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milfbrainrot · 4 months ago

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online friendships really are so fucky with how black and white they can be. like irl you can kinda tell if someone's not interested anymore by how they're acting or if they don't show up to things or whatever and things fizzle out, but with online stuff there's always this gut-punch fall off where you have to realize "oh i haven't seen this person around in a while" and then go check and realize oops they unfollowed me oops they made the concrete decision to silently leave a shared chat oops they blocked me, etc.

like you can still get certain indicators online but it feels like you get these very harsh reality checks that a friendship is over that you have to clue yourself into assuming there wasn't a huge argument or other communication. and part of me does typically come to the conclusion of "well if there was no communication then it probably wasn't a good/real friendship anyway" but it does kind of drive me insane and make me hypervigilant in very unhealthy ways.

#txt #also to clarify i don't equate like... following to friendship #there are people i care about a lot who i don't follow just bc i need to keep my dash quiet etc #i get it if people do unfollow me for whatever reason! esp now that i kinda know it's (usually)#less about being Disowned TM for discourse views and probably just. because of changing fandoms #and i'm still Allowed to talk to the person lol.#last thing i always feel hypocritical talking abt these things as someone who is so bad at replying one on one #i am rly trying to reorganize myself and... reprioritize? from the above?#so that i can actually maintain friendships with the people i do care about lol :')#to me that is just still... different from exiting from the social sphere altogether #(or even being kicked from one without knowing! haha!)

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