#lily.speaks

[the-rings-system]

can it happen that the host like always is the main front (like no one else fronts completely) and the other alters/parts are only co-fronting?

“Some individuals with OSDD-1 lack both amnesia and highly distinct parts, and other individuals with OSDD-1 have highly distinct parts but rarely or never switch between them. These latter cases are also sometimes described as OSDD-1b.” (from did-research.org)

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[mayhapslily]

hello! I'm Lily, 19, and hopefully omw to study bsc. psychology in the UK this September. I'm here because I have a desire to learn but not enough motivation or energy to do so; I want to keep myself accountable, and track my study progress, too! I'd love to meet other uni-level people to keep each other pumped up!

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[mayhapslily]

30 days of productivity challenge?

30 days of productivity challenge.

[the-rings-system]

Is an *very* exaggerated reaction to any kind of confrontation/anger a sign of trauma or is it common in younger people who are just senstitive?

That would be called a trigger! Triggers elicit over-exaggerated reactions along the lines of fear/anger/sadness/shame typically uncalled for in the situation. Triggers are from past trauma, and occur when external things remind you of the trauma, either explicitly or subconsciously. 

(tw gun violence) There’s really not anything such as “younger people who are just senstitive.” A lot of adults are talking about that, but a lot of the young generation is generally more traumatized than theirs, due to gun violence, global warming, and raising mental illness. It’s not our fault, and it’s ok for us to be scared 💜

[the-rings-system]

After living your whole life pretending to be the host is it weird for alters to not know exactly who they are?

Not at all! Imagine if a singlet had to live their whole life pretending to be someone else. It’s natural for everyone to be a bit confused while unlearning the habit of pretending to be someone else 💜

[the-rings-system]

Hi, our system has posted here anon a couple times before (OSDD-1b), with this being a different alter. I just wanted to thank you and all the other DID/OSDD YouTube channels out there. We've only started recognizing the existence of each other in the past couple weeks, but all the research weve done has made accepting each other and willing to switch go much faster than without this knowledge. From all of us, thank you.

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Thank you for supporting Silver and the rest of us :)

[the-rings-system]

I accidentally triggered a friend while trying to reconnect with them (mentioned a character who was an abusive fictive that I was completely unaware of). I apologized and offered to help and promised to be more careful and they said it was okay. But I still feel really awful for hurting them, and sort of afraid that I ruined my chance to be friends again. Do you have any advice?

My advice is this:

Within trauma communities, our trauma can be very complex and hard to keep track of, even for ourselves. For everyone, there will eventually be a day where you accidentally trigger someone, for reasons you couldn’t have forseen. That’s just the nature of knowing multiple other trauma survivors. You did the right thing by apologizing, offering to help, and taking a note to avoid that subject in the future. Sometimes, that’s all we can do! I’m sure your friend understands that it was accidental, and you didn’t mean to, and you will do better in the future.

Take care 💜

[the-rings-system]

Hi! I'm a undiagnosed OSDD-1a system and i wanted to ask you something! Even tho i know that OSDD-1a doesn't have alters (as far as i learned and readed so far) like people with DID and OSDD-1b do and that they are just different parts of me... i wanted to ask you if you know if those parts still can have different hobbies they enjoy more or an aes they like more or songs they like to hear more than other parts! It is like this for me and it confuses me a little! Thank you!

Yes they do! Here we go: 

“For individuals with OSDD-1a, dissociated parts are more likely to present as the same individual at different ages, as the same individual in different modes, or as different versions of the same individual. The individual may go by the same name regardless of which part is present, and each part may view itself as the main part. However, parts may still have different skills, emotional reactivity, or ways of interacting with the world. … For example, someone with OSDD-1a may have a work self, a family self, a 5 year old self, and an angry self in addition to several parts that hold trauma memories. The work self may fully believe that work always needs to come first while the family self always prioritizes family” (did-research.org)

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[the-rings-system]

Any tips on system journals? And examples of rules for it?

We have tried, but every time made-up little rules ended up stopping us from continuing. So my suggestion is get a couple little journals and try a few things! If one entry a page works for you guys, then go with that! Or maybe short little blurbs whenever you feel like it.

Some rules would be “Don’t read things others mark that they don’t want you to read” and ‘don’t erase other’s entries” and things like that!

Have a lovely day 💜

[the-rings-system]

I have a therapist who Ive brought up osdd to, and I cant tell if shes supportive or not? She never outright disagrees. But if I tell her about a system thing that happens she always gives a different explanation for it (like when we switched to someone less distressed than me so we could get home because I couldnt drive safely. she said it could be just me feeling better after a break). And us still being unsure about it (and afraid to disagree) doesn't help. Is this a red flag?

I wouldn’t say this is much of anything right now - as long as she doesn’t insist it HAS to be something at the expense of your experience, I think it’s worth it to keep trying with her. This might be her trying to open up a conversation about your experiences and symptoms to get a better hold on what you’re experiencing!

If you start to feel like she’s dismissing your experiences by constantly making suggestions to her, don’t be afraid to bring this up with her! We’ve had a couple dips with our current therapist similar to this, and bringing it up with her fixed the issue, and she’s been absolutely lovely 💜

[the-rings-system]

Can an alter split in the middle of an event? Like say a system is having a traumatic or highly stressful experience, can an alter split off in the middle of that or is splitting something that would happen after the event?

Splitting is something we don’t know much about, but know it can be varied. Some alters take a long time to split, and some take a shorter time. One reason alters split is to hold memories and experiences, so could either split during the event to take over, or after the event and take the memories of what happened.

Have a lovely day! 💜

[the-rings-system]

Thank you so much for all your amazing content! I am a singlet with a good friend who is a system, and I had been having trouble finding resources to educate myself (probably because I had no idea what to search) until I found your channel. My friend is out to almost all of her friend group, but I don't think she's ever gotten to meet another system, let alone actually be part of a community. :/ Do you have any suggestions? I think I saw something about a discord? Thank you! --friend in CA

(same person as the previous ask, but this is just a P.S. that didn't fit). I have a piano-and-vocals music recommendation for Lily? Vienna Teng (some of my favorites are Stray Italian Grayhound, Never Look Away, Flyweight Love, and Goodnight New York). Anyway, you seem like really wonderful people, and I wish all of you the very best in college and in your shared lives

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Thank you! For the compliments and the music suggestions :) I just started listening and they sound lovely!!

If you message us, Silver has some lovely system discord recommendations :)

Have a lovely day! 💜

[mayhapslily]

first original ppst might come in a bit lol