it, it can work. So to say, I find that nine times out of ten, room for improvement doesn't necessarily lie in the content of someone's writing, and more so its execution.

You could play a desultory game of chess without knowing all the rules, but if you wanted it to be your best match, you'd have to be aware of every move you could make, no? What you do from there then becomes a matter of choice, and choice is a landmark divider between doing something and being good at doing something. There's a difference in omissions due to lacking the technical knowledge, and omissions made because you are aware they are optimal.

Knowledge on the fundamentals of literature will always serve you, and that isn't to say you have to study all forms and contexts, but if you want to write a story, for example, it will always help to know the common elements of one. Grammar, punctuation, structure — brushing up on those things will build your toolkit, and once you've got that, you have the self-autonomy to decide what to use from it. My three favourite writers only use commas and full stops, and their works are, on all levels, spectacular. Still, if you asked them how to use a semi-colon, they'd be able to tell you.

Appreciating the basics will also tie into your creative exploration as a writer, which is a cornerstone in developing your distinctive writing style. I doubt a person in any type of craft hasn't heard a variation of know the rules before you break them, so studying until you do, inside out, remains beneficial to both new and old writers alike.

2. Have a starting point

This tip is fairly applicable to a range of different types of writing, and how one would practice it depends strongly on individual preference and styles of working. Some people like to plan things out thoroughly whilst others, including myself, like to dive in headfirst, and there's nothing wrong with either approach. The commonality between both types of writer is that regardless, they will have at least a vague idea of where to start from — a scene that they've bullet-pointed prior, a lyric that resonated with them, a mental image, an emotion or even just a single word that everything branches from. What all these details achieve is writing that has motion, because you have something of substance to piggyback you to an end point (the establishment of which is also important, but I will not be covering in this post).

3. Decide a structure

Again, this can be done both comprehensively or as simply as just having the thought to adhere to a certain method. As you gain more experience as a writer, you'll begin to understand what works best for you and create a system of your own, but starting out, there are a number of templates that have already been established by writers that you can follow, and find by researching. What matters most is that by using one — whichever it may be — you're turning your text into a story.

As an example, I'll detail two that I use regularly, in their simplest forms for the sake of brevity:

A linear narrative moves from point A to point B, and from point B to point C, etc. and all subsequent points build on the previous ones until your goal is reached. It's a system that works well for shorter pieces because it has a definite structure, like a length of spine and its individual vertebrae (and although we're talking about writing here, I think Newton's Third Law of Motion sums it up very well: every action has a reaction.)

A coalescing narrative considers all points as separate elements that may or may not always interact, but all contribute to the end point to different extremes. It's a useful template for creating depth in a piece, but due to its complexity, is better applied to longer projects.

They are visualised respectively below.

4. Iterate

If you think of your first draft as a block of clay, everything you do to it will equate to it being moulded and shaped, and if you think of your first draft as a skeleton, everything you do to it will equate to flesh being put on the bones. If you want your piece to be the best it can be, there's a sort of detachment you must have from it, where you won't have the fear of changing it until it is in the image of what you have intended. Write and rewrite, add things, take them away, make a separate copy for every edit if that makes it easier for you, but keep working it until you are happy.

Iteration doesn't just apply to drafts — chapters, paragraphs, sentences and even singular words can be given the same treatment. When you pick up the habit, the process becomes second-nature and you'll find that the first lines you put down are the ones that make it into the final piece, and that is in light of sorting through the renditions unconsciously. Additionally, you don't have to do things in one sitting; sometimes taking a break and coming back to your writing with a fresh outlook is valuable.

5. Analyse and apply

One piece of advice I always see given when someone asks how to improve their writing is to read more, and though it is — at its core — a tip worth acknowledging, it always comes across as unserviceable to me. There is nothing that reading will change for you if you are not actively practicing the things you learn, or even actively learning to begin with. So to address it as a matter of semantics, I feel it's best put as studying the writing of others, as opposed to reading.

If you have a favourite author, go over their works twice — once as a reader to identify what you like about them, and then again as a writer to identify why you like those things. To put it into context, if I read something and decided that I enjoyed how clear and easy to understand it was, I'd do a second pass to figure out the attributing qualities. Perhaps it's the use of punctuation, chosen sentence forms or even the simplicity of words used. My first tip of knowing different literary fundamentals is complementary here, because it makes the analysis and application of isolated features that much more smooth, and also means you'd be able to adapt them into your own style instead of just copying the other writer, which is what you want to avoid.

(Some writers I personally recommend studying are @ozzgin, @monstersholygrail, @aayakashii and @urprettylildoe for readability and clarity in execution, @moyazaika, @carnivorousyandeere and @purerae for characterisation and dialogue, @suiana and @unhappy-last-resort for engaging plots and concepts, and @sabotsen and @lirational for word choice.)

[parkaplayboy]

75% || Chapter 7

stylenny x gender neutral reader

You're a senior in college during your final semester, but you find out that you're dangerously close to failing a class that you need to graduate. Lucky for you (or unlucky, depending on how you look at it) you get paired up with a tutor.

words: 971

FIRST | PREVIOUS | NEXT

Tuesday at 2:12 PM

Kyle’s apartment was cleaner than usual. Not sterile or try-hard, but there was a quiet order to it — the usually cluttered bookshelf had it’s books shelved alphabetically and a dark green throw blanket thrown over the back of the couch and a faint scent of coffee and cedar in the air. As Kyle set down the coffees he was carrying on the kitchen counter, you turned and inspected the calendar on the wall to your right. As you stepped closer, your eyes caught on the small scrawl of different colored inks. On today’s date, a neat blue pen had written Tutoring - Y/N, 2pm, and beneath that, in what looked like red Sharpie: Don’t be weird about it, Kyle. You snorted. Kyle turned toward you with a mildly horrified look as he realized what your amusement stemmed from. “Okay, that one was Stan. I didn’t even notice he wrote that.” You laughed. “I feel like I should be flattered or offended.” 

