#my mom all like 'please just return the stolen items and we will forget about it' WHY ARE YOU ASKING WITH PLEASE TO THEIVES???
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masgwi · 2 years ago
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City ppl who move to the country to "escape city drama" when they were the cause of their city drama kindly fuck right off and leave country folks alone with your bullshit
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swanqueeneverafter · 7 years ago
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55. Wish You Were Here, Pt.3
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Storybrooke. Present. Convent of the Sisters of Saint Meissa. (Belle is giving birth in the convent. Emma holds her hand and helps with her breathing as one of the sisters deals with the delivery.) Dream World. Boy: “Can you push me on the swing, Mommy?” (In a darkened playground, Belle walks towards her son on the the swings.) Belle: (Exhales deeply:) “I was... I was afraid I wouldn't be able to find you.” Son: “You'll always find me when you need to.” Belle: (Taking a seat on the swing beside him:) “So, look. We don't have much time now, okay? Your father's coming, and he will use those shears. So, please, if you know how to stop him, you have to let me know.” Son: “You know what you must do.” Belle: “No. No. (Stands:) No. No. I can't. I won't. There has to be another way.” Son: “There isn't. As you said, we're out of time.” Belle: (They embrace:) “I love you. I love you more than anything in the world.” Son: “I know. And I won't ever forget it. Oh, and Mother... don't forget the book.” Belle: “What book?” Storybrooke. Present. Convent of the Sisters of Saint Meissa. (Belle gasps and finally snaps back to the here and now just in time to give birth to her son.) A Short Time Later. (Belle rocks the baby in her arms as Emma leads the Mother Superior into the room.) Mother Superior: “Oh, congratulations.” Belle: (Laughs:) “Thank you, Blue.” Mother Superior: “Emma said you wanted to see me.” Belle: “Yeah. Yeah, I need your help.” Mother Superior: “Of course. Anything.” Belle: “Here. (Pats the bed and Mother Superior takes a seat:) Will you be his fairy godmother? And will you take him somewhere safe, somewhere far away from all this?” Emma: “Belle, what are you doing?” Belle: “Rumple will never stop. This is our son's only chance. (To Mother Superior:) Please take him, just until this is all over.” Mother Superior: “But you don't know when or if that will come to pass.” Belle: “I believe it will. I have to believe it will. Yeah. (Voice breaking:) Take him.” Mother Superior: (Taking the baby into her arms:) “Of course.” Belle: (Sniffles:) “Thank you, Blue. There's, uh... there's one more thing. Emma? (Emma hands over ‘Her Handsome Hero’. To Mother Superior:) Read it to him so that he knows that I'm always there for him. (To the baby:) My Gideon... strong and brave... a hero for all time. (Kisses the baby’s head:) Don't you ever forget that I love you.” (Mother Superior waves her hand and both she and the baby begin to glow. Elsewhere, Mr. Gold pushes open the convent doors and strides inside. Entering the room, he finds Emma and Belle sitting on the bed. Wordlessly he takes in the scene before something outside the window catches his eye. Mother Superior flies away with baby Gideon.) Mr. Gold: “No. You abandoned our son? After everything?” Belle: (Scoffs:) “I didn't abandon him! I gave him his best chance at a good life. And after what you did, that is clearly a life without you in it.” Mr. Gold: “Belle...” Belle: “Rumple, no! It's over. Okay? It's over! There's nothing left for you to say.” Mr. Gold: (Glances at the window, then back:) “What's his name? What's our son's name?” Belle: “Why? So you can use it to find him? You can do what you will with me, but I will never tell you.” Mr. Gold: “I would never hurt you, Belle. Never. But I will find our son.” 
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Enchanted Forest. Past. (Belle tracks down the parents of the stolen baby and returns the child to them. Unseen from the distance, Rumplestiltskin watches the happy reunion.) Storybrooke. Present. Mr. Gold’s Shop. (Mr. Gold enters the back room of his shop.) Evil Queen: (Sitting in the darkness:) “Someone lose another son?” Mr. Gold: “Don't. Not now.” Evil Queen: (Turning on a light:) “Or what? Hmm? (Laughing:) Oh. I bet Belle really hates you now, huh?” Mr. Gold: “Go.” Evil Queen: “No. I'm going to enjoy this. I went to a lot of trouble for this to see what happens when you poison your love.” Mr. Gold: “I did no such thing. (Points, at her accusingly:) You did.” Evil Queen: (Laughing:) “Oh, no. You did. By making me an enemy. Okay, yes, I did the actual dosing of the tea. But you forced my hand. (Standing, crossing the room:) Oh, worry not. It'll be easy to fix, no? Just tell her. Oh, wait. She won't believe you, will she? Tragic.” Mr. Gold: “I may not have crossed a line today. But you most certainly did. And I'm gonna make sure you pay for it.” Evil Queen: “Oh, please. If you haven't found a way to kill the woman who murdered your own son without enlisting my help, I'm not all that concerned.” Mr. Gold: (As the Evil Queen starts to leave:) “One thing I thought you knew about me by now, Your Majesty... I play a very long game. And you? You're nothing more than one of my pawns.” Evil Queen: “Good luck finding your son. Again. I hear fairies make wonderful mothers.” (The Evil Queen leaves. For a few moments, Mr. Gold merely stands with pain etched across his face. Then, he begins taking his frustrations out on several items in the back room, smashing them to pieces.)
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Blanchard Apartment. (Henry, Regina, Snow and Emma are gathered in the apartment, having discussed the days events. David lays slumbering on the bed.) Snow White: (Sighs:) “Okay. That's enough despair for one day. (Motions towards David:) I'm going to wake him up. If you would please fill him in on everything?” Henry: “Of course.” (Snow moves to the bed and climbs on beside David. She is about to kiss him when something stops her.) Emma: “Are you okay, Mom?” Snow White: (Shakes her head:) “No. (Slides off the bed and picks up something heavy:) She's watching us.” (Snow throws the item at the bedroom mirror, smashing it. Meanwhile, via her mirror, the Evil Queen smiles as her curse is clearly having the desired effect on her victims.) Regina: (Having seen enough:) “This is all my fault. (Heads towards the door:) I can't let them suffer for it.” Emma: (Walking, blocking her path:) “Regina, where the hell are you going?” Regina: “To stop the queen. I can hurt her. I'm the only one who can hurt her. Anything that happens to me will happen to her.” Emma: “No, we decided this in the mirror world. I am not letting you sacrifice yourself.” Regina: “Well, I'm not asking for permission.” Emma: “Oh, I see, we’re still doing this. (Folds her arms:) So did you forget what's about to happen to me? That I have a death sentence.” Regina: “But you can fight that future, Emma. I know you. You will fight it.” Emma: “But that doesn't mean I will win, and the only thing that makes that bearable is knowing that Henry will still have you. I can't be there, so you have to be. You know I'm right. We have to find another way to defeat her. Together.”
