#i'm fine with positive and negative

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I feel like if the twins had a youtube channel it would all be SPENDING 24 HOURS IN A HAUNTED WALMART baby slop content with them pogging in every thumbnail

Meanwhile Snotlouts channel would consist of rant videos where he complains about his life and shits on media he dislikes and overall it'd just be him being a bitter little hater

[wishfulsketching]

Finally was able to finish season 4 of Doom Patrol and I am. Dead.

Larry and Rama 5ever

[telesodalite]

Been thinking about idw1's outliers lately, and how sort of wild the whole concept is from a worldbuilding standpoint, and it struck me that most confirmed outlier abilities tend to be really useful, or flashy, or powerfully dangerous, and few to none tend to be like, really boring, or totally impractical, or even entirely useless? Which, doesn't really make sense when considering the fact that outlier abilities are seemingly random.

Surely not everyone who's born an outlier gets something useful?

And I don't mean like, "good" useful, but any sort of useful, even if that means you can kill people with your voice, or give a power boost by exploding yourself, those are still "useful".

But surely there had to be some with abilities that were totally impractical, or nonbeneficial, or at the very least just insignificant or purely aesthetic and pointless?

[scalierpepper]

hi friends! i would love your thoughts and ideas abt something if you are willing:

imagine you are harrowhark nonagesimus and have abruptly remembered your cavalier was not ortus nigenad and was in fact gideon nav. all your memories of her come flooding back. what moments or details of gideon flash through your mind at this point?

[bluepallilworld]

It's time for the yearly summary of art

ok doing close-ups is so much funnier, I'll continue doing that probably XDc

[trentcrimminallybeautiful]

TED LASSO S4 ANNOUNCED BTW

SO I'VE HEARD.

[ceramicbeetle]

the thing is, you’re absolutely right! because what neurotypical people sometimes don’t understand is the massive difference between the average level of social interaction that they themselves vs other people get outside of organized or scheduled events like work or school, and also don’t understand the massive difference between what failure looks like, and how those two things overlap. i’m told that among the average neurotypical person, they’ll make a point to talk to people in their lives or hang out with friends or go on dates or chat with other people in public spaces, al to have casual interactions, multiple times a day, multiple days a week. meaning, if they have a failed social interaction, it’s buffered by the many successful interactions they’ll go on to have. failure most likely won’t mean complete isolation, because they have multiple avenues of interaction to fall back on. and, moreover, a failure in a social interaction when you have (on average) fewer than most means that now rather than that person going “oh that was a weird interaction, i talk to them a lot and it’s not usually like that, maybe it was an off day” they go “huh i don’t know that person very well maybe they’re just like that?”, which means that the odds are way different on whether relationships stay good after mistakes.

social skills are not actually as inherent as neurotypical people like to think. it’s just that when you’re always in practice, always getting back on the proverbial horse, the advice “just get back out there!” does actually work very well. but if you’re not able to do that for any variety of reasons, you can’t play the game the same way. my advice is not “try harder”, it’s “lower your expectations for yourself on what a good interaction and a moment of connection might be”. just as it’s possible you’re somehow unintentionally upsetting people, it’s possible you’re unintentionally making them feel happy, or valued, or heard, even in small, passing interactions. remind yourself that you’re working with fewer resources and a much more limited data pool. a lot of the advice being given is coming from someone who assumes they understand what the math looks like for you, because it’s very difficult to imagine that other side. so instead of trying to overlay a system made for someone who has resources that you just don’t have, you need to figure out what a functional system of interaction looks like for you, and adapt the advice given to fit your situation. my advice, bearing that in mind, is that finding communities and groups can look like a lot of different things, and getting your social needs met can come from a lot of sources, and ideally should! you would understand best what your situation is, and there’s no shame in changing tact to accommodate for your own needs and boundaries.

forgot to answer this for a bit lol BUT yeah, the post was a little bit more about the Conceptual argument than it was about me specifically, so I'm definitely already with you re: 'finding out what your Individual social goals are and working based off of those instead having high expectations based off of other people's metric' stuff. You definitely have a huge point with the "social buffer disparity" between NT people and ND people, where failures are both less demoralizing internally and less impactful externally when you're able to have a greater average of interactions generally also

but I really appreciated the "just as it’s possible you’re somehow unintentionally upsetting people, it’s possible you’re unintentionally making them feel happy, or valued, or heard, even in small, passing interactions" aspect of this message. I do definitely have a recurring problem of like, labeling Myself as an Uncanny Valley Person and automatically assuming that every interaction I'm involved in must be some level of uncomfortable for the other person -- it actually was kind of a revolution moment reading this and realizing that OH it does make sense that if I can unintentionally make people uncomfortable, it's statistically just as likely that I can unintentionally lift people's spirits in one way or another! So thank you very much for that!!

[hopetorun]

this is absolutely just whining but i have to finish a work thing i've been avoiding for ages and ages and ages because it's annoying AND involves fixing my mistakes (terrible, because it involves acknowledging that i made mistakes) AND tedious AND requires me to do a lot of ego-stroking for annoying colleagues. but i told my boss i would do everything in my power to have a revised draft by our meeting tomorrow so we are down to the wire. so i'm gonna do it but i will bitch and moan the whole time.

[carabas]

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FOR YEARS the number one unanswered question I had about Malevolent was Arthur's episode one temporary amnesia, which was apparently so important that it was the first thing you'd read in official summaries of the show, "Arkham Private Investigator Arthur Lester wakes up with no memory of who he is or what has happened," but which lasted approximately two seconds and seemed to have zero impact on the plot. So what was going on there. Why choose to highlight that. What caused the memory loss. Were his so-quickly-returned memories reliable? Was it going to connect to John's assorted memory troubles? Was it a dropped plot thread, and Harlan just hadn't gotten around to updating the description on the website? I'd about given up on the story ever cycling back to this.

This haunted me through YEARS of fading interest in this show. Said loss of interest largely in direct correlation to how much the plot now revolves around Nyarlathotep, a main villain who is vastly less personally relevant to the main characters than the one we'd started with.

FINALLY, FINALLY, the number one mystery I've been haunted by since episode one has an answer! It's 'Nyarlathotep did it.'

[rabbits-of-negative-euphoria]

I gotta say thee funniest hollywood trope about women is when labor comes on just like a heart attack. most heart attacks don't even come on like a heart attack.

[mixmangosmangoverse]

Sometimes I really wish the second half of KiraKira PreCure just didn't exist

[narcopathyfiles]

Honestly. i know i've played into the scary stereotype before because it's safe in a way. but being seen as some kind of threat makes life so fucking boring. i'm bored of being threatening. bored of being mainly known for my indifference. it's a huge part of me yeah it affects pretty much everything i do because it dictates how i approach situations. but it's boring as fuck! and it's great to be feared in a way because people leave you alone, but then they also turn back on you so stupid fast. and nobody wants to just talk to you normally. i think they don't believe i'm capable of "talking normally" deep down. i think they don't really see me as a person at all

[princemick]

genuinely so strange that all like 4 outcomes of what can happen next yr is fine and seems like a fun option? like they're all...good?

[tjerra14]

hm. likely got exposed to Covid earlier this week and feeling off now, I don't like this

[swallows-are-for-hope]

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[ssaalexblake]

the life of a 13 era dw fan who doesn't like doing negative fandom things, as in, spending my time going on about what i dislike about it and would rather discuss positive or neural things about it, and how this genuinely Genuinely bothers some people lol