“Go with flattered.” he said, leaning against the counter and handing you one of the coffees. “Trust me.” You took the drink with a grateful hum. “So, should we get started?” Kyle didn’t immediately launch into lecture mode. He always had this calm energy, this collected confidence that somehow made you want to do better just by sitting near him. He explained things clearly, pausing when your brow furrowed and nudging you gently back on track whenever you got distracted. 

Which, honestly, was often — especially when he leaned over your shoulder, his curls brushing your temple, his voice low and careful as he explained an equation you’d half-forgotten how to solve. You caught yourself staring a few times. He didn’t say anything, but the slight curl at the edge of his lips said he noticed,

After about forty minutes of reviewing concepts, Kyle sat back and stretched, arms above his head, shirt lifting slightly to reveal a sliver of pale skin. “Not bad,” he said, “You’re actually doing better than you think.” “I’m good under pressure,” you joked, tapping your pencil against the table. “Like a sad little academic diamond.” He chuckled, shaking his head. “You’re not sad. A little chaotic maybe, but in a fun way.” You grinned, a flush rising to your cheeks. Before you could say anything else, the front door opened.

“Hey!” Stan’s voice rang out, and seconds later he appeared in the kitchen. “I brought snacks.” He held up a brown bag of what looked like chips and candy. His eyes found you quickly, lighting up. “Y/N. You survived the Kyle tutoring experience.” You smiled. “Barely.” 

Kyle rolled his eyes, standing up to grab a bottle of water. “We were productive.” Stan crossed the room and leaned against the wall by the table. He looked good, in that effortless way that made your heart do the thing again. “You headed out soon?” 

“Yeah,” you said, glancing at the time. “Didn’t wanna overstay.” 

“I can take you home,” Stan offered, already pushing off the wall. “If you want.” Kyle didn’t seem surprised, just tossed you your jacket from the hook on the wall. “Thanks for coming by.” You hesitated a beat before smiling. “Thanks for the help.” Stan’s car was comfortably messy —- half empty water bottles, a jacket in the backseat, and a pair of sunglasses tucked into the dash. He let you pick the music as he started driving, the late afternoon sun spilling through the windshield in golden strips. 

“You seemed good in there,” he said casually. “With Kyle. He’s a tough read sometimes.” You shrugged. “He’s a good tutor. Made things click.” Stan glanced at you at a red light, his eyes warm. “I’m glad. We were all kinda hoping you’d be cool rather than some boring rando.” 

“You guys talk about me when I’m not around?” you teased, biting back a grin. “Only flattering stuff,” he said, shooting you a quick smile before turning his eyes back to the road. “Speaking of — tomorrow, Kenny and I are helping out at the animal shelter for a few hours. Thought I’d ask if you wanted to come.” You blinked. “Wait.. seriously?”

“Yeah,” he said, a little more bashful now. “You’re a Vet Med major right? You seem like someone who’d enjoy a bunch of chaotic dogs and clingy cats. Plus.. it’d be nice to hang out.” You leaned your head back against the seat, smiling up at the ceiling. “I’m in. Just tell me when.” Stan grinned, satisfied. “Cool. It’s a date then.”

You didn’t even have time to process that last word before he pulled up to your dorm. He parked but didn’t kill the engine, fingers drumming lightly on the steering wheel. “I’ll text you later?” he asked. You nodded. “Yeah. Thanks for the ride.” He looked at you like he was about to say something else, then thought better of it. Instead, he just smiled and gave a little salute. “Later, Y/N.” You stepped out of the car, Kenny’s hoodie tied around your waist, and watched him pull away. 

Inside, your phone buzzed again.

Group Chat - The Dumbest Smart People You Know

Kenny: Stan told me he asked you to the shelter tmrw 😏

Kyle: Hope you’re ready for cat hair in places you didn’t even know existed

Stan: Bring snacks. For the animals and urself. 

Kenny: And wear the hoodie again. It’s lucky now.😉

You bit your lip, smiling as you typed:

You: you guys are dangerously charming. It’s honestly not fair.

Kenny: It’s a team sport, remember? 

Your heart felt too big in your chest. You threw your phone onto your bed, laying back with a laugh. Somewhere between tutoring sessions and stray cat hair, you had absolutely no idea what you were getting yourself into. But god, you couldn’t wait.

[newtonsheffield]

Molly I have no dentist and I would trust you over a rando one if I did. Is rinsing with peroxide safe for your teeth? I am being told to use it for whitening but some people tell me its damaging.

Let me just put my Dr Molly coat on.

Okay here’s the think about Peroxide.

It’s not the worst thing you could use, it’s also not the best. It also won’t whiten your teeth really if you’re using it as a mouth rinse.

Let’s chat about whitening if that’s what you’re after. Hydrogen peroxide is used for whitening teeth in certain percentages and it works! It removes stains from your teeth brightens and whitens your smile. What it also does is makes your teeth a little bit more “porous” in doing this which can cause sensitivity. Here’s the thing though: whitening isn’t permanent. It’s a process. Great for an event, not forever. You have to keep doing it because foods and drinks have food colouring in them which stain your teeth. Tea coffee red wine and things like turmeric are the major players here. Unless you’re only going to drink water for the rest of your life it won’t be permanent. It also won’t whiten any restorations in your front teeth, crowns bridges or fillings.