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Mr. Gold’s Shop. (Emma and Regina sneak into Mr. Gold’s shop to find the place wrecked.) Emma: “Whoa. Oh, well, someone had a temper tantrum.” Regina: “Do you really think we'll find something in here to stop the queen?” Emma: “Maybe. (Notices something laying on the floor:) But I think I just found something else. (Crouches beside it:) This is it. This is the sword from my vision. It's here.” (Emma reaches to grab the sword but the vision flashes before her eyes once more.) Regina: “Emma, are you okay?” Emma: (Panting, grabs the sword:) “Yeah. I think it's safe to say this is what did it.” Regina: “This is the sword that killed you?” Emma: “Will kill me.” Regina: “Why would it be in here?” Emma: “I don't know. But now that we have it, maybe we can finally find who's responsible.” Regina: “The figure under the hood.” Emma: (Stands, holding the sword:) “Yeah. And then we can stop them. You see? This is why we keep fighting. The Savior is a title I've thought about running from numerous times, but I never have, because I want to protect my family and my friends and the people that I love. The vision still bothers me but I can’t give in to it. Just like you can’t let the Queen get to you.” Regina: “Yeah, but the Queen could very well be the one under the hood.” Emma: “Well then I say we take the fight to her.” Regina’s Vault. Exterior. (Regina and Emma, carrying the sword, head towards Regina’s vault.) Emma: “Do you really think you've got something in your vault that can tell us more about this thing?” Regina: “The hooded figure who uses it is fated to kill you. First we need to figure out who that is.” Evil Queen: (Appearing in a cloud of smoke, blocking their path, flirtatiously to Emma:) “Ooh, nice sword, sweetie.” Emma: (As Regina conjures a fireball:) “Regina, don't let her get to you.” Regina: “It's too late.” Evil Queen: (Chuckles:) “What are you gonna do? Throw a fireball at yourself? The only way to hurt me is to hurt you, which is why your girlfriend won't be able to stop me. See? Love is weakness. (To Emma:) Say hi to Sleeping Beauty... or is it Sleeping Daddy?” (Enraged, Emma slashes at the Evil Queen with the sword, cutting her cheek. Immediately regretting this, she turns to Regina.) Emma: (Gasps:) “Are you...?” Regina: (Touching her own cheek to find no damage:) “I'm... fine.” (Emma turns back to the Evil Queen, who attempts to heal herself. Much to her dismay, her magic is unable to heal the cut. Determined to end things, Emma lunges once more with the sword, but the Evil Queen escapes.) Emma: (Looking down at the sword, amazed:) “We can kill her.” 
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Alleyway. (The Evil Queen reappears in an alleyway, sitting upon Regina’s car. As she touches the cut on her cheek again, she is approached by Mr. Gold.) Mr. Gold: “Thinking of going for a drive?” Evil Queen: “Rumple, I'm in no mood.” Mr. Gold: “Looks like the Savior's found a weapon. Now, normally I'd be upset that someone stole from me, but in this case, I think I'll let Ms. Swan's pilfering slide, and I can focus on finding my son. And you can prepare... (Places a golden cuff on her wrist:) to die. Now, no matter where you go, I can find you. You see, what you did to me, to Belle, was unforgivable. So if, at the end of the day, the Savior has yet to dispatch of you, rest assured that after I find my son, I will gladly finish the job.” Blanchard Apartment. (Emma and Regina have returned to the apartment as Snow continues to slumber.) David: “So it can hurt the queen without hurting Regina.” Emma: “The Evil Queen needs to die.” (David’s cellphone rings and he goes to answer it.) Henry: “You sure about this, Mom?” Emma: “In this case, the cliché is true. I was... born for this. With this sword, I can save all of us.” Henry: “That sword is what kills you. How do you know this isn't how you die... facing her? What if she's the figure under the hood in your vision?” Emma: “I can't sit out every battle because I think it might be my last. I'm the Savior, kid.” Henry: “You're also my Mom.” (Henry walks away as Emma’s hand begins to shake, the vision coming to her yet again.) David: (Returning:) “Hey. That was Leroy. The Evil Queen was spotted headed down Main Street.” Emma: (Clenches her hand into a fist:) “All right.” Regina: “Let's go.” Emma: “No. You can't. The only way you can hurt her is to hurt yourself, and I can't let you do that. (Takes Regina’s hand:) I've got this. You need to stay here with Henry.” Regina: (Sighs, lifting their hands and kissing Emma’s:) “Good luck.”
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Storybrooke. Main Street. (Emma and David walk down the street when they hear a woman’s distress call.) Woman: “Help me!” (Quickly, the sheriffs run towards Granny’s diner.) Granny’s Diner. (They enter to find Jasmine tied to a chair.) Emma: “Jasmine!” Evil Queen: (Coming out of the kitchen holding the lamp:) “Ah, ah. This is about me. It's always about me.” Emma: “Damn right.” (Emma raises the sword but the Evil Queen begins to magically strangle Jasmine.) Evil Queen: “I can snap her neck before you get a step closer. (Emma looks to Jasmine as she gasps for air, then takes a step backwards:) That's better.” (The Evil Queen rubs the lamp and Aladdin appears.) David: “Well that’s new.” Evil Queen: “My genie.” Aladdin: “I'm sorry.” Evil Queen: “I believe I have three wishes.” Aladdin: “Go ahead. Wish. They always come with a price.” Evil Queen: “That they do. Which is why I'm not going to wish for something for me. (To Emma:) I'm going to give you something... something you've always wanted, something you confided about to Aladdin.” Emma: “You heard us?” Evil Queen: “Don't you know by now? I hear everything. You wished you weren't the Savior. So that's exactly what you're going to get. (To Aladdin:) Genie of Agrabah, I wish... that Emma Swan's wish, to have never been the Savior... be granted.” Emma: (Charging forward:) “No!” (Aladdin raises his hand and Emma disappears.) David: “Emma! What happened? Where did she go?!” 
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toomanycharr · 8 years ago
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Character list (WIP)
Character list, will have bios added at some point. Not currently complete, I have forgotten a few. ((Edited 07/10/2017 - added genders.) Really should add all my characters but there are just so damn many)
The Xyx Brigade
(Xyx is my favourite and main character, and I have many AU versions of them. Oop. All Ash Legion.) 