I’m fond of a 15% carbamide peroxide mix myself used with vacuum formed medicament trays when I want to whiten. Why do I recommend a special tray? Bleaching is fine for teeth not for gums. We don’t want to bleach our gums.

That being said you don’t have a dentist so you probably won’t get a medicament tray made or maybe you don’t want to commit that much to it. In which case I always recommend opalescence go. Nothing stronger than 10% if it hasn’t been prescribed for you specifically.

Why do I like Carbamide Peroxide? She’s a bit gentler, so you tend to get less sensitivity. Some people have more sensitive teeth because of gum recession, thinner enamel and a million other reasons.

So basically: Whitening is a process. Whitening toothpastes and mouthwashes are… frankly a waste a of time. Toothpaste is a fluoride delivery system and for fresh breath the most important thing is your brushing technique! If you’re looking for a good mouthwash please use a non alcohol containing one! My favourite to recommend is a Colgate one called Neutrafluor.

If you are using peroxide as a mouthwash PLEASE do not use straight hydrogen peroxide unless you’ve spoken to a health professional who has examined you. Use a peroxide containing mouth rinse. You want to be sure of the percentage you’re using! Gums love getting burnt and we want to protect them! They’re the foundations of teeth!

It’s also important to note that whitening products are not recommended for people under the age of sixteen, pregnant or breast feeding women. Let’s be safe please.

Anyway, those are my personal experiences and thoughts. Us dentists are all fickle different creatures and we like what has worked in our clinical experience and this is based on legalities in the country where I practice.

Oh and only floss the teeth you want to keep I guess. ✌🏻

[piemaker93]

Platonic Stobin just being completely truthful about what they’ve gone through. NDAs being lowkey ignored as they make inside jokes about their *trauma*

They don’t care for 2 reasons

1 - why would they listen to the government? The government sucks, they experiment on little kids in secret labs and cover up people dying and basically are the root cause of all this bullshit / their trauma to begin with!

And

2 - no one will believe them or take it seriously

Like hear me out, let’s say they decide to learn Russian after starcourt to try and like conquer their fears or something. And some random person asks them why they know Russian and their response is just

Robin: oh! When we were 18/19 we were trapped in the secret Russian bunker under the mall and tortured.

Steve: so we decided to take back control or whatever…it’s therapeutic or something

Stobin: *laughs*

Rando: *awkwardly chuckles along* okay keep your secrets

Like in what world would a normal person believe that these teenagers have been tortured!

Basically just Stobin coming off as a little unhinged with their jokes to cope and not really hiding the cause of their trauma cause no one will take it seriously anyways.

Bonus for Eddie / Billy / Vickie / Chrissy or whoever you ship either of them with being out of the loop and witnessing all these jokes. Just brushing them off as Stobin having a weird sense of humor.

Then when they do get brought into the loop either reacting with the realization of all those jokes being kinda serious / everything just clicking into place.

I have more thoughts on unhinged Stobin using humor to cope about all the shit they’ve been thru but I’ll leave it here

TL;DR just platonic Stobin being real nonchalant about those NDAs as they make jokes to cope with their trauma.

[tea-kitten]

hey there! Hope you are well. Since you seem very knowledgeable about cat breeding, i was wondering if you could share your thoughts on ethical issues with breeding. Some common points; is it really ethical to create more animals for profit? Shouldn’t people be adopting from overcrowded shelters instead of shopping for designer cats? Pregnancy is a great physiological strain to any animal, why is it ok to purposely put animals through this repeatedly for human gain? Thanks for your time :)

I am going to pretend that this is not an obvious attempt to start some weird adopt-don't-shop disk horse in a rando's DMs and answer your questions in good faith. I will also be focusing on what I am familiar with, which is cats. There are many parallels between purebreeding of dogs and cats, but there are also many differences - because they're completely different animals with completely different histories when it comes to selective breeding practices.

Most ethical breeders struggle to break even after you factor in money spent on healthcare/screening for the queen/stud, healthcare/screening for the kittens, and the expense of showing - which is nearly a necessity if your goal is to produce cats that conform to the breed standard. If you're in the community with the intention of turning a profit, you probably should not be breeding animals - especially not cats. You will probably also not find a mentor willing to give you an intact cat to start with, because the first thing they're going to tell you is that you are not going to make money. If you are a prospective buyer, you 100% need to be vetting the breeders you are researching to make sure that their goal is to produce healthy, happy, and typey kittens and not to get rich.

So why do they do it if not to make money? Because they want to preserve or improve on their vision of the breed. They want to produce animals that enrich the lives of other people, as those animals have already enriched their own. Using the devon rex as an example, many breeders and owners of this breed are involved with them because they're allergic to cats and the devon is one of the only breeds they can safely own.

Ethical cat breeders do not, as a general rule, contribute to overcrowding in animal shelters. People who fail to take responsibility for their animals' reproductive potential contribute to overcrowding in animal shelters. Every ethical breeder I have ever interacted with has an unconditional return policy - that means that if I suddenly found myself unable to provide a home for my 14 year old devon, Vi, the contract I signed when I bought him requires that I make heroic efforts to return him to his breeder in Michigan rather than dump him in a shelter down here in Texas. Every ethical breeder I have ever interacted with would not relinquish an intact kitten to a buyer unless that buyer was an established breeder in their own right or a mentee working directly with the breeder under close tutelage to start their own cattery. Most ethical breeders these days require their kittens to be chipped; some go to the extent that they will not allow their own microchip data to be replaced with yours, so their information will be available in case the cat is ever picked up as a stray. My aunt, who breeds devons, coordinates rescue operations that identify every devon, suspected devon, or devon mix that shows up on shelter websites and get them adopted or placed in foster care by a local devon lover as soon as the hold period is over. From my experience, this is a standard practice in basically all cat breed circles I've brushed up against, and it's pretty common in dog fancy groups as well.