EU
Xyx Blacklunar (main) - Male. Lieutenant of Lunar warband. Lazy ranger who gets his bird (Rat) to do all the hard work.
Xyx Blackrune - Agender. The ‘real’ Xyx. A Gladium ranger-turned-engineer who makes tiny drones and dreams of being something more than she is. Puns, self-depreciating humour, and mental illness.
Xyx Blackbrand - Female. WIP, really. I just made her for renegade, tbh.
NA
Xyx Blackruin - Female. Young Xyx. A naive charr ranger who doesn’t quite know how hard a soldier’s life is, just yet. Weak as hell. 
Xyx Blackjaeger - Female. Sentinel. Very high opinion of herself, and not without reason. She could probably benchpress you. Ruthless on the field.  Xyx Blackbriar - Male. Chronic pain and cooking
Blood EU
Nenqe Furywatch (Main) - Female. Iron-Blooded Soldier of Fury Warband. Adamant guard hater - Guitar maker / player - Blacksmith - Shield Enthusiast - Fatty fat.
Yaxa Oozemaw (Secondary) - Female. Angry Legionnaire of Maw warband. Anger issues - Mesmer - Focusing on illusion and heavy-handed attacks.
Apnea Spiritmaul - Female. Pretty charr, will kick your ass. Flirtatious and egotistic. Spirit Warband’s Scribe.
Sergi Spiritclaw - Female. Probably the mother of half of my charr. Old asshole, hates most of her cubs. Became an adoptive warband mother of Weirdfolio’s Lirae, treats her like the perfect cub she never had. Forced into Spirit Warband by her Centurion, hates it.
Tabus The Displacer - Male. He looks cool? No character as of yet.
NA
Mayall Stargazer - Female. Soldier of Star warband. The ‘good cop’ of the duo, being very friendly and approachable.
Hoag Starcrusher - Male. Legionnaire of Star warband. Not a nice guy, and does not give a shit about you or your opinions.
Volca Slashthroat - Long Bio - Female. Centurion and Professional arsehole. 
Iron
EU
Eris Spiritheart - Female. Half-Legionnaire of Spirit Warband and twin of Arcturis, has never gotten over losing her girlfriend, Vanessa. Sort of depressed, and learnt the way of the Revenant so she could perhaps one day speak to her beloved once more. A lot of Spirit’s think this makes her unsuitable for the role of legionnaire, so she shares the duty.
Arcturis Spirtmaw - Male. Half-Legionnaire of Spirit Warband and twin of Eris, A worry-wart and mom-friend. Will always be there for his friends, and will always chop off someone’s head for them, too. 
Bess Havocether - Female. Soldier of Havoc Warband. Cannoner and child of two aetherblades. Grew up on the ships, but got herself lost on a mission- saw what the Aethers were doing and was disgusted, so deserted to the Legions. Very untrusted, still.
Seamstress Kombucha - Female. A tailor, making a living selling garments to any cloth-wearers that may want them.
Klovan - Male. Gladium scum. He tries so hard to get into a warband but no one will take the poor bugger.
Artois Earthshaker - Agender. A charr elementalist who became slowly encased in stone. Now looks more like an earth elemental. (Sort of not RP)
NA
Auxantios (Secondary) - Male. Alchemist. Knew killing the elder dragons was a bad idea, is very ‘told you so’ about that fact. Makes poison and stuff. Probably the ash-iest iron legion ever.
Aries The Obstinate - Female (MtF). Transgender charr lady, and guard of Stonemist castle. Dies a lot, but hey, she’s already in hell the mists.
Luluzure Vividwrath - Female (MtF). A pretty charr with no real lore. I didn’t even make her! Probably something simple like a farmer. Kangra Silverbrew - Female.
Ash
Speldan (Main) - Agender. Part of the Tyrian Expedition Companionship, often ends up as the cleaner. Spends most of her time cleaning the ships and lugging around heavy materials. Has a pet moa named Screech, who is a noisy little bugger, and talks to him a lot.
Congou (Secondary) - Female. An eccentric drake-breeder who has a lot of wanderlust and no self-control. Often ends up who-knows-where in search of new breeding stock.
Tamika Dustshot - Female. Bullied by her peers due to her low, smooth voice, Tamika moved to Divinities Reach where she now is a renowned jazz musician. Very well groomed, pretty rich, and mostly liked. Close to Xyx and Temac, and has shelled out a LOT of her money to keep Temac safe.
Temac Gemstrike - Female. Thief of the notorious Gem warband (Which is more of a thieves guild?) Out to steal the rarest and finest, sell it on, split the profits. Also runs a shop where she sells seedy stuff and also rare, expensive stolen items. She does not know it, but Tamika buys most of her stolen stuff and returns it to keep her out of trouble.
Rauch The Brusque - Intersex, she/her. The loneliest charr. Lost in Magumma after the passing of her warband, Rauch hopes for nothing more than to feel the closeness she once had. She won’t let it be known, though.
Taube Lunargleam - Male.   Medic of Lunar warband .Guardian and battleaxe nurse. Will cut your leg off and scorch it until it’s not bleeding if you tell him you got a bruise. Doesn’t really understand that other people feel pain- doesn’t do what he does because he’s evil, he just doesn’t understand. How he got to be medic, no one knows. (Please replace him I don’t want Xyx to have no arms or legs)
Kallisti Smokehunt - Female. Another pretty charr with no real lore. Oops. 
Toucha Blacksnow - Male. Soldier of Black warband. Born and raised by charr adventurers in the shiverpeaks, sent to serve the legions in the citadel. It’s ALWAYS too hot for him.
Teague Blackblade - Male. An old, scarred sentinel who suffers from PTSD. He has retired to a farmers life, and tends to ramble.
Worina Blackweld - Female. Legionnaire of Black Warband. An old guardian with a hatred of, and unfortunate knack for, healing. 0 sense of humour.
Galao Blackcandle - Male. Quaestor of Black warband. is usually found cooking for his warband on missions, and seldom fights. When he does, you wouldn’t guess he is not a fighter- specializing in stunning and taking a foe out quickly.
Malaya Blackheart - Female, we guess?? Soldier of Black warband. A silent thief, who tends to follow her legionnaire until there’s a fight to be had.
Breve Blackeye - Male. Disgraced soldier of Black warband. A drunken hobo whose unfortunate past lead to a hatred of asura. Extremely volatile and unpredictable. Drinks to forget the horrors he faced whilst being an inquest test subject.
Spinel Blackcarve - Female.
Kallias Blackgrog - Male.
Flame
Geier Hearthhew - Male. Cub.