But wait, you ask, doesn't someone buying a purebred kitten from an ethical breeder contribute to overcrowding by removing them as a potential adopter of a shelter cat? Mmmmm not really. Some people are happy to adopt shelter cats AND buy purebreds. Some people only adopt. Some people only buy purebreds. If they would only ever buy a purebred, then buying a purebred would not remove them from a list of hypothetical potential adopters. Someone who is allergic to cats can't just adopt a cat from a shelter; they have to find a hypoallergenic breed and then meet representatives of that breed to confirm they won't react to it. Someone who has small children, special needs, or small children with special needs may not be able to just adopt a cat from a shelter; they need to know that the cat they bring into their home will be safe there, and that the cat will be safe for the home as well. When you adopt a shelter cat, you have zero idea what its general temperament will be, or whether you are adopting an animal with severe and potentially debilitating trauma history. Its medical history before the intake date will be unknown, its congenital health risks will be unknown. When you buy a kitten from an ethical breeder, you know it has been carefully socialized and acclimated to a normal home environment and the breeder will be able to tell you some basic things about its temperament, including whether it will be shy or outgoing, on top of characteristics that are common in the breed.

Lastly, pregnancy is a dangerous and difficult thing for all animals to go through. All cats in animal shelters were also produced by a cat becoming pregnant. The difference between a cat breeding under the supervision of an ethical breeder and a cat breeding because its irresponsible owner let it hunt the local wildlife while intact or just thinks kittens are cute is that I guarantee you the purebred cat is getting proper prenatal and postnatal care and nutrition, and the kittens will be kept in a safe and loving environment until they are purchased by a buyer that has been thoroughly vetted by the breeder. Also, if we ceased to "put cats through pregnancy for human gain" we would cease to have pet cats that have been produced with the health and ethical treatment of those cats in mind.

If you want to adopt a shelter cat, awesome! I have owned and loved some amazing rescues in my life. Do your research to make sure that the issues that your cat might have when you bring it home are issues you can manage. If you want to buy a purebred, awesome! Do your research to make sure the breeder you work with is doing so ethically, and get suspicious of them if they aren't researching you right back. Make sure the breed you want really is a good fit for your lifestyle, because an animal is not an accessory. ---

TL;DR VERSION: - Breeding purebred cats is, generally speaking, a horrible way to make money if you care about the welfare of your animals and the betterment of the breed. - Ethical breeders making purebred animals does not contribute to overcrowding in shelters; irresponsible pet ownership does. - Most purebred animals either never end up in a shelter because a cat that can no longer stay with its owner is contractually required to be returned to its breeder for rehoming, or do not stay for long because breed fancier groups of all stripes keep an eye out for their favored breeds and get them out as soon as they show up. - 1 purebred animal produced does not necessarily equate to 1 animal in a shelter not finding a home. Many people who will buy purebreds either cannot or will not ever adopt a shelter pet and that is not a moral failing on their part. - "Pregnancy is a great physiological strain on any animal" is a description of a biological process, not a means of bolstering arguments in an exploration of whether to adopt or purchase an animal. However, if an organism is going to be put through the great physical strain of pregnancy, I would prefer that organism to be kept warm, healthy, well-fed, and given full access to medical care throughout the process overseen by someone who has a lot of experience.

If you have a problem with your local pet shelter being overcrowded, consider volunteering, establishing a foster network, donating time/money to local rescues/neuter drives/etc, or getting politically active to increase the availability of local resources.

[esther-dot]

GRRM constantly remind us that Sansa’s breasts are growing and/or are “large” for her age, do you think there’s a reason for that or he’s just a tits man and a weirdo?

Y’all always have such nice things to say about this man. 😂

As much as we're all fans of his work and can offer lots of rationalizations, these questionable choices in his writing are mirrored with weird statements in interviews (link), so I'd say, no matter the explanations we have for specific lines, this is an area in which Martin has not earned our blind trust.

I'm all about “charitable readings”, I offer that to my anons, fellow bloggers, and of course, any author I encounter, so I will offer a bit of that below, but I thought @aegor-bamfsteel's post about the oversexualization of the girls was very good (link), and even when I offer a literary explanation for his choices (as I did here for Dany), that's not to minimize how disturbing I find them. I don't like it at all.

Now! There are a few things that are part of the explanation for this beyond being a boob guy.

Sometimes it's simply part of communicating that Sansa is growing

Sansa tried to hurry, but her fingers fumbled at buttons and knots. The Hound was always rough-tongued, but something in the way he had looked at her filled her with dread. Had Joffrey found out about her meetings with Ser Dontos? Please no, she thought as she brushed out her hair. Ser Dontos was her only hope. I have to look pretty, Joff likes me to look pretty, he's always liked me in this gown, this color. She smoothed the cloth down. The fabric was tight across her chest. (ACOK, Sansa III)

Sansa lifted her arm. She needed a new gown, that was true. She had grown three inches in the past year, and most of her old wardrobe had been ruined by the smoke when she'd tried to burn her mattress on the day of her first flowering "Your bosom will be as lovely as the queen's," the old woman said as she looped her string around Sansa's chest. "You should not hide it so." The comment made her blush. Yet the last time she'd gone riding, she could not lace her jerkin all the way to the top, and the stableboy gaped at her as he helped her mount. Sometimes she caught grown men looking at her chest as well, and some of her tunics were so tight she could scarce breathe in them. (ASOS, Sansa II)

Martin has mentioned talking to women about their first period and tried to incorporate that into writing Sansa's, so I'm sure he also knows how many of us experience unwanted attention around that age too. Therefore, I'm gonna assume to him, this is all part of the female experience and he included it for realism.

2. Sansa is surrounded by pervs. Not only do we have the above with randos, but from early on LF and the Hound sink their teeth in and then of course, Tyrion, and we have Joffrey ordering Sansa beaten/stripped, basically, we have a huge portion of her story just drowning in men who lust after her/molest her, demean her. So, we're gonna talk about her beauty (her body, her breasts…) as part of that. Now, I've suggested having so many adult men lust after her is overkill and a little variety in their perversions would have been a relief, but that was the choice and these are the results.

3. Stumpy has discussed how this is all foreshadowing for Sansa becoming a mother at a young age ie he’s emphasizing her physical maturity and rushing it a bit to prep for what is to come (AFFC Foreshadowing, ASOS Foreshadowing). So potentially, not needless perving, prepping for a future plot. That might horrify you as much or more than him just liking to write about boobs, but Martin has repeatedly stated his belief that in medieval times, as soon as you hit puberty you were eligible for marriage. Even with that belief, a different writer might be a little more…delicate, but Martin likes to lean into the physical reality of his story, it’s part of what makes it compelling, so the guy who writes shitting and vomiting and oddly unerotic sex scenes for the sake of immersion, getting descriptions of these poor girls may just be part of the ride.

4. Sansa is very clearly "the Maiden," (link) but we've had several chapters now where she is also getting “the mother” idea attached to her in a kinda, Virgin Mary reference. @minitafan explained that here, with her foil being Dany (here). That doesn't mean we need details about her breasts, but because of what she represents, a manifestation of peace, calm in the midst of battle, compassion for our enemies, it makes sense to me that Martin would opt to make her physically beautiful too (hence descriptions of her body). She is meant to be someone others are drawn to, even men who seem impervious. It's a bit of a funny little game in which Martin unravels Sansa's expectation that beauty=goodness, all the while showing us, Sansa is that beautiful, inside and out.

My conclusion about most things ASOIAF, its complicated, and I’d say, it’s probably a mixture of everything.

[orinew]

I’m out here trying to speed run all these quests I’ve got on my list but I forgot I left the looooong ones left.

Have I done the Fontaine story quest since it came out? Nope.

Is that a crime? Maybe. ʅ（◞‿◟）ʃ

(TBH, the bigger crime would be that I’ve been playing since 1.0 and I’m still not even AR 60 ;_; )

[an-aura-about-you]

you know what makes the work day better? suffering beforehand! is there anything that could happen to me on the clock that could be worse than Handbook for Mortals?

(not worse than reading Handbook for Mortals, mind. as awful as this is and as pissed off as I'm getting about how the book treats Sofia, I am enjoying the actual act of reading and documenting this. I knew belligerence for fun was a thing, but I didn't think it was a thing I was capable of.)

anyway, Handbook for Mortals Chapter 5 time:

when we last left our hero, Scheherazade just saved Sofia's life by pushing her into a pool instead of using her magic to save her. remember how I said the magic is here the way coffee is present in a coffee shop au? this is exactly the sort of thing I mean. and nobody gives a shit that Sofia nearly died and fully intend to blame the entire incident on her even though there should be at least two other people on the hook for the blame.

also, this happened due to some kind of glitch that set the platform off spinning when it wasn't supposed to. I don't think this glitch is ever explained, but what if it's a Dresden Files thing where some technology just doesn't get along well with Zade? if that's the case, then the notion that this is Zade's fault is actually true. but even if it's not, it does feel telling that this glitch that nearly resulted in someone's death is such a minor part of the story that I don't trust it's going to be resolved in any manner.

anyway, Chapter 5: The Emperor

-we're actually starting this chapter with an italics segment. something I hadn't mentioned about these is that Handbook for Mortals uses the triple moon symbol everywhere, in particular before these segments start. so the chapter actually starts with the triple moon symbol right after the chapter title. it's weird.

-Zade is still here to explain things, though, like how Vegas shows don't take traditional weekends. I mean, idk, maybe it's because I'm older and have had a number of jobs where I had to work weekends, but it seems like the population of people who regularly get Saturdays and Sundays off from work is just not enough to merit this explanation. and I'm saying that as someone who DOES have a traditional weekend with my current job!

-we once again have some unusual word choice as Zade describes her profession "this so-called 'entertainment business.'" you realize that sounds like either someone who thinks very little of what you're doing as a career or someone being evasive about their job as a stripper or a porn star, right? and lbr, I would find a stripper or a porn star more respectable than anything Zade is doing. at least they come by their work honestly.

-anyway it's night after Sofia's brush with death and we're at a birthday party at a bar. Mac is off sitting by himself drinking a beer and thinking about Zade because the narrative can't honestly bring itself to care about the rando having the birthday.

-Sofia is here too some 24ish hours after falling 50 feet into a pool and literally drowning, and she is bringing a beer to the technical director who watched all of this happen while he was on the clock and did nothing about it.

-I stand by what I hypothesized before. Sofia is a witch who's unaware of her powers so far. they were awakened due to Zade's proximity and right now that energy is focused on her healing.