Syn Thunderstalker - Male.
Legion Deserters
King Tyant (Tyant Flayclaw) - Male (FtM).
Glistertooth - Male. HALLOWEEN 
Falk (Missing) - Male.
Human
Tiffany Salter - Female.
Theo the Serpent - Male.
Tea Apnea (Non-RP) - Agender.
Sylvari
Teacae - Agender.
Aries Hellebore - Agender masc???
Norn
Tea Ursinnehare (Non-RP) - Agender.
Non-RP / Jokes / Memes
Badly made fursuit - Female.
Cant be charrsed - Male. (Actually a really good looking character hot damn I wish I could RP him.)
Overdunked Rich Tea - Intersex.
Salty Tea - Female.
Spoopy Booplesnoot - Male.
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ashleyjacksonblog · 8 years ago
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The Dos And Don’ts Of Letting Your Partner Have Your Passwords & Logins
In the age of rampant identity fraud, now more than ever, it’s become super important to keep any personal security information on the DL. Even if you’re the type of person who is super cautious with sensitive information, it can be difficult to not let horror stories involving stolen information make us all paranoid AF. But where exactly should you be drawing the line when it comes to sharing your passwords with your significant other? Should your boyfriend have your passwords?
Well, there’s obviously no right or wrong answer. On the surface, it may seem like the answer to this question simply depends on how long you and your partner have been together and how much you trust them. Unfortunately, anyone who’s been through a nasty breakup knows how quickly the tables can turn if and when you decide to part ways. When it comes down to it, a more productive question to ask yourself would be how many of your exes would you trust with sensitive information? If you’re asking me, then not many.
Although concerns about personal security vary from person to person, there are most definitely a few do’s and don’ts you should keep in mind before handing over the keys to your entire virtual life.
Do Think About The Worst Case Scenario
michela ravasio/Stocksy
I happen to think sharing access to phone and computer logins is totally fine because, assuming you don’t have anything to hide, this access is conditional. Unless you’re cohabiting the same space, then the times when your partner would be accessing these things would probably be when you are around to supervise. Also, you don’t need to get all paranoid if your partner asks for your Netflix, HBO GO, or any other login that is obviously indicative of an imminent binge-watching bender. Hell, we all know we stayed logged into that rando’s Hulu account.
But just like my mom always says, hindsight is 20/20. If you’re in relationship bliss right now, then I bet it’s probably pretty hard to imagine your partner doing something to completely psycho like logging on to your Facebook account and posting your nudes for the whole world to see. Sadly, though, this isn’t unheard of.
Before sharing the password to anything that could come back to bite you, like your social media logins, take a moment to really think about if this is someone whom you trust deeply and see yourself with for the foreseeable future. And if you were to have a nasty falling out, are they the type of person who would lash out and do something crazy? Even if you trust this person, you still may not be able to predict future situations.
Do Make Sure They Are Also Willing To Share
Marija Savic/Stocksy
If the person you’re in a relationship with is hounding you for passwords from the jump, then I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that something is definitely up. Especially if they’re at all hesitant to return the favor.
Although there’s no need to arrange a dinner to discuss each of your boundaries when it comes to personal security, I can’t think of a single reason you would want to be with anyone that hounded you about your HBO GO login, but got super stingy when you asked for their Amazon Prime Video details.
Do Change Your Passwords After A Breakup
Paul Schlemmer/Stocksy
Like I said, breakups tend to bring out the worst in people. If, for whatever reason, you gave a soon-to-be ex access to anything that they may be able to use against you, then please please don’t forget to change those passwords STAT. Honestly, if they are the impulsive type, then I’d consider changing it before you break the news that you two are no longer an item.
Also, keep in mind that it may be a good idea to keep your primary email password to yourself, mostly because who would ever want access to your email? But also because you will definitely need access to it to change any important passwords just in case your SO does a complete 180 and tries to hi-jack your email with the hopes of locking you out of all of your other accounts, which would truly be insane.
Don’t Ever Share Passwords To Your Finances
Marcel/Stocksy
I can’t think of one legitimate reason your partner would ever need access to any online banking logins. Thanks to Venmo and a bunch of other really awesome money sharing apps, it’s so easy to send and receive money. If they really want to get all up in your finances — which, unless you live together, is super weird — then suggest opening up a joint bank account.
Again, unless you live together, then I have no idea why this would be necessary, but hey. However, if, for whatever reason, they ever tried to clean out your bank account or even just “borrow” money without asking, it would be almost impossible to prove that what they did was fraud because they had access to your login information. It’s also important to realize that certain accounts that may not seem “financial” are also connected to your finances. I kid you not, one of my friend’s exes logged into her Seamless account and straight up ordered roughly $400 worth of late night snacks over the course of two months. Be careful.
Don’t Share Your Facebook Password
Urs Siedentop & Co/Stocksy
Now, opinions may be divided on this one, which is totally understandable. If you have nothing to hide, then why is giving your partner access to your social media account so terrible? I’ll tell you why. Because Facebook is way more public than you might think.
This is another situation where having access just doesn’t seem necessary. If you’re hanging out and your partner glances through your feed, no harm done. Again, this type of access is conditional on you being around to supervise. If you’re dating a jealous type who wants your Facebook login to police your activity, then this is pretty messed up and a red flag that they may have some serious control and/or trust issues.
Ultimately, it’s up to you whom you feel comfortable sharing personal security information with. But it never hurts to be cautious, especially in the early stages of a relationship. If someone is pressuring you about getting access to that don’t really need access to, regardless of how “good” their reason is, then it never hurts to be safe rather than sorry.
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chadpetersondatingblog · 8 years ago
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The Dos And Don’ts Of Letting Your Partner Have Your Passwords & Logins
In the age of rampant identity fraud, now more than ever, it’s become super important to keep any personal security information on the DL. Even if you’re the type of person who is super cautious with sensitive information, it can be difficult to not let horror stories involving stolen information make us all paranoid AF. But where exactly should you be drawing the line when it comes to sharing your passwords with your significant other? Should your boyfriend have your passwords?
Well, there’s obviously no right or wrong answer. On the surface, it may seem like the answer to this question simply depends on how long you and your partner have been together and how much you trust them. Unfortunately, anyone who’s been through a nasty breakup knows how quickly the tables can turn if and when you decide to part ways. When it comes down to it, a more productive question to ask yourself would be how many of your exes would you trust with sensitive information? If you’re asking me, then not many.
Although concerns about personal security vary from person to person, there are most definitely a few do’s and don’ts you should keep in mind before handing over the keys to your entire virtual life.