-"That was quite the spill you took last night," Mac says about Sofia's near death experience.

-Sofia herself glosses over what happened by saying she's a quick healer with good genes. I'm telling y'all, witch. but also possibly PTSD. most likely PTSD.

-Charles isn't here by the way. Sofia went to this event without him. his girlfriend nearly died yesterday and apparently he also doesn't give a fuck. I wonder if Sofia came to the bar because she knew about Drew's birthday and didn't want to be alone considering how much everyone she works with does their best to not be around her. she and Mac have some back and forth about how Charles doesn't do birthday parties, but Charles couldn't even suck it up enough to be there for his girlfriend who nearly died yesterday? weak.

-Mac tells Sofia that Charles doesn't know how to do real social events and says the comment goes over her head, but Mac is the one who was sitting alone at a birthday party until Sofia came up to join him. between the two of you, Sofia has the better grasp of how to mingle at a party.

-though tbh if you put me in Sofia's shoes then the whole reason I would be sitting at the table with another beer for Mac would be, "If I get him drunk enough he won't be able to do anything when I go to pummel him with a bar chair." oh hypocrite me, I too have a violent streak.

-seriously, Sofia's here flirting with Mac and I don't understand the motivation behind it UNLESS she's doing it for revenge purposes. Mac points out she's taken, but that's worth a whole bunch of nothing if Charles doesn't care that his girlfriend nearly died yesterday.

-omg Mac straight up does the bit like in The Room when Mark tells Lisa she's beautiful but they can't sleep with each other anymore. (they then proceed to sleep with each other for the rest of the movie.) this is what we're doing, we're trying to make Sofia into Lisa from The Room. and I can't believe I'm saying this, but Sofia isn't even as bad as Lisa. yes, Sofia is flirting with Mac, but we don't have any evidence that she's slept with anyone besides Charles AND their relationship isn't as serious as Johnny and Lisa's was in The Room seeing as they were engaged.

-"Would it make a difference if I was single?" ok, whether Sarem meant to do this or not, this indicates to me that Charles and Sofia are broken up in all ways except officially.

-also Mac's rejection makes it sound like he's only interested in dating for long term relationships. that does fit with what we learn later, but has nobody in this book ever heard of dating for fun? you're allowed to just have fun y'know.

-saying that also reminded me of Gone with the Wind, specifically Rhett floating the idea to Scarlett that it's actually possible to get married for fun and she could try that for a change. there's also the reference to Gone with the Wind earlier in the book leading to me having this tangent. it's possible that Sarem is trying to establish a relationship similar to that of Scarlett and Melanie's with Sofia in the Scarlett role, but that doesn't work because Zade is nothing like Melanie. NONE of the characters in this book are anything like Melanie.

-I want to take a second and point out that Drew's birthday cake gets more description about what it looks like than Sofia does.

-back to Zade at work and she takes a moment to mention the theater is kept at 90 degrees. that just sounds awful. I would not be going to this Vegas show, especially not if it's a full house as it's specified earlier the theater can seat an audience of 2,000. god, can you imagine the sweat and body odor?

-also we've apparently skipped ahead a few weeks. Zade and Mac are no longer in the enemies stage of their relationship (which I will remind you consisted of only one spat, one and a half if we're counting Mac getting pissed off about Zade trying to tell him about her premonition in the last chapter) but rather in the budding friendship/burgeoning lovers part. so instead of getting a nice build of their relationship, it's more like we're on a cooking show and Sarem has set the prep aside to pull out the finished dish she made ahead of time.

-for someone who doesn't mind tossing name brands in here left and right with proper capitalization, it seems weird that Sarem forgot to capitalize the candy Red Vines.

-Zade also brings up that Mac stopped asking about her trick again. like, we know this. he said he was going to stop in the last chapter. YOU'RE the one who keeps harping on and on about your own stupidity in this matter.

-this whole scene exists so Mac can invite Zade to the next company camping trip and have awkward flirty times by the way.

-we've also had a few reminders that Mac doesn't date performers as a rule. we'll get more information on that later, but it seems kind of arbitrary. I mean, I know what happens because again, not going in blind, but it seems like that should just be "doesn't date coworkers" given the circumstances. if he doesn't date performers, does that mean Beth the lady who works as Spellman's assistant from back in Chapter 1 has a chance?

the chapter ends with another italics scene that was just Tad teasing Mac about liking Zade. bleh.

[desidarling123]

If you haven't read this expose already, please do, because it's NUTS.

TLDR; Hasan Minhaj admitted to fully just. Lying. About things that, until recently, he posited as things that actually happened to him.

Some of the craziest excerpts from this article (imo)

But was his invention of a traumatic experience with his child or with law-enforcement entrapment distasteful, given the moral heft of those things, and the fact that other people have actually experienced them? “It’s grounded in truth,” Minhaj said. “But it didn’t happen to you,” I replied.

Dude. DUDE. What the fuck?!?!

There’s a palpable discomfort among comedians when they are asked to comment on another person’s art—a sort of code of omertà. But a number of writers and performers who spoke with me bristled at Minhaj’s moralizing posture. “He tonally presents himself as a person who was always taking down the despots and dictators of the world and always speaking truth to power,” one former “Patriot Act” employee said. “That’s grating.”

Yeah, this always drove me crazy about his style, but now coupled with the truth that he's been making half his shit up? Fucking insidious.

“If he’s lying about real people and real events, that’s a problem,” the writer said. “So much of the appeal of those stories is ‘This really happened.’ ”

Exactly. Hasan's whole claim to fame is being a "truth-teller" so discovering how much of his stories are lies... yikes!