Do Think About The Worst Case Scenario
michela ravasio/Stocksy
I happen to think sharing access to phone and computer logins is totally fine because, assuming you don’t have anything to hide, this access is conditional. Unless you’re cohabiting the same space, then the times when your partner would be accessing these things would probably be when you are around to supervise. Also, you don’t need to get all paranoid if your partner asks for your Netflix, HBO GO, or any other login that is obviously indicative of an imminent binge-watching bender. Hell, we all know we stayed logged into that rando’s Hulu account.
But just like my mom always says, hindsight is 20/20. If you’re in relationship bliss right now, then I bet it’s probably pretty hard to imagine your partner doing something to completely psycho like logging on to your Facebook account and posting your nudes for the whole world to see. Sadly, though, this isn’t unheard of.
Before sharing the password to anything that could come back to bite you, like your social media logins, take a moment to really think about if this is someone whom you trust deeply and see yourself with for the foreseeable future. And if you were to have a nasty falling out, are they the type of person who would lash out and do something crazy? Even if you trust this person, you still may not be able to predict future situations.
Do Make Sure They Are Also Willing To Share
Marija Savic/Stocksy
If the person you’re in a relationship with is hounding you for passwords from the jump, then I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that something is definitely up. Especially if they’re at all hesitant to return the favor.
Although there’s no need to arrange a dinner to discuss each of your boundaries when it comes to personal security, I can’t think of a single reason you would want to be with anyone that hounded you about your HBO GO login, but got super stingy when you asked for their Amazon Prime Video details.
Do Change Your Passwords After A Breakup
Paul Schlemmer/Stocksy
Like I said, breakups tend to bring out the worst in people. If, for whatever reason, you gave a soon-to-be ex access to anything that they may be able to use against you, then please please don’t forget to change those passwords STAT. Honestly, if they are the impulsive type, then I’d consider changing it before you break the news that you two are no longer an item.
Also, keep in mind that it may be a good idea to keep your primary email password to yourself, mostly because who would ever want access to your email? But also because you will definitely need access to it to change any important passwords just in case your SO does a complete 180 and tries to hi-jack your email with the hopes of locking you out of all of your other accounts, which would truly be insane.
Don’t Ever Share Passwords To Your Finances
Marcel/Stocksy
I can’t think of one legitimate reason your partner would ever need access to any online banking logins. Thanks to Venmo and a bunch of other really awesome money sharing apps, it’s so easy to send and receive money. If they really want to get all up in your finances — which, unless you live together, is super weird — then suggest opening up a joint bank account.
Again, unless you live together, then I have no idea why this would be necessary, but hey. However, if, for whatever reason, they ever tried to clean out your bank account or even just “borrow” money without asking, it would be almost impossible to prove that what they did was fraud because they had access to your login information. It’s also important to realize that certain accounts that may not seem “financial” are also connected to your finances. I kid you not, one of my friend’s exes logged into her Seamless account and straight up ordered roughly $400 worth of late night snacks over the course of two months. Be careful.
Don’t Share Your Facebook Password
Urs Siedentop & Co/Stocksy
Now, opinions may be divided on this one, which is totally understandable. If you have nothing to hide, then why is giving your partner access to your social media account so terrible? I’ll tell you why. Because Facebook is way more public than you might think.
This is another situation where having access just doesn’t seem necessary. If you’re hanging out and your partner glances through your feed, no harm done. Again, this type of access is conditional on you being around to supervise. If you’re dating a jealous type who wants your Facebook login to police your activity, then this is pretty messed up and a red flag that they may have some serious control and/or trust issues.
Ultimately, it’s up to you whom you feel comfortable sharing personal security information with. But it never hurts to be cautious, especially in the early stages of a relationship. If someone is pressuring you about getting access to that don’t really need access to, regardless of how “good” their reason is, then it never hurts to be safe rather than sorry.
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PLL 7B, Ep 3: Hold Your Piece
What do severed fingers and Japanese investors have in common? No it’s not the opening of a new fast food restaurant - just pieces of AD’s ultimate end game.  Before we begin, for those of you who dropped off the PLL bandwagon and are just reading these recaps because you need to know what happened but don’t have the mental energy to catch up (and believe me it takes A LOT of mental energy) here are a few details you should know before we begin.  
Remember Sydney Driscoll? Yea, me either and I’ve been watching this show the entire time.  Just kidding, how could I forget her giant lips.  If you recall, she’s old friends with Jenna Marshall, who the liars know for sure is working for AD.  In the summer finale she delivered a message to Caleb and Mona at the Radley about the liars.  Also Lucas is rich now and lets Hanna live in his house for free and told Hanna that he’d invest in her fashion empire, even though he owns a tech company that has nothing to do with fashion.  
As the episode opens, a baby is crying as Spencer sleeps. She wakes up frustrated and confused at the sound, goes to the living room and finds the game phone lit up with a cartoon baby crying.  She turns down the volume then goes back to bed but it immediately starts back up again.  She then takes the phone and turns it off but before she can walk away the whole game lights up and the phone turns itself on again. 
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Spencer does the only logical thing, smashes the phone calls the liars over in the middle of the middle of the night to talk about it.   They suggest locking it in Ali’s house since she’s out of town.  Emily says that “she had something she had to deal with” and they all nod and decide there is a lot of paperwork involved in being the wife of a psychopath that they killed with a car.  Hanna thinks she’s changing her name back to Dilaurentis since “Alison Rollins sounds like a mouth full of muffins.”  As they argue whether or not Mary Drake is behind this, the phone suddenly stops crying and a message pops up “Play with me Hanna..A.D.”  It’s Hanna’s turn to play.  
The next morning Emily and Hanna are drinking coffee at Hanna’s Lucas’ apartment.  Emily asks if Caleb saw the phone but Hanna said she hid it in her purse because “guys won’t go through a girl’s purse because they are too afraid to touch a tampon.”   Just then Caleb walks in with a stack of newspapers.  Mona got Hanna into the style edition of what looks to be Rosewood’s version of the New York Times.  Hanna decides that 9am is the perfect time to pop a bottle of champagne to celebrate but before they can take a sip Emily finds a popular blogger “runway rebel” has a headline reading “stolen design on senators daughter?”with a picture of Catherine wearing Hanna’s cursed dress from last week.   
Toby is at the Brew when Spencer walks in. He tells her that Yvonne (his fiance) is out of her coma but still has a ways to go.  Spencer, the former Adderall addict, starts talking about all the drug therapies and treatments Yvonne can do but Toby stops her, saying he’ll let the doctors handle it.  Then Marco aka hot cop walks in and Toby takes his leave. Marco says he left a message for Spencer about a private detective but Spencer says right now “I have to focus on people in my life that aren’t missing.” Marco asks if that includes him with a flirty smile.  He says he planned an entire day for Spencer to take her mind off the fact that he hasn’t found the person who shot her.
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Aria, Hanna, Emily and Caleb are trying to figure out where blogger got her info.  The blogger quotes a “BLIND item” and an “Anonymous source” prompting Hanna to conclude “you can’t spell annonymous without AD”.  Caleb, who can break into any security systems but the girls still don’t trust to break into the phone that comes with the game, says that Jenna checked out of the Radley so they decide the next logical step is to find Jenna’s friend Sydney. Caleb does some more of his tech magic to locate Sydney then as he’s handing Hanna some Batman level gadgets (including a listening pen), Aria notices a story on TV about Ezra and Nicole.  Nicole is being interviewed about how happy she is to be back with Ezra. When the others notice her watching it she quickly turns it off and says that Ezra will be back after Nicole is better.  They will always “find their way back to each other.”  
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Emily visits Yvonne and Toby at the hospital. As Toby is telling her that Yvonne hasn’t spoken yet, she suddenly wakes up and calls out Toby’s name.  He tells Emily to get the nurse and runs in to be with her. 
Caleb is grabbing some more GPS trackers when Hanna hears the phone buzz in her purse (where Caleb, tech wizard and owner of 100 GPS trackers will never find it...) The message says “Answer the Door”. There’s a knock on the door but Hanna is too paralyzed to answer. The knocking continues and Caleb comes out to answer.  When he opens the door he freezes and Hanna, freaking out, asks who it is.  Caleb responds its....you.  Then we see that standing at the door is a MANNEQUIN OF HANNA WITH STITCHES ON HER FACE.
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Hanna finally tells Caleb about Liars Lament and Caleb is like...but I can hack phones though?  He’s also discovered that the doll can talk if you pull the cord in the back.  It says “For more information please see the appendix.”
Marco brings Spencer to an after school program for kids with a game room. His buddy reserved the room so they can play ping pong by themselves.  
Toby is trying to help Yvonne in the hospital.  He asks her to pick up a small ball. She does.  Then he tells her to switch hands and squeeze it, she does that too.  Then he takes out their engagement rings and says he thinks they should get married, right now in the hospital.  She slowly picks up the rings and says “I Do” as she slips it on his finger. 
 Lucas is back from wherever he was before.  He’s investigating the blog drama for Hanna but says he’s not worried about it.  He’s organized a group of Japanese investors to look at Hanna’s fashion line. He asks to have a look at one of the designs and is about to uncover the weird Hanna mannequin when she stops him. Thinking she’s just superstitious he laughs it off and tells her to meet him at the Radley at 7PM for the meeting.
Aria and Emily are looking up Sydney on Rosewood’s version of facebook.  She checked into a charity event at the Manhattan Children’s Charity 2 days ago, the same event as the senator’s daughter.  They now think that Sydney is possibly AD and/or the other shooter.  
While on the phone with Caleb, Hanna is still searching for the mysterious appendix.  Caleb is carefully inspecting the game with some sort of green laser pointer.   Hanna notices something on the mannequin then asks Caleb if he remembers the game Operation.  She realizes that “appendix” means the body’s appendix and as she lifts the shirt of the mannequin she sees stitches right where the appendix would be taken out.  Hanna puts the doll on some sort of operating table and begins to cut it open.... AND IT BLEEDS.  
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She then uses tweezers to extract a plastic bag containing a dress with a note that says “wear me.”
Spencer and Marco are still playing ping pong.  She tells him she learned to play at “Horseback riding camp.”  Marco says that he learned to play on this very table.  Spencer wins and tells him she needed that win. Marco responds “I’m the real winner here”. He starts spurting info on the case, and says they still can’t find Rollins. Spencer goes to play more ping pong but Marco notices that Spencer’s shoulder bullet wound is bleeding. He goes to find a first aid kit and she notices the kid art on the wall.  It’s a drawing Marco made when he was little. He grew up in this after school type program.  Then her phone buzzes with missed calls from Emily. 
Emily and Aria are in a car outside the building where Sydney works.  Aria says she can use Sidney’s office wifi to hack her phone - seriously no you can’t. This is not a thing.   She takes out an FBI level tracking computer and says Caleb taught her how to hack this morning. Yea...ok. 
Hanna discovers that the outfit A wants her to wear is a really short and sexy Japanese kimono.  Her investors are Japanese so she thinks she will offend them and lose all the money.  Caleb asks what happens if you just refuse to play then realizes that AD knows they killed Rollins.  Caleb says he’ll try to stop the board before she meets the board (get it?).  
Emily walks by Sydney and pretends to just run into her.   Sydney is like “oh hell no” who sent you. Emily tells her she’s here about Jenna. Sydney says she’s glad its Emily instead of the cops. She said all she did was deliver a message to Caleb and Mona at the Radley and nothing else.  She regrets reconnecting with Jenna and says that was the last favor she ever does for her.  Sydney then asks why Emily is still caught up in all of this  Then she takes her coffee and walks away.  When Emily returns to the car Aria has discovered that Sydney has an appointment at the eye institute later in the day and Emily is pissed that Sydney lied to her.   Sydney calls the eye institute (and Aria/Emily can hear all her calls and read her text messages since they are “hacked in” to her phone) to put a deposit for a surgery procedure for Jenna.  Sydney says that the “A.D” on the deposit stood for “anonymous donor”.   An incoming text from a blocked number to Sydney says “did you do it?”  She answers “its done.”
Marco is cleaning up Spencer’s wound when she mentions the picture Marco drew as a kid.  Marco admits he was a shy, chubby kid with glasses.  He says his mother had problems with pills...sort of like Spencer...but she’s clean now and they talk once a month on the phone. The lady who used to run this children’s program took care of him, acting like a surrogate mom.  He says they should ice the shoulder but Spencer doesn’t want to go back because this game room is “so beautiful.” .  He tells her she doesn’t have to drive herself crazy choosing between her two moms, just love the people who want the best for you. (including him!!) Then they start making out.  
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We briefly touch on Toby and Yvonne getting married in the hospital. Unable to move from the bed, they’ve draped a decorated white hospital gown over her shoulders.  Toby wears a suit and bow tie as they place rings on each other.