Many stories on the cancellation also mentioned a series of tweets from former female employees of color alluding to their poor work experience behind the scenes. A document reviewed by The New Yorker revealed that three women had hired an attorney and threatened litigation against Netflix and “Patriot Act” ’s production company, alleging gender discrimination, sex-based harassment, and retaliation.

I remember when these came out. My IRL acquaintances did not really believe it, but I definitely felt odd about it. No smoke without fire...

Oh, and this ending fucking FLOORED ME.

When we spoke, I asked, were he to get “The Daily Show” hosting job, if his fabrications could put him in a compromised position when commenting on someone such as George Santos. Minhaj brushed the question off. “I think, when George Santos says he’s on the volleyball team, it’s a pointless story,” he responded. Minhaj’s “fiction” was always in service to a bigger point, putting him in a different moral category than Santos. He appeared unwilling to engage with the idea that his position in the comedic landscape is unique, or that the host of a comedy news show might be held to more stringent standards of accuracy across his body of work. When it came to his stage shows, he told me, “the emotional truth is first. The factual truth is secondary.” ♦

What a bunch of word scramble to justify.... not telling the truth? "Emotional truth", what a load of garbage. It's fucking identical to the same concept "Alternative Facts" the Far-Right was pushing so hard on us just years ago.

As a POC I find this especially rankling because we fight so hard for our stories to be heard... only for some fucking rando to not just co-opt those experiences and traumas, but fully... make them up? And claim them as his own? For clout?!?!?

What a mess. Unlikely to hurt his career (unfortunately) but goddamn.

[ovyy-pvcure]

I've been left under stimulated again so even though the post didn't reach enough notes I'll still post the writing critique but I won't tag it. @furudolove was too curious and I'm too attached to the itch of the compliant to leave it unaddressed.

Ok, so background: the protagonist of the work in question is isekai'd to a fantastical game-like world with 3 other randos who are of no significance to this post. Our protagonist meets someone who agrees to be his teammate since due to the rules and restrictions of the (game) world he's found himself in can't meaningfully do damage (and the prior person who held his position gave it a bad name by terrorizing the kingdom [for all that slavery they were doing] so he's hard up for options). This person then gets the protagonist drunk steals his stuff and makes...claims against him. Brushing quickly past how I feel about that development our protagonist is left penniless lacking in allies and basicially helpless until he's approached by a slaver and decides to buy a 10 year old girl to fight for him since slaves can't lie to their master...because of magicial shock tattoos. Because our protagonist has lost his faith in others unless he can magicially compel their obedience (I mean he takes the nice male slave owner at his word but whatever) and this is NOT my compliant. This is clearly set up to be the protagonist's flaws making decisions that he knows are wrong, but gives in to due to weakness.

Earlier I said the fantasy world our protagonist got transported to is game-like and the important parts for understanding where I'm going with this is: this world has explicit exp, levels, upgrading weapons oh and when the race of people that little girl is levels up they physically mature. Like a pokemon except it's a shivering malnourished child who's obidence is kept via constant threat of inescapable electric torture. Look, I agreed not to complain about the protagonist owning a slave thing on the face of it I'm not here to downplay it.

All that background out of the way and with the understanding that slavery is morally wrong and the protagonist's growth should be measured by his ability to place trust in people without needing to hold all of the power and the author does the worst thing possible for the narrative: textual justification of slavery in-universe. Specifically the existence of Slave Experience and The Slave Shield which both give notable consistent passive boons to uhhh...human property. This singular writing choice in my mind entirely undercuts any defence of the series as it serves to entrench both the protagonist and the fanbase to defend slavery.

This is not a hypothetical either there are many online discussions where fans of the series will point out that these boons are why the protagonist needs to keep his slaves, and keep feeding and being a positive face. To. Slavery. To the machine of the slave trade. Worse, it means the protagonist not only doesn't have to cooperate with other independent individuals but only on his group of literal slaves for which he's rewarded his growth as a person in the narrative be damned.

Slavery was either never going to be an issue the author wanted to tackle or it became the series' "gimmick" as a "dark subversive isekai" and got stapled to it forever and so it got justified. Celeberated. Benefical actually to the slaves who grow up overnight to be nubile women who the protagonist personally raised just how he wanted before marrying her in the end. Just be a Good Slave Owner and reap endless benefits as the world distorts to justify your obsessive controlling misanthropy lest the teenage boys projecting onto the protagonist think they need to grow the fuck up and trust another person.

[aerospectrum]

3 rando headcanons for 3 rando characters if you have time 😚

ooooh this is a cool ask thank yoooou!!!🩵🐢 hmm let me thiiiiink

cas: 1]I think castiel is afraid of spiders, something about the way they creep and crawl and dangle around. he thinks their webs are intricate and beautiful but he’s really afraid of the actual spider lol.

2]castiel rebelled during the plagues of Egypt by saving as many first born sons as he could that didn’t have lambs blood on their doors and was dragged back to heaven to be reset but not before he was punished severely so now he has issues with authorities and that’s what makes him so stubborn in his thought process of just because you claim to be good it doesn't make you right!

3]cas has an energy field around his grace that makes plants and trees and vines grow wild, when he decides to start gardening he sits in the fields all day watching his crops grow; he makes his own jams and jellies for his friends too with the harvests. when he comes to the bunker Dean gets annoyed when the vines grow thick over the doors and he has to machete his way out. Sam uses him for his herbology needs when he starts learning spell work lol.

jamie: 1]jamie can’t swim, he nearly drowned as a kid in the river and he’s terrified of that happening again, but he will never admit it so when he’s invited anywhere near big spaces of water he goes in just till the waters at his knees but never further so nobody ever suspects anything.