Aria and Emily confront Sydney, basically trying to kidnap her.  Like the rest of us, she is confused as to how they know her whole schedule.  She tries to escape but Aria does some karate moves on her (taught to her by Holden perhaps?).  She says that she doesn’t personally know anyone with the initials AD, its just an account that wants to remain anonymous. She also says she doesn’t know where Jenna is and that Jenna’s games have gotten too dangerous for her taste.  Aria throws Sydney’s bag back at her and walks away.   They apparently put GPS trackers in her bag.  Emily calls Hanna.  Hanna is in the kimono dress and says shes about to flush her entire future down the toilet. 
Caleb is now using a stethoscope to hear inside the game when Spencer walks in.  She’s surprised Caleb knows about the game.  He can’t figure it out or open it or do anything but he thinks that the screws are underneath the buildings.  Then they realize that it might be weird for them to be in the same room because remember that time they were sleeping together.  It suddenly gets awkward so Spencer offers him a beer. He accepts and they smile, they are over each other! Yay. Spencer starts to tell him about this guy she spent the whole day with. And Caleb is like oo is it that cop.  He asks if he’s good to her because she deserves that.  Spencer starts bleeding again but tells Caleb it’s no big deal and goes to order some food.  As she turns around,  a steam of  gas spurts up from the game and Caleb falls down in convulsions.  Spencer calls 911. 
At the Radley, Hanna shows up in a trench coat with her rack of dresses.  Lucas helps her and Hanna says that this is amazing and shes so grateful.  She says he’s the most generous friend and makes him promsie they will always be friends.  As they are walking in her phone buzzes, Caleb is in the hospital.  Lucas takes her sketchbook and says he’s got this, just go.
Toby and Yvonne are celebrating their hospital wedding eating some vending machine cake.  Toby asks her about their honeymoon.  In a strained voice, she says she’d rather have city than beach.  He suggests Buenos Aries and Patagonia.  She says she wants to go to Moscow in the winter to an ice rink that lights up at night.  Toby decides that’s where they will spend their first Christmas then they will travel around.  He asks her if shes happy and she just barely whispers“happiest”.  Then she closes her eyes and the flowers fall out of her hand...
Hanna is with Caleb in the hospital.  He’s fine but says that this is worse than the time Hanna sprayed hair spray in his face.  He told the hospital that he mixed chemicals himself so they didn’t ask any questions.   She says the game doesn’t matter, she just wants him to be OK.  Her phone dings, she looks at it then runs out to the waiting room where Spencer, Emily and Aria are waiting for her.  She shows them her phone message -  “Hey loser - goodbye to your prize - AD”.  Hanna lashes out at Spencer because all she had to do on her turn was visit her friend in the hospital.  Emily and Aria stop her and say this is all part of AD’s plan and they need to stick together.   Spencer says shes going to visit Toby and Yvonne.  Emily’s phone dings. Its the GPS tracker on Sydney and she tells Aria she’s going to follow her tonight. 
Spencer finds Toby wandering around the hospital hallway distraught and crying.  He collapses into her arms. Yvonne is dead.  
Aria returns home to her apartment, leaving a message for Ezra that Sabrina, the girl who worked at the coffee shop, quit and she doesn’t know what to do. Oh yea, remember when Ezra bought the coffee shop? Aria says she can’t run this business by herself.  As she puts down her keys a dark figure emerges from the background.  Aria grabs a knife but when she turns on the lights it’s Nicole, Ezra’s supposed fiance who was in the hospital in NY.  
In the final scene Marco, surrounded by some generic cop extras, is slowly opening a package marked “Rosewood Police”.  Inside is a cloth bundle that he slowly unwraps to find.....a finger.  Archer Dunhill’s perhaps? This is what happens when you don’t play AD’s game...although I think the person sending the finger is who the cops are going to look at so again I don’t understand AD’s “End Game”. 
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The Dos And Don’ts Of Letting Your Partner Have Your Passwords & Logins
In the age of rampant identity fraud, now more than ever, it’s become super important to keep any personal security information on the DL. Even if you’re the type of person who is super cautious with sensitive information, it can be difficult to not let horror stories involving stolen information make us all paranoid AF. But where exactly should you be drawing the line when it comes to sharing your passwords with your significant other? Should your boyfriend have your passwords?
Well, there’s obviously no right or wrong answer. On the surface, it may seem like the answer to this question simply depends on how long you and your partner have been together and how much you trust them. Unfortunately, anyone who’s been through a nasty breakup knows how quickly the tables can turn if and when you decide to part ways. When it comes down to it, a more productive question to ask yourself would be how many of your exes would you trust with sensitive information? If you’re asking me, then not many.
Although concerns about personal security vary from person to person, there are most definitely a few do’s and don’ts you should keep in mind before handing over the keys to your entire virtual life.
Do Think About The Worst Case Scenario
michela ravasio/Stocksy
I happen to think sharing access to phone and computer logins is totally fine because, assuming you don’t have anything to hide, this access is conditional. Unless you’re cohabiting the same space, then the times when your partner would be accessing these things would probably be when you are around to supervise. Also, you don’t need to get all paranoid if your partner asks for your Netflix, HBO GO, or any other login that is obviously indicative of an imminent binge-watching bender. Hell, we all know we stayed logged into that rando’s Hulu account.
But just like my mom always says, hindsight is 20/20. If you’re in relationship bliss right now, then I bet it’s probably pretty hard to imagine your partner doing something to completely psycho like logging on to your Facebook account and posting your nudes for the whole world to see. Sadly, though, this isn’t unheard of.
Before sharing the password to anything that could come back to bite you, like your social media logins, take a moment to really think about if this is someone whom you trust deeply and see yourself with for the foreseeable future. And if you were to have a nasty falling out, are they the type of person who would lash out and do something crazy? Even if you trust this person, you still may not be able to predict future situations.
Do Make Sure They Are Also Willing To Share
Marija Savic/Stocksy
If the person you’re in a relationship with is hounding you for passwords from the jump, then I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that something is definitely up. Especially if they’re at all hesitant to return the favor.
Although there’s no need to arrange a dinner to discuss each of your boundaries when it comes to personal security, I can’t think of a single reason you would want to be with anyone that hounded you about your HBO GO login, but got super stingy when you asked for their Amazon Prime Video details.
Do Change Your Passwords After A Breakup
Paul Schlemmer/Stocksy
Like I said, breakups tend to bring out the worst in people. If, for whatever reason, you gave a soon-to-be ex access to anything that they may be able to use against you, then please please don’t forget to change those passwords STAT. Honestly, if they are the impulsive type, then I’d consider changing it before you break the news that you two are no longer an item.
Also, keep in mind that it may be a good idea to keep your primary email password to yourself, mostly because who would ever want access to your email? But also because you will definitely need access to it to change any important passwords just in case your SO does a complete 180 and tries to hi-jack your email with the hopes of locking you out of all of your other accounts, which would truly be insane.
Don’t Ever Share Passwords To Your Finances
Marcel/Stocksy
I can’t think of one legitimate reason your partner would ever need access to any online banking logins. Thanks to Venmo and a bunch of other really awesome money sharing apps, it’s so easy to send and receive money. If they really want to get all up in your finances — which, unless you live together, is super weird — then suggest opening up a joint bank account.
Again, unless you live together, then I have no idea why this would be necessary, but hey. However, if, for whatever reason, they ever tried to clean out your bank account or even just “borrow” money without asking, it would be almost impossible to prove that what they did was fraud because they had access to your login information. It’s also important to realize that certain accounts that may not seem “financial” are also connected to your finances. I kid you not, one of my friend’s exes logged into her Seamless account and straight up ordered roughly $400 worth of late night snacks over the course of two months. Be careful.
Don’t Share Your Facebook Password
Urs Siedentop & Co/Stocksy
Now, opinions may be divided on this one, which is totally understandable. If you have nothing to hide, then why is giving your partner access to your social media account so terrible? I’ll tell you why. Because Facebook is way more public than you might think.
This is another situation where having access just doesn’t seem necessary. If you’re hanging out and your partner glances through your feed, no harm done. Again, this type of access is conditional on you being around to supervise. If you’re dating a jealous type who wants your Facebook login to police your activity, then this is pretty messed up and a red flag that they may have some serious control and/or trust issues.
Ultimately, it’s up to you whom you feel comfortable sharing personal security information with. But it never hurts to be cautious, especially in the early stages of a relationship. If someone is pressuring you about getting access to that don’t really need access to, regardless of how “good” their reason is, then it never hurts to be safe rather than sorry.
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The Dos And Don’ts Of Letting Your Partner Have Your Passwords & Logins
In the age of rampant identity fraud, now more than ever, it’s become super important to keep any personal security information on the DL. Even if you’re the type of person who is super cautious with sensitive information, it can be difficult to not let horror stories involving stolen information make us all paranoid AF. But where exactly should you be drawing the line when it comes to sharing your passwords with your significant other? Should your boyfriend have your passwords?
Well, there’s obviously no right or wrong answer. On the surface, it may seem like the answer to this question simply depends on how long you and your partner have been together and how much you trust them. Unfortunately, anyone who’s been through a nasty breakup knows how quickly the tables can turn if and when you decide to part ways. When it comes down to it, a more productive question to ask yourself would be how many of your exes would you trust with sensitive information? If you’re asking me, then not many.
Although concerns about personal security vary from person to person, there are most definitely a few do’s and don’ts you should keep in mind before handing over the keys to your entire virtual life.
Do Think About The Worst Case Scenario
michela ravasio/Stocksy
I happen to think sharing access to phone and computer logins is totally fine because, assuming you don’t have anything to hide, this access is conditional. Unless you’re cohabiting the same space, then the times when your partner would be accessing these things would probably be when you are around to supervise. Also, you don’t need to get all paranoid if your partner asks for your Netflix, HBO GO, or any other login that is obviously indicative of an imminent binge-watching bender. Hell, we all know we stayed logged into that rando’s Hulu account.
But just like my mom always says, hindsight is 20/20. If you’re in relationship bliss right now, then I bet it’s probably pretty hard to imagine your partner doing something to completely psycho like logging on to your Facebook account and posting your nudes for the whole world to see. Sadly, though, this isn’t unheard of.
Before sharing the password to anything that could come back to bite you, like your social media logins, take a moment to really think about if this is someone whom you trust deeply and see yourself with for the foreseeable future. And if you were to have a nasty falling out, are they the type of person who would lash out and do something crazy? Even if you trust this person, you still may not be able to predict future situations.
Do Make Sure They Are Also Willing To Share
Marija Savic/Stocksy
If the person you’re in a relationship with is hounding you for passwords from the jump, then I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that something is definitely up. Especially if they’re at all hesitant to return the favor.
Although there’s no need to arrange a dinner to discuss each of your boundaries when it comes to personal security, I can’t think of a single reason you would want to be with anyone that hounded you about your HBO GO login, but got super stingy when you asked for their Amazon Prime Video details.
Do Change Your Passwords After A Breakup
Paul Schlemmer/Stocksy
Like I said, breakups tend to bring out the worst in people. If, for whatever reason, you gave a soon-to-be ex access to anything that they may be able to use against you, then please please don’t forget to change those passwords STAT. Honestly, if they are the impulsive type, then I’d consider changing it before you break the news that you two are no longer an item.
Also, keep in mind that it may be a good idea to keep your primary email password to yourself, mostly because who would ever want access to your email? But also because you will definitely need access to it to change any important passwords just in case your SO does a complete 180 and tries to hi-jack your email with the hopes of locking you out of all of your other accounts, which would truly be insane.
Don’t Ever Share Passwords To Your Finances
Marcel/Stocksy
I can’t think of one legitimate reason your partner would ever need access to any online banking logins. Thanks to Venmo and a bunch of other really awesome money sharing apps, it’s so easy to send and receive money. If they really want to get all up in your finances — which, unless you live together, is super weird — then suggest opening up a joint bank account.
Again, unless you live together, then I have no idea why this would be necessary, but hey. However, if, for whatever reason, they ever tried to clean out your bank account or even just “borrow” money without asking, it would be almost impossible to prove that what they did was fraud because they had access to your login information. It’s also important to realize that certain accounts that may not seem “financial” are also connected to your finances. I kid you not, one of my friend’s exes logged into her Seamless account and straight up ordered roughly $400 worth of late night snacks over the course of two months. Be careful.
Don’t Share Your Facebook Password
Urs Siedentop & Co/Stocksy
Now, opinions may be divided on this one, which is totally understandable. If you have nothing to hide, then why is giving your partner access to your social media account so terrible? I’ll tell you why. Because Facebook is way more public than you might think.
This is another situation where having access just doesn’t seem necessary. If you’re hanging out and your partner glances through your feed, no harm done. Again, this type of access is conditional on you being around to supervise. If you’re dating a jealous type who wants your Facebook login to police your activity, then this is pretty messed up and a red flag that they may have some serious control and/or trust issues.
Ultimately, it’s up to you whom you feel comfortable sharing personal security information with. But it never hurts to be cautious, especially in the early stages of a relationship. If someone is pressuring you about getting access to that don’t really need access to, regardless of how “good” their reason is, then it never hurts to be safe rather than sorry.
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