2]Jamie’s birthday was often overshadowed by his younger sister or brushed off by his parents as he grew up. he won’t tell anyone when he was born because he doesn’t want to relive the feeling of being forgotten and if by chance someone does figure it out or just celebrates him he has a hard time not breaking down because he feels undeserving of the love/attention. he likes chocolate cupcakes with vanilla frosting and blue sprinkles they’re fun!

3]Jamie loves ice cream but his favorite that he likes is “grape bubblegum” ice cream with nerds candy sprinkled on top. He learned how to make homemade flavors and always keeps it stocked and hidden in his freezer. But he always gets plain vanilla with others to appear “sophisticated”.

Timmy: 1]once Tim became an adult he built a treehouse replica of the “car” he was stuck in as a kid when he visited the ill-fated jurassic park in a massive tree in his backyard. he sits in there for hours when he’s overwhelmed or panicking about things or when he misses his siblings.

2]Tim makes Tupperware containers of Jello for Lex every year to make up for the raptors in the kitchen fiasco; she hates jello but she always eats some for Tim just to make him happy.

3]As a way to avoid scrutiny or prying minds that want to exploit his experience when people learn who Tim is and start to ask him about Jurassic Park and what happened there he makes up really mundane stories that aren’t satisfying to hear or he pretends he has no idea what they’re talking about until they give up and leave him alone.

[chaos0pikachu]

Top has gotten the shortest end of the stick of all the characters. (Imo) He seems like a plot tool for Mew’s development, not a real person. I thought they would delve deeper into the insomnia but they have not. They brushed over him doing coke so quick as well. That’s literally the only interesting nuggets we have about him. We don’t know about his family life either. It’s hard to feel sympathy or connect with his character at this point when motivations are still so unclear. So Jojo shouldn’t be surprised that he’s so ‘hated’.

I wish he was hated because he's under-developed but I think him and Boston (who also has a lack of nuance issue in the narrative) are hated b/c they had non-monogamous sex. Which the crew (not just Jojo, I'ma call them JNBD for Jojo, Ninew, Best and Den lol) must've realized too b/c they specifically cut a scene where Top was gonna have sex w a rando and cry about it.

Know, that's unfair, I think both factors can be true at the same time. I think some people are struggling to connect with Top b/c like you said, he feels more like a plot device for Mew's character than his own individual character with their own motivations. AND I think it's because he had sex with other people who were not Mew. Because Forcebook is a branded couple and I saw those stans on twitter wildin out.

I think one factor is valid - him being under developed makes it hard to the audience to connect with him as a char - and the is not - who fucking cares if Top, the fictional char slept with someone not Mew they are not Force and Book jfc.

I think it says a lot about the state of the type of hate Top is getting that JNBD are seeing that the scene they cut was a sex scene specifically. Only now that it's gotten to the point of being outright undeniable are people even a bit more sympathetic to Boston. But like, I saw people calling Boston a predator and a rapist like, 3 episodes ago lol and rooting for Mew to share the revenge porn of Boston with his father.

Obviously this is not the entire~~~ fandom but suffice to say fandom hasn't been actually all that understanding of slutty (or really, non-monogamous behavior, y'all know being poly isn't like, an ao3 trope right? boston isn't "self-harming" himself by sleeping around he just...enjoys sleeping around? but the show has been kinda regressive in terms of poly/open relationships anyway they tease at threesomes but never follow through. At this point it feels like a meta joke, lol look at ray saying him and sand should have a threesome don't worry firstkhao fans we're just teasing they're true love fr!)

I think a big factor is fans have to strong a para-social relationship with Force and Book along with First and Khao (like holy shit y'all calm down about these two). So Top sleeping with Boston was seen as a "threat" to the endgame of their ship which should be TopMew but is actually ForceBook (don't even try with me SandRay had like 100 fics before the show even aired, and so did Top and Mew).

I spoke to a friend about this, they don't watch BL themselves but they said it sounded like part of the appeal specifically with branded couples is viewers know going in their ship "wins" they are endgame, there's a low-risk factor involved so it's easy to buy in. And I think they're right tbh I don't follow branded couples because, well frankly I don't care much, so I wasn't expecting this level of fandom bias nor the existence of the branded couples interring actively with the narrative itself. It was a very new experience for me and I think I'll just pass on gmmtv shows in the future.

I don't mind knowing where a story is going, I've watched plenty of romcoms, I'm not in this shit for plot twists, but if the journey really pushes the couple shouldn't be together and I know they'll end up together anyway well then I'm annoying lol

I think it's a shame that Top is gonna end up with Mew. I don't think they fit well together, the narrative hasn't shown me that they work or even could work long term. They have all the chemistry - to me - of white sauce casserole Carol brought to my cookout and only added some pepper for flavor. But narratively, what does Top even want? Why does he want to be with Mew? Because he opened up ONCE to Mew? We never even saw his perspective of their dating life just him giving up drugs in exchange for sex which chepie that was NOT romantic to me.

I'd love a fic that explored Top more as an individual char, why him and Mew don't actually work b/c Top's trying to contort himself into someone else because he's clinging to the sense of security Mew gave him. But what else is there to their relationship? Really? Maybe Top is actually aromantic or maybe he just enjoys being un-committed but feels pressured by society to do so, to "settle down".

There's potential there to explore that I hope fandom does but either way don't bring casserole to my cookout ever again gmmtv